Spells to help you mourn your losses, celebrate your evolution, and clarify your guiding principle as we prepare to emerge from this long, strange lockdown
We’re not out of the woods yet. Which is why quarantine still hasn’t officially ended in many parts of the world.
But having received my first vaccine Saturday, I’m (like so many of you) getting ready to go back out into the world: to plan some trips, see some shows, and hug some friends.
And even though it feels great, it’s a big shift! So there are ups and downs. Perhaps more than anything else I’m feeling, getting ready for this change is bringing all the weirdness and heartbreak of the past year into greater focus. The world of COVID really did become “the new normal.” It’s kind of like getting to the end of a race and suddenly remembering how tired you are. Or like when a plane lands and you realize with a jolt that you’ve been in a pressurized bubble, soaring above the surface of the earth.
That’s why I thought now would be a good time to offer these spells. Each one of them will help you experience this immense transition as less shocking and more empowering. Do one or do them all.
Mourn Your Losses
Over this past year, you may have lost one or more loved ones. But even if you didn’t, you probably still experienced one or more losses. Many people lost jobs. Many others lost relationships. And almost all of us lost precious time with our loved ones.
When we’re in the middle of trauma, it can be difficult to fully take stock of our feelings. We can stuff them down or hide them from ourselves as we do our best to adapt and survive. But that doesn’t mean our grief disappears. It can fester and cause us to feel depressed, disconnected, or stressed. Taking time to ritually mourn our losses is a powerful way to encourage your emotions to flow.
All you need for this spell is one rose, in any color that feels right.
If you can do this ritual near a creek or a stream, great. Alternatively, perform it in any outdoor space where you can sit or stand on the earth. (It’s best if you can do it somewhere semi-private so you can feel your feelings without self-consciousness. If you need to do it indoors for this purpose, you can: just gather the petals up and take them outside to release them afterwards.)
Place the rose on the earth before you. Sitting or standing comfortably, with your spine straight, close your eyes and take some deep breaths. Call on the Divine in a way that feels powerful for you. Feel yourself aligning with and being supported by the Divine.
Now, bring to mind something or someone you have lost over the past year. Gather one petal from the rose to represent what you have lost. Hold it to your heart with one hand, and place the other hand over it. Breathe into your heart. Breathe out of your heart. Feel your deep appreciation of this person or condition. If it feels right, allow yourself to wish this person or condition were still in your life. Continue breathing in and out of your heart as you let yourself grieve. When you feel ready, release the petal into the stream or onto the earth.
Repeat with each person or condition you have lost.
Thank the Divine.
You can release the remainder of the rose to the earth or a compost bin.
Celebrate Your Evolution
When I consider all the things I’ve learned and ways I’ve grown during the pandemic, I almost feel like I’m a completely different person. My philosophy is more nuanced and consciously inclusive. I have more compassion for myself. I speak out more about – and contribute more to – causes I care about. Oh, and now I cook about twenty times more often than I used to.
Whether or not you realize it yet, I’m willing to bet you’ve changed massively as well.
In this ritual, you’re going to bring these positive changes into the light of your conscious awareness and celebrate them. This will help you consolidate them, own them, and move forward into even more beautiful expansion.
First, bathe (or shower) by candlelight and dress in something that makes you feel magical.
Pour yourself a glass (or brew yourself a cup) of something celebratory: alcoholic or non.
Sit comfortably in front of a mirror and gaze into your own eyes. Smile and send yourself love.
When you feel bathed in the warmth of your own love for yourself, make a toast. Tell yourself all the ways you’ve evolved this year. Speak out loud, from your heart. Include what you’re proud of, and assure yourself that you know just how hard it’s been. Clink your glass gently to your own and drink. Drink the rest of your beverage, continuing to bask in your self-appreciation.
When you feel ready, extinguish the candles (and incense).
Clarify Your Guiding Principle
While in the past, I have used the word “life purpose” to describe your guiding principle, I now find the term to be redundant. You don’t have to declare a purpose. Your existence is inherently valuable. Your purpose is to wake up in the morning and be your wonderful self.
A guiding principle, on the other hand, is helpful to declare. While it will almost certainly change at various points throughout your life, your guiding principle will help you make decisions that are in alignment with who you are and what you want to offer the world. This ritual will help you clarify your guiding principle so you can use it as a compass to lead your way.
As you emerge from your cocoon after so much cataclysmic change, it seems appropriate to clarify and define the main principle by which you would like to live.
This one is best done on a new moon or full moon. Make sure there are no pets or small children in the area. (And ideally no one else either.)
Light a white candle. Sit comfortably, close your eyes, and take some deep, conscious breaths. When you feel calm, clear, and centered, add a few drops of clary sage essential oil to an oil diffuser or oil burner. Close your eyes and continue to breathe consciously as you align with the spirit and vibration of the scent. Feel that it’s filling and surrounding you in a bubble of bright white light.
From your heart, speak words aloud to call on the Divine in a way that feels powerful for you. Ask for support in clarifying your guiding principle.
Breathe consciously as you allow your guiding principle to come to you in its own time. You can lightly consider what it might be, but don’t rush it or force it to come to you. Be open to hearing, feeling, or knowing it in the present tense. Here are some examples of guiding principles phrased in the present tense:
I do all things with great love.
I listen deeply and witness others fully.
I create beauty.
I spread laughter.
I magnify peace.
When your guiding principle comes to you, write it down.
Give thanks to the Divine.
Extinguish the candle and oil.
Did you try one of these spells? Or do you have any thoughts about them you’d like to share? Please speak up in the comments below!
You may also like this Self-Love Attunement and these 7 Journaling Prompts That Will Activate Your Magical Power.