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5 Karma-Friendly Alternatives to Putting a Love Spell on Someone

Establish Beautiful Romantic Conditions in Your Life While Respecting the Free Will of Others

Yes: putting love spells on other people is a thing.

But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, in most cases (namely the ones where you are overriding someone’s free will), it’s actually a pretty terrible idea.

Think about it: in addition to all the gnarly karmic backlash you will almost certainly unleash upon yourself, do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will ***fake*** love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave actually what you want? If the answer is yes, please be honest with yourself and see that desire for what it is: sad and desperate. You deserve someone who actually loves you and legitimately wants to spend time with you.

That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting to cast a spell on someone to get them to think they adore and desire you just as much as you adore and desire them. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.

1. Attract an Awesome Partner

When you think you just have to have a certain person, the truth is, you want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desires them. Of course, this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.

On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, anoint a pink pillar candle with sweet almond oil and roll it in sugar. Place it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:

Just as I desire passionate and romantic love, somewhere a perfect partner for me desires the same.
Whomever s/he is, I summon him/her now.
Come to me, lover, so we can delight in each other!
Universe, please bring my divinely designed love to me!
Thank you and blessed be.

Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.)

2. Heal an Existing Relationship

Of course, not all relationships are destined for greatness or perpetuity. This ritual takes this into account, while giving your existing relationship a dose of healing and harmony. This will either speed its dissolution or revive its strength, depending on what is best for everyone involved.

On a full moon, place a photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Mix equal parts honey and aloe vera gel, and fill the jar with the mixture, completely immersing the photo. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the tea light and say:

What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Whatever is best for [name of partner] and me,
I summon this outcome, whatever it may be.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.

3. Magnify Your Attractiveness

Perhaps if you’re honest with yourself, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet. What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and ignite some flames (or even blazing infernos) of desire. Of course, you are naturally desirable, so you don’t need to override someone’s free will in order to do this. You can just bring out your own natural attractiveness.

Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat with sweet almond oil containing a few drops of essential oil of sandalwood or ylang ylang. Say:

With this sacred oil, I call now forth all of my charms.

Caution: be sure not to overuse this spell: doing it any more than once per moon cycle will dilute its effectiveness.

4. Release an Unhealthy Connection

It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop with a particular person and you think a love spell will be just the thing to set the relationship right. Sorry, but it won’t. This spell, on the other hand, will release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (known in metaphysical circles as “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal romantic relationship. (In some cases it could be the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.)

Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. In the warm water, dissolve 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:

Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free.

Soak for at least 20 minutes each time.

5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome

Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved. By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.

On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:

God/Goddess/All That Is, I desire passionate and harmonious love.
Please bring that love to me in the best possible way now.
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.

Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.

You have options! #witchtips #lovespells

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  1. Thank you for posting these, much better than a love spell!

    I was a target of a love spell and married the person – on my wedding day I actually sat there thinking “what am I doing, why doesn’t anyone stop me”.
    Three years later I left and he admitted that he had “gotten me” through the help of a person known to prey on others using Magick.
    a. It’s just not cool
    b. You really don’t get the person to love you – I knew I didn’t love him, but found myself helpless and unhappy.
    c. Where’s the sense of satisfaction, of achievement in being with someone knowing they’re truly not there of their own free will. Ultimately, neither of you will be happy.
    d. We all deserve to be loved for who we are, and there is someone for everyone – patience!

    Once again, than you for the great post!

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  2. My husband (then boyfriend) was subjected to black magic by a woman. He was given a potion first, later his clothes were used to attract him towards that another women. His mood swings were beyond understanding. He became abusive. Later with the help of someone we came to kbow about it and broke the spells. What confuses me is, he says that even if he hated me there was something that would not allow him to avoid or leave me. He used to tell me that he thinks someone has casted a spell on him but when i confront him he used to dismiss it. Since at that time i was not aware of their affair no such doubts arouse in my mind.
    The moment he came to know that he was under a spell his behaviour towards me changed immediately. And the moment the spell was broken, he says he felt very relaxed and happy. But he caught a cold which the person (who helped break the spell) says is due to the outer element that was present in my husbands body left a void and caused him to catch a cold.
    Will my husband be subjected to any side effects of the spell in the future??

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  3. Hi Tess. So I really do want an old lover back. The thing is he’s probably seeing this other lady. I don’t want to use any unnatural force on anyone. However I think he’s just sticking around this other lady for beneficial purposes. Is there a way that I can wish this lady a friendly spell in finding true romance and a real man? I just feel that maybe once she finds someone who can truly love her, he and I can resume “us”.. 🤔

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    • Hi Mila! I suggest spell #5 from this post. I highly suggest focusing on YOU and what YOU want, rather than anyone else at all: old lover, lady, anyone. Except you. This will leave you open for the best possible outcome, which may or may not involve this specific person.

