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Why You Should NOT Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person

Are you thinking of magicking someone into loving you? Don’t! Here’s why you shouldn’t do a love spell on a specific person, and what to do instead.

“Whom you seek to imprison you do not love.”

~ A Course in Miracles

Look, I know it can be tempting.

But doing a love spell on a specific person is not only unethical, it will also very likely totally suck for you in the long run.

Of course, if you’re in the throes of limerence, it may be difficult to imagine what could possibly suck so much about the person you’re crushing on feeling the same way about you. Well then, let me paint you some pictures.

Ultimately, when you do a love spell on a specific person, there are no good outcomes. Rather, there are three main ways it could go horribly wrong.

The First Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong

You know that what you send out energetically always comes back to you in some form, right? So in this scenario, when you do the love spell, you do it on yourself too. It flies right back at you like a boomerang. And now, you both become magically, unnaturally obsessed with the other. Then you get into a really sticky, codependent, basically awful relationship. Maybe it involves violence. At the very least it involves emotional abuse, because overriding someone else’s free will is in itself a form of emotional abuse. So you put that in the mix when you did the spell, and now it’s there. And you’re stuck in the mire of it like a swamp. Any healthy, fun, beautiful relationships you may have had aren’t even a possibility anymore, at least until you do some major magical damage control and extricate yourself from this mess. Which could take years.

The Second Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong

In this scenario, the person indeed appears to fall hopelessly in love with you and…darn: now that they’re acting so foolish, they’re totally not attractive to you anymore. In addition to the former object of your lust now being miserable and possibly ruining a previous relationship, they also won’t leave you alone. Not to mention, as in scenario 1, since you overrode some else’s free will, it will only be a matter of time before your own free will is compromised in some equally terrible (but probably not identical) way.

The Third Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong

The best case scenario, but still a bad one, is that the object of your spell successfully resists the magical pull to enter into a relationship with you. Still, you are both likely to pine for each other silently, painfully, and for an unnaturally extended period of time. Until it wears off or the spell is successfully broken, this presents a challenge to your moods, your ability to focus, and any other romantic relationships you are (or may have otherwise been) involved with.

What to Do Instead of a Love Spell

You can’t go wrong when you do a spell to draw ideal romantic conditions and leave the actual person up to the universe. Because if the object of your affection happens to be an ideal partner for you right now, your spell might end up working on them after all! …But if it doesn’t, that just means someone even more perfect for you is on his or her way. So there’s obviously no question that this is the way to go.

Looking for an ethical love spell? Way to go, kid! Here are some from this blog:

5 Karma-Friendly Alternatives to Putting a Love Spell on Someone

Love Spell to Attract a Divine Partner

Simple Sandalwood and Rose Love Spell

3 Love Spells to Try Today

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  1. Haha yeah this is a lesson I learned the hard way… I didn’t know about ethics or anything about witchcraft for that matter. I thought it was such a great idea! Now he will love me too and he will be happy. Ahhhh nope. He loved me alright but he wasn’t quite ready to settle down so there was lots and lots of cheating. So I did be faithful spell. He became so miserable and lost the spark he had that I fell in love with. He stayed home started drinking more and became emotionally abusive….

    Long story short heed the warning and don’t do it!!! Love yourself first and learn to be happy alone first so you won’t even feel the need to do a love spell on a person.

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      • I need some help REALLY BAD!! I never been involved with spells but a friend of my ex brought something to my attention that kind of explains some feelings that I’ve been having for over a year and I can not shake them.

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      • Hi I have been loving a boy since 4 years and I am.also not been able to forget him now I want him to love me back he is my ex ….I.love him and I also dnt want to cast any kind of spell upon him so can you please tell that is it possible that my wish can come true ever if yes then how…..

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      • I have a situation I m in so I been seeing this woman who’s married but haven’t been married for long we both have feelings for each other she isn’t happy with her husband they been off and on for 7 years he cheats on her alot you can tell she really doesn’t want to be with him but she has a child with him plus she helps him with his other kids from a previous relationship I Know I shouldn’t be messing with her but I can’t help myself she told me she has feelings for me and she thinks about me often what should I do

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        • Well, if she is not leaving her husband, that is a clear sign that she is not available for you to have a healthy relationship with. So I suggest doing a cord cutting meditation like this one and opening yourself up to another relationship: https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/ If at some point she breaks it off with her husband, and you are still available, you can revisit the situation then. But until then, I would respect yourself and respect her decision to stay in that situation by steering clear.

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    • That was a great way to put things but what if you are having trouble finding or loving yourself.. can’t someone be a friend aka lover and help you through the rough times.. it kinda gets old struggling alone.. a lil help and a best friend would be good right now.. I’m exhausted and about to give up

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    • Agreed i knew little of ethical witchcraft I did this and ended up in a ten year abusive relationship ruined his life and mine. I stayed until I had a friend who broke the spell for me who was far more knowledgeable

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  2. There’s no doubt some that a certain Rasputin like character has me involved in this kind of spell. I’ve been using all of my will to stay away from him. It’s damaging to my current relationship and the rest of my left. The way I obsess in my mind about him is painful. How do I protect myself?

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    • Set is the God of love spells and provides balance with Ra against chaos. The hydra and the Phoenix need each other. However, two Phoenixes are likely to both go up in flames. The right hand needs the left and vice versa. Oh, and if the magic typically has no blowback if it is already aligned with the targets will. It can only accentuate it. This does not typically provide the boomerang affect that RHP witches fear.

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  3. My now ex partner has been put under a love spell by a jealous woman and he is now absusive and drug dependent. What can I do to help him.

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    • Charlie, I’m so sorry to hear this! You can call on angels (particularly Archangel Michael) to help him and visualize white light around him regularly.

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      • Lol the devil made him do it. Maybe he is just an ass and you shouldn’t waste time fixing him.

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  4. HI
    I have been married for over 4 years to a great guy. Except for one thing, he cannot stop secretly obsessing over one of my relatives. When we are out and about in town he looks for her, turns his head to every white vehicle( she used to drive one) he stares over at her place of her former employment, all the music he listens to are about missing someone. The strange thing is he hasn’t seen her in over 5 years but can remember everything about the few conversations he had with her, small talk. He will deny everything I have seen over the years, we’ve had arguments and have gone in circles. He threatens to leave me if I talk bad about her, it is insulting to him! It has gotten worse over the years, the only time it doesn’t happen is when I do a smudge around the house. I do know that she put a love spell on her now husband years ago, but is now cursed with health issues that cannot be cured. I do not believe my husband was a target but I believe that he has similar health issues like her. I know where she works and he doesn’t, but he will stare at the building like he is drawn to it. I know people who don’t believe in this will think I’m crazy, and sometimes I feel like I am because this is not only bizarre but it has caused a strain in our relationship. What can I do to break this? He is now watching a series and the main character looks a lot like her, going crazy in this place ! I’d appreciate your help, thank you -Linda

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    • Linda, this sounds so challenging! I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. Tuning into your situation, I’m getting that it will be helpful for you to invoke the help of Bast, the Egyptian cat goddess. Create an altar to her in your house. Start with a simple statue of her (any size), and add a candle and incense holder. If you like, you can add anything else that feels right as well (crystals, flowers, etc.). Inwardly invoke her assistance with the situation, light the candle, and burn a little incense to her at least once a day. Repeat until the situation feels resolved.

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      • Tess,
        Thank you for your prompt response, I will do so, hopefully this awful curse will finally be put to rest! I will keep you posted, again many thanks! -Linda

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  5. Love spells show the true will of your spouse. You can’t handle it so you try to “fix” it and say we are the ones forcing you into a state of co-dependency when it is the other way around.

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  6. I wonder if you could clarify my experience. I did this almost 20 years ago, but it still bothers me today. At the time , I was not happy in my marriage. I became obsessed with a man I met in a self help group. We flirted and acknowledged our mutual attraction but agreed it would be wrong to pursue further. Until one day, he became very angry with me because I confided in a friend about our mutual attraction. She in turn, told him off for leading on a married woman. He refused to speak to me for months which only made my obsession for him stronger. I prayed to God to give me peace and even to open his heart to me. I believe God was protecting me. Finally, knowing nothing about magic, I sat on my kitchen floor with candles around me. I summoned the spirits of the air to bring him to me. Later that afternoon he called me. He said he was putting a stop to his shunning me because he thought it had gone on long enough. A few days later he called in the evening. He said he could not stop thinking about me. He said he felt like I put a spell on him. He said he was in love with me. I lied to my husband (the start of many lies), and went to his apartment. I had a horrible feeling while driving there and asked God to forgive me. That night was the first time of many that we were together. One weird comment he made that night was, while I was looking into his eyes he got freaked out because he said, “Your eyes are glowing weird like yellow.” He then dismissed it as a trick of the light, but it scared me. We had an affair for over a year. He was also lying to his girlfriend and was becoming emotionally abusive to both of us. The sexual energy completely drained out of our affair. We agreed to end it, but I continued to think about him. Sometimes, I would park outside his building and look up at his window. He saw me doing it and told me so. I was embarrassed and stopped. I did not see him for almost ten years when I saw him in the supermarket. I felt nothing for him but was shocked to see him. He treated me coldly. He was very pleased with himself and how his life was going. It upset me. My life has gone on and I am still married, older and wiser. I believe my actions brought evil into my life and his. I have atoned for this since and would never do this again. I would appreciate your insight into my story. Thank you.

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    • Bernie, thank you so much for sharing your experience. It sounds like you lived and learned, like we all do. If you still feel any trace of the spell left over, you could always do a cleansing ritual to remove any lingering effects.

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  7. I need your help badly! My estranged husband and I are living in separate homes but still married. We also share a two yr old. We both done some horrible things to one another. I want him back by any means and I cant move on what so ever. I need a spell or something. Please help

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  8. Hi my name is Mabel I’m writing you and regardless of a guy that I was currently dating I love him and I’m still in love with him but we had some difficulties throughout our relationship by me going back to jail constantly and he told me that he was no longer interested in a relationship and that he just wanted to be friends but all along I felt like there was somebody else and I can’t stop thinking about him and wanting to be with him and I wanted to do a love spell on him to draw him back to me because I feel like we just had negative energy around us is trying to stop us from being together and I just wanted to know your inputs on it

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  9. But if you cast a love spell purely to get money off that person?
    This is what has happened to my husband. He left me many months ago and I later found out he’s been having an affair with his ex secretary for over two years. She’s married with children but her husband lives in another country and it is well known she is having other affairs too. I later found out through spiritualists/faith healers etc that she had given him some food with a spell (possibly her period blood). I have been to a place where they did a ritual to break the spell but she continues to give him food with spells. I have been told he will come back in a few months. Also, I was told that there has been another spell on his whole extended family and that is why our marriage was never normal from the beginning. This is very true because he changed overnight a few months into our marriage and told me he doesn’t love me. He was addicted to porn and never really showed any affection or interest in me. However we did have our happy moments throughout the years. Right now, he is waiting for me to divorce him without mentioning the other woman in the proceedings. When he used to communicate with me, and I told him I know about the affair, he never admitted it. Instead he would go quiet. I have told him I will never divorce him. I know that if I do, that woman will kill him to get the money that he has left. He won’t have any form of communication with me or our child anymore and has done some crazy things like breaking into our house and changing locks and resigning from his well paid job to open a tiny shop where the other woman is handling everything. It’s like he is her slave and will do anything she says. She doesn’t seem to be living with him. I know she only wants his money. He has a lot of property and money which is inherited. Everyone is so surprised as to why he would leave me and go to her as she cannot be compared to me (I don’t mean to be snobbish but it’s simply the truth). He also was shouting at his mother (who he used to be very close to) until he forced her to give a huge amount of money to him. I feel so heartbroken because I don’t know what to think. A part of me thinks I mustn’t take this to heart because this is not the real him but another part can’t take the pain he is putting me and our daughter through. My family and friends also have different opinions. Some think, this is a spell and when he comes around from it he will be ashamed of himself whereas others think a spell can’t be so strong as to completely take over him like this. Can a spell be so strong?

