Are you thinking of magicking someone into loving you? Don’t! Here’s why you shouldn’t do a love spell on a specific person, and what to do instead.
“Whom you seek to imprison you do not love.”
~ A Course in Miracles
Look, I know it can be tempting.
But casting a love spell on a specific person is not only unethical, it will also very likely totally suck for you in the long run.
Of course, if you’re in the throes of limerence, it may be difficult to imagine what could possibly suck so much about the person you’re crushing on feeling the same way about you. Well then, let me paint you some pictures.
Do love spells work? Yes. And can you cast a love spell to attract someone awesome? Absolutely. But just don’t cast a love spell on a specific person.
Here’s why: ultimately, when you do a love spell on a specific person, there are no good outcomes. Rather, there are three main ways it could go very wrong.
(For everything you need to know about the dynamics of ethical and successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.)
The First Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
You know that what you send out energetically always comes back to you in some form, right? So in this scenario, when you cast the love spell, you cast it on yourself, too. That spell flies right back at you like a boomerang. So now, you both become magically, unnaturally obsessed with the other. Then you get into a really sticky, codependent, basically awful relationship. Maybe it involves violence. At the very least it involves emotional abuse, because overriding someone else’s free will is in itself a form of emotional abuse. So you put that in the mix when you did the spell, and now it’s there. And you’re stuck in the mire of that love spell like a swamp. Any healthy, fun, beautiful relationships you may have had aren’t even a possibility anymore, at least until you do some major magical damage control and extricate yourself from this mess. So don’t do it!
The Second Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
In this scenario, you cast a love spell on a specific person, and that person indeed appears to fall hopelessly in love with you. And…darn: now that they’re acting so foolish, they’re not attractive to you anymore. In addition to making this person miserable, now they also won’t leave you alone. Not to mention, as in scenario 1 (above), since you overrode some else’s free will by casting a spell on them, you’re going to have to deal with some karmic backlash.
The Third Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
The best case scenario, but still a bad one, is that you cast a spell on someone, and that unlucky someone successfully resists the magical pull to enter into a relationship with you. But your spell still boomerangs back and hits you, so you pine for this person much longer than you otherwise would have. You’ve now cast a spell of unhappiness on yourself. Until it wears off or the spell is successfully broken, this presents a challenge to your moods, your ability to focus, and any other romantic relationships you are (or may have otherwise been) involved with.
What to Do Instead of Casting a Love Spell on Someone
As I mentioned above, you can still do a love spell! Just not a love spell on a specific person.
You can’t go wrong when you do a spell to draw ideal romantic conditions and leave the actual person up to the universe. Because if the object of your affection happens to be an ideal partner for you right now, your spell might end up working on them after all! …But if it doesn’t, that just means someone even more perfect for you is on his or her way. So there’s obviously no question that this is the way to go.
If you liked this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
Looking for an ethical love spell? Way to go – good choice! Here are some to choose from:
5 Karma-Friendly Alternatives to Putting a Love Spell on Someone
Love Spell to Attract a Divine Partner
ok magic and ethics, you mean ethics base on to systems of moral values based on a Christian view. the real magic is to explore the unknown with an open mind .there is no good and bad just life. this the bull I am tired of seeing this hippie crap from you so call witches true magic is to help you get what you want love or lust it all lie for true is the oldest lie. that the likes of your kind has to help spread. this is a trick to get people hook on your self-righteousness craps when you don’t know. because you are too afraid to understand life.real magic involves the unknown ethics will keep you alone
Hi Tess,
Like a lot of writers here I’ve recently experienced a lost love. We dated for 6 months and it was the best relationship I’ve ever been in. We were so in love and happy. Recently our arguments became frequent and oit of nowhere he wpuld blow up at me. The last argument went too far and he broke up with me. As a result, i took things too far and said some unforgivable things to him. We were best friends and he could never forgive me. I was looking for a love spell, but i think his sister, who is a witch cast a spell to break us up. Is there a spell for him to forgive me? Also, i know you said no love spells. Would one in this situation backfire? Also, is there a spell for making him forgive me and speak to me again?
Hi Lexie! Is there a spell from this post that appeals to you? https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
Hi Tess,
I really like the second spell here. I’m hoping it does the trick and fixes what was wrong. So just to clarify, that spell should be done at a full moon? Also, would you be able to recommend anyone that could do a tarot reading?
Thank you again,
Lexie
Hi Lexie! Yes, do that one on a full moon. As for tarot readings, yes! Check out the intuitive counselors whom I have personally trained. Some of them do tarot: https://tesswhitehurst.com/about/sessions/
I need help. I don’t if you can or give advice but i got a love spell from a black magic shaman a few years back. It worked on the guy I loved. Even though he didn’t treat me the greatest, I still wanted to be with him. It worked he got with me.