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  4. Hello. I have a question regarding spell #2 … I think it’s important that I get clarity on it. I want to perform the spell tomorrow on the full moon and i have no idea what to do with the jar after it’s all done. I dont want to do anything that will mess with the power of the spell like hold back to the old energy or get rid of the new one…Please help! Thank you 🙂

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    • Oh, good question! I suggest keeping it on your altar or in a special place where it won’t be disturbed for the remainder of the moon cycle (until the next new moon). After that, if you feel it’s done its work, you can release the liquid contents to a moving body of water, throw out or bury the picture, and re-use the jar later. If you want to hang on to it for a little longer to keep the magic flowing, you can keep it on your altar or put it in a freezer until you’re ready to release it.

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  5. Hi I’m currently having issues with the guy I’m dating. He says he’s into me but i just don’t give him time to think or breathe when he’s upset and i jump to assumptions to much . So pretty much now he has this negative connotation with me that I’m not going to change that behavior although i genuinely want to because i believe he’s the one . I want to cast a karma friendly spell . Not because i think he doesn’t care but because of the negative connotation he’s too frustrated to notice the good out of this . Which spell should i choose

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  6. Hello! I fell deeply in love with this man and he left me because he no longer wanted the commitment and I really loved him and the breakup really made me depressed , what should I do to bring him back to me?

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  7. Hi again, Tess! I performed spell #2 during the last full moon and something unexpected happened… within couple of days his behavior changed completely. Like a different person, the one I knew months before he started doing cruel things. He stopped cheating on me… and is really loving. Everything came together for me once I looked into the girl he was seeing – and I realized that it’s very likely that he has been under a love spell for quite a while! Now that all makes sense. But tell me, Tess, is it possible that such a simple healing spell could break a love spell? It’s hard to believe!

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  8. Hi Tess,
    I have a rose quartz necklace, would that work instead of the bracelet for spell #5? Also, does it lose its magic if you take it off from time to time?
    Thanks.

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    • Hi Mira! Yes, you can absolutely substitute a necklace. And certainly, you can take it off. Maybe when you do so, you could place it on your altar or somewhere else that’s special to you.

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  9. Tess when I was younger an boyfriend of mine did a binding spell on me using his blood. I did not know this until recently and have in the past 7 years befriended this man again. My feelings for him have never changed. However he says he no longer feels that way about me. I have asked him to fix this so that I may move on. I have had a headache and an unsettled stomach since that day. I am just wondering if it could be a residual affect from the releasing of the spell.

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  10. My relationship is going through challenges and heading for a break up. Is spell 2 ok? I will also like to write more to you through your mail.

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    • Donny, yes! That spell is appropriate. Go for it. Regarding my email, I’ve actually reached the point where personal email requests for help are too numerous for me to respond to. But if you’d like, please check out my sessions page to schedule a phone call with one of the magical practitioners I’ve personally trained.

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  13. Hi lovely!

    For #4, I’m curious if it matters whether it’s a scented epsom/sea salt or if they have to be pure?

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  14. Thank you so much for this! I have developed a pretty massive crush on a classmate of mine in graduate school in these first 2 weeks of classes starting. We have slept together a few times after some nights out with our friends and get along naturally, however we are still getting to know each other on a more personal, nonsexual nature. Although it is not like either of us to jump straight to sex, we have discussed how attracted we are to each other that it just felt natural/right. I am really hoping to get to know him more to further develop our recently-formed friendship so that it may progress to a relationship some day. What spell do you suggest to amplify the feelings/energies between us that are already naturally present? I don’t want to make him love me (although I am ready to be “Wifed” up hahaha), I just want to amplify what is already there between us, because there is something there. I just don’t know him really, or what his intentions/desires are with me. Thank you!!!!

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  15. Hi tess
    my husband leaves me for a younger woman, i was so depressed i could hardly understand these things happened to our marriage. As of now its hard for me to let go. My life was devastated…i hope and pray so hard that things will fall into proper place like my husband getting back with me…
    My qustion is can i use spell2,3 and 4 one at a time? I dont know I haven’t done spells before i dont even know if it will work for me.
    Please email me if you have time
    Thank you and Godbless.

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  16. Hi Tess,I have been in a relationship with this guy for about 3years.6 months ago,his behaviour changed and was not willing to talk about it at all.I later discovered there is another lady who got pregnant for him and he was confused about what to do.Last month I only discovered he moved in with this lady and he says he knows he made a mistake but he really loved me..I still love him and want to work things out regardless of the circumstance because I feel he is the one.
    I am so depressed especially because his attitude has changed yet I love him so much.Do you think he is under a spell? What do you suggest I should do?

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  18. Hi Tess, I have done a love spell in the past and jeez did it reck my life!…I couldn’t break the bind…he managed to sever the connection by stopping all communication….then thankfully it ended…with gratitude, I have resisted doing another love spell and realized the best course of action was to leave the chance of love entering into my life to the Universe…its been years of working just on myself and getting to the point where I am o.k. alone but just on a whim on Sunday, I joined a dating site (after not doing any online dating for over 6 years) I am half British and miss England a lot…so went on a British dating site just for fun, to just banter online really (as realistically having a relationship blossom in such circumstances are slim) but…I did receive an email from a fellow whom I really feel something might be there…I value the written word and the banter and exchange was charged (in a good way) I am wondering if I don’t do a love spell but…what if I were to gaze at his visage optimistically and were to state something like “so be it” or even “Thank you” because regardless of whether he decides not to message me again on the site and nothing becomes of our exchange…I still felt such joy just to have the banter/connection for this time, its re-ignighted that flame inside me that has been dead for so long…gazing at his picture wouldn’t be spell casting would it? Regardless, I am going to do spell #1 and #5 – Secondly, is there a spell for “not giving a darn what others think of you?” – with all the self work I have done, my last hiccup is that I used to be wealthy but due to circumstances I have lost all my money and am pretty broke (but I’m happy) its just that I think this might be a barrier to finding love?…because many guys my age (58) state they want the woman to be “financial secure” and this guy has but I haven’t said anything yet about my circumstances…is there a spell for not caring about that? Thank you!

