Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
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2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
Hi Tess! I am just recently out of a relationship with a guy I fell hard for. I looked him in the eyes and could see exactly what would happen with us but I didn’t know why or how at first. We both supposedly loved one another but one day he just up and left. He wouldn’t open up to me about it. He admitted that he was afraid and not ready like he thought. But just recently I see he’s started seeing this other woman. I don’t think he loves her, I feel he’s just needy. I was told that he’s under a love spell but he actually wants to be with me but my bad energy has kept him away. What should I do?
Sika, I suggest cleansing the energy in your home and doing this cord cutting meditation: https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/
Thank you! I will give it a shot. I’m not sure if he’s actually under this love spell or even wants to be with me…or if I was scammed during my readings.
Yess I Tried #2 back in November and it’s was going perfectly fine for a while I thought we goin our separate ways , but lately I’ve been finding myself over thinking about him , I don’t want to miss or have feelings for someone who don’t feel the same
Hi Tess my husband of 21 years left December 5 2018. I have been very depressed since. We haven’t spoken since and he’s ignoring my text. We slowly grew apart mostly because I started pushing him away. Now that he’s gone I miss him so much and want him to return. I cry every day, not hungry and don’t have the energy to do anything. I read your post yesterday and decided to do the Mason jar spell. I now realized the full moon is not until I believe the 20th. Do I have to do it again on the 20th ? If so can I use the same jar and picture or do I have to start over. Or will it still work since yesterday was the start of a new moon. Please respond I’m falling apart and need some guidance. Thank you
Katherine, it’s my sense that you don’t need to do it again. Your spell was divinely timed.
Thank you so much Tess. I want to believe with all my heart that this will work , but I dont know what to do , and how much time is enough time to wait to see if it does work. If there is anything else I can try. Have a blessed day. And thank you because if anything after doing the spell I felt a sense of relief.
Katherine, wait a moon cycle and see how you feel (so until the next new moon on Feb 4). In the meantime, flower essences might be helpful. If they resonate with you, I’m getting that these might be great for you: https://laviedelarose.com/product/passion-and-purpose-solutions/
Can you recommend an alternative to sweet almond oil?
Sure: sunflower.
Hi Tess, I am a bit desperate. Not at all an obsessed desperation though. My partner and I try to stay together yet the moment we get back together the snowball effect takes place. He found ashes in a container under his pillow that was planted there by we suspect his ex wife. How can we “fix” this what seems to be a spell for him not to be happy with me? We are tired of arguing because we cant seem to get it together. We even tried blessing the house and the person told him there is someone who is preventing him from being happy with me. We have a child together and he misses his daddy but we cant be with him because of the fighting all the time. Can you help me with this please?
Johanna, I suggest the Lemon Cure from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/