To quote Judika Illes’ definition in The Encyclopedia of Witchcraft, binding magic is generally performed for the purpose of “binding someone’s power, usually to prevent them from causing harm.” (Remember? Like that chanted line in The Craft: “I bind you, Nancy, from doing harm: harm against other people and harm against yourself.”)
Merriam-Webster’s primary definition of bully is: a blustering, browbeating person; especially : one who is habitually cruel, insulting, or threatening to others who are weaker, smaller, or in some way vulnerable.
While we good witches generally do not prefer to bind other people’s power and therefore do not seek out situations that call for binding spells, there are times when it is obviously appropriate to perform one: e.g., bully situations. Situations where someone is “habitually cruel, insulting, or threatening to others who are weaker, smaller, or in some way vulnerable.”
If you are concerned about the threefold law (that which you send out energetically comes back to you multiplied), realize that if you are indeed binding a bully, you are sending out pure positivity in the form of justice and protection on behalf of all those who are being threatened and unfairly treated. Just make sure justice and protection are your intentions, and you will be safe from undesirable karmic backlash.
An excellent time to perform a binding spell is when the waning moon is in the fourth quarter, which begins the evening before Inauguration Day and continues until the new moon on the 27th.
No matter who the bully is, remember that they are only a human, and humans can be magically bound.
Here are 3 different ways to bind a bully. If it’s your intention to do so, read through them and choose the one that feels right to you. Please be sure to cast a circle before doing any of these, and to open it when you are through.
- Write the person’s name on a slip of paper and place it on a table. Light a black candle. In a clockwise direction, surround the name with a circle of sea salt. With a short length of black embroidery thread, tie a knot tightly around the slip of paper, allowing it to crumple. As you tie the knot, say, “I bind you [name of bully]. You are powerless to harm other people or the planet. Your insults are powerless. Your hostility is powerless. You shall cause no harm from this day forth.” Repeat 7 more times, with 7 more lengths of black thread. Extinguish the candle. Leave the paper and string in the ring of salt overnight. In the morning, flush the salt down the toilet and throw the bound name on a fire.
- Place the Justice card from the Tarot on your altar. Light a white pillar candle as you say, “[Name of bully], on behalf of all those you would harm, insult, or overpower, I call on the archetypal energy of Justice. With this ancient, swift, and thorough power, I now bind all your power to harm.” Safely use the light of the candle to burn the bully’s full name and/or image on a piece of paper, perhaps in a cauldron or pot. As it burns, say, “Just as this paper is now reduced to ashes, your power to harm is now fully revoked and reduced to nothing.” When the ashes are cool, mix them with sea salt and flush them down the toilet. Extinguish the candle after you’ve opened the circle.
- Obtain a picture of the bully, or just write the bully’s name on a piece of paper. Place it in a small mason jar. Pour water over it as you say, “[Name of bully], if your power to harm is like fire, I now extinguish that power completely. It burns no more.” Seal the jar with the lid. Wrap and tie it tightly with black ribbon as you say, “[Name of bully], if your power to harm is like wings, I now bind and immobilize that power completely. It flies no more.” Rotate the jar in a counterclockwise direction three times as you say, “[Name of bully], your power is now unwound. It has no momentum. It has no force. It now returns to the native nothingness from which it came.” Now place the jar in your freezer.
(Extra special thanks to my good friend Weston Donaldson for this idea!)
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Do you suppose a mother would willfully offer up the happiness and marriages of her children in exchange for a successful marriage of her own? I find it troubling that 3/5 children’s (5 year, 7 year, 20 year) marriages ended or are ending in a span of 6 months just as the mother celebrated and made a huge to-do on her 10th wedding anniversary. (Her 4th and longest lasting marriage. )She dabbles so I was thinking this might be something. I’m afraid to try and bind her.
Hi Beatriz – In this case, I’m not getting the feeling that this situation is magic-related, and it would probably be wise not to bind at this time. Thank you for reading and connecting. 🙂
My little sister has been getting bullied by her ‘friend’ for several years now. It’s usually just verbal, but she has also given my sister black eyes and just recently injured her wrist. I’m worried that my sister will receive further injury from this ‘friend’ as well as damage to her confidence and self-worth. My sister and the bully are only in middle school, would this spell still be a good idea?
Hi Caroline! I’m so sorry to hear this. Yes, I think option #3 would be appropriate in this instance.
Thank you!
How long should I keep it in the freezer?
Good question! I’d say around 3-6 months, or until you feel 100% sure the situation is permanently remedied.
When doing a spell like this but this cause Bad Karma on the person doing it?
Not if you do it with neutrality. In other words, it’s best to do it with the intention to protect yourself and your freedom to feel comfortable in the world, rather than to negatively affect or punish someone else.
What happens to the jar when removed from the freezer please?. Would it be thrown in the bin?
If you no longer feel like the person is threatening to bully you, you can thaw it, pour the water down the drain, put the remaining contents in the trash, and recycle the jar.
Hello read..my son is having trouble with one of his coaches in football, he says this man takes him out of games or practices when he makes good plays. An then tells him he’s doing good enough..my son is very confuse this is a new coach and even the players notice the coach picking on him. He’s scared to go to the head coach cause he don’t want to get kicked off the team.an he don’t want me to go to the school..would this be a good spell..if not, which spell is good for this situation.
Hi Sai! Oh how frustrating. I’m so sorry to hear this. Have you tried consulting with the other parents? Maybe more than just one of you have this complaint and you can go to the school together? Or speaking directly to the coach to find out what’s going on might also be a good place to start. Since your son wants to continue to have a relationship with this person, you might not want to bind him quite yet. You could certainly light a candle for harmony and the best possible outcome, however.
Hi Tess I’m having a similar issue. Is it possible to bind the harmful behavior without severing the relationship?
How about number 3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/ – it’s not quite a binding, but will still help neutralize negativity from bullying.
Wow I’m here for the same reason, college coach extremely abusive… same son doesn’t want to go to head coach and doesn’t want me to intervene.
