Before you mess up your karma by cursing or hexing someone, try one of these safer, more elegant options instead.
If you just searched “How to curse someone,” or “How to hex someone,” read this first.
I mean, I get it. Someone hurt you. Someone did you wrong, and it is so, so, so infuriating and unfair.
It seems your options for doing something about it in the physical world are so painfully limited, you feel almost irresistibly compelled to direct your considerable personal power toward causing them harm.
Believe me, I’ve been there. And I’ve even done that. And I don’t recommend it.
In my regrettable experience, karmic backlash in response to curses and hexes is a real thing. And it’s just not worth it.
But, hey listen: you have options. Whether you want to hex your ex, a neighborhood bully, your boss, or anyone else, the five alternatives below will provide valuable magical recourse without endangering your own energy, sanity, and general wellbeing.
Each and every one of them is spiritually and karmically safe.
Hex/Curse Alternative #1: Reflect All Energy Back to Its Source
A traditional feng shui cure for dealing with challenging neighbors involves nothing but a mirror. It can be any mirror, of any size. Even a postage stamp-sized mirrored tile will do.
The idea is to place the mirror so that the reflective side is facing the neighbor’s house, and then simply set the (completely neutral) intention that the mirror reflect all energy – good, bad, or in between – directly back to its source.
Sending negative energy right back to its source is quite a bit tidier and more efficient than a hex or a curse. And karmically, it couldn’t be safer.
Usually the mirror is placed outside of the house, but apartment dwellers can place the reflective side against the wall, and hide it behind a picture or a sofa. If your issue is with your downstairs neighbors, you can place it reflective-side down on the floor, perhaps under a piece of furniture. If the upstairs folks are bothering you (and you want to employ this tactic), you would need to figure out a way to attach it to the ceiling, reflective-side up.
This same practice can be adapted for the workplace, or you can even wear a mirror pendant and set the intention that it reflect all energy back to a specific source.
The important thing is the intention. It doesn’t matter what size or shape the mirror is. It can be as big as an entire wall or – like I said – as tiny as a mirrored tile.
Hex/Curse Alternative #2: Cast a Protection Spell
When it comes right down to it, you are the one you most want to take care of in this situation.
And a hex or curse can have the unfortunate side effect of tying your energy to the person or people you most want to protect yourself from.
Luckily, there are plenty of spells that work wonderfully for protecting your physical and energetic wellbeing, without spiritually yoking you to someone you’d rather be rid of. (Although, as a common sense warming, let me remind you that it’s still important to take safety precautions in the physical world, such as locking your door and not getting in the car with strangers.)
Here’s a simple and effective spell for protecting your energy without taking on any energy from the person or group you’d like to protect yourself from:
Ingredients:
An Archangel Michael candle
Dragonsblood incense and incense holder
A lighter or matches
Essential oil of frankincense
Sunflower oil
A small bowl, shot glass, or saucer
Light the candle and incense. Say:
Archangel Michael, I call on you and invoke your protection. Please keep me completely safe in all ways, at all times. Please surround me in your fiery divine light through which no negativity may enter. Thank you.
Feel gratitude for Archangel Michael’s sure and steadfast protection as you place a tablespoon or so of sunflower oil in the small dish. Add one drop of frankincense essential oil and combine. Then lightly anoint your forehead, throat, heart, belly, and wrists with the oil.
Envision blindingly bright, fiery light completely surrounding your energy field and keeping all negativity at bay.
Finish by picking up the incense and holder and safely wafting the smoke around your body (and home if applicable).
Place the incense back near the candle and allow it to burn all the way out. Extinguish and re-light the candle when you can attend to it properly (as needed for fire safety purposes) until it’s burned all the way down.
Hex/Curse Alternative #3: Neutralize Someone’s Power Over You
In truth, no one has the power to cause you harm: legal, physical, financial, or otherwise. If it seems like they do, I want you to remember that it’s only an illusion.
Even if they’re your landlord, your boss, your ex, or your mother-in-law, once you remember how powerful you actually are, the other person’s seeming power over you will fall away.
Think of it like waking from a nightmare. This spell will act as your alarm clock.
Ingredients:
Sea salt or Himalayan pink salt
The other person’s business card, photo, or full name written on paper
A jar with a tightly-fitting lid
Fill the jar part way with sea salt. Hold the identifying paper in both hands and say,
[Name of person], you have no power over me.
What once seemed like power is now erased.
It’s erased yesterday, it’s erased today, it’s erased tomorrow.
It is null and void. It was never even there in the first place.
It now completely dissolves, dissipates, disappears, and returns to its native nothingness, now and forever, in all directions of time.
Place the card, photo, or name in the jar and completely surround it with sea salt by pouring it over the top and filling the remainder of the jar. Seal the lid. Feel your own power returning and remember how magical you actually are.
Keep the jar on a shelf or in a cupboard until you feel you no longer need the magical reminder.
Hex/Curse Alternative # 4: Bind Someone from Causing Harm
In addition to being spiritually and karmically safer, a binding spell is often much more appropriate than a hex or a curse anyway.
This is especially true if someone is behaving like a bully (in any sense of the word), and you simply want to stop them from causing harm. Here’s a blog post I wrote featuring three ways to bind a bully without harming your karma in the least.
Hex/Curse Alternative #5: Activate Swift Justice
Perhaps the person you wish you could hex or curse is actually doing something illegal, or has done something illegal. Lucky for us, there are divine helpers who just love enforcing swift and appropriate justice. The Norse god Forseti is a personal favorite to call on for the purpose.