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    • Hi Penny. I’m so sorry to hear about this. Yes, in my opinion, a spell can be so strong. It’s also my opinion that the safest, best, and most ethical way to deal with this magically is to call on Archangel Michael daily on your husband’s behalf to clear and shield him in protective light. I also suggest that you regularly do the same for yourself and your children.

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      • Hi Tess,
        I wrote to u on here on 12/08/17 (Penny) about my husband who left me and our daughter after his ex secretary did a love spell on him just so she can get money from him. I’m so pleased to say the spell was broken some months ago by a place that does these thing and he came back home. Someone took him there as that person realised how this woman is totally controlling him and that he has a wife and child he’s ignoring and this made him suspicious as to why my husband is like this. (In my country these love spells are not uncommon). I thought my story of him returning might give others hope as I remember how devastated I was when I went through it. He was away from us for 2 years and 5 months. She has taken a lot of money off him and he has wasted a lot of money too. But all that matters is he’s away from danger (I really think she planned to kill him) and he’s home.
        And as I mentioned before he had two spells done on him which are now both broken. It’s like I’m with the person I originally dated. It feels like a nightmare has finally ended and I still get teary thinking about it. For all those on here thinking of doing love spells, please please don’t mess with people’s lives.
        Penny

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  10. Hi, I’m Jen. I recently found out that my ex-boyfriend was put under a love spell by an old married woman. They consider themselves as bf/gf now. It really breaks me. I’m really worried about him as to what could happen to him. I still love him. We were in a ldr and I cant see him right now… We still communicate time to time but he makes sure he doesn’t get found out by the woman. It gets frustrating as how he cannot see past the spell! I’d like to ask about which angel I can pray to and ask for guidance? I really just want him to be safe first and foremost and be away from that woman. Any insight, if it’s okay, will be much appreciated.

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  11. Hello

    I am from India. I had been married for 10 years. Got recently divorced. I miss my husband a lot. I am not sure if his mother put a spell on him or influenced him a lot. My in-laws stayed with us. We would always fight a lot. Also I experienced lot of anger in my mother in laws presence. Usually I am not a very angry person.
    I really want my husband back can you help me.

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      • Hi Tess

        Thanks for you reply.

        I love him a lot and felt safe with him. How do I suggest I get back with him. I have not spoken to him over a month.

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        • Pooja, I suggest focusing on yourself right now as mentioned in my previous comment. Everything is connected and clearing yourself and your home will create the space for the most positive conditions possible.

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  12. Hi Tess, I’m hoping you might be able to help me please. About 12 years ago when I was a silly teenager, I had a ‘teenage witch spellbook’ and did a very simple love/attraction spell on a boy I felt strongly about (just involved a candle and his name on a piece of paper). He had feelings for me before the spell, but it just wasn’t happening. We then got together for a couple of years and broke up. Years later, I still feel an inexplicable attachment to him and think it could be a result of my stupid actions (which I very much regret, now being older and wiser). I have no knowledge of witchcraft at all – is there anything I can do to undo what I did? Thank you so much.

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  13. I was homeless in santa cruz CA. I met this girl, she was a drug dealer and we kind of sparked together. She goes by squat and wears contacts and camps in some creepy and what i consider cursed places. I was walking down a highway one day and i heard a baby crying down the side of a dirt hill so I shouted out her name Squat. No answer. I think somewhere in my immature mind at the time it could have belonged to somebody and i thought it was mine. Thinking back i think it had something to do with the general “AURA” of santa cruz itself. I hope to hear a reply from you because i find this interesting.

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    • Interesting! Of all the towns I’ve been to, Santa Cruz is one of the most haunted. In my opinion, there is some sort of portal there for sure.

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  14. Hi my name is jessie i have some questions about the love spells ive been putting love spells on my crush he doesnt like me ive been using heaps of love spells on him everyday and night. everytime ive been doing them i feel werid and stuff is that normal i also get headaches to when i do them. I dont know if this dangeous for me or the person im casting spells on. Im always constanly thinking about him its hard to stop. When im around him i feel werid and stuff inside me. Is it bad that i keep putting theses spells on him i dont know how it really all works before its my first time doing this stuff.

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  16. Please help ..me and other half my son’s father whom I love so very much has split up cause I just couldn’t handle the cheating I mean his exes hate me really hate me and he said I’m honest enough to say I love you and I know you love me we talked about marriage and all he told one of the exes we was gonna get married but they hate me so they would rather see me dead cause they know no matter what I have real love for him .I ask him why do you cheat be with different women if you say you love me ..and what puzzles me the most is he looked at me and said I don’t know cause I really love you I can’t explain it It’s hard to fight he said I wouldn’t understand .I want to hate his guys but I feel that he really needs help I love him so much and it hurts cause we are separated for almost a week now he say he not coming back cause I jumped him but I was mad as hell and tired of it but I can see clearly he needs help and it’s blinding him he told me I know I can’t find nobody to love me like you but he still cheated do you think it’s help for me and him I love him so much

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    • Mimi, this sounds like a really unhealthy dynamic. I suggest that you talk to a therapist to heal these old patterns. Not sure if you’ve heard of it, but there’s an app called TalkSpace that connects people with therapists online and over the phone for a fraction of what many therapists cost: https://www.talkspace.com

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      • I will look in to the therapist but I really feel like someone has a spell on him to keep him away from me and my son 2other church leaders has told me that it’s evil forces to destroy us . Is there something I could do quickly to try and stop this evil I really want my family back together

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  17. Hey Tess,

    I had a complicated relationship with a man whom I loved a lot but I just couldn’t seem to get past my issues and make the relationship work. However I was honest from the beginning of my relationship about my limitations and my intent to work hard on myself through therapy and other means and he said he would stand by me and made me promise to stand by him. He got fed up after an argument we had one day and left. And not only did he leave but he stopped talking to me and when he did it was just to argue and yell. He also moved somewhere about 40 minutes away almost immediately and in our communication would lie to me about not being able to work his phone etc. Despite this he would occasionally still reach out but the conversations hurt. The original breakup occurred in November and by January he had a girlfriend who he had been flirting with since way before as I saw later via social media posts. I am hurt by this and of course considered a love spell but I have no ill will despite how poorly he treated me toward him or the person he is dating. I simply just want a reconciliation where he understands how bad his actions hurt me because I feel broken now. I just want us to be able to actually have a normal conversation but I know he has to be the one to actually reach out. Is there a spell for this?

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    • Yas, very good question! In magic, it’s always best to seek resolution within yourself, regardless of the behavior of others. Otherwise, you risk affecting their free will which is never a good idea. That being said, doing magic on YOURSELF to create closure can often help create ripples of positive change in the world outside of you, including your relationships. I suggest that you read a book called The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz.

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      • Thanks so much Tess for getting back to me. I am going to use this time to focus on me and I will check out that book you recommended. I do not plan to ever initiate a love spell on someone else but is there a spell that you recommend just to bring love into your life? Or to make you better able to pursue love if the opportunity presents itself? Like a general love spell.

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          • Hey Tess,
            First off I just want to thank you for all of your advice. I looked into the love spell you sent me and i know a new moon is coming up. I noticed you said you cannot think of anyone specific which I completely understand and do not plan to. Unfortunately my ex has been in my dreams of late which has transferred into my daily thoughts unfortunately. Could this be a problem if the thought of someone happens to cross your mind during the spell even though it is not intentional?

          • No, that will be fine. Just do your best to concentrate on the way you want to feel in the relationship, rather than whom you want it to be with.

          • Hey Tess,

            My apologies for bothering you again I know you have answered a few of my questions regarding this topic. I have been unable despite many tries to move past this person, including trying hypnosis and healing spells. I was just curious if you had any recommendations and how you felt about remorse spells as I was really hurt by this individual and there was another person involved?

          • Hi Yas! No problem. It will most benefit you to let go of how the other person or people involved are feeling and instead to concentrate on healing yourself. Have you tried a cord cutting spell or meditation? Have you released all items from your home that remind you of this person?

          • Hey Tess,

            I appreciate you so much because honestly this blog is what kept me sane throughout dealing with this heartbreak because I think when you’re hurt your mind goes to hurting back or getting them back. I have not tried a cord cutting spell and mediation I just tried today. I have nothing of his anymore I got rid of it all even a ring I loved. It is his birthday today so I think that may have played a part and the fact that he moved on to someone else. I have fought myself down when it comes to spell casting especially spells regarding him and his current relationship because I guess any spell placed on anyone else is bad, even a spell for remorse when you have been wronged? Or a contact spell? You’re right I need to try and focus just on me. Is the cord cutting spell one I can cast myself?

          • Hi Yas! Great to hear the blog has been helpful. I think your insights are correct regarding spells done to affect the feelings of others: best to avoid those. On the other hand, you can definitely you can do cord cutting spells and meditations for and by yourself. 🙂

  18. My boyfriend confessed to cheating on me 3 times. I’m really in love with him, we’ve known each other since high school. I want him to love me the way I love him and be faithful. What kind of spell should I use for that?

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    • Angel, I suggest doing a tarot or oracle reading first, to gain guidance on what is your best course of action. You deserve someone who genuinely WANTS to be faithful to you, rather than someone you’ve magicked into doing so. That’s not to say this guy isn’t capable of that. I just sense that more clarity is required on your part before you take any sort of action, magical or otherwise.

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  19. Yes I cast a love spell and it had the complete opposite effect. Almost immediately he began to hate me and it’s been a rapid downhill hell from that very day .

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  20. How do I know if there’s a love spell that has been cast on me or any kind of spell that has been cast on me?