Such a hard place as a parent when your kid has worked all his life for this and to make it to this level and experience this kind of bullying from an adult. I have 4 sons and love them all dearly but they are all very different people but this kid has never given me a day of grief in his life…. all who who him know he is a good person was even honored in his senior year statewide television for his character as an honor student athlete. Feeling helpless.
Hi,
My daughter is in kindergarten and having trouble with a couple of her friends who often exclude her, run away from her, ignore her or are just plain mean to her. I have spoken to the teacher, the teacher has spoken to the students and parents but it keeps happening. I think she may feel slightly threatened by my daughter. I have tried to persuade her to find another group of friends but she wants to stay friends with them. Seeing as she still wants to remain friends would this work? Or are they to little anyway? (6 years old). At my wits end as to what I can do. My daughter is very sweet and wants to be friends with everyone. It just breaks my heart.
Hi there! I’m sorry to hear this – I can see how this would break your heart. Rather than a binding, I recommend sending your daughter to school with a kunzite pendant. First, hold it in sunlight and set the intention for it to protect her energy and emotions.
My former mother-in-law is a very controlling person who bullies almost everyone to get her way.
Recently my ex-wife and I have began improving our relationship – largely for the kids, although it seems we are on the path to becoming friends.
My former M-I-L is obviously very much against this. She has been outwardly rude to me several times in front of my children and given them instructions regarding how to interact with me as if they were from my ex-wife. I feel she is attempting to sabotage any efforts I put into improving the terms I’m on with my ex.
Would you advise a binding spell in this case or some other course of action?
I just want her to stop interfering with my relationship with my ex and my children and not say negative things about me to or infromt of my kids.
Thank you.
Hi Mike! This sounds very frustrating – I’m so sorry to hear it. I suggest the second ritual in this post: the one involving the Justice card from the tarot.
My ex mother in law is about the same. My ex and I are working it out and she is bulling both of us, throwing tempertantrumes, verbally abusive, lieing, hostile. We’ve tried talking to her but she won’t see logic and reason. Her bulling gets worse. She’s done this with everyone he’s been with. It’s to the point the neighbors are afraid of her and worried about us. Is binding ok in this situation?
I’d say binding may be appropriate, as long as you’ve set strong boundaries in the physical world (such as not allowing her in your home and life, etc.) and she isn’t honoring them.
Please don’t apologize for my situation. I see myself as a survivor but I’m growing weary and drained. I’ve been married to a severe psychological abuser for 18 years. When he’s good he’s very good and when he’s bad he can be a horror movie. What spell do u suggest. This abuse must stop because it’s killing the light and energy inside me.
Hi Kelly! I don’t recommend a spell in this instance. I recommend leaving the relationship. Here’s a directory of organizations you can contact for temporary shelter, guidance, and/or support: https://www.womenshelters.org
Hi, Does this spellbinding work if I use it to someone who has a power. She has been using her power to destroy our family by making us fight each other (like she would hide our belongings to my sister’s room to make us blame one another) and she has been using her power to get our money. Moneys on our bags, pouches and even in our atm are magically gone. She has been bothering our family for 4 years already (I think). We already seek help from someone to remove her powers and she became quiet for a while and now she is at it again.
Hi Cat! Yes, a binding spell would be appropriate for this situation.
Cat is not saying the truth because she only wanted to use a binding spell to get back at her sister not to help her
Sherrie, I recommend calling on Archangel Michael daily and asking him to shield both your daughters in protective white light.
Hi! My husband’s ex is extremely abusive. Psychologically and emotionally. I think she may be borderline. Anyway, there’s a huge battle about to ensue in court. First over a false child support arrears case and then over parental rights. She has done anything and everything to make our lives impossible. She’s also Wiccan and I don’t have much experience with all of this but I notice that every time the kids come over… there’s a very dark energy where everyone immediately is in a bad mood. Once they leave, even my relationship is no longer tense.
I’m just tired of her having power over our days, holidays, moods, so on and so forth.
I feel like we all need to be heavily protected from her… including her own children.
And I’m just hoping that all of these court things go well and Justice is served.
Hi Christina! A binding spell (like one of the ones in this post) would be appropriate for this situation. If you feel like trying one of them, I suggest choosing the one that feels best to you.
I need help my daughter, was taken from my ex husband’s home due to sever abuse, now 6 months later, she will be returning to his uncle’s home, which my ex will have access to her, I need to do a protection spell and fast, which do u prefer it needs to be done soon, I’m afraid that he will kill her next time
Nicki, I suggest calling this support hotline ASAP and seeing what kind of physical-world support you can arrange or enlist for your daughter: https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/
Hi, my in laws seem to interfer with my husbands and I marriage. Causing separation but we recently began working on it and when they found out they began with negative saying we shouldn’t be together. He is really close to his family it’s hard keep them a distance in our marriage. What can I do?
Hi there! It would be wonderful if your husband would agree to go to therapy with you to discuss these issues together. It’s often a good idea to start with talking and working things out in the physical world before you do the magical work.
Very informative. What would one do if the name of the bully (s) are not known. It was a mob of children cornering my daughter at a local skating rink she often visits, which made her cry and feel very scared. She tried to nicely stand up to them but she is a HSP and empathic. Feelings are still being mastered.
Hey, thanks for reading. You might try this Empath Protection Charm for her: https://tesswhitehurst.com/powerful-protection-charm-for-empaths/
Hello Tess,
My 11 year old started secondary school in September and has just told me that a Year 9 boy, the brother of a boy that she ‘went out’ with for a few months at Primary School, has been following her around school and bullying her. He shouts at her that she is fat and a lesbian and gets a group of his friends to do the same every time they see her, which is several times a day and every night after school. I only found out about this yesterday so i’m debating which step to take first between speaking to the boys mum or going straight to the Headteacher of the school. I would like a spell so that the negativity and bullying is deflected away from my daughter and she feels safe again but i wish no harm on the boy.
Which spell would be the best to use in conjunction with whichever official line i take with school or parent?
Thanks
Hi there! For now, I suggest that you create this charm for her: https://tesswhitehurst.com/powerful-protection-charm-for-empaths/ . If she needs more support later, you might consider number one from this post.
Thank you so much for replying. I’ll create the charm for my daughter as the first step. It’s Monday tomorrow so hopefully she’ll speak to her teacher about the bullying too.
