Are you thinking of magicking someone into loving you? Don’t! Here’s why you shouldn’t do a love spell on a specific person, and what to do instead.
“Whom you seek to imprison you do not love.”
~ A Course in Miracles
Look, I know it can be tempting.
But casting a love spell on a specific person is not only unethical, it will also very likely totally suck for you in the long run.
Of course, if you’re in the throes of limerence, it may be difficult to imagine what could possibly suck so much about the person you’re crushing on feeling the same way about you. Well then, let me paint you some pictures.
Do love spells work? Yes. And can you cast a love spell to attract someone awesome? Absolutely. But just don’t cast a love spell on a specific person.
Here’s why: ultimately, when you do a love spell on a specific person, there are no good outcomes. Rather, there are three main ways it could go very wrong.
(For everything you need to know about the dynamics of ethical and successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.)
The First Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
You know that what you send out energetically always comes back to you in some form, right? So in this scenario, when you cast the love spell, you cast it on yourself, too. That spell flies right back at you like a boomerang. So now, you both become magically, unnaturally obsessed with the other. Then you get into a really sticky, codependent, basically awful relationship. Maybe it involves violence. At the very least it involves emotional abuse, because overriding someone else’s free will is in itself a form of emotional abuse. So you put that in the mix when you did the spell, and now it’s there. And you’re stuck in the mire of that love spell like a swamp. Any healthy, fun, beautiful relationships you may have had aren’t even a possibility anymore, at least until you do some major magical damage control and extricate yourself from this mess. So don’t do it!
The Second Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
In this scenario, you cast a love spell on a specific person, and that person indeed appears to fall hopelessly in love with you. And…darn: now that they’re acting so foolish, they’re not attractive to you anymore. In addition to making this person miserable, now they also won’t leave you alone. Not to mention, as in scenario 1 (above), since you overrode some else’s free will by casting a spell on them, you’re going to have to deal with some karmic backlash.
The Third Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
The best case scenario, but still a bad one, is that you cast a spell on someone, and that unlucky someone successfully resists the magical pull to enter into a relationship with you. But your spell still boomerangs back and hits you, so you pine for this person much longer than you otherwise would have. You’ve now cast a spell of unhappiness on yourself. Until it wears off or the spell is successfully broken, this presents a challenge to your moods, your ability to focus, and any other romantic relationships you are (or may have otherwise been) involved with.
What to Do Instead of Casting a Love Spell on Someone
As I mentioned above, you can still do a love spell! Just not a love spell on a specific person.
You can’t go wrong when you do a spell to draw ideal romantic conditions and leave the actual person up to the universe. Because if the object of your affection happens to be an ideal partner for you right now, your spell might end up working on them after all! …But if it doesn’t, that just means someone even more perfect for you is on his or her way. So there’s obviously no question that this is the way to go.
If you liked this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
Looking for an ethical love spell? Way to go – good choice! Here are some to choose from:
5 Karma-Friendly Alternatives to Putting a Love Spell on Someone
Love Spell to Attract a Divine Partner
Hi, I’ve been reading comments and I feel this would be a great place to receive advice on my situation if possible… I’ve been dating this guy on and off for 4 years. He’s the love of my life, in the beginning it started so sweetly and innocently. He was involved so we decided to just be friends. Then, he decided to break it off, so we made it official. So his ex, whom he had kids with, found out I was the reason he broke it off. She decided to get revenge I think she put spells on him. He started acting real negatively and then would leave abruptly to go back to her. I was distraught so I seeked psychic advice I was informed she did put spells on him. So then I In a desperate attempt to get him back, cast a love spell as well as a break up spell. And he returned and vice versa. So it’s been ongoing the duration of our relationship. Now he’s back there and I’ve heard the negative enegies took him back and he also left in the same way as always.. Each time he leaves he acts real strange towards me in the beginning and then it fades and he usually returns to me after. Now we’re still communicating daily, still deeply love each other and are preparing to be together but he lives with her and wants to leave but it’s like he’s stuck and still acting strangely. I can never speak bad about her. If I do he becomes enraged. I can barely even bring her up. Is it the spell and I’m wondering what can I do?
Hello! I know this might not sound too great to you at the moment, but I highly suggest #4 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/ – it won’t mean you will cut the cords of love between you, and it also won’t mean that it will never work out. It will just mean that for now, you will separate your energy from his. The relationship is not healthy, and the only chance it has of getting that way is if you (personally) separate your energy and get healthy on your own. To remove the effects of the love spell you put on him, I also recommend the Selenite and White Sage Cure from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/ (I know it wasn’t a hex or a curse, but you can still cleanse its effects using this cure.)
Hi Tess,
Thanks for your post, very insightful!
So my issue is this: my husband of 5 years left me for another woman. Granted, there were issues but I invested so much in this , I wanted us to work. We’re currently separated but still married. In a desperate attempt to get back I casted a love spell as well as a break up spell (my husband and new girl) . But I never used any materials like candles or rituals or ingredients; the cast was from a website on the internet. I’m not sure how affective that is or if it’s also just as powerful as using materials? If it is, what can I do to undo this? And instead what can I do to solely focus on my own self, heal, and find happiness and love again?
Could you please shed some insight on my situation? Thanks for your time.
Daisy, I applaud your change of heart! Wonderful questions. I suggest doing the Selenite and White Sage Cure from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/ . After that, check out this post for some ideas for what to do next: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
How do I know if there’s a love spell that has been cast on me or any kind of spell that has been cast on me?
Please let me know
Thank you
How do I know if there’s a love spell that has been cast on me or any kind of spell that has been cast on me?
Thank you
Hi….. I’m currently doing a love spell on my ex….. I know it maybe wrong and I believe it’s woeking to some degree, but my question is I now know that he’s seeing his child’s mother that in the past didn’t care too much about her two psychics have told me that he doesn’t love her but he loves me a lot and the only reason he’s with her is bc I kicked him out the house, but my question is could it be possible that she has a love spell on him to? And if so who would get him? Right now he’s with her from what I can see? But how does it work if you have an active love spell over someone else’s love spell…. the reason why I think it maybe a live spell because of strange behaviors towards me.
Hi Blossom. The strange behavior is likely because of the love spell you have on him. I highly recommend rescinding it. Instead, please check out this post, and read the entire thing from the beginning: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/