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  21. Sorry, I think I was rushing to ask my question. But what I want to know is how do I know for sure if someone has cast a spell on me. I had a reading done a few months ago and I was told that someone put a spell on me. Some kind of locked away spell which prevents me from being successful in life. I did some uplifting thingie which the lady helped me with. But lately I’ve been having dreams of a former lover. There was even a night when I dreamed that I went out with him for a while night and it felt really real. Then for some weird reason I also kept dreaming about being chased by Chucky and that he wanted to kill me. I’ve been very uneased lately and so I called the lady for a reading again. I am not sure, but I think I may have some inherited talents for being some kind of seer or healer. And I believe that like u say, u can’t always put spells on certain people and 1 of those reasons is if a person is born with a more powerful energy than yours, your spells can come back to you. Anyways back to the topic, the lady told me that an old flame has cast a love spell on me of some kind. It would make sense to why I’ve been dreaming of him lately. But how am I sure because I didn’t ask the lady on how to remove it.

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    • Hi Mila! I just saw this second comment, but my response to your first comment still stands! Perhaps the Rose Overdose Cure will be most appropriate for your situation.

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      • Thank you so much for the quick reply. i feel like i have so many questions. If you feel that i do not have any kind of hex or curse on me then it should be a good thing. i’ll probably try one of the cleansing that you have listed.

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  22. Hi Tess, I’ve come across your website I am looking for some kind of guidance, I have been with my boyfriend on and off since high school, so 11 years, when I was young and we had broken up I did some kind of love spell (I think). I didn’t think it had worked it took a long while, but eventually we got back together and everything had been great for 5-6 years straight, however just about a week ago he seems to be going through a lot of issues within himself and he was very moody and we were both stuck in a rut and taking each other for granted, so he’s now asked me for some space to work on himself with the hope that we take a break and come back to each other and get back to the way it once was, but he doesn’t know how he will feel at the end of the break, so does that mean that he’s having doubts about our relationship? So I decided to do a love spell 2 days ago to heal a relationship, involving liquid honey a piece of paper, ribbon and a small jar, I have just read your article about never doing love spells now I’m worried our relationship has been cursed for good. But I fear if I undo the spell he will not find his way back to me and I don’t want to be with anyone else. I just want us to go back to being in love and happy and grow old together. I don’t know what to do, any guidance would be very helpful as I’m so confused at the moment. Thanks x (sorry for long post)

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    • Jennifer, I wouldn’t worry about the honey spell. Just release the honey into a moving body of water and recycle/dispose of the rest during the waning moon. Also do your best to release the outcome to the Universe and heal yourself and your heart. Finding comfort and balance on your own is the most healing possible thing you can do for your love life, and will help bring about the most ideal possible outcome. Sending love and every best wish your way.

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      • Thank you for the reply, it has definitely given me the wake up call I needed to get my life together in order to better myself and our life as a couple. I will just have to be postive and hope he finds his way back to me and we can be in a better place. I just hope our relationship isn’t cursed because of my stupidity with these spells. Thank you

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  23. Hello again Tess. So many things has come across my mind and i am feel so unease these days. i haven’t been having a proper nights rest for the past few nights now. is there anything for mind relaxation or anything like that? i feel so stuck right now.

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  24. Hi Tess it’s Maria.
    How do I know if someone put a curse on me .All my relationship Same to go good then they go bad. Currently in a relationship now. I feel like I should put a love spell to protect my relationship. That I am in now

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  25. Hi Tess,
    How do I know if someone put a love spell on me. I know my ex would go see witches with his mom and get his cards read. I’ve been obsessing about him latetly. I should also add that I’m married. It’s been 6 years since we broke up, he’s always been reaching out to me. Messaging me from different Internet forums.

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  27. Hi Tess,

    I was drawn to your site tonight as I was trying to gain clarity about my dilemma. First, let me commend you for taking time to respond to all your questions even a year after this article was posted. It’s a testament to you.

    My situation is a bit different, but possibly the same. There is a woman I’ve met who I just can’t get out of my mind. It was like an instant spark that was like nothing I’ve felt before. That being said, a romantic relationship is impossible for a number of reasons, not the least of which is our distance and the fact that we are work colleagues (we don’t work for the same company but we’ve hired them to do work for us and in the end they may end up working for us directly). So romantic love is likely not in the cards, at least not in the short or medium term.

    I’ve grown to accept this fact, but I still can’t shake the feeling of the connection. It feels like the universe is putting her in my life for something meaningful.

    The problem is that she is very closed off and guarded… At least in the work setting. When we’ve had the opportunity to interact outside of work she is much more relaxed and open and genuine. This mainly stems from the nature of our business relationship and her being a very driven, buttoned up professional.

    What I want is for her to open up to me and communicate more freely with me. I know that that kind of interaction would be wonderfully rewarding for both of us.

    The problem is that the person that I trust when it comes to spells had recommended a sort of love spell, but one that is designed to open the doors of communication, not to make her fall in love with me. In some ways it feels different… But maybe it’s the same as a love spell.

    I don’t know what to do….

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    • Greg, thank you for the kind words! With regards to your question, I’d say it depends on the spell. The golden rule is often a good diagnostic. Do you feel that the spell would interfere with her free will in a way that you wouldn’t want your free will to be interfered with? In other words, if someone you didn’t know well were to do a similar spell on you without your knowledge, would you feel fine about it?

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      • Tess,

        Thank you. That is kind of what I have been thinking. I have been very clear that all i want is to foster more open and intimate conversation (intimate in the interpersonal sense, not in the romantic sense). I have sensed that the connection is there… I have thought about how I would feel if it was done to me, and if the spell was truly cast with the intention that I have for it I would be ok with it, because it doesn’t force my feelings to change, it just expands on a connection that is there, and the worst that comes from it is good conversation. Is that naive?

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        • No, I don’t think it’s naive. It sounds like you’re being really careful and respectful to me: like if she wouldn’t naturally want to connect more, she just won’t. But if she would, she will. Great example of magical integrity! Creating space, shifting blocks, opening the road, and then allowing free will to be what it is.

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          • Tess,

            Thank you again. Apologies for hijacking the comments. Your thoughts are exactly in line with mine. It’s just when I think about the spell that my advisor is recommending, it’s in that category of “love spells”… And I’d be casting it on a specific person.

            But on the flip side I’m not using it to influence her to fall in love with me. I’m just trying to remove the unnatural blocks that I know exist as a result of the current business circumstances we are in. I truly believe that if those blocks that she puts up were gone that we would have a very deep connection. But the blocks are all on her side. There is nothing blocking me from moving to that level… So the spell is naturally directed at her. But is it truly the same as changing her free will?

          • Like I said, sounds fine from what you’ve told me. If you don’t feel right about it, though, I definitely wouldn’t do it.

  28. Hi Tess,
    My husband left me for another woman a little over a year ago. I know for sure this woman practices witchcraft. He came back to me after I gave birth to our daughter. Everything seemed to be okay until about a week ago. I had to have my husband admitted into a psych ward because his behavior has changed drastically. He keeps saying my oldest daughter (his stepdaughter) put voodoo on him. He says she’s burning candles in our home, but she’s not. He started searching our home for candles. He was looking in cereal boxes and in the freezer in ice cream containers for a burning candle. He wouldn’t sleep and his behavior scared me. Is there anything I can do to get him back to normal?

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  29. I have a feeling that my husband has been give a love spell I’ve been told by 2 different mediums that he has been. I have spent thousands of dollars, and still haven’t gotten to the bottom of it or have yet for it to be broken. They both said that he is my true “twin flame”. So my question is, if I just continue with my life, will that spell “wear off” and miraculously he’ll come back (since I can’t cintiune to spend anymore money to break this spell)??

    We have a great relationship and we have children together. The girl does not live in the same country so she isn’t even around but he leaves to visit her and has communicated with her over 2 years now.

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  30. Hi, I put a couple of spells on someone that don’t I exist but I really want him in my life, can this be by white magic? And is it true that a spell can be put on someone I never dated or met? He don’t know I exist.. is it possible to have had this done? I’m just hoping I haven’t lost hundreds of 💵, thanks

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      • Yes, I did the passion pancea, tri force, triple cast Also, its another one I cant remember. But it is possible right?

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        • Chandra, are you referring to a previous comment? I can’t find it for some reason. Can you please remind me what you’re asking about?

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          • Yes, I was asking u about 3 spells I did cast on someone that dont know me or know that I exist, I was asking is it possible to do these type of spells on someone even thou they dont know me at all, I did the passion panacea, the tri force love spell, and a couple more, through a spell caster. Is this possible to be done on someone that you actually never talk to in person and they dont know me? Trying to make sure I’m not being scammed.

  31. Hi,
    The last few months I have been in a very confusing relationship full of ups and downs, but also lots of love. I am 18 and this was my first relationship. The man involved is 7 years older than me. We started as friends but from there things moved very slowly, first holding hands, going on dates, and finally after three months we kissed. The kiss came after we had a conversation. I asked if we were more than friends. He became awkward and explained that the age difference was too much and he felt uncomfortable. So we remained friends but after only two days he said he could not not act romantic towards me. When we did kiss it was passionate and real and evident that there was a strong love connection. Unfortunately after a short month of being intimate, he began to stray away. He blamed this on his mental health and again my age, and I promised to be there to support him. Well now we are just friends, because there is another issue. When we met he was engaged but unhappy. He chose to leave his longterm partner, that’s when we became romantic. But now that we are just friends he is returning to her. He says he has no feelings for her but it’s a weird situation and he is confused. He still wants to be in my life because we have built a great relationship. We have become best friends, we never fight, and we alway have fun. But I am struggling with this. I know that he still loves me, he is unable to deny it when I ask. When we touch there is still magic. The issue is that he is a professional at repressing his feelings. I am worried because I really care for and love him. He is reentering an unhappy relationship for the sake of comfort, instead of following his heart. Is there a spell to bring him back to me romantically, since we are still best friends? I don’t need a love spell because he already loves me in that way. I just need something that will help him follow his heart and stop repressing his feelings. All I want is happiness for both of us and at this point we are both very sad.
    Thank You

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    • Morgan, I’m sorry you are sad. I am getting the sense that the healthiest thing for both of you would be for you to release him and let him go his own way. Even if you think he is making the wrong decision, it is still his decision to make. Also, when you do this, you will have the best chance of him returning to you on his own (if it is meant to be). I suggest a cord cutting ritual, and also letting go of reminders of him in your home and environment. Here’s a ritual to cut cords: https://tesswhitehurst.com/ritual-to-cut-cords-of-attachment/ And here’s a post about how to arrange your environment for the best possible outcomes and experiences in your love life: https://tesswhitehurst.com/the-9-best-feng-shui-tips-for-love-and-romance/

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      • Thanks for the reply. I agree that the relationship wasn’t the healthiest and I need to accept his decision. I just feel that it was meant to be and I do have a feeling he will come back.I have a question about the cord cutting ritual. Will it completely cut him from my life? Because I do not want that. I live in a very rural area and he is my only friend at the moment, which will change when i go to college in the fall. We are intending on staying best friends and hanging out everyday this summer, so i don’t want to cut him off. I also don’t want to cut myself out of his life and the possibility of finding eachother again. But I do think it would be beneficial if he was out of my thoughts. Is that what the cord cutting does?

