When I first became certified as a feng shui consultant some 12 years ago, I worked my hardest to follow every rule I had learned, not always understanding exactly what the rules were for or why they were important. I mean, maybe I understood them in an intellectual way, but not an experiential one. However, now that I’ve observed hundreds of homes and the people who live in them, I’ve noticed that some rules can be broken, and I’ve discovered why you might want to break them. Here’s some of what I’ve learned.
Rules that can be broken include:
This one depends on you: do you have trouble sleeping? If so, you may want to try removing or covering the mirrors in your bedroom at night to see if your sleep improves. Mirrors are very energizing and some people can experience disruptions in sleep. Other people – like me – can sleep like a baby, mirrors or no. So in many cases there is no need to forgo the convenience and aesthetics of having a mirror or two in the bedroom.
While in the past they may have been synonymous with foul odor and disease, in today’s world, bathrooms are not unsanitary. In fact, they can be our own personal spa retreats where we honor our bodies, relax, beautify, and recharge. So wherever your bathroom happens to be is fine. Just make sure it’s clean and attractive. Admittedly, the proportionately large amount of plumbing and drains in bathrooms causes a downward pull of energy. But no worries! This can be easily counterbalanced by making sure to fix all leaks and keeping that toilet lid closed.
Some schools of feng shui counsel that a sink beside or across from an oven causes the fire and water elements to be at odds in a detrimental way. As a result, some unfortunate souls have been convinced to do expensive renovations in their kitchens to remedy this perceived problem. And this, my friends, is an example of feng shui becoming your enemy rather than your friend. The stove will be just as hot and the sink will be just as wet if they are near each other in your kitchen. And their accompanying mystical energies (abundance and flow) will remain perfectly in tact.
Each and every direction – the cardinal ones and everything in between – indeed has its own unique energy. But not a single one of these energies is bad. So considering the fact that most bedrooms have one (maybe two) places where the bed can comfortably go, this is a feng shui consideration that you can throw right out the window. Instead, find a place for your bed where you can see the door (so that you feel safe) and enter and exit from both sides of the bed (so that energy flows in a healthy way and you create the space for a partner). If possible, it’s also ideal if the head of your bed is against a solid wall (so you feel supported). But if there’s a window over it, just make sure to curtain it substantially.
Everyone knows that houseplants oxygenate and improve indoor air quality. But there is some concern about them emitting carbon dioxide at night and therefore causing a challenge in the bedroom. In fact, the carbon dioxide release is minimal and is eclipsed by the positive effects of the plants. Here’s an excellent article on the subject if you want to go deeper. (Just make sure to check this list of toxic and non-toxic plants if you have pets!)
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