Here’s a spell from my book, Holistic Energy Magic, to be used when you’re in a legal situation and you’re entirely in the right:
Call on Forseti. When you feel his powerful presence, send him gratitude in the form of visualized light. With or without words, show him the situation. You might picture the whole thing as if you’re picturing the storyline and emotions of a movie. Be sure to feel your feelings and project them to him as well. Imagine that you are illuminating the dark spaces and shining light on the true situation. Then ask Forseti to intervene on your behalf and bring you the justice that you deserve by saying:
Forseti, the presiding one,
Please stay with me till this thing’s done
Bring justice from your golden hall
Swiftly and once and for all.
I honor you with love and light
And thank you for your wisdom bright!
Feel even more gratitude, and be sure to heartily thank Forseti once justice has been served.
Don’t compound the problem by hexing or cursing someone! Take care of yourself safely and elegantly with one of these more karma-conscious options instead.
And for lasting protection against negativity of all varieties, check out my book, Little Guide to Protection Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Protection Spells.
You may also like The Good Witch’s Guide to Binding a Bully.
Do you plan to do one of these karma-friendly spells instead of a hex or a curse? Please share in the comments below.
Veronica says
Hello Tess….
This was made for me. I’ve been so upset for so long that I was seriously considering a hex.
I have a neighbor across the street. He semi recently moved in. We have a very quiet neighborhood…. we had…
The music he plays is deafening. I’ve done everything I could think of to adjust my lifestyle to drown out the noise, but one nights it’s impossible. And the element he brings…. feels unsafe.I dont even like my house anymore. It doesn’t feel like the refuge it was….
any further suggestions or maintenance that I should do.
Please help. I am at my wits end.
Tess Whitehurst says
Veronica, have you tried positioning a mirror so it’s facing toward his house? It could be on your front door or inside your house, as long as it’s facing in the direction of his house. Set the intention to reflect all his energy (good, bad, and in between) back his way. If you haven’t done that yet, try it and let me know what happens after a month.
Veronica says
Thank you so much!
I have done that, starting this morning as day 1. 😊
I’ll keep you posted.
Thank you so much for your response.
I’m looking forward to browsing and reading you site.
😊
Sincerely,
Veronica
Carrie says
Hi Tess, can I use the mirror spell to reflect negative energy back to a particular person? It states that it’s for a neighbour but the person that caused harm has moved away out of our lives yet their negative energy still lingers. Can I use a photo of the person to reflect the energy back to them? Thanks
I’m so glad I found your website, it’s fantastic
Tess Whitehurst says
Carrie, the second spell in this post might be a little closer to what you’re looking for: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-spells-for-transmuting-stuck-or-challenging-energy-7/
Also, thanks for the kind words about the site! Welcome.
Sonja says
Greetings! If you have a moment, I have a question. Would reflecting someone’s negative energy back at them three fold be considered a hex? I essentially cast protection around myself asking that any wicked or ill intent be reflected and returned to the sender three fold…. It was honestly a spur of the moment and somewhat instinctual reaction to one too many people being unnecessarily cruel and deeming to me. Now I’m thinking my frustration might of got the better of me ……
Tess Whitehurst says
Nah, I wouldn’t worry. I mean, magical ethics obviously vary depending on who you’re talking to, but as far as I’m concerned, that’s fair.
Andrea says
My husband has been cheating on me for pretty much the entirety of our relationship and also has a gambling addiction, putting us thousands of dollars in debt. I actually DID initially search out ways to curse him for all the destruction he has done to me. Now seeing this, I see a few other ways to try to handle it. Is there a way to do the mirror on him? So all negativity he projects at me goes back to him with out wearing a necklace? Do I put a mirror tile under the mattress? I know I need to do the neutralize power and binding from causing harm, but I basically need a fortress of protection around me because the potential and ability to completely destroy me right now is astronomical and there is nothing I can do to just “get out” of the situation I am in. No matter what I do, I will be destroyed. 🙁
Tess Whitehurst says
If you fear for your safety or wellbeing, I suggest contacting a hotline to help you extricate yourself from this situation, and in the meantime I would do the neutralization spell from this post. Still, I do not recommend relying on magic to protect your energy from someone you live with and are married to. Even if he has not physically hurt you, this might be helpful: https://www.thehotline.org
Kavitha says
Hi Tess. Due to family issues I had to break the 7 year year relation with my love and in that sorrow tried to casually date a guy. I couldn’t emotionally attach to him and couldn’t moveon so I patched up with my love. But this dint go well with he second guy and he started saying I’ll suffer as him ( apparantly he did this to another girl and her life was spoilt) at first my boy friend was hesitant to marry me but then agreed saying he can’t live without me. But the other guy kept on blackmailing me and cursing me and suddenly my boy friend started saying he can’t marry me and broke off relation. I was scared it’s because of his curse and searched for its removal. An astrologer said he will do vasikaran and bring my boy frnd back and made me do some activities, but he kept on asking money so I stopped it. A spell caster said he will bring my boy frnd back in 9 days, said he did work for 3 days and the old work is broken and asked me to burn those stuff. But said he dint receive money so he can’t proceed with the work. Now I’m not sure what to do with those items the first astorloger made me store, and if his work is truly broken, and what to do to bring my love back?? Please reply asap
Tess Whitehurst says
Kavitha, I understand that you want to bring your love back, but I’m not sure what you’re asking about as far as items the astrologer made you store? For the first question, please read these posts and let me know if you have any further questions: https://tesswhitehurst.com/why-you-should-not-do-a-love-spell-on-a-specific-person/ & https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/