We had a kids, he ended up being the main breadwinner of the family while i was a stay at home mom for years. I would do everything, cook, clean, Everything for the kids, even if i was sick or pregnant, he would still want things from me but not help much. I gained a lot of weight, i felt like i was going no where even though i was proud of raising and educating my kids.
Our marriage wasn’t even romantic in fact nothing has really been, we got married for money reasons, we were fighting around then and i didn’t feel right about going through but I did and i didn’t even want to take his last name.
But sure there was good times, he did some romantic things after i nagged and I do love and care for him but the years of neglect due to his gaming addiction and unromantic, unhelpful behavior when it comes to anything besides work, took their tole. Last year around this time i started making changes for myself.
I lost a lot of weight, i started looking better and feeling better about myself i finally got a part time job that doesn’t take too much time in the evenings. I felt like i was doing something for myself for once when I never have before.
I met someone during work and had feelings that led me astray. I felt bad but I just felt I needed their attention. I loved it. I loved that someone so beautiful could look at me and think the same when I’ve felt so down on myself and so neglected. But even this person neglects me and seems to just see me as a sexual object.
My husband has always kept me on a short leash over the years. He doesn’t like when I’m out with my girl friends, he doesn’t like when i take too long at stores in his opinion, he has blown up my phone numerous times and accused me even as a stay at home mom of sleeping around but he says it more in valvular ways. I’ve always been accused of stuff i never did. It only happened recently with the person i met at work. But for almost a decade i did nothing wrong.
Now he’s lost since he dug through my phone and found out. He argues with me constantly. In front of the kids blowing up my phone with messages, during my work, when he’s at work, 3-4 in the morning and when he gets home and I’m about to go to work. He makes everything about sex, he wants more and more almost everyday, i feel forced so much, he has before but this is different, it feels violating and degrading the way he just grabs me in my private’s constantly, more than before, if i don’t do what he wants he becomes a tyrant. He stomps he bangs things, he yells, he’s angry, he does it infront of the kids and when they’re sleeping.
He doesn’t like to be denied, those are his words and that if i don’t comply he will be like that. It got so bad that he mentally breaks me down till i give into things i don’t want to do and are against. Nasty things in my opinion. To the point where I’m being harassed and marital raped. All because he found out i was talking to and attracted to someone at work. I put locks on all my phone and media because he was digging through it reading, obsessing, he questions anything constantly, he goes crazy that i kicked my phone and always asks me who I’m talking to and what about angerly, he put a video cam in my car to watch everywhere i go. He watches the videos and questions things. He doesn’t like when i hang and talk to my friends at all.
I’ve been going to a therapist and she says i need to get out, it’s escalating, I’m now on antidepressants.
I don’t know what to do I already sought help from the same caster. I just don’t know if it’s enough help. He isn’t getting better, he’s only happy now because i gave him the sexual advances he’s been harassing me about again. He also knows I’m pretty much out the door, so he does this but he always goes back to his dictator ways.
I read how it can go wrong in number one and number two of your posts. It seems that’s what’s happening. I’m being punished and emotionally and sexually abused. I feel so lost, drained and i don’t know what to do. I feel like i want out and to find myself but he is so attached to me and won’t let me go. I don’t want to have a bad relationship with him if it ends. We have kids, i want a good relationship even if we aren’t together. I don’t see how i can get past what he’s done to me and keeps doing. He blames me for everything. He’s a narcissist and it’s always my fault.
I read your post and i know it is all my fault. I asked for this person and now i don’t know how to be set free. I don’t know how to end this on a good note. To make up for me being so lonely at the time, stupid and forcing someone against their will to love me because i wanted their love so bad because i was so distraught and lonely. I don’t have good support system when it comes to my family. I’ve cut them off for always being against me and not hearing my side and agreeing with him.
It’s really just me and a handful of others that have my back. But in the end i have to fix this some how. I don’t know how. To unbind? To cleanse? What if the love spell is too strong? I just don’t know. I just want to fix our lives. My bad karma. I don’t want to hurt him even though he’s hurt me. I know it’s my fault but i have to have a respectful relationship for the sake of my kids but i don’t think I can have a marriage with him anymore. He always goes back and i can’t ask for someone to fix his behavior for me to love. I don’t want to make more mistakes. I just want help to unbind this peacefully and some how make up for my wrong and my bad karma. I’m sorry this was long, i Just wanted as much details out there to see if there is a way to fix this. Thank you
I suggest contacting Sen Elias at Crescent City Conjure and letting him know what’s going on. See if he can help you release the spells and the husband, and protect your energy. Here’s his site: https://crescentcityconjure.us/
I can’t seem to get a hold of him. I tried there email for that site but i haven’t heard anything back. Is there a specific email for him?
It looks like this is the product you want from his site: https://crescentcityconjure.us/collections/spiritual-services/products/uncrossing-spell-work
Persoanally I think you are a very sick person to use any kind of spell on someone find God and you will find true love and happiness that’s meant for YOU!!!!
Boo to you