Before you mess up your karma by cursing or hexing someone, try one of these safer, more elegant options instead.
If you just searched “How to curse someone,” or “How to hex someone,” read this first.
I mean, I get it. Someone hurt you. Someone did you wrong, and it is so, so, so infuriating and unfair.
It seems your options for doing something about it in the physical world are so painfully limited, you feel almost irresistibly compelled to direct your considerable personal power toward causing them harm.
Believe me, I’ve been there. And I’ve even done that. And I don’t recommend it.
In my regrettable experience, karmic backlash in response to curses and hexes is a real thing. And it’s just not worth it.
But, hey listen: you have options. Whether you want to hex your ex, a neighborhood bully, your boss, or anyone else, the five alternatives below will provide valuable magical recourse without endangering your own energy, sanity, and general wellbeing.
Each and every one of them is spiritually and karmically safe.
Hex/Curse Alternative #1: Reflect All Energy Back to Its Source
A traditional feng shui cure for dealing with challenging neighbors involves nothing but a mirror. It can be any mirror, of any size. Even a postage stamp-sized mirrored tile will do.
The idea is to place the mirror so that the reflective side is facing the neighbor’s house, and then simply set the (completely neutral) intention that the mirror reflect all energy – good, bad, or in between – directly back to its source.
Sending negative energy right back to its source is quite a bit tidier and more efficient than a hex or a curse. And karmically, it couldn’t be safer.
Usually the mirror is placed outside of the house, but apartment dwellers can place the reflective side against the wall, and hide it behind a picture or a sofa. If your issue is with your downstairs neighbors, you can place it reflective-side down on the floor, perhaps under a piece of furniture. If the upstairs folks are bothering you (and you want to employ this tactic), you would need to figure out a way to attach it to the ceiling, reflective-side up.
This same practice can be adapted for the workplace, or you can even wear a mirror pendant and set the intention that it reflect all energy back to a specific source.
The important thing is the intention. It doesn’t matter what size or shape the mirror is. It can be as big as an entire wall or – like I said – as tiny as a mirrored tile.
Hex/Curse Alternative #2: Cast a Protection Spell
When it comes right down to it, you are the one you most want to take care of in this situation.
And a hex or curse can have the unfortunate side effect of tying your energy to the person or people you most want to protect yourself from.
Luckily, there are plenty of spells that work wonderfully for protecting your physical and energetic wellbeing, without spiritually yoking you to someone you’d rather be rid of. (Although, as a common sense warming, let me remind you that it’s still important to take safety precautions in the physical world, such as locking your door and not getting in the car with strangers.)
Here’s a simple and effective spell for protecting your energy without taking on any energy from the person or group you’d like to protect yourself from:
Ingredients:
An Archangel Michael candle
Dragonsblood incense and incense holder
A lighter or matches
Essential oil of frankincense
Sunflower oil
A small bowl, shot glass, or saucer
Light the candle and incense. Say:
Archangel Michael, I call on you and invoke your protection. Please keep me completely safe in all ways, at all times. Please surround me in your fiery divine light through which no negativity may enter. Thank you.
Feel gratitude for Archangel Michael’s sure and steadfast protection as you place a tablespoon or so of sunflower oil in the small dish. Add one drop of frankincense essential oil and combine. Then lightly anoint your forehead, throat, heart, belly, and wrists with the oil.
Envision blindingly bright, fiery light completely surrounding your energy field and keeping all negativity at bay.
Finish by picking up the incense and holder and safely wafting the smoke around your body (and home if applicable).
Place the incense back near the candle and allow it to burn all the way out. Extinguish and re-light the candle when you can attend to it properly (as needed for fire safety purposes) until it’s burned all the way down.
Hex/Curse Alternative #3: Neutralize Someone’s Power Over You
In truth, no one has the power to cause you harm: legal, physical, financial, or otherwise. If it seems like they do, I want you to remember that it’s only an illusion.
Even if they’re your landlord, your boss, your ex, or your mother-in-law, once you remember how powerful you actually are, the other person’s seeming power over you will fall away.
Think of it like waking from a nightmare. This spell will act as your alarm clock.
