Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
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2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
There is this guy that when I first saw him I knew he was the one, I just felt it. At first all of the signs and coincidences happnened. So took my shot but he seemed intrested in other things. So I’ve been patient and waited and nothing has happened yet. What should I do?
Jasmine, I’d do spell #1 from this post. That way, you’ll attract this guy OR someone even better for you. Be sure you leave the identity of the person up to the Universe for best results.
Hey There,
I have question me and my girlfriend sometimes get into misunderstanding. Me and her broke up like 3 weeks. We been together for 2 years and really loved each other! Now she saying I don’t want anything to do with you but inside my heart it tells me that she still loves even though she saying this! I asked few Astrologers They all saying she does! She having ego and been really stubborn. So to conclusion When I asked for second chance she said you never get a second change with me. Which spell can I use ? I just want her back if she honestly love me from her heart and fix things. I don’t want to mess up anyone’s life. But from my heart it feels like she’s being getting pressured by someone else
Hi Jay! I suggest spell #2 from this post.
Thank you so much for feedback. I will do this and when do think I will get a answer ? Some even say that some other guy talking negative about me that’s why she making this decision!
Hi there,
What should I do with the jar and mixture from the heal a relationship spell afterwards.
Should I keep it, bury it or something else.
Thank you xx
Keep it for a month or so, possibly on your altar, then rinse it out and recycle.
Thank you x
Hi Tess,
So im not really positive on what im suppose to do. Long story short i had a man eho fought for me for 9 months, we became best friends and inseperable. But i pushed him away constantly because i was so scared to be hurt and didnt let my wall down (ive had a very bad past before him). I pushed too much last week but at the same time didnt want it… i realised when it was too late that i wanted to be with him because i finally found a way to break down my wall and heal after my rose quartz. However, now he feels so numb in life and doesnt know how he feels about anything. He’s been chatting to someone else and she has a crush on him just over messages (i know this because she wrote to me), but then at times as much as i know i probably have no chance, theres moments where i have him back again (told me he loved me back, being intimate, messaging alot etc). He’s lost as a person because his a sensitive soul and words have hurt him. He said after 9 months ive completely changed my mind so its shocked him and now that he can have me he doesnt want to go into anything when his not 100% sure about himself, he wants to heal. It kills, i dont know what to do. His the most genuine man and for 9 months he never once abandoned me… now i feel his almost gone. Is there a safe spell that could heal him and bring back his love for me. This man is perfect for my kids and i.
Hi Tiana! I suggest spell #2 or 5 from this post. Of course, when you respect the free will of others, you can’t make them come back to you. But setting the intention for the highest good of all concerned is always the best option anyway. That way, if it is best for everyone, it will happen.
Thanks Tess. Will give it a try..does it have to be a full moon, i havent seen alot lately?
Tiana, it’s a full moon this Friday.
Yes because he is forced…He really loves me…