Are you thinking of magicking someone into loving you? Don’t! Here’s why you shouldn’t do a love spell on a specific person, and what to do instead.
“Whom you seek to imprison you do not love.”
~ A Course in Miracles
Look, I know it can be tempting.
But casting a love spell on a specific person is not only unethical, it will also very likely totally suck for you in the long run.
Of course, if you’re in the throes of limerence, it may be difficult to imagine what could possibly suck so much about the person you’re crushing on feeling the same way about you. Well then, let me paint you some pictures.
Do love spells work? Yes. And can you cast a love spell to attract someone awesome? Absolutely. But just don’t cast a love spell on a specific person.
Here’s why: ultimately, when you do a love spell on a specific person, there are no good outcomes. Rather, there are three main ways it could go very wrong.
(For everything you need to know about the dynamics of ethical and successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.)
The First Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
You know that what you send out energetically always comes back to you in some form, right? So in this scenario, when you cast the love spell, you cast it on yourself, too. That spell flies right back at you like a boomerang. So now, you both become magically, unnaturally obsessed with the other. Then you get into a really sticky, codependent, basically awful relationship. Maybe it involves violence. At the very least it involves emotional abuse, because overriding someone else’s free will is in itself a form of emotional abuse. So you put that in the mix when you did the spell, and now it’s there. And you’re stuck in the mire of that love spell like a swamp. Any healthy, fun, beautiful relationships you may have had aren’t even a possibility anymore, at least until you do some major magical damage control and extricate yourself from this mess. So don’t do it!
The Second Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
In this scenario, you cast a love spell on a specific person, and that person indeed appears to fall hopelessly in love with you. And…darn: now that they’re acting so foolish, they’re not attractive to you anymore. In addition to making this person miserable, now they also won’t leave you alone. Not to mention, as in scenario 1 (above), since you overrode some else’s free will by casting a spell on them, you’re going to have to deal with some karmic backlash.
The Third Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
The best case scenario, but still a bad one, is that you cast a spell on someone, and that unlucky someone successfully resists the magical pull to enter into a relationship with you. But your spell still boomerangs back and hits you, so you pine for this person much longer than you otherwise would have. You’ve now cast a spell of unhappiness on yourself. Until it wears off or the spell is successfully broken, this presents a challenge to your moods, your ability to focus, and any other romantic relationships you are (or may have otherwise been) involved with.
What to Do Instead of Casting a Love Spell on Someone
As I mentioned above, you can still do a love spell! Just not a love spell on a specific person.
You can’t go wrong when you do a spell to draw ideal romantic conditions and leave the actual person up to the universe. Because if the object of your affection happens to be an ideal partner for you right now, your spell might end up working on them after all! …But if it doesn’t, that just means someone even more perfect for you is on his or her way. So there’s obviously no question that this is the way to go.
If you liked this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
Looking for an ethical love spell? Way to go – good choice! Here are some to choose from:
5 Karma-Friendly Alternatives to Putting a Love Spell on Someone
Love Spell to Attract a Divine Partner
Simple Sandalwood and Rose Love Spell
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Hi, I’m Jen. I recently found out that my ex-boyfriend was put under a love spell by an old married woman. They consider themselves as bf/gf now. It really breaks me. I’m really worried about him as to what could happen to him. I still love him. We were in a ldr and I cant see him right now… We still communicate time to time but he makes sure he doesn’t get found out by the woman. It gets frustrating as how he cannot see past the spell! I’d like to ask about which angel I can pray to and ask for guidance? I really just want him to be safe first and foremost and be away from that woman. Any insight, if it’s okay, will be much appreciated.
Jen, I’m so sorry! I suggest calling on Archangel Michael daily to clear and shield your ex-boyfriend in light. (While you’re at it, do so for yourself as well. Here’s a good clearing/shielding meditation for your own energy field: https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/ )
But if you cast a love spell purely to get money off that person?
This is what has happened to my husband. He left me many months ago and I later found out he’s been having an affair with his ex secretary for over two years. She’s married with children but her husband lives in another country and it is well known she is having other affairs too. I later found out through spiritualists/faith healers etc that she had given him some food with a spell (possibly her period blood). I have been to a place where they did a ritual to break the spell but she continues to give him food with spells. I have been told he will come back in a few months. Also, I was told that there has been another spell on his whole extended family and that is why our marriage was never normal from the beginning. This is very true because he changed overnight a few months into our marriage and told me he doesn’t love me. He was addicted to porn and never really showed any affection or interest in me. However we did have our happy moments throughout the years. Right now, he is waiting for me to divorce him without mentioning the other woman in the proceedings. When he used to communicate with me, and I told him I know about the affair, he never admitted it. Instead he would go quiet. I have told him I will never divorce him. I know that if I do, that woman will kill him to get the money that he has left. He won’t have any form of communication with me or our child anymore and has done some crazy things like breaking into our house and changing locks and resigning from his well paid job to open a tiny shop where the other woman is handling everything. It’s like he is her slave and will do anything she says. She doesn’t seem to be living with him. I know she only wants his money. He has a lot of property and money which is inherited. Everyone is so surprised as to why he would leave me and go to her as she cannot be compared to me (I don’t mean to be snobbish but it’s simply the truth). He also was shouting at his mother (who he used to be very close to) until he forced her to give a huge amount of money to him. I feel so heartbroken because I don’t know what to think. A part of me thinks I mustn’t take this to heart because this is not the real him but another part can’t take the pain he is putting me and our daughter through. My family and friends also have different opinions. Some think, this is a spell and when he comes around from it he will be ashamed of himself whereas others think a spell can’t be so strong as to completely take over him like this. Can a spell be so strong?
