Are you thinking of magicking someone into loving you? Don’t! Here’s why you shouldn’t do a love spell on a specific person, and what to do instead.
“Whom you seek to imprison you do not love.”
~ A Course in Miracles
Look, I know it can be tempting.
But casting a love spell on a specific person is not only unethical, it will also very likely totally suck for you in the long run.
Of course, if you’re in the throes of limerence, it may be difficult to imagine what could possibly suck so much about the person you’re crushing on feeling the same way about you. Well then, let me paint you some pictures.
Do love spells work? Yes. And can you cast a love spell to attract someone awesome? Absolutely. But just don’t cast a love spell on a specific person.
Here’s why: ultimately, when you do a love spell on a specific person, there are no good outcomes. Rather, there are three main ways it could go very wrong.
(For everything you need to know about the dynamics of ethical and successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.)
The First Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
You know that what you send out energetically always comes back to you in some form, right? So in this scenario, when you cast the love spell, you cast it on yourself, too. That spell flies right back at you like a boomerang. So now, you both become magically, unnaturally obsessed with the other. Then you get into a really sticky, codependent, basically awful relationship. Maybe it involves violence. At the very least it involves emotional abuse, because overriding someone else’s free will is in itself a form of emotional abuse. So you put that in the mix when you did the spell, and now it’s there. And you’re stuck in the mire of that love spell like a swamp. Any healthy, fun, beautiful relationships you may have had aren’t even a possibility anymore, at least until you do some major magical damage control and extricate yourself from this mess. So don’t do it!
The Second Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
In this scenario, you cast a love spell on a specific person, and that person indeed appears to fall hopelessly in love with you. And…darn: now that they’re acting so foolish, they’re not attractive to you anymore. In addition to making this person miserable, now they also won’t leave you alone. Not to mention, as in scenario 1 (above), since you overrode some else’s free will by casting a spell on them, you’re going to have to deal with some karmic backlash.
The Third Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
The best case scenario, but still a bad one, is that you cast a spell on someone, and that unlucky someone successfully resists the magical pull to enter into a relationship with you. But your spell still boomerangs back and hits you, so you pine for this person much longer than you otherwise would have. You’ve now cast a spell of unhappiness on yourself. Until it wears off or the spell is successfully broken, this presents a challenge to your moods, your ability to focus, and any other romantic relationships you are (or may have otherwise been) involved with.
What to Do Instead of Casting a Love Spell on Someone
As I mentioned above, you can still do a love spell! Just not a love spell on a specific person.
You can’t go wrong when you do a spell to draw ideal romantic conditions and leave the actual person up to the universe. Because if the object of your affection happens to be an ideal partner for you right now, your spell might end up working on them after all! …But if it doesn’t, that just means someone even more perfect for you is on his or her way. So there’s obviously no question that this is the way to go.
If you liked this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
Looking for an ethical love spell? Way to go – good choice! Here are some to choose from:
5 Karma-Friendly Alternatives to Putting a Love Spell on Someone
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Hello I recently came across messages between a current gf of mine and her best friend about how she has tried to love spells on me and there was in depth conversation about certain items, needed waiting for a full moon and waiting 3 days before trying anything else. I met this girl while I was in a long term relationship with the mother of my kids and there was some cheating involved however I thought better of it and after talking with my girlfriend at the time about it and admitting my wrongs I decided to call it off and was serious about it. After not talking to her for months I would find myself randomly thinking about her and wanting to go see her and be around her even though I was happy with my girlfriend at the time I would see her for a day or two then not talk to her again for months at a time but for some reason no matter how much time went by I’d find myself thinking about her again and I find this odd because I honestly was never really that attracted to her she came into me and I just saw it as an easy fun time but I believe it’s been the biggest mistake of my life ever meetining her. After about 3 years of on and off with this girl and problems in my current relationship my then girlfriend and I decided to call it quits and now I’m with this girl who tried the love spell on me. The creepiest part is that I saw a specific text about waking up at 4am to do a part of the ritual and ever since I’ve been living with her I wake up at 4am every morning when I’ve went a time without seeing my kids; but once my kids mom lets me see my kids I sleep through the night for 2-3 days and then I start waking up at 4am again every morning until I see my kids again. I just found this information out today and have been trying to make sense of it all and I just want help. Has there been proof of love spells working?
Hi! Yes, love spells can work. Even though it’s a love spell rather than a hex or a curse, I suggest breaking the spell with one of the practices in this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/
I know love spells are bad but are there any good spells for getting someone to talk to you again?
I had a very confusing falling out with a male friend was really close friends with. I have no idea why but he told me to leave him alone for good and then left town a couple weeks later. I do have feelings for him and he knows it but he said no to dating so I moved on, started seeing others and was fine with being friends at least.
Suddenly we had a very small argument and I feel like he used that as a cover for the real reason he won’t speak to me anymore. I wish I could at least get an explanation and it’s making me feel very sad. We were basically best friends and things feel dull without him even when i’m with others I think I could move on easier if he would tell me what’s wrong. It would not be a love spell then… Just one for talking to me again and possibly mend the friendship.
Hi Jennie! Are there any spells from this post that appeal to you? https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
I read it, slept on it for a couple of days thought about the repercussions. Im going to do it anyways. I miss him. I havent been able to let anyone in to my life since we broke up and it feels like im under his spell.
Am empath reads and feels emotions that are coming from other people (near and far)or you would classify me as a clairsentient.I find myself at times getting emotional overwhelmed when I think about a particular person and would have to take calming breath and clean my aura.I would like to call the person not against there will.
I also have a guy a became friends with on pan and a few months he went to the doctor and was diagnosed with prostate cancer.I talk to his on an off for another month (he told me he was going to a cancer center)then nothing and I have not heard from him in 6 years.I want to get back in touch with him,I miss his we got along so well and would like to find him.
You heard of writing a letter and reading it to put it out in the universe is doing so against a person’s will.I want to bring them here but not make them fall in love with me just get us to bump into one another and go from there.
Hi Demi! Please check out this post for ideas: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
Hello Tess,
I’m at a point where I feel I need some guidance. I met my boyfriend a few months ago, things were great, like really great. He was taking anti-depressants for severe depression (had been for about 4/5 months before we met). He stopped taking them suddenly bc he said he was happy with life and happy being with me. Then it all went bad, after about 2 weeks he changed completely, he restarted his meds and has been back on them for about 7/8 weeks now. Nothing has been the same at all, some days he’s loving and sweet other days he’s emotionless and cold. I understand the meds he’s on are brain altering chemicals. He messaged me yesterday and said he’s tired of being in a relationship that he has no emotional connection in, obviously I’m devastated bc I know it’s just unfortunate side effects of his meds. Is there a spell I can do to help him? Maybe a powerful healing spell or something? Idk I’m just lost and heartbroken right now.
Hi Luna! I recommend spell #2 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
Amen