Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
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2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
I did #5 on the last new moon, and I’m not sure if it’s working but this last week my ex & I have connected way better and we even hooked up and talk daily. Compared to hating each other and fighting like cats and dogs this was a big improvement.
Great to hear, Eli!
Full moon is on 19th feb at 10:53 am , should i start spell 2 at 10:53 am . Please suggest
You can do it Monday or Tuesday.
If February’s full moon is at its peak in the early morning, is it fine to do #2 the night before?
Yes.
Tessa i really want cody ray slaughter this elvis Presley impersonator to start getting to know me better i met him after his concert on January 26th i recently stopped a instagram account and found his girlfriend by accident on Instagram she wasn’t happy that i like cody but to me she’s too young and too good looking for him im crying my self to sleep because I want to be with him
Evangeline, I don’t recommend working magic on a specific person. Instead, do a love spell to meet someone perfect for you. Please trust me that it’s much better that way. Here’s a whole post about why love spells on specific people are always a bad idea: https://tesswhitehurst.com/why-you-should-not-do-a-love-spell-on-a-specific-person/
Hi Tess,
Thanks for these suggestions. I fell for a man with whom I had been friends for some time before. We began a romantic relationship that ended abruptly when he expressed his fear of truly committing to me, for fear of hurting me. We have attempted to go back to being dear, close friends, however our romantic and artistic connection is palpable, and we have occasionally fallen into one another again, which is alternately wonderful and painful for both of us. I sought the advice of a tarot reader who, without more information than our names, confirmed my intuition that there existed great love between us and that a romantic relationship would be for both of our greater good, but also that something was blocking him energetically, causing him to feel the urge to run (my sense is a particular romantic trauma that he was forced to revisit just before our romance ended). It seems to me that several of these spells may be relevant to our situation, but would you reccomend one over another? Is it advisable to perform multiple spells? Thanks for your insight!
Francis, I would start with #2 and see what happens.
Hey Tess!
I know the instructions are very clear but I just wanted to make sure…I used spell #3 but I performed it only with almond oil coz I couldn’t find ylang ylang or sandalwood oil. I also performed it at day and not a moon night. And then took a shower right after. But I did say the words perfectly and followed the other instructions properly too.
Do u think the spell is most likely not to work?
And I also wanted to know on how long would it last and I wouldn’t want anyone to get obsessed with me.
Jade, how did you feel? Did it feel successful when you did it? It should last 1-7 days and won’t cause negative effects. If you do it again, I’d look for the essential oil and do it at night.
It did feel successful when I did it but it’s been 6 days now and there seems to be no reaction of it. I’ll certainly try it again with the essential oil.
Thank you !