Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
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2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
I want to donspell #2. The full moon is still almost 3 weeks away, can I do something in the mean time? Thank you
Hi Tammy! Sure. You can use the violet fire visualization: https://tesswhitehurst.com/how-to-transmute-pretty-much-anything-into-positivity/
Hi Tess,
Which moon phase is best for the spell #1 on friday?
Thank you,be blessed
Waxing.
Hello! I have been dating this guy for almost 3 years. We had/have a magnetic connection since the very first moment of us meeting. About a month later, he admitted that his ex (they were not together) lived in his home with him (because she had previously been evicted with their child) but was expected to soon move out. She moved 2 weeks later. Since then, she seems obsessed with he and I. Before her knowledge of me she was careless about him. She has called my phone many times, kept his child away, told me very hurtful things about him (his past) all in the effort to run me off. She has even tried to befriend me. He has never “left” me to go back to her but there has been times when he has slept with her. She couldn’t wait to tell me about it. When confronted with all three of us present he seems to be totally remorseful and he “sides” with me. He tells her they will never work and that I am his best friend and that he is in love with me. He has never downplayed our relationship to her the way that he has downplayed their relationship while the three of us are present. Their relationship has been a disaster (physically, mentally and emotionally abusive) per their words. We have never had as much as an in person argument let alone have been physically abusive to one another. I tried to leave against my wishes to avoid this drama but we can’t seem to stay away from one another. The butterflies never go away but it’s like we both have this “wall” up that won’t allow us to move forward. Something seems very unnatural about her (or this situation). I love him so much and I have never felt a connection like this before with anyone else. I know that he loves me the same. What should I do? Thank you in advance.
Hello! I recommend the Lemon Cure from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/ …After you do it, you can see how you feel and how you want to proceed.
Hi Tess, I have done a love spell in the past and jeez did it reck my life!…I couldn’t break the bind…he managed to sever the connection by stopping all communication….then thankfully it ended…with gratitude, I have resisted doing another love spell and realized the best course of action was to leave the chance of love entering into my life to the Universe…its been years of working just on myself and getting to the point where I am o.k. alone but just on a whim on Sunday, I joined a dating site (after not doing any online dating for over 6 years) I am half British and miss England a lot…so went on a British dating site just for fun, to just banter online really (as realistically having a relationship blossom in such circumstances are slim) but…I did receive an email from a fellow whom I really feel something might be there…I value the written word and the banter and exchange was charged (in a good way) I am wondering if I don’t do a love spell but…what if I were to gaze at his visage optimistically and were to state something like “so be it” or even “Thank you” because regardless of whether he decides not to message me again on the site and nothing becomes of our exchange…I still felt such joy just to have the banter/connection for this time, its re-ignighted that flame inside me that has been dead for so long…gazing at his picture wouldn’t be spell casting would it? Regardless, I am going to do spell #1 and #5 – Secondly, is there a spell for “not giving a darn what others think of you?” – with all the self work I have done, my last hiccup is that I used to be wealthy but due to circumstances I have lost all my money and am pretty broke (but I’m happy) its just that I think this might be a barrier to finding love?…because many guys my age (58) state they want the woman to be “financial secure” and this guy has but I haven’t said anything yet about my circumstances…is there a spell for not caring about that? Thank you!
Hi Louise! I would not worry at all about gazing at his visage and saying “thank you.” That doesn’t feel like interfering with free will to me – does it to you? As for the spell about not caring about what others think, possibly one or all of the spells in this post would help? https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-spells-to-get-yourself-out-of-a-funk/
Hi Tess, Thank you so much for answering. Yes, it does feel as though the gazing will be safe and I won’t be putting a spell on him. It just feels good and puts me in a happy state of mind. Uplifting with detachment (but he hasn’t answered me for a few days) Thank Goodness I can just say to that – so be it – the universe has this in the works – at least he opened me up to the possibility of finding “the one”…and I will do the spells #1 #5!
Hello,I am from Bulgaria.
I want to ask you if I can make spell 1 in Bulgarian language.Will it work?
Veronika, you can absolutely do that!
Thank you!And can I just ask,I want first to try spell 2,but I can’t find mason jar,I have something similar at home,can I use the one I have?
And excuse me for the stupid question but when exactly is the full moon phase?
I do not want to make any mistakes.
Thank you in advance!
Veronika, a similar jar will absolutely work. And as for the full moon phase, it depends on when you do the spell. You can find moon information online here: https://www.lunarium.co.uk/calendar/universal.jsp
Thank you!
And I just want to ask you.I have made spell 2 today at 05.53 am,because I checked that for Europe(i am from Bulgaria) this is the time when the fool moon phase begins,but ofcourse at that time there was no moon showing up.Is this if a matter?
Have I done it wrong?
I am thinking about this now and get little worried,because I taught I have done it perfectly,but now I am wondering if it was the right way?
Veronika, I wouldn’t worry. The full moon is still in effect even if you can’t see it in the sky.
Thank you verry much!
Hi Tess,I have been in a relationship with this guy for about 3years.6 months ago,his behaviour changed and was not willing to talk about it at all.I later discovered there is another lady who got pregnant for him and he was confused about what to do.Last month I only discovered he moved in with this lady and he says he knows he made a mistake but he really loved me..I still love him and want to work things out regardless of the circumstance because I feel he is the one.
I am so depressed especially because his attitude has changed yet I love him so much.Do you think he is under a spell? What do you suggest I should do?
Anna, I suggest you let him go. If you love yourself truly and treat yourself like gold, you will see that his behavior is absolutely unacceptable. I am not sensing that he’s under a spell. I suggest that you do this meditation for at least 30 days straight: https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/