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        • Also concerning getting rid of reminders: That is kind of an issue since almost everything I own reminds me of him. I made the mistake of letting him fully into my life, so most of my possessions have a memory associated with him. We also have very similar interests, so now all my my favorite shows and books remind me of the times we shared watching them. When I enter my own bedroom I immediately imagine the memories we shared together here, so i feel it is impossible to get away from him.

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          • Then maybe for now just do the cord cutting ritual and do your best to move on from your relationship with him.

  32. Hi my name is sofia and I’m 15. I like this boy a lot but I’m not around him that much so I put a couple of spells on him. A desire me spell, a love me spell, and a dream of Me spell. I am completely ashamed of what I did and how my emotions got the best of me but I still want to see him and want him to like me back. The spells have been somewhat of a success since I get to see him walk or ride his bike by my house often and always looks towards me even though I am far away from him. Also I can’t stop thinking about him. Do you know what I should do? Is there a way to either undo or break those spells I put on him?

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  33. Will I ever get back with my ex love. I want to try a love spell on him. His name is Robert.

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  34. Will I ever get back with my ex love. I want to try a love spell on him. His name is Robert. Thank you

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  35. I can’t believe i’ve come to a point where casting love spells became an option.. I still love my ex boyfriend and I truly believe he still loves me too, i can feel it.. but we don’t know how to re-connect or reconcile. I haven’t spoken to him in 3 months, I think about him 24/7 non-stop everyday it’s really exhausting.. He’s the stubborn and egoistic type, he doesn’t want to go back on his word even though his heart tells him otherwise. I have been practicing the law of attraction, but today i stumbled across this website and I felt the need to try,
    The reason i’m so firm on holding on is because i believe, with a gut feeling that we are soulmates. when i am with him, i feel a deep love feeling like never before. we meditate together, we talk about deep personal things that gave deep personal connections.

    I feel like i lost a part of me. I have been focusing on myself for the past 3 months however, I want to love myself more than ever before, I believe that I am the source of my own happiness, not him.

    Will love spells work if I know deep down that we are meant to be, but we are both afraid to try again? Will it encourage him to come and look for me?

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    • Hi Sarah! Please check out the 5 Karma-Friendly Alternatives to Casting a Love Spell on Someone Else below the post. As long as you don’t do a love spell specifically on a certain person, you can help bring about the best possible outcome for yourself and everyone involved, which may or may not include this ex-boyfriend specifically.

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  36. Does binding someone create a repelling effect to anyone else who may want to engage with the object of desire? Someone I love very much passed me over for a guy who is into the dark arts, seems to be from his family lineage. Since the day he showed up I have experienced weird reactions to the one I love. Third party information revealed that he may bind her. I am just wondering if binding has this kind of result. Sadly his energy is much darker than she is aware of and he does not have good intentions for her. She is headstrong and thus blinded by ego to see what’s going on. Its sad, but I don’t want to be involved with the dark in any way.

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  37. Hi Tess! I first off want to say that I love this site and I am so thankful for you for making it & helping people like myself. I am currently going through a heart wrenching divorce. My husband has filed for divorce and has met someone else during the divorce process. Someone of whom he claims to be in love with. They live in different states and met on a social media website. I feel deeply in my soul, however that he is my soulmate and I truly believe that he will come back to me. I want him back, but I want for him to feel some sort of remorse because I am hurting badly. He seems to have no remorse. What can you pick up on my situation?

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    • Hi Miranda! It’s always best to remove focus on how you want other people to feel and to place it on how YOU want to feel. It sounds counterintuitive, I know, but letting go of him energetically and emotionally is the best possible course of action if you’d like to speed up the most positive possible outcome (which may or may not involve him changing his mind and coming back). Here’s a meditation to cut cords of attachment (it can never cut cords of love, though – just unhealthy aspects of your connection) – https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/

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  38. Hi Tess, my boyfriend of 3 years just broke up with me on the day before our 3rd anniversary. He claims that he still loves me and is afraid to go further in the relationship because of his own confusion and anger towards life. He says that he fears he may harm me one day and the effect would be irreversible. I’m wondering if I could help him find his path towards peace and happiness and help him to come back to me again. Thank you. Thank you.

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  39. Hi
    please help me, am in love with this guy my boyfriend of 4 years,here the thing, I can see that he has fallen out of love for me and its pains me because he is I everything I ever want, can’t go a day without thinking about him, nomatter how hard I try to ignore him too I just cant, this thing ruining me because he did a lot of bad things to me but I still want him, nometter how hard I try to let him go I just can’t, He is everywhere, He is ignoring me and I miss him so much,

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  40. Hey Tess! I didn’t necesscarily cast a spell but instead wished for an amplification of positive feelings already present between me and my best friend (who I’ve been in a sort of relationship tangle with, though I know they don’t love me the same way, they think my feelings are valid and want to help somehow, confusing I know) but fear whatever I did may backfire because I was in a confused place when I did it. I don’t have the resources to do the lemon cure, is there any way I can wipe the slate clean to ensure the security of our relationship, or do I even have to? I feel like I did it without much thinking/experience, even though it wasn’t a spell but rather a prayer of sorts, with no will to have them obsessed with me or in love love with me, simply to amplify the feelings of joy, affection and understanding between us, and the love feelings that are mutual (physical and platonic love). Let me know if something seems iffy, they’re so important to me and I never want to lose them. Are there any spells I should do to reverse this and ensure the security of our bond 🙁 ?

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    • Hi Kat! I’m not getting the sense that there’s anything currently to worry about with regards to what you may have set in motion in the past. To answer your final question, I don’t suggest doing anything else at this time.

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  41. Hi….. I’m currently doing a love spell on my ex….. I know it maybe wrong and I believe it’s woeking to some degree, but my question is I now know that he’s seeing his child’s mother that in the past didn’t care too much about her two psychics have told me that he doesn’t love her but he loves me a lot and the only reason he’s with her is bc I kicked him out the house, but my question is could it be possible that she has a love spell on him to? And if so who would get him? Right now he’s with her from what I can see? But how does it work if you have an active love spell over someone else’s love spell…. the reason why I think it maybe a live spell because of strange behaviors towards me.

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  42. How do I know if there’s a love spell that has been cast on me or any kind of spell that has been cast on me?

    Thank you

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  43. How do I know if there’s a love spell that has been cast on me or any kind of spell that has been cast on me?
    Please let me know

    Thank you

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  44. Hi Tess,

    Thanks for your post, very insightful!
    So my issue is this: my husband of 5 years left me for another woman. Granted, there were issues but I invested so much in this , I wanted us to work. We’re currently separated but still married. In a desperate attempt to get back I casted a love spell as well as a break up spell (my husband and new girl) . But I never used any materials like candles or rituals or ingredients; the cast was from a website on the internet. I’m not sure how affective that is or if it’s also just as powerful as using materials? If it is, what can I do to undo this? And instead what can I do to solely focus on my own self, heal, and find happiness and love again?
    Could you please shed some insight on my situation? Thanks for your time.

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  45. Hi, I’ve been reading comments and I feel this would be a great place to receive advice on my situation if possible… I’ve been dating this guy on and off for 4 years. He’s the love of my life, in the beginning it started so sweetly and innocently. He was involved so we decided to just be friends. Then, he decided to break it off, so we made it official. So his ex, whom he had kids with, found out I was the reason he broke it off. She decided to get revenge I think she put spells on him. He started acting real negatively and then would leave abruptly to go back to her. I was distraught so I seeked psychic advice I was informed she did put spells on him. So then I In a desperate attempt to get him back, cast a love spell as well as a break up spell. And he returned and vice versa. So it’s been ongoing the duration of our relationship. Now he’s back there and I’ve heard the negative enegies took him back and he also left in the same way as always.. Each time he leaves he acts real strange towards me in the beginning and then it fades and he usually returns to me after. Now we’re still communicating daily, still deeply love each other and are preparing to be together but he lives with her and wants to leave but it’s like he’s stuck and still acting strangely. I can never speak bad about her. If I do he becomes enraged. I can barely even bring her up. Is it the spell and I’m wondering what can I do?

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  46. Good evening Tess thank you for your post regarding love spells I agree with you wholeheartedly. You know I went into a candle shop a few years ago and was asked about lighting a love candle for my ex-husband and I declined it because if a person loves you it should be of their own free will and not because their will was taken. Love is about choice and should never be forced. Well I have of late experienced just the opposite. After 30 years my first love came back into my life and I was happy to hear from him. He sent me text messages every morning like clockwork such that if my phone went off I knew it was him. The good morning messages, goodnight messages, funny memes, flowers, hearts, photographs, scripture and telephone conversations just blew my mind. One night even we spoke on the phone for 3 hours and 12 minutes it was so amazing. He usually as most men is quiet and I think he just wanted to satisfy me while truly enjoying our time together. It was as if My Dear Mother who passed away God rest her soul in peace did not want me to be alone because of the tremendous amount of love I have inside of me. Because that is how my first love found me I went into my Mother’s guestbook on Dignity memorial on line to add a memory and saw that he had added one. Well I knew he was married so I did not try to contact him. Then I went in to add another memory for My Dear Mother and this time he had left his phone number. So I said well I should at least thank him for remembering my Mother and giving his condolences so I called him. That is when he told me that he was divorced and so was I it was like it was meant to be. And for six months it was a dream come true. He also had kept pictures of me that he had taken and sent me the one in my bikini and said do you remember this young lady. I was so touched. Then the horror began. I could sense some sarcasm in his responses to me along with some doubt. It was time for a reading so I went and found out that his ex was around and had burned a breakup candle on us. Apparently, his focus was on me and we were talking about him coming out to California, but that seems that it will never happen now. The negative vibrations from the breakup candle caused a misunderstanding between us and I have not heard from him now in 9 weeks. This man when we first fell in love in California was in the military and had gotten stationed in Georgia where he suffered a near fatal car accident. When he was able to be released from the hospital the first thing he did was drive cross country back to me in California. Then he went back to Alabama and I decided to go to college in Alabama to be near him it was nice. They say if you let love go it would come back to you, but now I am afraid and I have tried to reach out to him, but no response. I even believe he blocked my number. It hurts, but I still love him! What should I do? This spell seems so strong and she has the upper hand I know he loves me, but have I lost him now forever. Thank you God bless you Tess. Foreverbrokenhearted! Yvonne

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      • Dear Tess,
        I just want to say thank you I could not agree with you more leaving it up to the Universe and Divine intervention is the only way. I trust God and know that He shall not put upon me more than it is that I can bear. I worry about my first love, but I will put those energies into prayer and ask God for mercy. Thank you for your kind words and I appreciate all that you are doing. You are definitely walking in the Light! Peace, Yvonne Abdullah

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  47. Hi Tess,

    Need an insight from you on my situation please. 2 years back I was with a boy for few months and then broke up too because we were not getting time to meet often. Considering he and I stay really far from each other and we had different work timings, weekends he had spend with his family (he stays with his family unlike me). Even though it’s been 2+ years that we’ve parted our ways, I am still in love with him and deep down in my heart he’s the one for me. I have dated quite a few guys in my past and in one I was in a very serious relationship which for 4.5 years but with this guy I had been with him for on few months and I feel he’s the one for me. Currently, he is with a girl from his workplace. Both the boy and the girl he’s with my checking out my feeds regularly. I don’t both are aware that both of them check my feeds.
    What should I do? Everyday my energy goes in thinking about him.

