Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
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2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
Tess,
I was happily involved with a gentleman for six months. We had what I thought was an amazing connection. We would sit and talk about our days, relax and were vulnerable with one another about our past relationships. Then he broke it off to go back to an unhealthy relationship. When he broke up with me ~ he was crying and I could tell it was hard on him. I told him “I would miss him and I will always care about him, and I was grateful for the time we had together. I wished him all the best.” He said Thank you. I was wondering if completing spell number five would help all of us ~ me, him and her heal? I know this may seem odd, but I want the best for all parties involved. Everyone to be healed and happy, not just me.
Ahviya, yes: that is absolutely the best approach, and the one I would recommend.
Tess,
I did spell number five on the New Moon. Since then, I have noticed a lot of articles about strong independent women and how to love them; how to love a woman whose been to hell and back and no less than ten articles on how to heal. I was wondering if Inshould take these signs as a sign that he and I will never be together again? We haven’t spoken since the breakup although mutual friends tell me that he is miserable. How long does spell number five take and should I repeat it during the next full moon. It seems as though my feelings have increased for him instead of fading away for the best possible outcome for all of us. The thought of facing him makes me physically ill.
Healing and being strong/independent can only help any relationship you may enter into in the future, whether it’s with this person or with someone else. I’d focus on following the guidance you’re receiving about healing and being independent. Take excellent care of yourself and have compassion for yourself. No need to repeat the spell. Instead, let go of attachment to outcome and see what unfolds.
Tess:
Thank you so much for your guidance. Have a great weekend.
Hi Tess! I’m in love with someone who i’m not sure loves me the same way. we tell each other that we love each other, and i’ve been monogamous with him for the better part of a year, but he still wants to be intimate with other people and doesn’t want a serious/defined relationship. he’s my best friend and i love him unconditionally, but it’s breaking my heart a bit to know he probably just doesn’t reciprocate my intense feelings. or maybe it’s simply that we’re young (21) and he doesnt want to feel tied down. but i don’t want to tie him down, i want to love him and lift him up! what do you suggest?
Zoie, I admire your unconditional love. It does sound like his decisions about being intimate with other people don’t feel right to you. I suggest loving yourself enough to set boundaries. If he respects them, that’s great, and if he doesn’t, that’s fine too, but I don’t suggest staying with him if it isn’t the type of relationship you’re looking for. You might check out the spell suggestions at the bottom of this post to see if something resonates with you.
I performed the best possible outcome spill during the Winter Solstice full moon and almost every night since then, I’ve dreamed about my ex boyfriend. I don’t know how to fake this. He has several things to work on and I don’t see us being together any time soon. Should I do the spell again? What could these dress ams mean? I am not communicating with him because it’s to heartbreaking.
Bea, I’d give it some more time to see what unfolds. Maybe do a tarot or oracle reading to gain insight into the dreams.
Good Afternoon All,
I seek out an answer to a complex problem. I will attempt to keep this as short as possible. This summer my partner spiraled out of control suddenly and without warning. Things became terrible and we separated. While we were separated I was so angry and I wanted to find love and passion that I had been missing in my life. Yet, I didn’t do anything, I didn’t do any spell. I repressed it all.
Then one night while I was sleeping I had a dream. In my dream I made a plea to the Goddess Freya to bring me my lover, my true mate into my life. I woke up feeling the effects of a spell and I knew that I had repressed the desire so deep, that it burst out of me violently.
Then everywhere on Instagram and Pinterest I started seeing (for the first time) posts about Twin Flames. I ignored it (Obviously). Then I met someone, and he set my soul on fire! He had shaken my world up and there will always be a before and an after of him. However, we no longer talk, as the situation between us all is very confusing and complicated.
During the months him and I were talking. I got into a fight and cut off a toxic friendship with this girl I had known for 10 years. As soon as I did that, my spouse and I life and relationship improved almost overnight.
My relationship with my husband is back on track and things are looking up. I no longer talk to my twin flame and I know I shouldn’t, but I still miss him. I want to heal my marriage and move on, did someone (my former friend?) put a spell on my husband and can you really do a spell in your sleep? This is not the first time I have dreamt of Freya. What should I do to let go of my twin flame? He still wants me in his life, but he doesn’t think it’s healthy for me. So he cut it off, due to my mental health and now he is just done with me. This makes me very sad, yet I understand and respect him and his wishes.
Lots of questions! Any advice would be helpful.
Thank you all!! Blessed Be!
Rebecca, I’m glad your relationship with your husband is back on track since that’s what it sounds like you want. I am not sensing that anyone put a spell on your husband. You can certainly connect with Divine energies in your sleep and that’s what it sounds like you did. If you’re confused about any aspect of your relationship or former relationship, I suggest speaking with a therapist, alone or with your partner.
Hello Tess, first of all, thank you for everything you share with us.
I have this situation.
My current partner and I always have ups and downs in our relationship. I really want to fix this issue between us. I did spell #2 everything goes great after that. I still gave this mixture in the jar with a picture. I am curious can I repeat it again when its full moon? and how I am supposed to do it? Do not open the jar leave everything as it is and just say a spell or wash away current mixture and put fresh one with a new picture or the same picture?
Thank you very much!
Hi Anna! If everything is going great, there’s no need to repeat the process. If you do repeat it, just follow your intuition about what to do with the previous jar.