Are you thinking of magicking someone into loving you? Don’t! Here’s why you shouldn’t do a love spell on a specific person, and what to do instead.
“Whom you seek to imprison you do not love.”
~ A Course in Miracles
Look, I know it can be tempting.
But casting a love spell on a specific person is not only unethical, it will also very likely totally suck for you in the long run.
Of course, if you’re in the throes of limerence, it may be difficult to imagine what could possibly suck so much about the person you’re crushing on feeling the same way about you. Well then, let me paint you some pictures.
Do love spells work? Yes. And can you cast a love spell to attract someone awesome? Absolutely. But just don’t cast a love spell on a specific person.
Here’s why: ultimately, when you do a love spell on a specific person, there are no good outcomes. Rather, there are three main ways it could go very wrong.
(For everything you need to know about the dynamics of ethical and successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.)
The First Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
You know that what you send out energetically always comes back to you in some form, right? So in this scenario, when you cast the love spell, you cast it on yourself, too. That spell flies right back at you like a boomerang. So now, you both become magically, unnaturally obsessed with the other. Then you get into a really sticky, codependent, basically awful relationship. Maybe it involves violence. At the very least it involves emotional abuse, because overriding someone else’s free will is in itself a form of emotional abuse. So you put that in the mix when you did the spell, and now it’s there. And you’re stuck in the mire of that love spell like a swamp. Any healthy, fun, beautiful relationships you may have had aren’t even a possibility anymore, at least until you do some major magical damage control and extricate yourself from this mess. So don’t do it!
The Second Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
In this scenario, you cast a love spell on a specific person, and that person indeed appears to fall hopelessly in love with you. And…darn: now that they’re acting so foolish, they’re not attractive to you anymore. In addition to making this person miserable, now they also won’t leave you alone. Not to mention, as in scenario 1 (above), since you overrode some else’s free will by casting a spell on them, you’re going to have to deal with some karmic backlash.
The Third Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
The best case scenario, but still a bad one, is that you cast a spell on someone, and that unlucky someone successfully resists the magical pull to enter into a relationship with you. But your spell still boomerangs back and hits you, so you pine for this person much longer than you otherwise would have. You’ve now cast a spell of unhappiness on yourself. Until it wears off or the spell is successfully broken, this presents a challenge to your moods, your ability to focus, and any other romantic relationships you are (or may have otherwise been) involved with.
What to Do Instead of Casting a Love Spell on Someone
As I mentioned above, you can still do a love spell! Just not a love spell on a specific person.
You can’t go wrong when you do a spell to draw ideal romantic conditions and leave the actual person up to the universe. Because if the object of your affection happens to be an ideal partner for you right now, your spell might end up working on them after all! …But if it doesn’t, that just means someone even more perfect for you is on his or her way. So there’s obviously no question that this is the way to go.
If you liked this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
Looking for an ethical love spell? Way to go – good choice! Here are some to choose from:
5 Karma-Friendly Alternatives to Putting a Love Spell on Someone
Love Spell to Attract a Divine Partner
Peace and greetings, I did a returning a lost love spell on my husband before reading this. We are separated but he says he wants to work things out. Did I just doom us? Please help.
Samantha, I’m not sure what spell you did. Do you feel like you may have compromised your husband’s free will? If so, I suggest doing the Selenite & White Sage Cure from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/. Do it with a picture of your husband rather than on yourself.
Hi I have a question. My partners ex put a spell on our relationship. For 6months he continually leaves us (me and my daughter) comes back and leaves again. But now he left for 2 months already and we havent heard anything from him. He doesnt come to visit my daughter or anything. I know he loves me i know he loves my daughter. This is not natural. (He visits the children he has with his ex every weekend… soo my question is how to break the spell she put on him/us?? I dont want to send something back to her. Let her be… but only to break the spell.. ty in advance
If you have an article of his clothing, light a bundle of sage so it’s smoking like incense and safely cleanse the clothing with the smoke. If the sage naturally smokes a lot, it will indicate that he could be under a spell. If it’s hard to get the smoke going or it only burns a little, chances are it’s not a spell. After you’ve done this, come back and tell me what happened.
Thanks for your reply. Does it have to be something he has worn recently and unwashed? I have all of his clothes but they are washed..
Washed is fine!
Hey Tess,
I cleansed his trousers with sage and it naturally smoked a lot yes…
Evita, I suggest doing the Lemon Cure from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/ Only instead of sweeping your aura with the lemon, sweep the area around a photo of your partner. After this is complete, do the Best Possible Outcome spell from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/ Remember: when you work magic correctly, the outcome will be whatever is best for everyone concerned, including you. This may or may not look like you expect.
Hi Tess,
My fiancé abandoned me in the most horrific circumstances and I believe it was for another woman. He now loathes me and is even taking me to court saying I was abusive when it was him that did everything to make me react so I would leave and he could have a clear conscience for cheating … IF he did. He is not a cheater but he honestly thinks I tried to destroy him… hence the anger. It happened in an instant like he was bewitched!!!
I have spoken to many psychics and wiccans who all tell me he has been put under a negative influence by her.
If I pay someone to cleanse him.. NOT to bring him back as I have a lot of healing to do, but just to remove the blinkers from his eyes, will he end up seeing her for what she is??
If he comes back to me is up to him and I’m not sure I want him back. But she took away his free will and that’s not right!!! We were perfect together… it happened in an instant!!
Will he see her for what she is once the cleansing is done?
Teresa, there is no way to know precisely what the outcome will be, but as a general rule, if you work magic that doesn’t interfere with anyone’s free will and that is performed for everyone’s highest and truest good, you can’t go wrong.
Hi Tess,
No this has definitely interferes with his free will as I saw a beautiful gentle man turn into the cruelest vile creature. I have had many consultations with psychics, spellcasters etc and without giving them any details, they have all told me the same thing and the words used were that she wanted him and to get him away from me she had to “morally slay” me in his eyes, hence the horrific things he has done to me without remorse.
I am currently working with someone whose credentials I’ve researched thoroughly to have him cleansed.
I can assist in giving him back his free will and what he does and feels after that is his own choice. It will be my turn to heal…..
Could you share the name of the person who you’ve researched please? I have someone I need cleansed too. Thanks.
Help! I’m new to all of this and witchcraft. I had no idea about this and have dabbled a little on the love spells. Met someone really amazing and tried a spell for road block busting spells (he is emotionally guarded) I’ve also done petitions for patience (for myself) with the situation when I feel impatient. Everything before that was so natural and everything is still moving in a beautiful direction. After reading this entire article I feel like just stopping is the best course of action. Would love your feedback, thank you Tess!
Yvette, if everything is moving in a beautiful direction, I wouldn’t do any more love magic for now.
hey i am starting to believe that my now ex boyfriend has been doing sex magic on me or with me or something ,im starting to believe that he is a satanist and was keeping a lot of things from me. how do i find out if hes been using me for his own selfish gain, and how do i reverse it?? im not at all involved in magic stuff, i am a believer in Jesus and i have been saved, thank God for my discernment and salvation before being exposed to this stuff or else i would be in the middle of it all , giving my soul freely to the enemy!! thank you so much for any feedback
Kristina, it is not my sense that he was doing sex magic on you. You may want to do a cleansing ritual or meditation to help yourself heal and go free from the negative energy you’re feeling. Here are some posts that may help: https://tesswhitehurst.com/the-10-best-ways-to-cleanse-your-aura/ https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/