Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
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2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
Hey Tess!
I like your article. I would like to add that especially on Friday the energies for love spells are very strong. Planet Venus can add some great energy to any love spell.
Looking forward to read your next articles.
Yes, very true! Thank you for reading and chiming in.
So my ex boy friend and love of my life (im 39 and divorced) were very happy together and didn’t have any problems We talked about moving in together with our children and getting married. He told me numerous times I was the one and he wanted to marry me and he was scared of losing me which I assured him wouldn’t happen. We were talking about the kind of wedding we wanted an everything was great. Our kids got along and we loved each other children as well. Out of no where he pulled back and texted, yes texted me he was not ready for a relationship. His ex wife I feel has something to do with it but I cant be sure. We still love each other and it hurts were not together. If I did a spell such as spell 5, and he came back because hes the one will it work out especially if someone did something to him to suddenly make him change his mind. His ex was not happy when she found out how serious we were and is rumored to have done something.
Dawn, I suggest doing the Lemon Cure from this post, only doing it with a picture of your ex boyfriend instead of yourself: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/
So do I use the side of lemon I sprinkled… also if sunrise is day 6:30 I would have to discard by 7:30
Just discard whenever you repeat the process the next day, and yes, within an hour before or after sunrise.
Hi Tess, Spell number 2, Can I wash away that honey and aloe vera and keep the picture in my wallet or in a diary or anywhere else instead of throw it away or bury? Thank you
Hi Marie! Sure.
Thank you, Tess.
I did this on this month’s full moon and very second day my ex-boyfriend came back to my life with full commitment. (Breaking up was my decision to think about myself what I really wanted in my life, then I realised I had very strong feelings towards him and wanted him back and I knew he was the same, and all of a sudden he become so active and I accepted him)
I am really happy but there are still some things that are bothering me. I still have our picture in the jar with the mixture and I am keeping it hidden not to be seen by anybody. Sometimes I feel I need something more, I want him to be more active than passive, should I repeat this ritual for next full moon? Would it help him to be more active? (Because I think it helped him the first time when he came back to me) If I can do it so how should I repeat it? I just wash away everything and use the same picture of us or a new one?
Thank you for your help and time! You are a great person!
Hello Tess I did #2 yesterday instead of the 23rd which was the day of the full moon should I wait and do it over on the next full moon
No, you’re good. 🙂
Thank Yu ❤️ But why do I fell like I’m more attached and want him more. I don’t remove all feelings
Spells take time, and if you did a spell to heal, there’s a very good chance emotional pain will be involved. Emotional pain is a part of life, and attempting to avoid it doesn’t ever serve us. Instead, it’s ideal to move through pain and surrender to the process so you can get to the other side. I’d give it at least a full moon cycle and see what happens.
Ok thank you Tess I’ll keep you updated n
Ok so Tess it was going fine thanks giving day he called to private to listen to my background the following day he called again twice cause I didn answer the first time Jus to say happy thanksgiving, never called back all up until Monday when i believe him and his new gf got into it he called my phone Nd it’s been very messy every sense I told him I don’t want to be in the mix between that Nd now she’s saying it’s me who’s callin and texting him 🤷🏾♀️ I jus want to make him leave me alone HELP PLEASE
Nikki, when you realized you wanted him to leave you alone, did you ask him to stop calling and texting? If you did and he didn’t stop, I suggest blocking him from calling and texting you.
Yes I did I have him blocked on everything but he manage to find away
Hi Tess,
I came across your site and have been reading through the post and comments. I think it’s really nice of you to take time to respond to everyone and so I’m hoping you would be able to help me too. Sorry in advance for the long comment!
I broke up with my ex two months ago. From the very beginning of our relationship we struggled. We tried making it work but eventually broke up a few months after dating. After a month apart we got back together. At the very beginning things seemed to be going fine but I started to feel a shift about a month into us dating again. But even before feeling that shift, I found out that my ex had been communicating with a former flame. Though there was nothing romantic about their texts, I was still very hurt bc it had been kept a secret from me. The behavior seemed shady to me though there was no actual cheating.
We broke up after having a huge argument. Though the wound is still fresh and I know time will help me heal, I really want to forget my ex as soon as possible. I obsess, stalk (my ex’s) social media accounts, and have done other things that I am not proud of. I know what I’m doing is unhealthy and I want to stop this behavior. There are a couple of spells/cleanses that I’m thinking of doing.
However, here’s where I really need your help, from the very beginning I was unsure of how I felt for my ex. I was never 100% happy and I felt like we would eventually break up. Now that we’re broken up I wish we could get back together but I know we won’t and I know it’s not what’s best for us. So why can’t I stop thinking about my ex and wishing we were back together? This has happened to me before in the past with another ex…where I was never fully into them but once it ended I couldn’t let go. It was almost like an obsession or a very strong infatuation. With the previous ex it lasted over 7 years! Is it possible that I’ve been hexed by someone? I don’t believe it was either one of my exes so idk who or why someone would want to put a hex on my love life. I’m also fairly young (i.e haven’t had much life experience) so I can’t imagine having done something harmful to someone in my past to deserve this.
I’ve met with tarot card readers hoping to get insight into my relationship with ex. Two different tarot card readers actually, I trust them both. This last reading I had I was told that his relationship was done for good, and that though this person will still be a part of my life for the next 2-3 months there is no chance of reconciliation. I’ve always believed that some people have this gift so I don’t knock it but I’m tired of spending money on tarot card readers and just want some inner peace. At the moment they feel like mini therapy sessions and make me feel I like having a better understanding of the truth but in reality they leave me feel drained and having more questions.
I want to find peace within myself, let go of my ex, move on with my life, feel happy again, and cleanse myself if anyone has done me any harm. Thank you in advance for reading 🙂
Hi there! I suggest doing this meditation every day for at least 60 days: https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/
Thank you for responding! I did this meditation yesterday and though I feel like it didn’t do much I will try to do it for 60 days straight.