Are you thinking of magicking someone into loving you? Don’t! Here’s why you shouldn’t do a love spell on a specific person, and what to do instead.
“Whom you seek to imprison you do not love.”
~ A Course in Miracles
Look, I know it can be tempting.
But casting a love spell on a specific person is not only unethical, it will also very likely totally suck for you in the long run.
Of course, if you’re in the throes of limerence, it may be difficult to imagine what could possibly suck so much about the person you’re crushing on feeling the same way about you. Well then, let me paint you some pictures.
Do love spells work? Yes. And can you cast a love spell to attract someone awesome? Absolutely. But just don’t cast a love spell on a specific person.
Here’s why: ultimately, when you do a love spell on a specific person, there are no good outcomes. Rather, there are three main ways it could go very wrong.
(For everything you need to know about the dynamics of ethical and successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.)
The First Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
You know that what you send out energetically always comes back to you in some form, right? So in this scenario, when you cast the love spell, you cast it on yourself, too. That spell flies right back at you like a boomerang. So now, you both become magically, unnaturally obsessed with the other. Then you get into a really sticky, codependent, basically awful relationship. Maybe it involves violence. At the very least it involves emotional abuse, because overriding someone else’s free will is in itself a form of emotional abuse. So you put that in the mix when you did the spell, and now it’s there. And you’re stuck in the mire of that love spell like a swamp. Any healthy, fun, beautiful relationships you may have had aren’t even a possibility anymore, at least until you do some major magical damage control and extricate yourself from this mess. So don’t do it!
The Second Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
In this scenario, you cast a love spell on a specific person, and that person indeed appears to fall hopelessly in love with you. And…darn: now that they’re acting so foolish, they’re not attractive to you anymore. In addition to making this person miserable, now they also won’t leave you alone. Not to mention, as in scenario 1 (above), since you overrode some else’s free will by casting a spell on them, you’re going to have to deal with some karmic backlash.
The Third Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
The best case scenario, but still a bad one, is that you cast a spell on someone, and that unlucky someone successfully resists the magical pull to enter into a relationship with you. But your spell still boomerangs back and hits you, so you pine for this person much longer than you otherwise would have. You’ve now cast a spell of unhappiness on yourself. Until it wears off or the spell is successfully broken, this presents a challenge to your moods, your ability to focus, and any other romantic relationships you are (or may have otherwise been) involved with.
What to Do Instead of Casting a Love Spell on Someone
As I mentioned above, you can still do a love spell! Just not a love spell on a specific person.
You can’t go wrong when you do a spell to draw ideal romantic conditions and leave the actual person up to the universe. Because if the object of your affection happens to be an ideal partner for you right now, your spell might end up working on them after all! …But if it doesn’t, that just means someone even more perfect for you is on his or her way. So there’s obviously no question that this is the way to go.
If you liked this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
Looking for an ethical love spell? Way to go – good choice! Here are some to choose from:
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Hi
I hope you are well!
I was wondering if you could please help?
I have stumbled across your sight after searching online for a white magic Love spell.
I adored your information with regards to white/black magic and how positive minds attract a positive outcome, of which I completely agree. I am a happy, positive and vibrant character and I agree. Though I do know there are dark forces and there are positive forces. I , as many of your clients am worried about anything backfiring, it effecting my career ( as a singer and actress and come back as powerful on me and be toxic) I have considered this for while, though as I believe in God as a Christian and also the Law of Attraction, I am a firm believer in what will be will be and what God / the universe has planned for me will happen which is why I have put the spell off..so why do I want to do the spell? Please see below and let me know if you can help.
I met with someone who I was drawn to for about a year and vice verser, though we didn’t speak at first, when we did the connection and fire can only be described as a chemical reaction. This obviously happens several times in our life, but only several. If I drew a vision board though of my soul mate – ambition, goals, humour, an open mind and deep thinker, a family man, a gentlemen, spontanious, and fun with a vibrant personality and intelligence, it was this man! We insistently connected and liked each other. Though at the time I went back to do some work for an ex ( the relation ship was toxic though I would do some part time pa work for him as it worked around my acting career! ) and this guy hasn’t been the same since he saw me keep going into my ex’s offices. We’ve spoke on and off for a year since and keep being drew back, on and off most of the time me chasing him which i never do and didnt at first. Now I am trying to keep my cool more, but thought with a little push if natual and positive we could have a future… but i dont want to be chasing, anxious and worrying i want a natural gentlmen and him to be traditional and ask me out like a lady! I have tried to be wise and logical and move on but im always draw back to him, like a twin flame. Please helpx do you have a contact number at all please?
How much would it cost, how long will it take and how do I know its genuine? I dont have a large budget at all and would be horrified to waste anymoney . Thank you for your help and reading xx
I encourage you to do magic on your own behalf. Here’s a post that may interest you: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/ You may also find this one helpful: https://tesswhitehurst.com/spells-and-rituals-how-to-get-started/
And you said it’ll work like a boomerang and work on me too how does that go
Hi Jas! How about trying something from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
I have been trying to get back with my ex of two years and she has been very uncertain and within the last week she just stopped talking to me and i know she loves me we still tell each other i have been thinking about a love spell but it also makes me feel bad but i also want her back i need help
Years ago I did a spell for him to make up his mind wether or not it was me to just make up his mind. Was this bad??
No, I wouldn’t worry about that. 🙂
A Hispanic friend and her family are telling me I’m getting bad karma from it. That it wasn’t for me to make him make a choice.
Hi, my name is Tone and I put a live spell on my current Girlfriend. I casted it then I moved from the city thinking nothing about it saying to myself “oh well i’ll Never see her again.” I moved away from her then I moved back, a year later and the universe brought us together. She didn’t initially fall in Love me we were friends. I made the first move and many months down the road we fell in love. We just clicked, So it felt natural is falling in love. I love her and she loves me everything is going well. I want to remove to the love spell because I want to know if her love is true. We get along very well our communication is phenomenal. I hope that our love is genuine. I feel the love spell worked by bringing us together. I want her to have her own free will. I am not sorry I did the spell because we admire one another. I just hope it’s not blind love I want it to be natural. I would be so thankful for any advice.
Tone
Tone, if you feel comfortable with the relationship and you have the best of intentions (which it sounds like you do), I wouldn’t worry. I am not getting the sense that there is anything negative going on at this point.