Ingredients:
Sea salt or Himalayan pink salt
The other person’s business card, photo, or full name written on paper
A jar with a tightly-fitting lid
Fill the jar part way with sea salt. Hold the identifying paper in both hands and say,
[Name of person], you have no power over me.
What once seemed like power is now erased.
It’s erased yesterday, it’s erased today, it’s erased tomorrow.
It is null and void. It was never even there in the first place.
It now completely dissolves, dissipates, disappears, and returns to its native nothingness, now and forever, in all directions of time.
Place the card, photo, or name in the jar and completely surround it with sea salt by pouring it over the top and filling the remainder of the jar. Seal the lid. Feel your own power returning and remember how magical you actually are.
Keep the jar on a shelf or in a cupboard until you feel you no longer need the magical reminder.
Hex/Curse Alternative # 4: Bind Someone from Causing Harm
In addition to being spiritually and karmically safer, a binding spell is often much more appropriate than a hex or a curse anyway.
This is especially true if someone is behaving like a bully (in any sense of the word), and you simply want to stop them from causing harm. Here’s a blog post I wrote featuring three ways to bind a bully without harming your karma in the least.
Hex/Curse Alternative #5: Activate Swift Justice
Perhaps the person you wish you could hex or curse is actually doing something illegal, or has done something illegal. Lucky for us, there are divine helpers who just love enforcing swift and appropriate justice. The Norse god Forseti is a personal favorite to call on for the purpose.
Here’s a spell from my book, Holistic Energy Magic, to be used when you’re in a legal situation and you’re entirely in the right:
Call on Forseti. When you feel his powerful presence, send him gratitude in the form of visualized light. With or without words, show him the situation. You might picture the whole thing as if you’re picturing the storyline and emotions of a movie. Be sure to feel your feelings and project them to him as well. Imagine that you are illuminating the dark spaces and shining light on the true situation. Then ask Forseti to intervene on your behalf and bring you the justice that you deserve by saying:
Forseti, the presiding one,
Please stay with me till this thing’s done
Bring justice from your golden hall
Swiftly and once and for all.
I honor you with love and light
And thank you for your wisdom bright!
Feel even more gratitude, and be sure to heartily thank Forseti once justice has been served.
Don’t compound the problem by hexing or cursing someone! Take care of yourself safely and elegantly with one of these more karma-conscious options instead.
And for lasting protection against negativity of all varieties, check out my book, Little Guide to Protection Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Protection Spells.
You may also like The Good Witch’s Guide to Binding a Bully.
Do you plan to do one of these karma-friendly spells instead of a hex or a curse? Please share in the comments below.
Vari says
Does the power of belief affect spells in anyway and is witchcraft real?
Tess Whitehurst says
Yes and yes.
Leon cranley says
Just u been so positive and passive is great ting your wise words for some reason I hear u and hear what u say not even in a spell or magical way but I trust you for some strange reason and if u could help me in any way whit some sort of advice maybe I no it’s a lot to ask but I do wonder if u could possibly shaid some light I’m gonna trow it out der anyway I came into my partners life a 24 year old whit 3 kids of my own my partner was a 30 year old whit 4 kids she had polar disorder basic There’s no good way to put this our relationship is breaking down we have been together 6 years I usually end up saying sorry or doin my best to keep us together I don’t no if I’m coming or going I’ve did this so many times I’m to blame for everything and the only way I can possibly keep my partner is bend over backwards say sorry and do tings I can’t realy afford in an instant and god forbid I don’t do it I’m not good enough for her anymore and can’t always giv her the tings she needs to keep her happy anymore I’ve tried all sorts if I don’t giv her what she wants she’ll find it elsewhere she sais she gets drunk and tells me this stuff a lot now completely convinceing wakes up takes it all back goes off stays in her kids fathers drunk cursing me causes complete caos gets her kids involved goes of to her freinds or whoever takes her fancy dats fine then accuses me of isolating her I’m from Ireland haven’t seen my family in 2 years every time she quietly takes it all back rubs it under the carpet best I get is a phone call from my family wouldn’t allow me talk to my kids mother any old crap over a few xxxs or anything she could think of if I don’t like it I can pack my stuff and fuck and go back to her whatever when she comes out whit these crazy allegations Completely turns on me sais nasty shit straight away I’ve said