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  48. Hi Tess!
    I tried to read all the comments, so if anyone have already asked this, I’m sorry!
    I don’t want to do a love spell, but I’m wondering if it’s correct to help someone heal from a breakup.
    These two friends of mine have been together for more than 15 years, living together for 8 (they also bought a house together 5 years ago or so). Last December the girl left him for another man (officially December, but for fairness she had already talked to him in September/October), and he obviously suffered a lot. Now, after all these months, he’s still very sad, they live in another country so he have no friends there. So, being alone with no distractions, it’s very difficult to him to overcome this situation. He feels as if they had broken up yesterday.
    It breaks my heart to see him in this situation, and I would love to help him leave this behind and to look forward!
    Thank you so much for your help, and sorry if there’s any error, English is not my mother language!
    Have a beautiful day.

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  49. Hi tess i am gloria i need your help here i have been in a relationship with a certain guy and he used to love me and i love him so much,he had a plan of marrying me but before that i lost a job and i told him then he said we are going to open for me a business i gave him some part of my money for buying things for starting up the business and he told me he bought the things now this guy ever since he has never taken my money but this time after him taking my money he does not want to meet me i told him its fine with me even if he used that money for something else i have no problem because my money is his money too all i want is for us to be together as usually and i have even got another job but this guy i guess he is just scared of me and i love him so much i do not know what do to make him understand me i do not want to lose him ,he even told me not to call his phone yet that he will call me ,he is busy so please help me i love him so much ,i do not see something good in my life without him ,its now one week ever since i spoke to him and he has not call me either please what should i do.

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  50. Hi tess, am Julie. I dated someone for 5 years and we were so in love, but his parents said they don’t want him getting married to me, he had tried to persuade his parents but they still refused. Sometimes he stops calling me like someone being used charm on. We have been on and off, we still madly in love with each other and know our union will be awesome. I am confused on what to do and how to get the parents to like me. Please help, a day does not pass without me crying about the issue.

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  51. I think my ex put a love spell on me.She would always put her hand over my heart and just lay beside me with her eyes closed,when I ask her what she was doin shed just smile and say”nothing” do you think I’ve been put under a spell and how do I break this horrible feeling I have without her?

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      • Hi TessI am 25 years old and I got rejected by a girl 2 years and 9 months ago and it has ruined my life.I was left absolutely devastated and I pracceded to drink heavely at teh weekends and up to this day.I am not a alcoholic and also since the rejection I have completely given up on life and am constantly sad and beating myself up because I know I should have been given a chance with her.It breaks my heart and its eating me.Also since she rejected me I have let myself go.I dont eat healthy anymore and sleep a lot and eat junk food a lot and when ever and I have gained nearly 3 stone.We only spoke about 2 times and she hates me not and refuses to look at me.I just feel like crying and get a physical and melting pain in my stomach and chest if I see her or imagine being with her.I am so sad and upset I just wish the world could have given me a chance for her to get to know me before she decided to reject me.Anyway a few weeks ago I paid 3 spell casters to make her love me and nothing has happened.Can anyone help me?

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  52. Hey Tess, some advice would be really appreciated. I’m currently in love with my best friend of four years. We recently started to become friends with benefits. I was fine with this because I thought that was his way of saying he liked me romantically but was not ready for a relationship, & maybe one day he would be ready and love me and be my lover. Turns out while this was happening he was pursuing a relationship with another girl he liked. He only views me as a friend he’s down to sleep with. I have been in love with him for three years and I don’t know what to do… I love him so much and I can’t escape him. I want him to still be my best friend but if I could just get over him or if he would just love me back everything would be fine… I don’t know what to do, I’m young & dumb & desperate. Please help

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  53. Hello Tess!
    So I’ve been reading this general section of your blog for a while now, because I’m in a bit of a mire. I realize I’m at the bit where I need to ask for guidance.
    In past, I’ve experienced a true “twin flame” situation. Divine partner, whatever terminology suits your tastes most; he passed away years ago. That part, I’m at peace with. Death is as natural and necessary as life. However I’ve spent a lot, and I mean a LOT, of time and energy trying to reconstruct myself. Part of that process was dating again. I’ve been with a partner for a year who is a subjectively good man, although the dynamic has never been like the previous one. I’ve been asking myself a lot of hard questions about “is this enough.”
    And then I met This Man. Technically I met him once months ago, but he quite literally dropped back into my life out of the blue. I hope it wasn’t just me having this experience, because to me the connection was POTENT. It was like watching an electrical storm. I stayed and talked with him so long that I missed my train. I immediately went home and checked my oracle cards, and suffice to say it was a very illuminating hour. I can’t help but feel like All That Is has just offered me a second chance (which you have no idea how much I’ve asked for). And now I’m petrified.
    I sense that some sort of ritual is appropriate. However, since there is VERY CLEARLY a person rattling around in the back of my head, I’m nervous about stepping on his free will inadvertently. I’m worried that I’m just nuts and need to get back to reality. What sort of spellwork would you suggest to manifest the best possible outcome?
    Your blog is wonderful, by the way. I’m genuinely impressed and touched that you’ve made yourself available to all these people in the comments. Thanks.

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  54. I wrote a spell wishing my ex should come back and commit,by watching one of the YouTube videos with a piece of paper and writing it five times and my name 7 times and enclosing it with come back to me written with out lifting my hand. But now I want to undo it and I am not happy about me forcing things. Please help me how do I undo this

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      • I had some one to do a love spell on the guy I am with now I am feeling sad because I really want this man to love me on his own not by force, is there a chance this man could love me genuine on his own? am I curse because I did this? has anyone had a success story by doing a love spell or is everyone doomed. I thought it would help our relationship, I am terrified that I did this, I did not know this could hurt me for life.

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  55. Sorry, but love has nothing to do with free will.
    You can not get rid of your love for an unworthy person even if you’re aware he/she is unworthy. Willpower can keep you from him/her, but it has no effect on your emotions.
    Having the will to stay away also shows that love spell is not rape. Longing doesn’t mean you have to sleep with someone, or even hang out with them.
    Same thing, you can not will yourself to fall for someone who ticks all (or most) your boxes.
    Love is always magical.
    Not to mention that so called natural love usually wears out (too). The number of divorces clearly shows that. The way I see it, you have nothing to lose. If it comes back to you, well, if you had really been in love, it would have last forever anyway. You can be miserable after having had a chance, or without it.

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  56. Hello Tess,
    I’m at a point where I feel I need some guidance. I met my boyfriend a few months ago, things were great, like really great. He was taking anti-depressants for severe depression (had been for about 4/5 months before we met). He stopped taking them suddenly bc he said he was happy with life and happy being with me. Then it all went bad, after about 2 weeks he changed completely, he restarted his meds and has been back on them for about 7/8 weeks now. Nothing has been the same at all, some days he’s loving and sweet other days he’s emotionless and cold. I understand the meds he’s on are brain altering chemicals. He messaged me yesterday and said he’s tired of being in a relationship that he has no emotional connection in, obviously I’m devastated bc I know it’s just unfortunate side effects of his meds. Is there a spell I can do to help him? Maybe a powerful healing spell or something? Idk I’m just lost and heartbroken right now.

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  57. Am empath reads and feels emotions that are coming from other people (near and far)or you would classify me as a clairsentient.I find myself at times getting emotional overwhelmed when I think about a particular person and would have to take calming breath and clean my aura.I would like to call the person not against there will.

    I also have a guy a became friends with on pan and a few months he went to the doctor and was diagnosed with prostate cancer.I talk to his on an off for another month (he told me he was going to a cancer center)then nothing and I have not heard from him in 6 years.I want to get back in touch with him,I miss his we got along so well and would like to find him.

    You heard of writing a letter and reading it to put it out in the universe is doing so against a person’s will.I want to bring them here but not make them fall in love with me just get us to bump into one another and go from there.

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  58. I read it, slept on it for a couple of days thought about the repercussions. Im going to do it anyways. I miss him. I havent been able to let anyone in to my life since we broke up and it feels like im under his spell.

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  59. I know love spells are bad but are there any good spells for getting someone to talk to you again?
    I had a very confusing falling out with a male friend was really close friends with. I have no idea why but he told me to leave him alone for good and then left town a couple weeks later. I do have feelings for him and he knows it but he said no to dating so I moved on, started seeing others and was fine with being friends at least.
    Suddenly we had a very small argument and I feel like he used that as a cover for the real reason he won’t speak to me anymore. I wish I could at least get an explanation and it’s making me feel very sad. We were basically best friends and things feel dull without him even when i’m with others I think I could move on easier if he would tell me what’s wrong. It would not be a love spell then… Just one for talking to me again and possibly mend the friendship.

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  60. Hello I recently came across messages between a current gf of mine and her best friend about how she has tried to love spells on me and there was in depth conversation about certain items, needed waiting for a full moon and waiting 3 days before trying anything else. I met this girl while I was in a long term relationship with the mother of my kids and there was some cheating involved however I thought better of it and after talking with my girlfriend at the time about it and admitting my wrongs I decided to call it off and was serious about it. After not talking to her for months I would find myself randomly thinking about her and wanting to go see her and be around her even though I was happy with my girlfriend at the time I would see her for a day or two then not talk to her again for months at a time but for some reason no matter how much time went by I’d find myself thinking about her again and I find this odd because I honestly was never really that attracted to her she came into me and I just saw it as an easy fun time but I believe it’s been the biggest mistake of my life ever meetining her. After about 3 years of on and off with this girl and problems in my current relationship my then girlfriend and I decided to call it quits and now I’m with this girl who tried the love spell on me. The creepiest part is that I saw a specific text about waking up at 4am to do a part of the ritual and ever since I’ve been living with her I wake up at 4am every morning when I’ve went a time without seeing my kids; but once my kids mom lets me see my kids I sleep through the night for 2-3 days and then I start waking up at 4am again every morning until I see my kids again. I just found this information out today and have been trying to make sense of it all and I just want help. Has there been proof of love spells working?

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  61. Thank you for making this but do you know a reverse spell i could use with no ingredients it would mean alot to me because I just started spells and was messing around and did a love spell on someone who already liked me and i realized that we don’t see each other often so often and he might be more depressed.Just email me if you know thanks for the help.

