Are you thinking of magicking someone into loving you? Don’t! Here’s why you shouldn’t do a love spell on a specific person, and what to do instead.
“Whom you seek to imprison you do not love.”
~ A Course in Miracles
Look, I know it can be tempting.
But casting a love spell on a specific person is not only unethical, it will also very likely totally suck for you in the long run.
Of course, if you’re in the throes of limerence, it may be difficult to imagine what could possibly suck so much about the person you’re crushing on feeling the same way about you. Well then, let me paint you some pictures.
Do love spells work? Yes. And can you cast a love spell to attract someone awesome? Absolutely. But just don’t cast a love spell on a specific person.
Here’s why: ultimately, when you do a love spell on a specific person, there are no good outcomes. Rather, there are three main ways it could go very wrong.
(For everything you need to know about the dynamics of ethical and successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.)
The First Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
You know that what you send out energetically always comes back to you in some form, right? So in this scenario, when you cast the love spell, you cast it on yourself, too. That spell flies right back at you like a boomerang. So now, you both become magically, unnaturally obsessed with the other. Then you get into a really sticky, codependent, basically awful relationship. Maybe it involves violence. At the very least it involves emotional abuse, because overriding someone else’s free will is in itself a form of emotional abuse. So you put that in the mix when you did the spell, and now it’s there. And you’re stuck in the mire of that love spell like a swamp. Any healthy, fun, beautiful relationships you may have had aren’t even a possibility anymore, at least until you do some major magical damage control and extricate yourself from this mess. So don’t do it!
The Second Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
In this scenario, you cast a love spell on a specific person, and that person indeed appears to fall hopelessly in love with you. And…darn: now that they’re acting so foolish, they’re not attractive to you anymore. In addition to making this person miserable, now they also won’t leave you alone. Not to mention, as in scenario 1 (above), since you overrode some else’s free will by casting a spell on them, you’re going to have to deal with some karmic backlash.
The Third Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
The best case scenario, but still a bad one, is that you cast a spell on someone, and that unlucky someone successfully resists the magical pull to enter into a relationship with you. But your spell still boomerangs back and hits you, so you pine for this person much longer than you otherwise would have. You’ve now cast a spell of unhappiness on yourself. Until it wears off or the spell is successfully broken, this presents a challenge to your moods, your ability to focus, and any other romantic relationships you are (or may have otherwise been) involved with.
What to Do Instead of Casting a Love Spell on Someone
As I mentioned above, you can still do a love spell! Just not a love spell on a specific person.
You can’t go wrong when you do a spell to draw ideal romantic conditions and leave the actual person up to the universe. Because if the object of your affection happens to be an ideal partner for you right now, your spell might end up working on them after all! …But if it doesn’t, that just means someone even more perfect for you is on his or her way. So there’s obviously no question that this is the way to go.
If you liked this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
Looking for an ethical love spell? Way to go – good choice! Here are some to choose from:
5 Karma-Friendly Alternatives to Putting a Love Spell on Someone
Love Spell to Attract a Divine Partner
Simple Sandalwood and Rose Love Spell
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Hi my name is jessie i have some questions about the love spells ive been putting love spells on my crush he doesnt like me ive been using heaps of love spells on him everyday and night. everytime ive been doing them i feel werid and stuff is that normal i also get headaches to when i do them. I dont know if this dangeous for me or the person im casting spells on. Im always constanly thinking about him its hard to stop. When im around him i feel werid and stuff inside me. Is it bad that i keep putting theses spells on him i dont know how it really all works before its my first time doing this stuff.
Hi Jessie! As I discussed in this post, I don’t recommend putting love spells on specific people, so I suggest that you don’t continue along that path. To begin to clear any challenging energies you may have set in motion, I suggest the Selenite and White Sage Cure from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/ .
I was homeless in santa cruz CA. I met this girl, she was a drug dealer and we kind of sparked together. She goes by squat and wears contacts and camps in some creepy and what i consider cursed places. I was walking down a highway one day and i heard a baby crying down the side of a dirt hill so I shouted out her name Squat. No answer. I think somewhere in my immature mind at the time it could have belonged to somebody and i thought it was mine. Thinking back i think it had something to do with the general “AURA” of santa cruz itself. I hope to hear a reply from you because i find this interesting.
Interesting! Of all the towns I’ve been to, Santa Cruz is one of the most haunted. In my opinion, there is some sort of portal there for sure.
Hi Tess, I’m hoping you might be able to help me please. About 12 years ago when I was a silly teenager, I had a ‘teenage witch spellbook’ and did a very simple love/attraction spell on a boy I felt strongly about (just involved a candle and his name on a piece of paper). He had feelings for me before the spell, but it just wasn’t happening. We then got together for a couple of years and broke up. Years later, I still feel an inexplicable attachment to him and think it could be a result of my stupid actions (which I very much regret, now being older and wiser). I have no knowledge of witchcraft at all – is there anything I can do to undo what I did? Thank you so much.
Hi Hollie! Sure, I suggest the Lemon Cure from this post. (I know what you’re experiencing is not the result of a hex or a curse, but it’s acting on your energy in a similar way.) https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/
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I am from India. I had been married for 10 years. Got recently divorced. I miss my husband a lot. I am not sure if his mother put a spell on him or influenced him a lot. My in-laws stayed with us. We would always fight a lot. Also I experienced lot of anger in my mother in laws presence. Usually I am not a very angry person.
I really want my husband back can you help me.
Pooja, I’m so sorry to hear about your heartbreak! I don’t suggest doing a spell to get him back. What I do suggest is clearing all your clutter from everywhere in your house (if you have any) and doing this meditation or one like it daily: https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/ . It’s always a good idea to get in your most positive possible energetic momentum and to see what arises from that.
Hi Tess
Thanks for you reply.
I love him a lot and felt safe with him. How do I suggest I get back with him. I have not spoken to him over a month.
Pooja, I suggest focusing on yourself right now as mentioned in my previous comment. Everything is connected and clearing yourself and your home will create the space for the most positive conditions possible.