Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
Tiffini Scott says
I am thinking about using #2 to help speed up my connection with the guy I am interested in. We have been hanging out for 2 years and we pretty much act like we are in a relationship and hang out every weekend and have a great vibe. But I think he is scared of commitment. I am hoping this will speed up the process and finally get us together. Hopefully, but then again I’m scared it will push hin away and I will lose him. This would be the right one to use, right?
But my main questions is I’m terrfied of fire. Including matches and candles. My question is do you have to use a real candle or can it be a battery tea light?
Tess Whitehurst says
In your case, I would definitely use a battery tea light. We don’t want to add terror into the mix. And yes, this could be a good choice if this is the spell that calls to you most. Be sure your intention is for whatever is best for you and everyone concerned. That way, whatever happens, you can trust it is right. After all, he may be perfect for your right now, but there may be someone even better for you who won’t come into your life until you create the space. It’s always best to work magic with the best possible outcome as the intention.
Emara says
Hi Tess,
Thank you for providing these alternative love spells. I’ve been wanting to do one for a while but hesitated because of the common morality issue of controlling a person’s free will. I want to ask about your input about a situation and which spell to conduct. I had a relationship with my ex who prior to dating was my best friend of 5 years. The relationship ended due to my insecurities and external factors, and while I am aware that the relationship was not the strongest, I’ve been focusing on my self esteem and become a better veraion of myself, and the external factors have changed. I still love her, and yet I also am afraid of backsliding and rejection if I were to bring up my interest in starting a new relationship. It’s been 5 months since the break up, and I’m unsure if we are ready to talk. Would you suggest I perform 4 or 5?
Thank you, Tess.
Tess Whitehurst says
Emara, I think 5 would be best.
Anonymous says
I need your help? I have a crush, who is amazing person but she has a boyfriend. She doesn’t want him but she with him for now. Which spell should I use to dump him and he with me.
Tess Whitehurst says
Hi! I don’t recommend doing a spell for the purpose you described. Please read this entire post and make your decision on how to proceed based on what you read.
Julia says
Hi Tess! Firstly, thank you so much for what you do! I am just beginning to embrace and come into what I call my “witchy ways”, lol, and stumbling upon your website has been soooooo amazingly insightful and helpful. I just had to write to tell you what happened when I did spell #2 and to possibly get your insights on it. I had printed out a picture of myself and my high school ex boyfriend- I won’t go too much into the details, basically I had reconnected with my high school love, we had an intense couple of weeks, and then he let me know he wasn’t ready to jump into another relationship with anyone since he’d just very recently been broken up with by someone else he loved deeply. I was devastated, and that’s when I started looking up love spells, and thank the Universe I found you, lol. Anyway, I let the spell jar sit from one full moon to the next, then decided it was time to let all my attachments to him go since he hadn’t contacted me at all during that time (and I’ve been doing a lot of inner work on myself and just feel better about it as a whole). Here’s the interesting part- when I pulled out the picture, the entire top half of his head/face was erased away! Looking at the picture, nobody would have known it was a picture of him. The rest of the photo remained in whole. I feel like the Universe was possibly telling me that my soulmate/life partner isn’t him and that it’s likely someone I don’t know yet… What do you think? 🙂 I plan to do spell #1 on Friday the 31st of this month, and I also did #5 on the last new moon and have been wearing my bracelet every day, only taking it off to shower or bathe. 🙂
Tess Whitehurst says
Julia, it sounds like your intuition is not steering you wrong. I congratulate you on your boundaries and on listening to your inner guidance.
lipglossgal says
Hi Tess,
I wanted to do spell #1 but forgot to get a red and a pink rose. Is that absolutely necessary? Or would it work without?
Tess Whitehurst says
Spells are all about intention, feeling, and belief. That being said, roses can really help with all three of those because they vibrate at a very high level and resonate with the frequency of the heart.