Hi Penny. I’m so sorry to hear about this. Yes, in my opinion, a spell can be so strong. It’s also my opinion that the safest, best, and most ethical way to deal with this magically is to call on Archangel Michael daily on your husband’s behalf to clear and shield him in protective light. I also suggest that you regularly do the same for yourself and your children.
Hi Tess,
I wrote to u on here on 12/08/17 (Penny) about my husband who left me and our daughter after his ex secretary did a love spell on him just so she can get money from him. I’m so pleased to say the spell was broken some months ago by a place that does these thing and he came back home. Someone took him there as that person realised how this woman is totally controlling him and that he has a wife and child he’s ignoring and this made him suspicious as to why my husband is like this. (In my country these love spells are not uncommon). I thought my story of him returning might give others hope as I remember how devastated I was when I went through it. He was away from us for 2 years and 5 months. She has taken a lot of money off him and he has wasted a lot of money too. But all that matters is he’s away from danger (I really think she planned to kill him) and he’s home.
And as I mentioned before he had two spells done on him which are now both broken. It’s like I’m with the person I originally dated. It feels like a nightmare has finally ended and I still get teary thinking about it. For all those on here thinking of doing love spells, please please don’t mess with people’s lives.
Penny
Hi my name is Mabel I’m writing you and regardless of a guy that I was currently dating I love him and I’m still in love with him but we had some difficulties throughout our relationship by me going back to jail constantly and he told me that he was no longer interested in a relationship and that he just wanted to be friends but all along I felt like there was somebody else and I can’t stop thinking about him and wanting to be with him and I wanted to do a love spell on him to draw him back to me because I feel like we just had negative energy around us is trying to stop us from being together and I just wanted to know your inputs on it
Hi Mabel! Like I described in the post, I strongly advise against doing a love spell on a specific person for any reason. Instead, here’s a general love spell you can do for a happy love life: https://tesswhitehurst.com/simple-sandalwood-and-rose-love-spell/
I need your help badly! My estranged husband and I are living in separate homes but still married. We also share a two yr old. We both done some horrible things to one another. I want him back by any means and I cant move on what so ever. I need a spell or something. Please help
Shai, what a heartbreak! I don’t recommend doing a spell on your husband. At the present time, I’m sensing that the best thing would be for you to clear all your clutter and to do this meditation daily: https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/ . Once you’ve cleared all clutter from everywhere and done this meditation every day for at least one month, something will shift. If you need additional guidance at that time, come back and let me know.
Please Tess I need your help am seeing crazy things here and I am positive and have this strong feeling that my ex used this on me(menstrual spell) or something similar please help
Hi Edward! I suggest the selenite and white sage cure from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/
Me and my daughters father been together for 10 years we have been having some trouble he cheated on me and is now stuck with that girl and disrespects me for her anyday and he tells her everything about me , came to realization she did witchcraft on him and she even told me he’s not going anywhere before that me and him loved each other sincerely before all of this now shes obsessed with him what can I do to get him back?
Hi Susie! My sense is that spell #5 from this post would be a good place to start: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
I wonder if you could clarify my experience. I did this almost 20 years ago, but it still bothers me today. At the time , I was not happy in my marriage. I became obsessed with a man I met in a self help group. We flirted and acknowledged our mutual attraction but agreed it would be wrong to pursue further. Until one day, he became very angry with me because I confided in a friend about our mutual attraction. She in turn, told him off for leading on a married woman. He refused to speak to me for months which only made my obsession for him stronger. I prayed to God to give me peace and even to open his heart to me. I believe God was protecting me. Finally, knowing nothing about magic, I sat on my kitchen floor with candles around me. I summoned the spirits of the air to bring him to me. Later that afternoon he called me. He said he was putting a stop to his shunning me because he thought it had gone on long enough. A few days later he called in the evening. He said he could not stop thinking about me. He said he felt like I put a spell on him. He said he was in love with me. I lied to my husband (the start of many lies), and went to his apartment. I had a horrible feeling while driving there and asked God to forgive me. That night was the first time of many that we were together. One weird comment he made that night was, while I was looking into his eyes he got freaked out because he said, “Your eyes are glowing weird like yellow.” He then dismissed it as a trick of the light, but it scared me. We had an affair for over a year. He was also lying to his girlfriend and was becoming emotionally abusive to both of us. The sexual energy completely drained out of our affair. We agreed to end it, but I continued to think about him. Sometimes, I would park outside his building and look up at his window. He saw me doing it and told me so. I was embarrassed and stopped. I did not see him for almost ten years when I saw him in the supermarket. I felt nothing for him but was shocked to see him. He treated me coldly. He was very pleased with himself and how his life was going. It upset me. My life has gone on and I am still married, older and wiser. I believe my actions brought evil into my life and his. I have atoned for this since and would never do this again. I would appreciate your insight into my story. Thank you.
Bernie, thank you so much for sharing your experience. It sounds like you lived and learned, like we all do. If you still feel any trace of the spell left over, you could always do a cleansing ritual to remove any lingering effects.