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  62. Hi Tess,
    I just turned into a wiccan a few weeks ago and need some help.In my last school that I moved away from, my friends always had someone to love and it made me jealous so I told them I had a crush on many guys I didn’t care about on the inside.Then this new kid came to my school and I instantly fell in love me my friend Lily and him would hangout all the time.when the last day there came I almost confessed but I couldn’t say anything.During the summer I cried so many times thinking about him.My friend and me met up and she told me he loved me.I wasn’t sure so I got so upset with myself and everything I put a love spell on him.After I did it I knew instantly something was wrong, so I tried to find a reverse spell,and then I found this please sent me a link or something for a reverse spell thank you
    -Justin Hell (fake last name lol)

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  63. Hi Tess,
    I love my boyfriend so much and I know he loves me he’s always there for me he’s a good person inside and out but he has a cheating problem I have broken up with him and he promised me he will get help he’s now seeing a counselor twice a week but I’m scared that he might cheat on me again I tried looking for love spells but after reading your posted that wouldn’t be a good idea can you please help me?

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  64. I think my spouse put a love spell on me. No matter how bad he treats me, I can’t ever leave him, because I feel I love him too much. How do you love someone so much who is hateful, mean, controlling and in his mind, never wrong? I don’t know, but it has been going on for years! Everything he does and says breaks my Heart, but everytime I thinking a out leaving him, my heart breaks even more. We have an 8 year old daughter together. I also feel like someone (maybe him again) with an autoimmune disease, so I would be even more dependent on him. I am afraid and I don’t know what to do.

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    • Chasity, I highly recommend talking to a therapist about this. I’m not sure if you’ve heard of the app called TalkSpace, but it can connect you with an affordable phone therapist (if price is an issue).

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  65. Hey Tess! I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We have a son together. I’m in love with him and he says he loves me too. He is very particular about what I wear. He doesn’t want me to look too sexy & is always trying to get me to dress a certain way, yet he buys new things for himself. Anyway, I found out he is still trying to sleep with his exes. The exes tell me they don’t want him back & tell me to tell him to stop contacting them. He entertains women when I don’t have sex with him. I need some type of spell to remind him of why he pursued me & fell in love with me in the first place and for him to commit to me ONLY mentally and physically. Is there anything out there like that?

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  66. Persoanally I think you are a very sick person to use any kind of spell on someone find God and you will find true love and happiness that’s meant for YOU!!!!

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  67. I need help. I don’t if you can or give advice but i got a love spell from a black magic shaman a few years back. It worked on the guy I loved. Even though he didn’t treat me the greatest, I still wanted to be with him. It worked he got with me.
    We had a kids, he ended up being the main breadwinner of the family while i was a stay at home mom for years. I would do everything, cook, clean, Everything for the kids, even if i was sick or pregnant, he would still want things from me but not help much. I gained a lot of weight, i felt like i was going no where even though i was proud of raising and educating my kids.
    Our marriage wasn’t even romantic in fact nothing has really been, we got married for money reasons, we were fighting around then and i didn’t feel right about going through but I did and i didn’t even want to take his last name.
    But sure there was good times, he did some romantic things after i nagged and I do love and care for him but the years of neglect due to his gaming addiction and unromantic, unhelpful behavior when it comes to anything besides work, took their tole. Last year around this time i started making changes for myself.
    I lost a lot of weight, i started looking better and feeling better about myself i finally got a part time job that doesn’t take too much time in the evenings. I felt like i was doing something for myself for once when I never have before.
    I met someone during work and had feelings that led me astray. I felt bad but I just felt I needed their attention. I loved it. I loved that someone so beautiful could look at me and think the same when I’ve felt so down on myself and so neglected. But even this person neglects me and seems to just see me as a sexual object.
    My husband has always kept me on a short leash over the years. He doesn’t like when I’m out with my girl friends, he doesn’t like when i take too long at stores in his opinion, he has blown up my phone numerous times and accused me even as a stay at home mom of sleeping around but he says it more in valvular ways. I’ve always been accused of stuff i never did. It only happened recently with the person i met at work. But for almost a decade i did nothing wrong.
    Now he’s lost since he dug through my phone and found out. He argues with me constantly. In front of the kids blowing up my phone with messages, during my work, when he’s at work, 3-4 in the morning and when he gets home and I’m about to go to work. He makes everything about sex, he wants more and more almost everyday, i feel forced so much, he has before but this is different, it feels violating and degrading the way he just grabs me in my private’s constantly, more than before, if i don’t do what he wants he becomes a tyrant. He stomps he bangs things, he yells, he’s angry, he does it infront of the kids and when they’re sleeping.
    He doesn’t like to be denied, those are his words and that if i don’t comply he will be like that. It got so bad that he mentally breaks me down till i give into things i don’t want to do and are against. Nasty things in my opinion. To the point where I’m being harassed and marital raped. All because he found out i was talking to and attracted to someone at work. I put locks on all my phone and media because he was digging through it reading, obsessing, he questions anything constantly, he goes crazy that i kicked my phone and always asks me who I’m talking to and what about angerly, he put a video cam in my car to watch everywhere i go. He watches the videos and questions things. He doesn’t like when i hang and talk to my friends at all.
    I’ve been going to a therapist and she says i need to get out, it’s escalating, I’m now on antidepressants.
    I don’t know what to do I already sought help from the same caster. I just don’t know if it’s enough help. He isn’t getting better, he’s only happy now because i gave him the sexual advances he’s been harassing me about again. He also knows I’m pretty much out the door, so he does this but he always goes back to his dictator ways.
    I read how it can go wrong in number one and number two of your posts. It seems that’s what’s happening. I’m being punished and emotionally and sexually abused. I feel so lost, drained and i don’t know what to do. I feel like i want out and to find myself but he is so attached to me and won’t let me go. I don’t want to have a bad relationship with him if it ends. We have kids, i want a good relationship even if we aren’t together. I don’t see how i can get past what he’s done to me and keeps doing. He blames me for everything. He’s a narcissist and it’s always my fault.
    I read your post and i know it is all my fault. I asked for this person and now i don’t know how to be set free. I don’t know how to end this on a good note. To make up for me being so lonely at the time, stupid and forcing someone against their will to love me because i wanted their love so bad because i was so distraught and lonely. I don’t have good support system when it comes to my family. I’ve cut them off for always being against me and not hearing my side and agreeing with him.
    It’s really just me and a handful of others that have my back. But in the end i have to fix this some how. I don’t know how. To unbind? To cleanse? What if the love spell is too strong? I just don’t know. I just want to fix our lives. My bad karma. I don’t want to hurt him even though he’s hurt me. I know it’s my fault but i have to have a respectful relationship for the sake of my kids but i don’t think I can have a marriage with him anymore. He always goes back and i can’t ask for someone to fix his behavior for me to love. I don’t want to make more mistakes. I just want help to unbind this peacefully and some how make up for my wrong and my bad karma. I’m sorry this was long, i Just wanted as much details out there to see if there is a way to fix this. Thank you

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  68. Hi Tess,
    Like a lot of writers here I’ve recently experienced a lost love. We dated for 6 months and it was the best relationship I’ve ever been in. We were so in love and happy. Recently our arguments became frequent and oit of nowhere he wpuld blow up at me. The last argument went too far and he broke up with me. As a result, i took things too far and said some unforgivable things to him. We were best friends and he could never forgive me. I was looking for a love spell, but i think his sister, who is a witch cast a spell to break us up. Is there a spell for him to forgive me? Also, i know you said no love spells. Would one in this situation backfire? Also, is there a spell for making him forgive me and speak to me again?

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  69. ok magic and ethics, you mean ethics base on to systems of moral values based on a Christian view. the real magic is to explore the unknown with an open mind .there is no good and bad just life. this the bull I am tired of seeing this hippie crap from you so call witches true magic is to help you get what you want love or lust it all lie for true is the oldest lie. that the likes of your kind has to help spread. this is a trick to get people hook on your self-righteousness craps when you don’t know. because you are too afraid to understand life.real magic involves the unknown ethics will keep you alone

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  70. Hi, I am new to the world of spells and “witch craft”. I am wondering, do love spells and spells in general really work?

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  71. Hi Tess,

    I have just gone through a break up and want to win my love back. I believe she is at a point where she is not sure whether to get back together or not. Possibly even done. I have read about all sorts of spells and they sound amazing as you would imagine but I began to read about the possible ways they could go wrong and I do not wish that for my love or for myself. More so I want her to fall back in love of her own free will. I was wondering if there were any spells to rid her of any negative thoughts and doubts about us (past and present); as well as any spells to ignite interest/spark of feelings of love for us. I don’t know if these types of spells are around or possible. I feel that if She can let go of the bad thoughts and feelings of the past and present and spark some interest/love, I can win her over properly and possibly rebuild that love without forcing it upon her with a full bound love spell. As I stated before, I do not wish to do that to her. I want to bring love and the future that we have both spoken about to the table. Free of doubts and negativity. I want her/us to be happy and to have a chance at building a family together as we once spoke of. I am ready and willing to make the changes in myself for the better that I need to so that I can bring the best to the table. If there isanything you can offer it would be of great help and very much appreciated

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  72. Hi I am new to this but I feel I been cursed to find true love. It seems like I’m am just invisible to most girls and only actract one with drinking or anger problem. And no matter how hard try it only get worse then when I finally able to break away they try after I’m done. And when a decent girl come around it goes great for a few weeks the. All of a sudden gone I went and had my palm red about 5 years ago and they lady told me I have a curse on my from some one of jealously I just makes me feel hopeless and all I ever think about my ex’s. And what I could of done to change things

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    • John, I suggest getting into counseling with a therapist you trust. This sounds like it may stem from an emotional or psychological pattern that you can change when you identify it and consciously shift it. Counseling can help you do that.

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  73. Hello! I am fairly new to spells and put a love spell on someone I have a lot of feelings towards. I haven’t seen the effects of it yet as I have not seen this person in a week or so. However, I read this article after I cast the spell and now im a bit worried. What do you suggest to reverse the spell before the effects start to take place?

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  74. Dear Tess:

    Hello. I hope you are having a wonderful start of the year! I have a certain problem. A psychic person controlled me for two years using love spells, control spells, hexes for me to have no luck finding another person to love, and probably some psychic manipulation. I have discovered all of this and completely separated from this person, cutting him out of my life and getting help in breaking these bad spells. The problem is that this person keeps attacking me with love spells, which I can easily identify because I know that I have no true love for this person. I just want for him to stop trying to control me. What I wish to know is whether or not you have some articles in your blog or your books that could help me create some sort of defense for these constant attacks. I would be very grateful.