Thanks again,
Hi Tess,
I love watching your videos and tips because they’re so upbeat and NOT fear mongering :D.
I’m a little worried. I’m someone with major anxiety and I just did a very primitive release ritual – meditating to ground, then saging all around me with cleansing music, writing painful memories and relationships, behaviors and feelings down and burning the paper. I used the words “i release you. and (I bind you — intending to bind a presumed gossiper from gossiping”) I quickly followed up with – in love and for the highest good, cleared the energy of the space as well as myself, disposed of the ashes, and went out into nature. Considering this was January 28th, during a totally hectic time with the Full Moon / Eclipse, will I be okay? And is there anything I can do to sort of reign it in and put out to the universe that I just meant to protect myself and did this in good faith?
Thank you so much!
I should note this stuff is from years ago and I’m worried my reactive fear spiral could’ve like.. summoned it – either way I did it with love. I just might’ve said some none too savvy things.
Oh just saw this comment too, but same answer! That video should help.
Hi Roni! It sounds like you’re feeling a little ungrounded after the magical work you did, which is totally normal and not something to worry about. That being said, here’s a video I made about what I do when I have fear floating around and I’m concerned it’s going to negatively affect what I’m attracting into my life experience: https://tesswhitehurst.com/how-to-transform-fear-into-flow/ PS – thanks for the kind words, and for checking out the blog!
Will binding work on a daughter-in-law that controls when you see your grandchild and won’t let your son freely talk to you? I love this lady dearly but she is so jealous when my grandchild and I have fun laughing. Then she will twists things and say “it would be nice if you just spent time with your grandchild/son.” I feel manipulated and bullied.
Bobbie, I suggest a shielding ritual instead of a binding. That way she can do whatever she’s going to do and you don’t have to feel manipulated or bullied. Here’s a really simple one: https://tesswhitehurst.com/the-mirrored-sphere-an-easy-effective-protection-visualization-you-can-use-in-a-pinch/
My daughter has a ex-bestfriend who is spreading rumors about her. What would you suggest?
Bindings are very appropriate for such instances! I suggest binding #3 in this post.
Thanks very much for the suggestion, I will try this.
I believe my mother in law and sister in law have done things to me to cause me to have multiple miscarriages (they have told people I shouldn’t have more children) they are known to cast spells/curses on others (European background). Will this help stop them from doing things to my husband and I? Everytime they come into our home we end up in terrible arguments. My husband thinks I’m imagining it.
Hi there! I’m not getting the feeling that they did a curse exactly, but that you’re feeling negative energy sent your way and it’s affecting you. I suggest that you do the third option in this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
I am involved in an educational group where the leader of the group has taken a strong disliking to me for opposing her. She was endorsing unfairness and deceit, I spoke up against it. Since that time she has constantly shamed me in the group and spread lies about me. I don’t need to harm her, but I want to stop her from harming me. I am drawn to the method with the Justice card. Could you kindly let me know what you recommend. Thank you 🙏🏼
Hi there! Yes, that sounds like the one to do. Also (or maybe instead), you might consider leaving the group or starting a new one.
My mother is a practicing witch. She has definitely put a very harmful spell on me and my life is crashing before my eyes. Shes powerful. I need to bind her. Help?
Erin, is there one of these bindings that feel like it might be right for your situation?
Also my co worker is trying ti make me look really bad at my job. I think she wants me gone. She deliberately doesnt tell me things i need to know and talks badly about me to higher ups. It needs to stop.
Hi Erin! Maybe check out this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
My son has just entered the baseball team. Everyone in the team is obviously good enough but my son is willing to take all his chances and is willing to learn a lot in order to be good. Once there was a practice and all the good players were gathered in one group to play and there were 3 coaches. The not so good ones (including my son) are left and they were practiced by only 1 coach— the coach who does not agree with the other 3 coaches.. Is this fair? Actually, at first my son was in the game but the coach kicked him off to the not so good group. Next, my son borrowed a uniform because he is just new to the team and the new uniform has not yet arrived. We, my husband and I would like to make sure if they ordered the uniform already because nobody is updating us.. Nobody tells us what to do unless we ask. My husband asked the person-in-charge for the uniforms. She said she will confirm. After awhile, she said she cannot make the confirmation to the shop where the uniform is made because it is ‘closed’. Accidentally, when I went to wotk that same day, i passed at that shop only to find out it is ‘open’. Is it a lie or an alibi? The shop is within our community, how could she lie to us? I think there is something fishy going on. I can feel the unequal treatment to us since my son is half Japanese and half Filipino. I used the binding spell to stop the maltreatment because they should be fair enough because all the kids enjoy baseball and they all want to learn. We, my husband and I do not want to argue or confront because my son enjoys the company of his team players. If we raise the issue, then my son will probably quit and join another team.
Hi Tess, I’m so happy I found this site. I need advice, is the third option a good idea for me? I’ve been in the most horrible custody battle with my ex husband and his father for the past 3 years. They’ve had my daughter for 6 months and won’t allow me to see or talk to her.. they treat her like a possession. They are a powerfully connected family in the county we live in, and are doing this to for their own ego. I just want peace for my daughters sake. I do not want to cause them harm, eventhough I fear for my safety and my daughters. I just want peace. I hope you can help.
Maya, yes. The third option is a good idea for you. Sending lots of love and every best wish!
Hi Tess, I am currently going through issues with a “friend” that felt it would be best to tell my family what we spoke about. I am now being ignored by family and she is still friends with them…I feel she has taken my place in the family, as her family do not include her. (So she told me). I do not get extra work now, a family member was my boss), so financially she has affected me too. One of the family members has even blocked me from contacting him. What would be appropriate for my situation, a spell or a ritual etc? Thanks in advance.
Lee, a binding sounds appropriate. I’d choose one from this post that feels right to you.
Thank you Tess, I will try one of them.
