Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
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2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
My relationship is going through challenges and heading for a break up. Is spell 2 ok? I will also like to write more to you through your mail.
Donny, yes! That spell is appropriate. Go for it. Regarding my email, I’ve actually reached the point where personal email requests for help are too numerous for me to respond to. But if you’d like, please check out my sessions page to schedule a phone call with one of the magical practitioners I’ve personally trained.
Tess when I was younger an boyfriend of mine did a binding spell on me using his blood. I did not know this until recently and have in the past 7 years befriended this man again. My feelings for him have never changed. However he says he no longer feels that way about me. I have asked him to fix this so that I may move on. I have had a headache and an unsettled stomach since that day. I am just wondering if it could be a residual affect from the releasing of the spell.
Hi Cyndy! Well, it certainly won’t hurt to cleanse your energy. I suggest starting the Lemon Cure from the following post at the next full moon: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/ .
Unfortunately lemons are out of the question but will the salt bath work as well?
Yes, if you can’t do lemons, I’d choose an alternate spell from the hex breaking post that resonates with you.
Thank you so much for the advice. I will let you know how it goes.
It’s this girl I like but idk if she likes me ! What spell is best to use to get her to notice me ?
1 or 3, but whichever you choose, do it with the intention to be open to the perfect romance, rather than one specific romance. (It’s OK if you have the girl you like in the back of your mind, but clearly be open to someone who may be even better for you.)
Hi Tess,
I have a rose quartz necklace, would that work instead of the bracelet for spell #5? Also, does it lose its magic if you take it off from time to time?
Thanks.
Hi Mira! Yes, you can absolutely substitute a necklace. And certainly, you can take it off. Maybe when you do so, you could place it on your altar or somewhere else that’s special to you.
Hi again, Tess! I performed spell #2 during the last full moon and something unexpected happened… within couple of days his behavior changed completely. Like a different person, the one I knew months before he started doing cruel things. He stopped cheating on me… and is really loving. Everything came together for me once I looked into the girl he was seeing – and I realized that it’s very likely that he has been under a love spell for quite a while! Now that all makes sense. But tell me, Tess, is it possible that such a simple healing spell could break a love spell? It’s hard to believe!
Oh, thats awesome! Yes, it’s absolutely possible. Love is incredibly powerful, and if you did your spell with a whole lot of love, I wouldn’t be surprised.
Hello! I fell deeply in love with this man and he left me because he no longer wanted the commitment and I really loved him and the breakup really made me depressed , what should I do to bring him back to me?
Hi Emily! It is not my sense that you will enjoy being with someone who isn’t equally as committed as you. To clear your energy field and open you up to a much better relationship, I suggest that you do this meditation daily for at least 7 days straight: https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/
Hello I am at an impass with things in my life right now. My husband of 12 years (16 together) has left and has told me he wants a divorce. We are currentlyseparated. We have had several issues in our marriage but we still love each other, are attractedto each other and have feelings for each other. They may not be as they were 16 years ago but I really want to know that we are supposed to be divorced or work through our differences.
Which spell(s) would you recommend?
Holly, I recommend 2 or 5.
Thank you!
One more crazy question. I didnt have a tea light candle I had a small pillar candle that I use. Should I continue lighting it until it is all used?
Thanks!!
Hi Holly! Yes, I would light it when you can until it’s burned down.
I am having a similar issue. We’ve been married for 14 years and we both brought toxic feelings into the relationship. It started out very rocky, until about 8 years ago, when things started getting better (he was able to get past some things I did and I felt like I paid my penance for my indescretions). Then, for whatever stupid reason, I sought out an ex boyfriend. This man was a kindred spirit (perhaps even a soul mate) but I knew we weren’t meant to be together in this life. My husband doesn’t believe in magick or kindred spirits or anything mystical, so I can’t really explain to my husband why i wanted to contact the him and all he can think is that I want to leave him to be with the ex. This got him feeling rejected and he started spending time with another woman, behind my back. When I found out about all his lying and the extent that he was involved with this girl (thoughts and feelings of romantic/sexual interest, confiding in her about our problems, knowing that there was a SHARED romantic interest), it broke my spirit completely. Fast forward to now, I am starting to gain my self-confidence back but he is suffering with feelings of guilt and self-hatred, along with feelings of resentment toward me. We both still love each other but we are both so damaged by the injuries we caused each other that we can’t get past our anger to find each other again.
Do you think any of these spells would be helpful or do I need something more powerful? Or do I need something completely different, altogether?
Just wanted to add that I think it’s amazing of you, to help others figure out these things! Blessed be!
Tammy, thank you for your kind words. Yes, I think one of these spells will work. Is there one you feel drawn to?
2 and 5 both stand out to me. I worry that we’re just too far gone in our pain to be able to get past all the suffering we’ve inflicted on each other. I still love him very much and I know he still loves me, we are just still so wounded that we speak out of anger and pain rather than love and understanding. I just want to feel heard and understood and I want that for him too.
Tammy, are you going to therapy together? If not, I highly recommend it. Additionally, you can of course perform either 2 or 5.