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  75. hi, this happened to my husband and I. years ago someone cast a spell to break up our marriage and cast love spells for years on my husband… at the time I knew something was wrong, I am an empath I started to have visions of my husband with another woman I never meet. turns out she was a friend of someone who I thought was a friend for 34 years.. the woman in question. no lie she is 400lb. and looks like shes in her 70`s and is so ugly and her eyes both are crossed she is 53 she uses black magic. he thought she looked 40 and was 200lb. hes not even attracted to a woman that looks like that. when I would tell him what I was seeing we would really fight bad. to the point that we seperated. it tore us apart and we are and have been heart broken that this happened to us.. he entered into an 7 to 8 month relationship with her. we lost everything.. he gave her so many thing that belonged to me his mother and mine. she destroyed our credit our marriage. I had to use magic to brake her spells. I am also a born witch and I was binded by my Mom when I was 5 because I did something wrong. when she died all sorts of happened still is.. so I was able to get my husband back and I have to protect us and our family everyday. we are still homeless living in a motel that we can`t even pay for the man is upset with us but won`t throw us out for some reason. our business is destroyed. he only makes enough to get food and pay 2 bills.. I can`t find a job.. he has stomach problems bad.. things are still crazy. my husband and I still threw all this love each other the way we did since I was 14 and he was 15. we are still in love and I never used magic in him… for you woman out there who think oh I love him he belongs with me and he is married to someone else and is in love with his wife . you have no right to think you can brake a family apart and 2 people who love each other. and no right to do that or do it to any man.. I was born into magic and I was taught the dangers even tho I was bined. people who where not born to the craft have no idea of the dangers especially of Black magic.. I was born to both I can do both with ease, I choose to be good. black magic is enticing. people don`t think when you play you get burned..people who weren’t born to be a witch should not use it because they really don`t know what they are doing, unless they have done the research.the 2 woman that did this to us still think they can`t take away someones free will..or there memory.they think its a game.. and because of there game they destroyed our marriage our five children and our grandchildren’s lives. all because they are both in love with my husband and are jealous of my beauty.. and wanted to kill me. attached an entity to me that I had to have an exersum by the catholic church. so you woman who are selfish and want to have a man at any cost. think twice. please….. it is not a game… they had no Idea what I was I was, always told I had to keep secret who I was my husband never knew.. one of my sons did, because my abilities where passed to him. its sad lives destroyed over selfishness and jealousy.. I hope that people understand what I am saying and not take offence. think about it being done to you before you do it to someone else….. I am writing a book on our story.. sorry it was so long it would have been longer if I explained everything this is just the jist. Bless it be

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    • Hi Kimberly,
      How did you manage to remove the spell? A woman has taken my husband away from me just like this. All because she wants money and nothing else. The only reason she won’t take it all and kill him is because I have a court case against him and she knows she’ll be suspected. I think she did the spell nearly 4 years ago and keeps renewing it. My husband hates me for no reason. And totally ignores our child.

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  76. My ex dumped me less than 2 hours after telling me he was in this for the long-hail and less than a week before my birthday and a week after he told me he was in love with me for the first time. Needless to say it was a total shock. It was at first supposed to be a break and I was feeling a lot of anger so I did a honey jar spell not only for him but also for me – so we could both feel positive towards each other. I did so because numerous rituals showed me that he is my Twin Flame. And my spell that I wrote for it was specifically for us to use the space wisely to grow and become our highest selves and if it’s meant to be then find each other.
    He started to get very distant and unceremoniously changed it into a breakup, but said he wanted to be my friend but I felt he wasn’t even being a very good friend and that it was unrealistic to just be friends. We were long-distance too, so I don’t know if that effects anything. I blessed the jar twice a day and had a candle lit over it (different ones I charged) for 24 days straight. The longer I held on the more pain I was in so I decided when I was leaving Los Angeles to go to New York for 5 weeks that I would snuff out the candle, put it in a jar and leave it and see how that effected things. The last I heard from him was the day I snuffed out the candle and put the jar away and since then he’s not been following my social media or reaching out at all.
    It broke my heart so I decided it was best to not reach out to him at all, distance myself, and do my best to stop looking at his social media. I also did a cord cutting ceremony.
    But what I’m wondering is, is the ceremony effective if the jar still exists? Do I need to dismantle the jar when I get back?
    I would like for us to always think fondly of each other no matter what happens. I’m not opposed to leaving the door open for something to happen but ONLY if it were brand new and could be legitimately healthy. We share a lot of mutual friends so I really want things to remain positive. So wondering how that can be possible while also completely cutting the cord and moving on with my life and healing fully so I can find and have the relationship I deserve.

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    • Hi there! No, you don’t need to dismantle the jar. Just keep meditating as well as clearing and shielding your energy and taking super good care of yourself. Everything will work itself out for everyone’s highest good, and you’ll emerge stronger & wiser than you otherwise could have been.

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  77. Then what kind of spell can I do on a specific person , that won’t harm me or him in a emotionally or physically way ?

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  78. Hi Tess,

    My bf of 12 years, who loves me dearly and wanted to marry me. All of a sudden he changed. Pushing me away. I found out that a girl put a love spell on him. I have talked to spiritual advisors, they all say they will cleanse. But I haven’t gotten any luck because they just want money. How can I break the spell that is put in him? If I tell him, he won’t believe it. Despite being under spell he keeps being drawn back to me. Please help

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  79. hey i am starting to believe that my now ex boyfriend has been doing sex magic on me or with me or something ,im starting to believe that he is a satanist and was keeping a lot of things from me. how do i find out if hes been using me for his own selfish gain, and how do i reverse it?? im not at all involved in magic stuff, i am a believer in Jesus and i have been saved, thank God for my discernment and salvation before being exposed to this stuff or else i would be in the middle of it all , giving my soul freely to the enemy!! thank you so much for any feedback

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  80. Help! I’m new to all of this and witchcraft. I had no idea about this and have dabbled a little on the love spells. Met someone really amazing and tried a spell for road block busting spells (he is emotionally guarded) I’ve also done petitions for patience (for myself) with the situation when I feel impatient. Everything before that was so natural and everything is still moving in a beautiful direction. After reading this entire article I feel like just stopping is the best course of action. Would love your feedback, thank you Tess!

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  81. Hi Tess,

    My fiancé abandoned me in the most horrific circumstances and I believe it was for another woman. He now loathes me and is even taking me to court saying I was abusive when it was him that did everything to make me react so I would leave and he could have a clear conscience for cheating … IF he did. He is not a cheater but he honestly thinks I tried to destroy him… hence the anger. It happened in an instant like he was bewitched!!!

    I have spoken to many psychics and wiccans who all tell me he has been put under a negative influence by her.

    If I pay someone to cleanse him.. NOT to bring him back as I have a lot of healing to do, but just to remove the blinkers from his eyes, will he end up seeing her for what she is??

    If he comes back to me is up to him and I’m not sure I want him back. But she took away his free will and that’s not right!!! We were perfect together… it happened in an instant!!

    Will he see her for what she is once the cleansing is done?

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    • Teresa, there is no way to know precisely what the outcome will be, but as a general rule, if you work magic that doesn’t interfere with anyone’s free will and that is performed for everyone’s highest and truest good, you can’t go wrong.

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      • Hi Tess,

        No this has definitely interferes with his free will as I saw a beautiful gentle man turn into the cruelest vile creature. I have had many consultations with psychics, spellcasters etc and without giving them any details, they have all told me the same thing and the words used were that she wanted him and to get him away from me she had to “morally slay” me in his eyes, hence the horrific things he has done to me without remorse.

        I am currently working with someone whose credentials I’ve researched thoroughly to have him cleansed.

        I can assist in giving him back his free will and what he does and feels after that is his own choice. It will be my turn to heal…..

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        • Could you share the name of the person who you’ve researched please? I have someone I need cleansed too. Thanks.

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  82. Hi I have a question. My partners ex put a spell on our relationship. For 6months he continually leaves us (me and my daughter) comes back and leaves again. But now he left for 2 months already and we havent heard anything from him. He doesnt come to visit my daughter or anything. I know he loves me i know he loves my daughter. This is not natural. (He visits the children he has with his ex every weekend… soo my question is how to break the spell she put on him/us?? I dont want to send something back to her. Let her be… but only to break the spell.. ty in advance

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  83. Peace and greetings, I did a returning a lost love spell on my husband before reading this. We are separated but he says he wants to work things out. Did I just doom us? Please help.

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  84. I think someone had put a love spell on me when I was 16 years old. I am not sure how to break this and have not seen this person in several years. After I went over his house and had a drink from him I immediately had strong feelings for him that were not there before. I do not feel that he was a bad person. There were a few other girls that were im love with him as well.

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  85. Hi Tess, where can I talk to you about my situation? I need help.. its about my relationship.. I will wait for your reply thanks

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  86. Hey tess my name is hailey and im 14 when i was 12 i did this spell(this also happen to be my first spell) on a boy i like and but i never talk to him at all .the spell involed a candle some shell rose petals ,rose oil and a peice of paper ( if that helps) but i regret doing this spell a lot the same year i cast the spell the new family dog died the year after 2 of my beloved dogs died and my beloved cat went missing im not sure if this was karma or result of the spell backfiring but all i want to do is break it now if this of way of punnishing me for impacting someone freewill than i learn my lesson and now i just want to do is break it but thing is i dont have alter i want to do lemon cure but i dont have alter any suggestions

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    • Hailey, I don’t think the death of your beloved pets was related to the love spell. You can still do the lemon cure, though, and you don’t need a proper altar. Any flat surface will do.

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  87. I reall. Miss my ex boyfriend and I still love him I want to get back with him but he dont love me any mote so I sow this love spell on youtube writhing 5 time his name and 7 time my name but he didn’t call me yet and I had a plan to find powerful spell costed professional cause I don’t seen my life with out him its been 6 years since he broke up with me but sometime he text me I’m so in pane I need your help thank

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    Hey, sorry about this.
    I may have just posted the same comment twice. The first one I accidentally used an email address which is logged in on a shared device so please only respond to the second comment for privacy. Thanks so much

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  89. Hi, my name is Tone and I put a live spell on my current Girlfriend. I casted it then I moved from the city thinking nothing about it saying to myself “oh well i’ll Never see her again.” I moved away from her then I moved back, a year later and the universe brought us together. She didn’t initially fall in Love me we were friends. I made the first move and many months down the road we fell in love. We just clicked, So it felt natural is falling in love. I love her and she loves me everything is going well. I want to remove to the love spell because I want to know if her love is true. We get along very well our communication is phenomenal. I hope that our love is genuine. I feel the love spell worked by bringing us together. I want her to have her own free will. I am not sorry I did the spell because we admire one another. I just hope it’s not blind love I want it to be natural. I would be so thankful for any advice.
    Tone

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    • Tone, if you feel comfortable with the relationship and you have the best of intentions (which it sounds like you do), I wouldn’t worry. I am not getting the sense that there is anything negative going on at this point.

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  90. Years ago I did a spell for him to make up his mind wether or not it was me to just make up his mind. Was this bad??

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  91. I have been trying to get back with my ex of two years and she has been very uncertain and within the last week she just stopped talking to me and i know she loves me we still tell each other i have been thinking about a love spell but it also makes me feel bad but i also want her back i need help

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  92. And you said it’ll work like a boomerang and work on me too how does that go

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  93. Hi

    I hope you are well! 

