Are you thinking of magicking someone into loving you? Don’t! Here’s why you shouldn’t do a love spell on a specific person, and what to do instead.
“Whom you seek to imprison you do not love.”
~ A Course in Miracles
Look, I know it can be tempting.
But casting a love spell on a specific person is not only unethical, it will also very likely totally suck for you in the long run.
Of course, if you’re in the throes of limerence, it may be difficult to imagine what could possibly suck so much about the person you’re crushing on feeling the same way about you. Well then, let me paint you some pictures.
Do love spells work? Yes. And can you cast a love spell to attract someone awesome? Absolutely. But just don’t cast a love spell on a specific person.
Here’s why: ultimately, when you do a love spell on a specific person, there are no good outcomes. Rather, there are three main ways it could go very wrong.
(For everything you need to know about the dynamics of ethical and successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.)
The First Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
You know that what you send out energetically always comes back to you in some form, right? So in this scenario, when you cast the love spell, you cast it on yourself, too. That spell flies right back at you like a boomerang. So now, you both become magically, unnaturally obsessed with the other. Then you get into a really sticky, codependent, basically awful relationship. Maybe it involves violence. At the very least it involves emotional abuse, because overriding someone else’s free will is in itself a form of emotional abuse. So you put that in the mix when you did the spell, and now it’s there. And you’re stuck in the mire of that love spell like a swamp. Any healthy, fun, beautiful relationships you may have had aren’t even a possibility anymore, at least until you do some major magical damage control and extricate yourself from this mess. So don’t do it!
The Second Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
In this scenario, you cast a love spell on a specific person, and that person indeed appears to fall hopelessly in love with you. And…darn: now that they’re acting so foolish, they’re not attractive to you anymore. In addition to making this person miserable, now they also won’t leave you alone. Not to mention, as in scenario 1 (above), since you overrode some else’s free will by casting a spell on them, you’re going to have to deal with some karmic backlash.
The Third Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
The best case scenario, but still a bad one, is that you cast a spell on someone, and that unlucky someone successfully resists the magical pull to enter into a relationship with you. But your spell still boomerangs back and hits you, so you pine for this person much longer than you otherwise would have. You’ve now cast a spell of unhappiness on yourself. Until it wears off or the spell is successfully broken, this presents a challenge to your moods, your ability to focus, and any other romantic relationships you are (or may have otherwise been) involved with.
What to Do Instead of Casting a Love Spell on Someone
As I mentioned above, you can still do a love spell! Just not a love spell on a specific person.
You can’t go wrong when you do a spell to draw ideal romantic conditions and leave the actual person up to the universe. Because if the object of your affection happens to be an ideal partner for you right now, your spell might end up working on them after all! …But if it doesn’t, that just means someone even more perfect for you is on his or her way. So there’s obviously no question that this is the way to go.
If you liked this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
Looking for an ethical love spell? Way to go – good choice! Here are some to choose from:
5 Karma-Friendly Alternatives to Putting a Love Spell on Someone
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Hi, I put a couple of spells on someone that don’t I exist but I really want him in my life, can this be by white magic? And is it true that a spell can be put on someone I never dated or met? He don’t know I exist.. is it possible to have had this done? I’m just hoping I haven’t lost hundreds of 💵, thanks
Hi there. So what you’re saying is, you hired someone to cast a love spell on someone who doesn’t know you? Is that right? If so, I recommend rescinding that spell as soon as you can. (See reasons in this blog post, above.) One way to do this would be the lemon cure from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/
Yes, I did the passion pancea, tri force, triple cast Also, its another one I cant remember. But it is possible right?
Chandra, are you referring to a previous comment? I can’t find it for some reason. Can you please remind me what you’re asking about?
Yes, I was asking u about 3 spells I did cast on someone that dont know me or know that I exist, I was asking is it possible to do these type of spells on someone even thou they dont know me at all, I did the passion panacea, the tri force love spell, and a couple more, through a spell caster. Is this possible to be done on someone that you actually never talk to in person and they dont know me? Trying to make sure I’m not being scammed.
I have a feeling that my husband has been give a love spell I’ve been told by 2 different mediums that he has been. I have spent thousands of dollars, and still haven’t gotten to the bottom of it or have yet for it to be broken. They both said that he is my true “twin flame”. So my question is, if I just continue with my life, will that spell “wear off” and miraculously he’ll come back (since I can’t cintiune to spend anymore money to break this spell)??