Hi,
I met my fiance 3 yrs ago. His ex has given us nothing but trouble. She had total control over him. But since we have been together he has put a stop to that. Of course that made her more upset. She uses their daughter as a “weapon”. Now the daughter is not as close to us like she used to. Lately. We noticed things missing from our house. We did catch her putting things in her backpack. Now , I have been messing up at work and I have been there 4yrs with no problem. My fiance same thing and he’s been there 14 yrs. I myself will pick fights with my fiance….and he does nothing but love me. And I know in my heart he loves me. I even tell myself “why are you being ugly?” Even my children will tell me mom don’t be mean to him. I feel she has alot to do with all this.
Thank you
There are 2 women at work who don’t like me. I’ve always been nice to them but I have felt an ongoing threat by their negative energy. Today my car was vandalized in the parking lot at work. I am usually the last one to go in the building at work but this morning I went in before them. I went out to my car in the afternoon on my break to make a phone call and saw someone had smeared an adhesive along the front fender and driver’s door. It permanently damaged the finish on my new car. When I went to the time clock to time out for the day they saw me come through the warehouse door and they began to huddle and laugh quietly between each other while glancing over their shoulders at me and whispering. I pretended nothing was amiss and timed out. When I went out to my car to leave as I turned around to get in my car door one of them was glaring at me and smirking as she walked to her car. They have been playing this silly game of one being nice to me and the other being nasty to me. The one who has been mean to me recently accused me of trapping her in her car one morning because I was on the passenger side of my car with the door open for a few seconds to get something out of my car. It was a dark early morning and I didn’t know she was still in her car. The next day she sneaked up behind me and accused me. It startled me but I apologized to her and have not used my passenger door since. I also started parking a couple of spaces away from her car in an effort to put some distance between us. I have always taken the high road and been nice to both of them. Sadly, it has obviously not worked well.
Would a protection or binding spell be appropriate and effective for something like this? Also, I don’t know their names. We work in different departments and I am new to this building. I have worked for the company for 5 years but at a different location. Our department was moved to this building a few months ago.
Thank you in advance
Tricia, it feels like a protection spell is in order. Try #2 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Thank you Tess!
Hi!
Thank you for sharing your knowledge! Just wondering how long the mason jar should be in the freezer..and what to do with it when i take it out,
Thank you,
Rachel
Hi Rachel! I’d keep it in there for as long as you feel it’s necessary to keep the magical energy in place. Once you feel you’ve sufficiently moved through the challenge and it’s old news, you can simply dispose of it in any way you normally would. (Thaw, rinse, recycle, etc.)
I am an empath and I believe my son is as well. He is often anger mean and rude. Disrespectful to everyone. He has been like this for years. Would binding help.
Jamie, if you feel that your personal energy is being violated, you can do a binding to stop your son from causing you harm in this way. But if you haven’t already, begin with taking measures in the physical world, such as setting boundaries with him and telling him when he does things that hurt your feelings. Christiane Northrup has a new book called Dodging Energy Vampires. I haven’t read it yet, but it might be a good place to start before you do a spell.
I am a mother of a 25 year old who thinks she is a witch her name is cathleenia Peterson and she goes by cat she thinks she has binder my daughter melanie because Cathleenia thinks melanie is doing harm to people Cathleenia is doing or thinks she is doing magic without any consequences how do I bind her so she doesnt misuse it so nobody gets hurt
Hi Tess:
What do you recommend for helping someone wrongfully accused of something and is now involved in a court case? Accuser has tried and failed in the past and is coming back again. They have a history of being just mean and threatening, verbally and physically.
Hi there! I recommend the 5th spell in this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi, I was reading about binding. My ex is abusing my daughter. He put her in a meeting talking hospital to silence her so she will not speak of the abuse. He has also abused me, and my son, raped 3 women, abused 3 other ex girlfriends, choked his niece, and abused and ex girlfriends son. And he’s a narcissist too
I know he needs a binding and he needs to go away I knkw its for justice and protection.
My fear is that if I bind him, mine and his energy are forever connected, is that true? Or it doesn’t matter he needs to be stopped?
Please advise…help.
Thank you
Michele, a binding won’t hurt, but I’d highly suggest making it your priority to take steps in the physical world. Have you called the police or child protective services? You might also want to get a restraining order or press charges.
Thanks,
Yes.. I have called the cops, and protective s and they said its wrong but not a crime.
I have court soon, but I have zero faith in them doing right by my daughter.
Thats why I was thinkjng the binding…the real world has not stoped him
And I list my restraining order hearing, so its just sad
A man who is developmentally disabled and has a history of being arrested for child pornography and sexual contact with a child younger than 11 (I have 10 and 6 year old daughters) just moved into the house next door to me for the summer. I know these spells are geared towards bullies but there are a lot of young children on the street, and one in particular in a household where the mother is not the best protector. What do you think about binding him from doing harm from a pedophile perspective? I can literally do it in my back yard and direct the energy towards him next door. Please advise?
Jen, I’d say it doesn’t sound like a bad idea at all.
First, I love your writing and I have used your Magical Housekeeping for two houses that I moved into, so thank you!
My question is, in high school (so almost 20 years ago) I had two friends who were witches (I don’t know if they were actually witches or thought they were) and another friend who was a practicing Wiccan. I was told I was a natural witch with a very bright white aura but I didn’t really practice. However, the aforementioned two friends started making my life not so great. Rumors, bullying, trying to steal friends…all that good stuff that happens in high school anyway but with the caveat of them saying they were going to spell me. I’m of the belief, now at least, that spells really wrk when you believe in them, I was impressionable in high school.
I told my friend – the Wiccan – about this and she said she could bind them for me but she would need to borrow my power. I gave her a picture and permission to borrow all of my power if she needed (again, read impressionable and naive about all of this in high school) and she said she performed the binding (ribbon, burying, incantation). I wasn’t there for it but I felt a diminishing of my own power.
I know this sounds oddly like a cracked fairy tale but I’m wondering if that power was completely taken or if there is a way to get it back.
I have some natural abilities but I am wondering if it’s because I believe that I’m diminished, that I am. I am pretty good with tarot and when I pay attention I’m good with inter-personal predictions and I feel that I’m good at cleansing.
Do you have any advice or suggestions?
