Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
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2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
I did #2 on Friday night, but I had to move the jar Saturday. Would that cause any problems?
No, it should be fine.
Hi, so Friday I ran into an old friend. Him and I are extremely attracted to each other. We go years without seeing each other but as soon as we do the energy btwn the two of us is palpable. So much so that we stumble over words just to speak to each other. Our attraction to each other is already there. But circumstances and timing always seem to be in the way. I usually say it’s just not meant to be. But the last time I seen him I can’t explain… it was stronger then ever. we would be looking for each other across the room but never make our way over to each other. Or trip over our words when we speak and end up just not speaking. The pull (for lack of a better term) btwn us was so strong my stomach was doing flips I almost got sick. AnywAy I was wondering which one of these you would recommend to help clear our path to each other? to maybe have a chance to see what’s there. Instead of dodging the attraction or stumbling over it. bc it’s like theres a wall up and even though we are so drawn to each other we are to scared to climb over the wall to actually be with each other.
2 or 5.
Thank you!
Is there anything I need to do as far as he goes? Should I be thinking of him specifically or should I just be thinking clearly?
Good question! Maybe do Spell #5, leaving the details (including the other person) up to the Universe. It’s OK if he’s in the back of your mind, though. But still open up to any possibility, as long as it’s what’s best for you.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 14 months I really love him and I know he feels the same way. I spoke with 2 spiritual people who told me that he was is under a love spell by another woman. We spoke about it and have our suspicion as to who did it. The girl we suspect whenever she is around him he becomes an idiot to her. It is affecting our relationship and I would be sincerely thankful if you could suggest something to break this spell. Thanks in advance.
For now, I suggest doing spell #5. This will create better clarity about how to move forward.
Hi Tess, among all the other comments i scanned across i kinda feel bad but i dont know what to do. i am at my peak an im just not ready to give up. there is something that is just holding me down and im not ready to call it quits with my relationship.. i was going through the numbers up top an i feel #2 woudl best help with my situation. i was curious if there is any other suggestions you may have, possibly a little advice? for some reason i cant seem to easy my mind enough to focus on the spell in order for it to work. my mind seems to raise rapidly and i loose focus or it just seems im doing something wrong. id really like to be directed into the right location in order to get a positive result..
hope this makes sense..
sincerely: a broken hearted confused individual ….
Kelsey, maybe start by clearing clutter from your home and clearing the space energetically. It sounds boring and mundane, but it can make a world of difference when it comes to clarity and self worth. Here are some posts that may help. https://tesswhitehurst.com/how-where-to-start-clearing-clutter/ https://tesswhitehurst.com/how-to-clear-the-energy-in-your-home-in-5-simple-steps/
Hi, I would like to know what spell needs to be done for my girlfriend and I. We’ve been together for almost 5 years and it has been amazingly pleasant beyond measures. She’s my everything but lately there’s no emotional or physical connection. We barely have good times anymore and she’s been paying more attention to her best friend of whom I’m not too fond of. They talk all day and night. It has me feeling like there’s something going on. I’ve asked her millions of times and she’s assured me verbally the young lady is like her little sister.! I don’t know what to do because I love her so much and I know she loves me but I don’t want to be controlling. What kind of spell should I cast to bring us back strong and for her to get rid of her friend to focus more on us?
Hi Shanta’e. It’s important to perform magic for the best possible outcome, and to release attachment to controlling the choices of others. Because I assume you’d like to heal your relationship, but not by overriding your girlfriend’s free will. So do either the healing spell or the best possible outcome spell, while setting the intention for bringing about what’s truly best for everyone, no matter what that might be. Here’s another post you may find helpful: https://tesswhitehurst.com/why-you-should-not-do-a-love-spell-on-a-specific-person/