    I was wondering if you could please help?
    I have stumbled across your sight after searching online for a white magic Love spell.
    I adored your information with regards to white/black magic and how positive minds attract a positive outcome, of which I completely agree. I am a happy, positive and vibrant character and I agree. Though I do know there are dark forces and there are positive forces. I , as many of your clients am worried about anything backfiring, it effecting my career ( as a singer and actress and come back as powerful on me and be toxic) I have considered this for while, though as I believe in God as a Christian and also the Law of Attraction, I am a firm believer in what will be will be and what God / the universe has planned for me will happen which is why I have put the spell off..so why do I want to do the spell? Please see below and let me know if you can help.
    I met with someone who I was drawn to for about a year and vice verser, though we didn’t speak at first, when we did the connection and fire can only be described as a chemical reaction. This obviously happens several times in our life, but only several. If I drew a vision board though of my soul mate – ambition, goals, humour, an open mind and deep thinker, a family man, a gentlemen, spontanious, and fun with a vibrant personality and intelligence, it was this man! We insistently connected and liked each other. Though at the time I went back to do some work for an ex ( the relation ship was toxic though I would do some part time pa work for him as it worked around my acting career! ) and this guy hasn’t been the same since he saw me keep going into my ex’s offices. We’ve spoke on and off for a year since and keep being drew back, on and off most of the time me chasing him which i never do and didnt at first. Now I am trying to keep my cool more, but thought with a little push if natual and positive we could have a future… but i dont want to be chasing, anxious and worrying i want a natural gentlmen and him to be traditional and ask me out like a lady!  I have tried to be wise and logical and move on but im always draw back to him, like a twin flame. Please helpx do you have a contact number at all please?
    How much would it cost, how long will it take and how do I know its genuine? I dont have a large budget at all and would be horrified to waste anymoney . Thank you for your help and reading xx

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  94. Hi Tess,

    I very recently met a guy who had only this year got out of a long term relationship. Us meeting was completely unexpected and we shared quite an intense connection, very positive and mutual feelings for one another. He kept wanting to make plans with me to go on dates and meet up and then after a very silly disagreement broke things off (even though we were never official)and said he thinks it’s best we don’t see each other again. Now usually I would just leave it for what it is and move on. I find it hard to open up and we’re both very similar in that sense. He has told me he has commitment issues and things are just moving to fast. We literally haven’t known each other long at all and I want to respect his wishes so haven’t spoken to him since. However I feel like he was overwhelmed and scared with how fast we were moving so broke things off from fear. Which spell would you recommend from above or would you not recommend one at all?

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  95. Hi Tess,

    I watched one youtube video this summer, about attracting what you want in 21 day. One day, girl from the video said, we all need to write this petition that she suggest. She didn’t even mention that it was spell. I was stupid enough to do it. It said write name of person you are interested in 3 times on paper or something like that, fold paper, and put it below the candle. I also put name of that person on the candle. Than I burned it. Plain white paraffin candle. Few days later I throw away that paper, even if she said to keep it. Now I google it, and find out it’s a spell. I still care about that person which name I wrote on candle. I am thinking, maybe I destroyed my chances with him after I did this. What you think?

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    • I think you will be fine! To break the spell, after the full moon on 11/11, write his name on paper and tie a piece of white string around it. Then cut the string with scissors and say, “The spell is broken, I set you free.” Burn the paper safely to further break the spell, then release the ashes in a moving body of water. All the while, feel that you are setting him free from all effects of the ritual. Then turn 360 degrees in a counterclockwise circle and say, “It is done.”

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  96. Hi Tess,

    Is there anything I can do to break another woman’s love spell on my children’s father? Since she came into the picture, he has been a completely different person, and this is not the type of woman he’d ever go for. He is a very attractive man, and this woman is ugly from the inside and out. He has done some terrible things to his own children, things he has never done in the past and I feel strongly it is because she has put a love spell on him. He left our family for the first time ever to live with this woman and her child, and has basically abandoned and neglected our children, completely out of character. He hasn’t worked a job since being with her either, completely under her control. It’s been almost a year now and I need to know how I can break her spell on him? I remember before finding out about their secret affair, as she was our next door neighboor just three doors down, that someone would make food for him and he ate it. He lied saying it was an old woman who made it for him, but now I know it was her. Could this be what put him under the spell? And if so, how could I break the spell if she continues to feed him?

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    • Jennifer, do you have a personal religion that you share with your children’s father? If so, I am sensing that a ritual that draws upon your personal spirituality will be the most powerful. If you don’t mind letting me know what it is, I can offer a ritual idea related to it.

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      • Hi Tess,

        Thank you for responding. I am not religious, neither is the father, however we both are spiritual and believe in a higher energy in our universe. I am open to any type of ritual no matter the religion involved. I feel she has hexed me as well, as when we lived in our old apartment she had access to, I would find weird powder outside my door and I shrugged it off thinking it was pollen from the trees.

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        • OK, for you I suggest the Rose Overdose cure from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/ . For the father, I suggest that you first call on the Divine for help in a way that feels powerful for you. Then immerse his photo in a jar of pistachios (shelled or unshelled) this upcoming Tuesday. Seal the jar, spin it counterclockwise at least one full rotation, and bury it near the base of a tree. See if anything changes in a month.

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          • Ok I will do this. Thank you so much for your help! Have a beautiful day!

          • One last question, can I use rose water in place of rose essence if it’s all I can obtain?

          • Hi Tess,

            My children’s father had come back to us and moved in for a week before leaving again two days before Christmas to be with this other woman again. I asked my pendulum if she’s using black magic and it said yes. What can I do?

          • Yes, I confronted him at her house the day he left to go back there. He wasn’t aware I knew where she lived, and so I caught him on her front porch. He came up with an excuse to why he was there but it didn’t match with what he had told me prior to going there. I suspect drugs are involved, why else would he miss Christmas with his own children. I’m at the point now where this is completely out of my hands and there’s nothing I can do to save him.

          • Jennifer, you are also sensing what I’m sensing. It seems like you’ve done what you can and at this point it will be best for you to let go and move on as best as you can.

  97. Hi!! Am Divya, I’ve been in a relation with a guy since 2 weeks, ours is a long distance relationship so the only way we can be in touch is by chat or a call, when I ask him he says he loves me but from the beginning of our relation I didn’t felt his love even for a single sec , he never spend time with me I can understand sometimes but am unable to take it everyday i need him for life time i want him to love me heartfully and respect me…can you please suggest me what is the best way i can try to fulfill my desire??…

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  98. Hello tess. I understand the negative effects of love spells. I would never consider casting one. My question is faithfulness spells. Would casting a spell to keep my girlfriend from cheating have the same effects on her free will and in turn my own? Or would it simply enlighten her to the anguish infidelity would cause me? Im not sure that she is cheating on me, just a gut feeling that she may be entertaining other suitors. This could also be anxiety issues on my part stemming from my past relationships having been destroyed by affairs. My most recent, my ex wife, cheated throughout our 11 year marriage and i only discovered it at the end. I am deeply in love with my girlfriend and it seems she reciprocates my feelings, but she also is very secretive about conversations with her mostly male friends and works very hard to keep me from meeting most of them. If she is indeed not faithful, I would prefer to know now and begin the healing process. Your thoughts and any suggestions will be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time.

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    • Christopher, this is a very good question. Instead of doing a fidelity spell on her, I would do a spell on yourself to help you see the truth, and another spell on yourself to heal past wounds. Once you’ve done both of these and experienced the results, you can decide how to move forward from there.

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  99. what if it’s just a wish, like “I wish for so and so to love me” ? is that considered unethical too?

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    • No, because you can’t help wishes like that! It’s ok if you do a love spell in response to a feeling like that, but set the intention to leave the identity of the person up to the Universe. If a certain person crosses your mind during the spell, it’s OK. Just be sure your intention is open-ended and you’re good.

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  100. Please help me, I fear I was put under a love spell except I don’t love him, I’m obsessed with him, how do I fix this. I haven’t been able to eat or drink since maybe a few days ago, I never noticed it but I feel like Im trapped. I’m a 15yr old in high school. I want my life back. I know he put a spell or something on me because I went to bed and suddenly woke up at 3am thinking about this person. I don’t know how but I just want to get rid of it. I’m to young to worry about this. I’ve never thought about this person until the incident happened. I haven’t been eating or sleeping or even going to school. My parents have sensed something was going on and they sent me to a therapist. I don’t want to be sent to a mental institution I just want my life back. Can you please help me get rid of this behavior?y life, future, literally everything is going wrong and this is my last resort. I’m desperately in need of help. Please help me.

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    • Kelly, I’m seeing black tourmaline for you. Can you get a black tourmaline pendant and empower it in sunlight for around 5-10 minutes? Then wear it. It’s ok to take it off briefly, but keep it nearby. You can keep it strong by empowering it in sunlight again maybe every 2-3 days. For now, let’s start with this. And if you have any clutter to clear from your bedroom, I’d clear that too. Maybe come back and let me know how you’re doing after a week with the tourmaline.

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  101. Hey hii… I’m from India and I had been in an on and off relationship with this guy.. But almost like an year ago we broke up but still continued talking.. But now recently he’s stopped talking to me.. Is there a way to know what he exactly thinks of me rn and if we have a future together?
    We’ve had a good relationship before this that promised future.

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    • Sakshi, if you were broken up for a year before this, are you sure this relationship was promising? It sounds like it’s possible that letting go of it, and letting go of wanting to know what he thinks, will open you up to something much more promising. Of course I don’t know the whole story, but not talking to you is definitely a red flag.

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      • I know it can be considered as a red flag but we’ve been through this a few times so that’s what gives me hopes.. He’d said that we’ll look into this after sometime.. Now I’m not sure if he just said it for the time to pass or he was serious… That’s why I just need someone to help me through it… It’s almost 5 years now that I’m into him.

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  102. So I was playing with spells and curiously put a very simple love spell on a man who is now INlove with me and I need to break the spell bc I feel bad … I didn’t think it would work, but it is real, very real . How do I break the spell ???

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    • Tara, collect 14 cedar twigs and hold them in both hands while connecting with the spell you wish to break. Starting at the full moon, release one cedar twig in a moving body of water (or bury it if you don’t have a moving body of water nearby). Repeat daily until the next new moon.

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  103. I was speaking to a famous white witch over e-mail and asking her about the ethics of love spells…she said that it can’t backfire and you are not interfering with someone’s free will because basically if their free will says no then their aura will reject the spell…so basically you are just sending loving energy toward them and they can take it or leave it.

    The spell I was asking her about was a spell to have someone show more commitment. So I would like to hear your thoughts on it? I am trying to figure out the ethics of this for myself and I was intrigued when I came across this blog which has a totally different perspective.

    Is it possible, do you think, to do a spell like “increase commitment” and stipulate that only if it is in the highest good for both parties?

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