Well, it’s not my sense that your power was actually diminished in the long term, but I do get the sense that doing a meditation like this one daily (or almost daily) will help you to know & own your own power: https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/
Thank you so much! Ill try it
I am working with a women who is erratic. She is cruel and harsh and blows up frequently repeating some manufactured or mistake to enormous degrees. I have tried to apologize over and over to diffuse the situation as most are a mutual misunderstanding, work styles or her reading way too much into things. I will never be her and she is trying to make me thing, talk and act the way she wants me to. She is a peer but acts like my manager. She is friends with a high positioned person so I cannot escalate the issue. She will be nice one day and then blow up an screech the next. She has threatened before to be uncooperative. What can I do without causing her harm to get her to not scream and yell at me and not to do anything to jeopardize my reputation or employment.
This does sound frustrating. I suggest #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess,
I did the first of the three binding spells that you described and my sister and I actually had a cordial phone conversation the next day, which was wonderful! Should I re-do the spell periodically, or is once enough?
Lisa, great news! I’d say once is enough, unless at some point you feel intuitively that the spell needs refreshing. But it may very well hold.
Hi Tess, I have a ex that I left who has been using voodoo magic, very strong in his family, to try to prevent me from leaving. I know he was doing it while I slept. My mother does Reiki and pranic healing and removed an entity last night. Today I went to see my energy healer, who practices Reiki, shamanism, alchemy and channeling. She found many, many cords from him placed between me and his daughter, attempts to try to shield my intuition, mind control black magic and most concerning, Black magic that is making my right knee injured so I can’t walk well and in pain. My mom cast out one entity again but I feel I need to cast protection on myself and bind him. I would love your thoughts.
Hi Celinya! I’d hold off on the binding, and instead do 3 and 2 from this post (in that order) – https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess,
Me and my friend have been dealing with a lot of negativity which has effected work, finances and personal relationships, from many sources over the last 9 months. we have managed to use protection and shields and in a tough case a return to sender spell to get rid of most of them but this one person is sticking around. She is motivated by jealously and spite she is now causing issues with both of our relationships causing distance and obstacles my friend and her boyfriend almost spilt up because she was totally overwhelmed with feelings of jealousy and anger and couldn’t stop herself starting a fight with him over nothing. my financial situation suffered massively and my work was seriously effected. my friends car randomly blew up. And whenever we need to see each other it’s a real effort to meet up as stuff happens to stop us.
This person was invited in but before i knew she wasn’t good. And since she has been around life has got harder than ever, i have cut her out my life as much as possible but now people around us are getting hurt with worse than average luck, bad health or severe depression. i can’t help but feel she needs to be bound to stop this with us and also anyone else she may get jealous of in the future.
I’ve sat down many times and thought maybe i’m imagining all this as it can’t really be real… but I can’t carry on like this not now others are getting hurt too. I have no idea if she is strong enough to do this or if she is using other’s energies to do it but it feels like i have to do this now? i’m not going crazy am i? any help or advice would be appreciated.
Hi Julie! It sounds to me like a binding would be appropriate. Is there one of these options that feels right to you?
I feel drawn to option 2.
It feels right but also because I have randomly been drawn to getting my tarot cards out of storage recently and I had no idea why (they were a gift 20 yrs ago and I have never used them as the time never felt right)
Perfect! I’d do that one then.
Thank you!
It’s been done so lets hope we start to notice a difference, otherwise i need to look for a plan B!
thank you for your help 🙂
Hello, I have been suffering emotionally from verbal abuse from my ex husband and his now girlfriend for the past 3 years, he says anything and eveything be it not true but he will say anything to hurt me. He is beyond disrespectful and crosses lines All the time by constantly being disrespectful towards me, there’s so much more to it but After all these years all I’ve ever wanted was for him to have even the most basic respect towards me. What kind of spell do you recommend to get someone who is always being disrespectful and constantly rude and bad mouthing me to stop. I want so bad for our relationship to be even the most civil because our daughter is the most important thing and she is stuck in the middle. Unfortunately she is still so young and at the age where she doesn’t understand all the things me and her dad have arguments about. He really is not a good father at all !!! The only reason he ever sees his daughter is whenever he “can” which varies every month. She is so innocent and doesn’t understand all she knows is I’m her mom and he’s her dad and naturally her love for us is bigger then her little heart can hold. I wish for him to leave us alone for how ever long it takes till he can finally realize he was the one in the wrong and hurting us this way all these years and that I being the mother of his child never deserved any of it. Thank you !
Hi there. A binding from this post sounds very appropriate. Is there one that stands out to you more than the others? You might also want to make this charm for your daughter: https://tesswhitehurst.com/powerful-protection-charm-for-empaths/
What would you suggest in regards to my 22 year old daughter staying with her dad and his wife for the next month. His wife is extremely manipulative and jealous of the relationship that our daughter has with her dad. I feel this woman is practicing something and has been for quite some time. My ex and I met her when we moved to NC and our oldest was 2 months old, he’s now 25. They married soon after our divorce was final, almost 20 years ago. I have dealt with her for quite some time. I have taught my daughter to protect herself as much as I can and also protecting her as I can. What Would you recommend? Would a binding of negative energy help? Thank you.
Renee’, my sense is that the best thing for you to do is call on angelic protection for her every single day. Every 24 hours or so, ask Archangel Michael to surround her in a sphere of golden white, protective light. You can also light a candle to Archangel Michael near a photo of her if you’d like, though just the invocation will be powerful too.
I own my own small company, and a VERY large corporation is going above and beyond to destroy me and my brand because I’m “competition”. I’m trying to follow the rules, but even my lawyer says they’re “bullying” me, and may eventually bleed me dry. I thought that first binding spell sounded perfect. What are your thoughts. Thank you so much!
Emily, that sounds like a fantastic plan to me. I say go for it.
Hi Tess, what shall I do if a child is involved. Meaning, my guy and I are finally on the right track. I did a white magic come back to me spell and commitment spell and we are now finally happy. However, his son’s mother is disrespecting me and our relationship. She will not let him see his son unless it’s at her house. She gossips about me, lies, and doing things to try and temp him to cheat on me. She has turned his family against me with lies and drama. It’s bad. I want to bind her or even banish her but I don’t want to do anything that will jeopardize his relationship with his son. I don’t want her hurt but I want her to stay out of our lives and leave my man alone. what would you suggest?
