Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
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2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
i would like to do the number 2 and number 5 spell. when you say full moon or new…is there a specific time to do the spell as new moon is on feb 4 and full moon is on 19 and i really really want to do these spells.
thank you for your response
Hi Karu! #2 is best on the full moon, and there is no specification for spell #5, so you can do it whenever it feels right.
how long should I keep it in the sunlight for spell #5
Just a couple minutes or so is fine.
Hello, for # 5, does it have to be on the exact date of the new moon or can it be a day after? It’ll be raining on the next new moon and there won’t be sunlight.
Also, for # 2, can the honey be agave nectar?
Hi Eli! Yes, #5 can totally be the day after. As for the agave, I would substitute organic sugar before agave nectar. Agave is sweet, but it’s not super romantic. Sugar is, though.
Thank you! Also, for #5 I could not find my rose quartz necklace so instead I blessed my rose quartz crystal and I wear it inside my bra. Does that work or do I need to do it over next new moon with a bracelet/necklace?
Can you do #2 on a New Moon. Would it have the same affect??
No, I would wait for the full moon.
Ok thank you. I will wait.
I have found a white magic love spell recently. I’m thinking about using it. The focus of the spell is not to force the person to love you, but that if they do have any sort of feelings towards you, it’ll make them somewhat stronger. There is no apprehension of free will, and it’s perfectly breakable simply by deciding they do not wanting to be with me. Is this okay?
Lura, if you’re not sure, a good rule of thumb is to ask yourself: would you want someone to cast this spell on you?
I think that I would not mind. The spell isn’t particularly strong, and only works if the target already harbors feelings. So even if I didn’t, I could break it simply by not being in love/saying no
Great! There’s your answer. 🙂
Can you share this spell?
Hey Tess,
Me and my ex broke up in Dec 2k18, due to an unfortunate bad incident.
We wanted eachother back but things got too ugly. Nevertheless i really want to get him back in my life, since he is denying to see through it and making things unrepairable, i want him to feel the love for me again, which he is trying to overcome, what spell can i use to make him look through me and us?
Sasha, it’s important that your intention is not to make him do anything (because I’m sure you would want him to choose to be with you on his own). When done with the intention for the best possible outcome for everyone concerned, spell #2 from this post would be a good idea for you.