Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
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2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
Hello..I have been dating a guy for 10year…We really love each other a lot.but his parent are not ready for us to get married. And are forcing him to get married to another girl. He said he will do as his parents.i really want him back at any cost .What should do ? For spell2 it’s still 3 weeks more..What is till then his parents manipulate him
Are you sure you want to be with someone who is making that choice after a 10 year relationship with you?
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge in magic. Thank you for sharing magical ways to help us with the troubles life presents to us. I’ve recently been through a betrayal. I was dating a guy who showed in all ways he was into me emotionally, physically and even led me to believe he loved me. I found out he had a girlfriend all along. I want to heal from the pain he has caused and I don’t want to feel any type of anger or resentment towards him. What do you recommend? I don’t want to hate the guy, and how I feel right now it makes it really difficult not to hate him. Please help me.
Thank you.
I suggest doing this cord cutting meditation for 5 days in a row: https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/
Hi! I misread the moon phases and did the #2 spell one day after the full moon ystd. Do I have to redo it?
No, that will be fine too.
Hi Tess,
In February’s full moon I attempted #2, things were up and down the entire month (which you did mention in a comment it could take a full cycle)
Tonight is March’s full moon and I just got a call in the middle of the night by my ex (father of my children) expressing how much he misses me and being a family. After an exact cycle, of us being good & bad!! I’m in shock…he wants US to heal.
Nice! Thank you for sharing.
Dear,
Thank you! Your post is the answer that I have been looking for.
3 months after a breaking up over half of a year ago, I reached out to my ex after the silence between us. He said he missed me and he (we both) implied the possibility to look into coming back together. He also said he will come see me. Since then, he hasn’t come see me and the signals that I get from him seems confusing to me (sometimes good, sometimes seems distant). I understand that after a break up, people need time to re-evaluate their feelings. I still love him and want to give us a chance, though feel confused anxious about his side. Therefore, I might have acted anxious/negative that may stress him out.
I wonder what type of spell that I can use so that I can boost our mutual feelings/ his feelings for me. (Does spell #2 works? Or #5 and can I use other stones?)
And what spell can help me work on myself so that I can be calm and generate positive energy to attract him?
Thank you!
Hi Jass! I recommend spell #2. To be calm and generate positive energy to attract your most ideal romantic conditions, I recommend meditating daily. You can use any of the guided meditations on this site (use the search feature at right to find them) or any other guided meditation, meditation app, or meditation technique that you like. As long as you do some form of meditation once per day.