Tasha, it sounds to me like a binding is appropriate. You can do it with all the intentions you mentioned, and none of the ones you don’t want. It’s best if you can work the magic neutrally – just for the outcome you want, not with any emotions or personal feelings involved. Does one of these binding rituals call to you?
Thank you so much for responding. I think #1 is appropriate for my situation.
Cool – go for it!
So, let’s say you have a family member who has caused a great deal of stress and strife in the past. This family member, after the very recent death( this week) of their father ( my grandfather) is now causing everyone more stress and strife. Calling and claiming they are contesting wills, bothering the funeral home claiming the funeral home handled things in correctly, all the while, this family member lives half way across the country and did not even come home to care for her sick father or for the funeral. Would it be advisable to bind her to help stop the stress I am seeing her cause my family?
Yes, that sounds completely appropriate.
Hi, I come to you in aid of help (and a possible solution). My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half years, and both love each other very much. I know that he has been thinking of taking it to the next level i.e. an engagement, and on occasion as mumbled it under his breath to me. However, he has a very strong bond with his mother (after the death of his father at a young age, he has become the father figure in the family), and feels guilty to leave her alone (he feels that she would not cope without him). She constantly pays mind games with him, and plays the victim for his attention.
The thing is I would not pry and ask for assistance with this, but, as I can tell this is the number one reason that’s stopping him from popping the big question to me, it is also stopping him from fleeing from the bird’s nest (mind the cliche there), and creating a life with me. Plus, as he has already mumbled it, it’s obviously there in his free will, but the guilt is the fear that’s stopping him.
Is there a way that I can hear this karmic-band? – so that he can live his life without the guilt and the fear; whilst also being able to live the life he wants with me.
Hi Cally! I suggest spell #2 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
Hello! I have a situation with a family member (MIL) who tries to negatively influence my children. For example, when she is around my children she says things like “your mother will be mad at you if x,y,z” and who know how else she tries to manipulate them because they are 2 & 4 and cant verbalize everything. I have a gut instinct that there is more. Also, whenever we go on trips and don’t include her, my children become very ill. Every time. Also, whenever my mother comes to visit and spend time with me and my children, my children become ill and don’t get to spend quality time with my mother. I have to keep trips with my mother secret so that nothing happens, everyone is healthy, and we can enjoy time together. I’m tired of living this way and need something to change. I want to protect my children from her manipulations and negative influence, I should probably also protect my mom because things have happened to her too. Would this spell be appropriate for this situation? I really want my children protected and I don’t want to have to worry about this anymore. This is someone in my life that I have to deal with. I wear black tourmaline, I surround my children in white light, butbts not enough. Thank you for your input.
Hi Paige – are you sure you need to deal with her as much as you do? If she is being extremely manipulative, you may want to limit your kids’ contact with her. Also, rather than binding her, I’d do spell #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi,
My husband and I have been together since we are in high school. I am already in my late 30’s and have 3 wonderful kids. My dilemma is that my husband treats me badly, and doesn’t respect me anymore. He only does that when he is mad at me, mad about something and he always puts the blame on me when things go wrong. what binding spell can I cast so that he will still be nice to me even when he is mad? Thank you very much in advance.
Gertrude, in this case, I highly suggest working on the emotional level instead of the magical level. In other words, have a talk with your husband or go to therapy, or – if necessary – end the relationship. It’s important for you to set boundaries about what you will and won’t accept. If you’ve done that sufficiently and you are still being bothered by your husband (i.e. if he harasses you even though you’re divorced), then you can revisit the idea of performing a binding. If you need additional guidance on how to do set boundaries, consider reading the book Assertiveness for Earth Angels by Doreen Virtue.
Thank you.
Would recommend a spell on my friend she doing separation spell to get ex she fears..
for some reason.. The problem she has wiccan abilities I feel she has no business doing such
a thing do her mental state going through divorce I’m being psychically attacked
by her not knowing what she is doing she’s on several medications..
You have be grounded and focused to do something like we are soulmates both psychic as well I love her
this really is bothering me what she is doing.. I feel need to bind her
so this stops I hate to .. but my sake and hers your opinion..
Logan, I recommend keeping yourself protected with a daily magical hygiene practice and having a talk with her about all your feelings if you haven’t already. For example, you could do this meditation daily: https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/
Hey i have certain questions. Does white magic harm the practitioner or on whom it is being practiced. Does it backfire. Or does it have any negative impact???
Hi Avhi! What you send out returns to you. So if you bind a bully (for example) with the best of intentions and without malice, you are safe.
Hi! Thank you so much for this post. I was wondering if a binding would suit my needs. My mother in law was awful to me when I started dating his son (we were 15 years old), she did so much harm to me, she insulted me, did everything in her control to avoid her son could interact with me like don’t allowing him to go out with me, talking with our principal at high school and making them to prohibit me to talk to him at school. I end up having severe depression as a result, luckily my boyfriend and I are still together (we´re 24 years old now!), She did stop to be that awful by in these past few years she still has been trying to break us apart. 2 years ago she made a big drama so he had to take a break from college and when he tried to get back he couldn´t and was forced to start again but now in the same city as his mom lives (he was studying in another state), now that he lives with him I have a long distance relationship. This year she has been acting like a new person bc she has a way younger boyfriend (which in a pretty bizarre way looks a lot like my boyfriend), she’s all happy and positive, she posts on her FB how happy she is with this man and even though it seems she hasn’t been awful to me she is still pretty awful with my boyfriend (she has always been pretty abusive towards him), so I will be honest, it makes me so mad how an awful person who has tried to destroy my relationship can have a “perfect” relationship, I feel all this is starting to affect me again and I don’t like all this negativity in my life, if it wasn’t bc of how much I love her son I’d wish to give her back all the pain she has caused me but I do not wish to compromise my own relationship or harm in any way, my boyfriend. I just wanna have a happy relationship and want for my boyfriend to be safe and able to feel loved at his home. What should I do? A binding? A karma spell? Just wait for karma to act one day? or just try to cleanse all this negative energy from myself? Thank you so much for reading this, I truly needed to express how I’m feeling right now
Helena, did you say your boyfriend is living with his mom? I am wondering if you can talk to your boyfriend about moving out and having less contact with his mother. I always like to start with common sense and being honest with everyone involved. If you’ve spoken with him and he doesn’t want to, that may be an issue in your relationship to deal with and consider first, before you work any magic.