I’m very sorry then il leave il say if I’m dat bad why are we together because the kids are listening or whatever I have to just half agree say I’m sorry il leave she manipulates me whetted on purpose or it’s her bi polar I don’t no when she does this she said she loves me by the way I would never call my partner she it’s because I get called him I if I push her dat she’s not making sense more argument or forget the madness she’s just tought up I don’t no were to start all I no is I love this women I want no harm to come to her I don’t wanna curse her but she’s absolutely hateful to me then sais it’s me I want her to be happy and find what makes her happy genuinely and I want her to be at peace I’m willing to stay try go dats my attitude normally tryin to be supportive by the end of the drama after 6 long years I’m tired I’m pretty sure we want different tings but I literally feel like killing myself sometimes I suffer this on my own so instead of telling her this I just suffer it but I I’m only 29 clairs 35 don’t feel like me anymore any time I try to do my own ting or move forward in my own direction dats personal to her but she can do whatever she wants takes all sorts of turns career changes and more luck to her but everthing double standards I’m struggling to keep up now I feel bullied in every way ganged up on misfitted as I said it’s all in my head supposedly so I seen a psychiatrist said I’m fine I want to leave my partner but I need it to happen peacefullily which is quite impossible do I lie get my affairs in order on my own and just midnightflip or just put my head down and take death for 3 to 4 weeks till I can afford to leave she sais it’s just easier to hate me when we break up easier for her heart so a few times I felt like leaving she was so horrible in the process I stayed felt guilty tought I do love her but all to much in the end and the women won’t let me go in peace if I’m honest to her say I wanna leave ders trouble and I only say I wanna go maybe after weeks of staying out of her way then jumping to her side i allow all sorts of moods and emotions and mine aren’t even tought of and I’ve ran out of answers I feel like she’s smarter than me I don’t understand our relationship anymore as u can see I’m completely gas lighted I can’t make sense I’ve buried my head to long I was stronger man at 23 somehow even doe I no I’m way stronger now I no I am I feel fuzzy and my only answer is I’m hexed or cursed or maybe Clair has a spell on me but but I’m not happy and I’m still putting her first been snakey and moon light flipping is not in my vocabulary normally and just not coming back isn’t me but I want peace I don’t want to do it like this loves made me like a sad little boy again I no I need to leave and I don’t and I don’t no what’s going anymore in my partners head I’m sorry if I don’t make sense or it’s a lot to take in I left so much out but I think I need some wise word and commen sense and to hear the truth about how I sound I think my partner deserves the world I want her to be happy also but I feel doomed it’s bad enough this haven’t worked out 6 years of our lives
Tess Whitehurst says
Leon, I suggest continuing with therapy: possibly a psychologist or counselor if the psychiatrist wasn’t working out. Not because there’s something wrong with you, but for help with clarity and guidance in general. Clearing clutter will also be a good idea if you have any to clear.
Trisha says
I live with my mother and step father he has always been verbally abusive to her and yesterday he brought me into the fight and then attacked me physically. What spell could I do to stop his constant bullying of my mother and now me? I cannot move out and I’ve done everything I can. Binding spell?
Tess Whitehurst says
Trisha, why can’t you move out? Even if it’s difficult or you have to live with a friend or relative, or even at a women’s shelter for a while, it seems like a priority to me. I’m wondering if there might actually be a way for you to get out of the home immediately.
Beth says
Thank you so much for this. I have a boss who is very mean to me and takes out all her anger on me. I did spell #3 and I already feel empowered. Plus it feels good to have my anger replaced with power and righteousness. Thanks again!
Michelle says
I’m a witch who also trusts in the power of the law of attraction. I understand that some people don’t want to believe in the three-fold law, but it makes so much sense once you know how the law of attraction works.
I find that witchcraft follows the same principles as the law of attraction. Just like you, I feel that hexing and cursing is just calling negative energy to come back to you.
Whenever there is a negative experience in my life, I look for, or I create a spell that helps me to manifest a positive experience. For example, my neighbours can be noisy and obnoxious, so I made a charm bag for peace and tranquillity in my home. I can recharge the bag at any time I need it, and it has worked like a “charm” 😉
Tess Whitehurst says
Michelle, I love this! So inspiring. Thank you for sharing. 🙂