Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
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2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
Hello Tess!
I have a huge crush on a young Lady at my job. She’s the only 1 who’s ever given me butterflies the second I see her. I’m not my normal laid back self around her. I freeze & don’t know what to say, I get very anxious & nervous.
I can’t say I’ve ever really felt this way around someone.
We talked, I expressed how I felt (not in so many words), & I even got her number, but about 3 days after that she told me she barely has time for a relationship due to work, which I understood. But now that she has a better schedule that leaves her way more free time, I’m getting the same results. Lackluster responses over text, seemingly a lack of interest.
After all the flirting & chemistry idk what to do with that.
Is there anything u would recommend to help make me the luckiest guy in the world?
Hi Eric! I suggest channeling your excitement about this potential romance into manifesting a romance that is more two-sided. This one doesn’t sound ideal, since I’m sure you wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t authentically reciprocate your feelings. While it’s not impossible that there is a spark of potential in this one, if you can focus on the feeling you want to have in a relationship rather than any specific person, your results will be best. So check out the options in this post, and you can also search “love spell” on my site to see if there’s another spell that resonates with you.
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Can a bracelet like this work or does it have to be like the one you’ve shown?
Yes, that will work.
Tess:
I performed the number five spell last month. I wanted the best outcome for all. He has recently Star to talk and text me again. He is still living with her and has not mentioned anything about ending their marriage. I am wondering if he is scared to leave because he has been manipulated for such a long time that real happiness is difficult for him? I do love him and would like to give our relationship another chance ~ I just don’t want to be hurt again. This was my first relationship after being widowed for 9 years. Any advice you give would be greatly appreciated.
Ahviya, if he is not leaving his partner, I would definitely stop talking to him and let the relationship go. If at some point he is available and you are still available too, you can revisit the situation. But for now, this is not a healthy situation for you. Here is a cord-cutting meditation to help: https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/
Thank you Tess. I am very grateful for your guidance. I practiced the cord cutting meditation this morning. I feel if I perform this daily for a week it will help in other areas that I need to release also.
Again, Thank you ~ Blessed Be.
Ok so Me and my ex were in a long distance relationship for a bit after living together for a year. it was a huge change and hard on both of us, then in August because of the retrograde it got even harder because i started acting weird, like accusing him of stuff and not trusting him and he wasn’t giving me enough attention. come September we break up. and even though at the time i wanted to break up too for some reason i took it alot harder and its been like 5 months and i’m still not over him. i want him back, but he has a new girlfriend now. whats really strange is that ideally he’s not even the guy i want to be with. he doesn’t have any of the traits i look for in a partner and more over he was abusive and i wanted out a long time ago. Im starting to suspect that either his new gf has put some type of spell on me or someones done something, because i wanna be over this guy but i cant. what do you think and what would you suggest?
Sabrina, I suggest this Cord-Cutting meditation so you can open up to someone who’s available and more in alignment with what’s best for you: https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/
how long should we keep the bracelet in bright sunlight to be blessed