Hello. My ex mother-n-law from 8 years ago lives with my ex and my children (we have 50 percent shared custody). I pay her a fee to be my daycare when it’s my week for the boys. For 15 years out of 17 I’ve know her, she has hated me and talks bad things about to me. I have always known this and have fired her from being my daycare provider once for a couple years, but I had to go back to her. I thought we were past this, but my boys recently told me some things she has been saying about me to them (sigh, again). I was thinking of binding her only of saying bad things about to me to my boys. For the record, she talks bad things about pretty much everyone she’s met…eventually. She is also mean to one of my boys sometimes, but I could chalk that up to she’s being a parent and not letting them get away with what kids try to get away with. I also don’t like the prejudice things she teaches my boys about different races. The first spell you mention above, I like. But I want to make sure I’m correct. Is this situation even justified for me to do a binding spell? Can I be specific in the binding spell to just have her only not say bad things about the mother of her grandsons?
Reba, before working magic, I would get a different daycare provider. It would not make sense to pay someone to hang out with your sons if you feel so strongly about that person that you want to bind her. If you’ve done that and it still feels like you’d like to bind her, you can revisit the question at that point. First though, do everything you can in the physical world to minimize her influence in your life and the lives of your sons.
Hi Tess! I found your site while I was literally researching binding spells for my psychologically abusive stepfather, who I live with. He is abusive towards my mother and sister, not to me. I’m not willing to leave our house, and ending the relationship is not up to me. Number 1 is looking good to me, I would deeply appreciate hearing any thoughts you have about it!
Hi Carolina! Yes, that sounds appropriate. Living so closely with someone whom you’ve bound may have its own challenges, so do be aware. If you’re not already, I suggest some sort of daily clearing and shielding practice like this one: https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/
Hello i am not sure if you can help
My son is mixing with the wrong crowd and i fear for what he is getting into. The others that have invited him in i wish not to have them around my son or my home anynore. Dont trust there energy or intentions . I am a reiki practitioner can i bind or do protection card. Thanks
Heidi, I suggest a protection spell for your son, like #2 in this post (but for him rather than you) https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
HI, mine is a little more twisted. To make it as basic as possible, brother-inlaw brought a lot of hurt upon our family, including sexually abusing my daughter. Turned the whole family against us to the point that we moved countries. I just want all the bitching behind our backs to stop and for the mother-inlaw to see it for what it really is. Although there’s been a lot of hurt, for some reason I still want a relationship with my mother-inlaw and for my children to have that relationship, but on my terms.
Hi there! I would do #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Would this work to stop my ex and his new wife from maliciously trying to turn my own child against me. I believe it is bullying (emotional abuse) at its worst!
If it would work, could I do one spell with both names at once or separate spells.
The jar with water “felt” lije it would be the one to do.
Michelle, I suggest spell #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess, you answered a question for me about binding which is the one I was think of. Thank you. Is there anything I can do to show someone for the person they really are and for all the truths to come out and for people to realise what this person’s done?
Hi Glenys! I recommend focusing on your own personal experience, rather than on what other people think and how they are perceived. With this in mind, this post may offer some options that feel good to you: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi, my dad’s wife has been doing witchcraft to my family since I was a little girl, she has harmed us greatly and has bad intentions with us and even with my dad, I was wondering if a binding spell could make her stop, as my family and I don’t have bad intentions with her, I just want to be able to live my life and grow as a person and I’m pretty sure she has done black magic to prevent that. I have never done any sort of witch craft and I’m dont really think its for me, but I dont know what else to do.
Valeria, instead of a binding, I would start with 1, 2, or 3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
I’ve just started looking into astrology and I can’t work out what the 4th quarter of the waning moon is… No where tells me. From what I know I feel as though its when the waning moon is crescent?
Oh, it’s just the last week of a moon cycle. So the week before the new moon.
Hello and good day to you Tess,
I have a uncle who is believed to be wronged by someone of his place of employment. About 10 years ago it seems as though there are two co-workers who jokes about black magic and they are very jealous of him and his status at the company.
He was in a dark place that looks like a medical case of depression for about 2 years. They traveled the world looking for help and after alot of visits to spiritual leaders he got back to normal. Everyone that read him said someone had cast something on him. He was normal up until July of last year.
Now he’s the exact same way and is not working. He’s went to many different doctors and they give him antidepressants, however, when he speaks to spritual leaders they say that someone has put something on him again to cause the issue and its not medical.
Its been a year and three months and he’s down in the dumps everyday. He’s usually a guy who’s always hosting these great gatherings, working on his house and working lots of overtime at work. Now he’s on unemployment, he never wants to leave the house to be in public places or with family. His wife says he’s acting the same way as when this has happened to him 10 years ago. The family is at a lost and is not sure how to help him.
Are there any suggestions that you can offer?
Thank you in advance for your time.
Hi Devin! With the permission of your father, you may want to contact Sen Elias over at Crescent City Conjure. He can work remotely: https://crescentcityconjure.us/
Hi there on the spell it says Repeat 7 more times, with 7 more lengths of black thread, is that for 7 nights?
Thanks
Wanbli
No, that’s all on the same roll of paper, during the same night.
See I’m a bit of a skeptic when it comes to “spells” I read online, but i did something similar to this a few times when I was younger and it always worked AMAZINGLY well. it was the only times I thought I was capable of real magic. The way I did it was to write the name of the person on some paper while I had a candle lit. I would have a roll of like tissue paper or something and slowly wrap it around the written name while repeating a chant very similar to the one from The Craft and focusing on the candle. I’d then seal it with a little bit of candle wax and then just kept it safe. It always stunned me how whatever the issue seemed to just diappear overnight!