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    • Hi Tess, Thank you so much for answering. Yes, it does feel as though the gazing will be safe and I won’t be putting a spell on him. It just feels good and puts me in a happy state of mind. Uplifting with detachment (but he hasn’t answered me for a few days) Thank Goodness I can just say to that – so be it – the universe has this in the works – at least he opened me up to the possibility of finding “the one”…and I will do the spells #1 #5!

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  19. Hello! I have been dating this guy for almost 3 years. We had/have a magnetic connection since the very first moment of us meeting. About a month later, he admitted that his ex (they were not together) lived in his home with him (because she had previously been evicted with their child) but was expected to soon move out. She moved 2 weeks later. Since then, she seems obsessed with he and I. Before her knowledge of me she was careless about him. She has called my phone many times, kept his child away, told me very hurtful things about him (his past) all in the effort to run me off. She has even tried to befriend me. He has never “left” me to go back to her but there has been times when he has slept with her. She couldn’t wait to tell me about it. When confronted with all three of us present he seems to be totally remorseful and he “sides” with me. He tells her they will never work and that I am his best friend and that he is in love with me. He has never downplayed our relationship to her the way that he has downplayed their relationship while the three of us are present. Their relationship has been a disaster (physically, mentally and emotionally abusive) per their words. We have never had as much as an in person argument let alone have been physically abusive to one another. I tried to leave against my wishes to avoid this drama but we can’t seem to stay away from one another. The butterflies never go away but it’s like we both have this “wall” up that won’t allow us to move forward. Something seems very unnatural about her (or this situation). I love him so much and I have never felt a connection like this before with anyone else. I know that he loves me the same. What should I do? Thank you in advance.

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  20. I want to donspell #2. The full moon is still almost 3 weeks away, can I do something in the mean time? Thank you

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  21. Hello

    Your website is beautiful, thank you for sharing your wisdom so openly. I met my other half almost 3 years ago we fell in love very quickly and very deeply. But he has two daughters an ex wife and a mother who seem to have a weird relationship with him. They are all a bit too attached to him in a way that it just doesn’t feel right. Out of these 4 women only the youngest daughter likes me but only shows it when we are alone and the others are not present. I know often how we feel is a mirror of our broken selves but the energy i’m picking up from them is awful. Especially his oldest daughter and mother. A year and a half ago i got pregnant and had a miscarriage and gradually my relationship deteriorated but we made a promise on working on resolving our problems. Bit this past August at a trip with all everyone apart from his ex wife i got so out of sorts of myself and really lost my cool with my other half who had completely forgotten i was even there with him. He is very defensive of all of them their relationship dynamic and no matter what i try to say he thinks i’m crazy.
    When the fall out took place and my relationship was looking like it would end his oldest starting hanging out with him a lot in a way that to me is off (almost as if she was celebrating her victory)

    Help! i think they send some pretty bad vibes our way – i witness it in my boyfriend’s eyes it’s as if he goes in and out of a zombie state.

    Any ideas what i can do so that both of us wake up and get out of this cobweb? that’s how it feels btw

    i don’t mind them but i just want them to be play their roles and not antagonise the fact that i am in his life.

    thank you

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  22. Hi Tess, I did the spell #5 on new moon, then few days later I broke the bracket by accident. Do I need to do the spell again with that bracelet or just fix it and wear it again?

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  23. Hi Tess, I did spell #2 but few days later I accidentally broke the bracelet, so do I need to do the spell again or just fix the bracelet and wear it? thank you

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  24. Hi,again!I have done spell 2,but didn’t work for me,I mean my husband did not get back to me,but I suppose the universe has decided that way to be.
    I want to ask you is spell 4 appropriate ,will it work so that I set myself free from my feelings for him and dreams for the family?
    And is there some spell I can do so that my business grow fast,because I really need it for me and my 3 year daughter.We need a home for us and I really need to find the right partners for my MLM business fast.
    Thank you in advance!

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  26. Hi. Test!! I been dating my boyfriend for 5years 6months now our relationship been ready good till the past month I noticed he’s alway coming from work late going out of town weekends not calling when hes gone and also don’t reply to my text when hes gone and i really love my bf what spell should I used… depression is killing me

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  27. Hello Tess, I’ve been in a relationship for almost 3 years and everything has been great. He has mentioned about moving in with him, but he hasn’t set a particular date so now I’m worried that he’s second guessing. Which spell should I use so that we both can get direction, clarity and get the best outcome and growth for our relationship?

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