We have a great relationship and we have children together. The girl does not live in the same country so she isn’t even around but he leaves to visit her and has communicated with her over 2 years now.
Hi Theresa! Does he know? Have you talked about it? If so, do you think you could get him to do the Rose Overdose Cure from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/ ? I’m getting the sense that will do it.
He doesn’t know it and he doesn’t believe it. I’ll look into the method you told me! Thanks so much!
Hi Tess,
My husband left me for another woman a little over a year ago. I know for sure this woman practices witchcraft. He came back to me after I gave birth to our daughter. Everything seemed to be okay until about a week ago. I had to have my husband admitted into a psych ward because his behavior has changed drastically. He keeps saying my oldest daughter (his stepdaughter) put voodoo on him. He says she’s burning candles in our home, but she’s not. He started searching our home for candles. He was looking in cereal boxes and in the freezer in ice cream containers for a burning candle. He wouldn’t sleep and his behavior scared me. Is there anything I can do to get him back to normal?
Tiffany, I suggest you contact Sen Elias at Crescent City Conjure. Here’s his website: https://crescentcityconjure.us
I sure will. Thank you!
Hi Tess,
I was drawn to your site tonight as I was trying to gain clarity about my dilemma. First, let me commend you for taking time to respond to all your questions even a year after this article was posted. It’s a testament to you.
My situation is a bit different, but possibly the same. There is a woman I’ve met who I just can’t get out of my mind. It was like an instant spark that was like nothing I’ve felt before. That being said, a romantic relationship is impossible for a number of reasons, not the least of which is our distance and the fact that we are work colleagues (we don’t work for the same company but we’ve hired them to do work for us and in the end they may end up working for us directly). So romantic love is likely not in the cards, at least not in the short or medium term.
I’ve grown to accept this fact, but I still can’t shake the feeling of the connection. It feels like the universe is putting her in my life for something meaningful.
The problem is that she is very closed off and guarded… At least in the work setting. When we’ve had the opportunity to interact outside of work she is much more relaxed and open and genuine. This mainly stems from the nature of our business relationship and her being a very driven, buttoned up professional.
What I want is for her to open up to me and communicate more freely with me. I know that that kind of interaction would be wonderfully rewarding for both of us.
The problem is that the person that I trust when it comes to spells had recommended a sort of love spell, but one that is designed to open the doors of communication, not to make her fall in love with me. In some ways it feels different… But maybe it’s the same as a love spell.
I don’t know what to do….
Greg, thank you for the kind words! With regards to your question, I’d say it depends on the spell. The golden rule is often a good diagnostic. Do you feel that the spell would interfere with her free will in a way that you wouldn’t want your free will to be interfered with? In other words, if someone you didn’t know well were to do a similar spell on you without your knowledge, would you feel fine about it?
Tess,
Thank you. That is kind of what I have been thinking. I have been very clear that all i want is to foster more open and intimate conversation (intimate in the interpersonal sense, not in the romantic sense). I have sensed that the connection is there… I have thought about how I would feel if it was done to me, and if the spell was truly cast with the intention that I have for it I would be ok with it, because it doesn’t force my feelings to change, it just expands on a connection that is there, and the worst that comes from it is good conversation. Is that naive?
No, I don’t think it’s naive. It sounds like you’re being really careful and respectful to me: like if she wouldn’t naturally want to connect more, she just won’t. But if she would, she will. Great example of magical integrity! Creating space, shifting blocks, opening the road, and then allowing free will to be what it is.
Tess,
Thank you again. Apologies for hijacking the comments. Your thoughts are exactly in line with mine. It’s just when I think about the spell that my advisor is recommending, it’s in that category of “love spells”… And I’d be casting it on a specific person.
But on the flip side I’m not using it to influence her to fall in love with me. I’m just trying to remove the unnatural blocks that I know exist as a result of the current business circumstances we are in. I truly believe that if those blocks that she puts up were gone that we would have a very deep connection. But the blocks are all on her side. There is nothing blocking me from moving to that level… So the spell is naturally directed at her. But is it truly the same as changing her free will?
Like I said, sounds fine from what you’ve told me. If you don’t feel right about it, though, I definitely wouldn’t do it.
How do you break a love spell like that?
Hi Amy! Do you mean one that you did on someone else, or one that someone else did on you?