I had read in some blogs that simple mirrors work. I have bad neighbours staying downstairs in apartment who constantly bully me. I have put mirrors facing downwards under my furniture. But it is not working. Am I doing something wring. Please help me, as this has started affecting me badly and psychologically.
Diana, neighbors can be especially challenging. Sometimes when there is a persistent problem, it can be a message from the Universe that it’s time to find somewhere new to live, not just to escape the neighbors but because it will benefit you in other ways as well. Have you been feeling drawn to look around for a new place?
I have put my all savings to buy this house, have got to pay EMI for next 20 years. Not possible for me to move out even if I want to.
Hi Diana! OK, you may want to try one of the spells from this post. Or you can also take a look at this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hello,
There is a manager at my work that is an awful person. She is very cruel to everyone and lies to make her sound better. She doesn’t allow the people in her department to talk to anybody else, they have to go through her first (these are employees that have been here 20+ years, that just try to say hello. She has been here 4-5 years.) If a mistake is made, even by her, she blames it on one of her people. Things that we were able to ask for before her is now made to feel like it is against the rules. We hate to ask for anything, even if it is for help on something because she makes it feel like we shouldn’t be asking. But if we take it to management, they will go talk to her and she says the exact opposite to them, that she could do it without any problem. She has caused workers to see therapists and have to be on medication for anxiety, just to be able to come in to work. We have tried to talk to upper management (they say they will talk to her)but they continue to let it happen. We have also tried looking for other jobs and nothing comes up for any of us. I don’t know what else to do but it’s hard to come to work, it feels like I am back in High School trying to avoid a bully but I have not choice and have to speak with her. What would be best to do?
Is there one of these spells that calls to you?
Hi Tess, I’m looking for a spell to stop my husband’s parents from negatively affecting him. There’s alot of negative energy coming from them as they fight and complain a lot and we live in thier backyard and have been for the past 5 years. They have a hold on him, and they make him do everything for them. He has a very big heart and finds it hard to tell them no. I don’t want to negatively affect them, I just want to remove the hold they have on him. Will these spells do the job?
Before doing a spell, I’d move out of their backyard. Choosing to live so close to them (and possibly renting from them or borrowing space from them) and simultaneously binding them might create some tricky karma for everyone. Focus on moving first. Here’s a spell to find a new home: https://tesswhitehurst.com/spell-for-finding-and-buying-a-home/
Would a binding be appropriate to stop someone from self-harm?
My daughter has been battling OCD with intrusive thoughts since she was 9. She’s 15 now and the circles and patterns of the OCD are getting worse, the self-harm through cutting and self-deprecating words are becoming all the fills the house.
She is currently in treatment programs (was hospitalized many time now for the OCD, eating disorder, anxiety, and self-harm) and has been for 5 years but it’s just not enough anymore.
I feel there is more I can do but unsure which path to take in helping her heal. It’s like I can feel it just out of reach but not enough to clearly see the next step. I would be forever grateful if you could offer any guidance. Thank you!!!
Hi! No, I wouldn’t do a binding in this instance. Does your daughter have an art form she enjoys? If she can get “obsessed” with an art form of some sort (dance, acting, painting, sculpting, or even something like web design), I’m sensing she’ll begin creating a healthier pattern of energy for herself.
hi, I’m 21 and living in avery disturbing and abusive situation at home and I don;’ know what to do to deal with it, as far as I’m concerned both my parents are severely narcissistic, my mother is extremely abusive (usually very covertly) and feels no remorse for what she says and does to me (EXTREMELY manipulative, outright rude and disrespectful, condescending, passive aggressive, sarcastic, you name it). She is also very controlling and willing to smear me by baiting me to react and then telling ohers, though never about what she does to abuse. My father is violent, he degrades me, he mocks..it’s horrible, I suffer from anxiety and depression and traumatic stress and I can’t leave, both because I’m dependent on them and because I feel traumatized by all of these experiences…my life had gotten better with therapy but after a few short months and worsening abuse it spiraled. Their behaviour shocks me and I don’t know what to do. If there is any chance for repair I want it but this can’t go on. I have little external social support and I don;t know what to do. Would anything work for me? Please let me know, thanks
Ant, I suggest revisiting the belief that you can’t leave. Get proactive about creating a new pattern for yourself, even if it takes a little while before you can actually move out. Of course, a social support system will also help so consider finding a job or a meetup group where you can make friends. Here are some posts to help you change your pattern: https://tesswhitehurst.com/9-ways-to-get-motivated-and-activate-your-magical-mojo/ and https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-spells-to-get-yourself-out-of-a-funk/
hey, i needed help with a situation going on in my house for the past couple of years now, my father is extremely abusive towards my mother mostly verbally but it gets physically too and sometimes he’d load a gun and tell her he’ll shoot her. He does this every time he’s drunk (which is everyday now) and has literally tortured my mother to the max she cannot handle any more his abusive shitty attitude and nothing seems to be helping her. She would get a divorce but she doesn’t have the finance and for some odd reason no matter how hard she tries she never seems to get any work almost as if she’s been cursed. I really need your help in this situation i don’t want any karmic backlash for an asshole like my father so please tell me what can i do.
I’d really appreciate the help thanks!
Sara, are you old enough to move out on your own? Or, if you’re not, is there somewhere else that’s safe where you can stay, perhaps with a grandparent or other relative? If so, that would be the first thing I would recommend. Once you’re safe and out of that environment, you can begin to approach helping your mother.
i don’t want to leave my mother alone with him, is there some kind of spell or anything to help me out ?
Sara, I suggest getting counseling and reading the book Co-Dependent No More. I know it may not seem like it to you right now, but you can actually help your mother more by setting positive boundaries with both your parents by getting out of the house, which is clearly an unsafe environment for everyone.
I recently left an extremely verbally and bordering on physically abusive relationship of 2 years with someone who emotionally and financially manipulated me and was addicted to drugs. I have since found out that this is a pattern of his but that he twists the stories of past relationships to sound like a victim or hero to the next. Could this help to ensure future women don’t fall for his lies and abuse and which version?
Kathleen, if you are safely out of the relationship, I wouldn’t turn your focus to doing magic on your ex. Instead, I’d cut the cords of attachment between you. Here’s a meditation to help you do that: https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/