Before you mess up your karma by cursing or hexing someone, try one of these more elegant options instead.
If you just Googled “How to curse someone,” or “How to hex someone,” read this first!
I mean, I get it. Someone did you wrong, and it is so, so, so infuriating and unfair.
It seems your options for doing something about it in the physical world are so painfully limited, you feel almost irresistibly compelled to direct your considerable personal power toward causing them harm.
Believe me, I’ve been there. And I’ve even done that. And I don’t recommend it.
In my regrettable experience, karmic backlash is a real thing. And it’s just not worth it.
But, hey, cheer up: you have options! The five alternatives below will provide valuable magical recourse without endangering your own energy, sanity, and general wellbeing.
Hex/Curse Alternative #1: Reflect All Energy Back to Its Source
A traditional feng shui cure for dealing with challenging neighbors involves nothing but a mirror. The idea is to the mirror so that the reflective side is facing the neighbor’s house, and then simply set the (completely neutral) intention that it reflect all energy – good, bad, or in between – directly back to its source.
Sending negative energy right back to its source is quite a bit tidier and more efficient than a hex or a curse.
Usually the mirror is placed outside of the house, but apartment dwellers can place the reflective side against the wall, and hide it behind a picture or a sofa. If your issue is with your downstairs neighbors, you can place it reflective-side down on the floor, perhaps under a piece of furniture. If the upstairs folks are bothering you, you’ll need to figure out a way to attach it to the ceiling, reflective-side up.
This same practice can be adapted for the workplace, or you can even wear a mirror pendant and set the intention that it reflect all energy back to a specific source.
The important thing is the intention. It doesn’t matter what size or shape the mirror is. It can be as big as an entire wall or as tiny as a mirrored tile.
Hex/Curse Alternative #2: Cast a Protection Spell
When it comes right down to it, you are the one you most want to take care of in this situation. And hexing and cursing can have the unfortunate side effect of tying your energy to the person or people you most want to protect yourself from. Luckily, there are plenty of spells that work wonderfully for protecting your physical and energetic wellbeing. (Although of course it’s still important to take safety precautions in the physical world, such as locking your door and not getting in the car with strangers.) Here’s a simple and effective one:
Ingredients:
An Archangel Michael candle
Dragonsblood incense and incense holder
A lighter or matches
Essential oil of frankincense
Sunflower oil
A small bowl, shot glass, or saucer
Light the candle and incense. Say:
Archangel Michael, I call on you and invoke your protection. Please keep me completely safe in all ways, at all times. Please surround me in your fiery divine light through which no negativity may enter. Thank you!
Feel gratitude for Archangel Michael’s sure and steadfast protection as you place a tablespoon or so of sunflower oil in the small dish. Add one drop of frankincense essential oil and combine. Then lightly anoint your forehead, throat, heart, belly, and wrists with the oil.
Finish by picking up the incense and holder and safely wafting the smoke around your body (and home if applicable).
Place the incense back near the candle and allow it to burn all the way out. Extinguish and re-light the candle (as needed for fire safety purposes) until it’s burned all the way down.
Hex/Curse Alternative #3: Neutralize Someone’s Power Over You
In truth, no one has the power to cause you harm: legal, physical, financial, or otherwise. If it seems like they do, it’s only an illusion, just as everything is in this time-space reality. Even if they’re your landlord, your boss, or your mother-in-law, once you remember how powerful you actually are, the other person’s seeming power over will fall away. It’s like waking from a nightmare. And this spell can act as your alarm clock.
Ingredients:
Sea salt or Himalayan pink salt
The other person’s business card, photo, or full name written on paper
A jar with a tightly-fitting lid
Fill the jar part way with sea salt. Hold the identifying paper in both hands and say,
[Name of person], you have no power over me.
What once seemed like power is now erased.
It’s erased yesterday, it’s erased today, it’s erased tomorrow.
It is null and void. It was never even there in the first place.
It now completely dissolves, dissipates, disappears, and returns to its native nothingness, now and forever, in all directions of time.
Place the card, photo, or name in the jar and completely surround it with sea salt by pouring it over the top and filling the remainder of the jar. Seal the lid. Feel your own power returning and remember how magical you actually are. (Keep the jar on a shelf or in a cupboard until you feel you no longer need the magical reminder.)
Hex/Curse Alternative # 4: Bind Someone from Causing Harm
In some cases, a binding spell is much more appropriate than a hex or a curse anyway. This is especially true if someone is behaving like a bully (in any sense of the word), and you simply want to stop them from causing harm. Here’s a blog post I wrote featuring three ways to bind a bully without harming your karma in the least.
Hex/Curse Alternative #5: Activate Swift Justice
Perhaps the person you wish you could hex or curse is actually doing something illegal, or has done something illegal. Lucky for us, there are divine helpers who just love enforcing swift and appropriate justice. The Norse god Forseti is my personal favorite to call on for the purpose.
Here’s a spell from my book, Holistic Energy Magic, to be used when you’re in a legal situation and you’re entirely in the right:
Call on Forseti. When you feel his powerful presence, send him gratitude in the form of visualized light. With or without words, show him the situation. You might picture the whole thing as if you’re picturing the storyline and emotions of a movie. Be sure to feel your feelings and project them to him as well. Imagine that you are illuminating the dark spaces and shining light on the true situation. Then ask Forseti to intervene on your behalf and bring you the justice that you deserve by saying:
Forseti, the presiding one,
Please stay with me till this thing’s done
Bring justice from your golden hall
Swiftly and once and for all.
I honor you with love and light
And thank you for your wisdom bright!
Feel even more gratitude, and be sure to heartily thank Forseti once justice has been served.
Don’t compound the problem by hexing or cursing someone! Try one of these more karma-conscious options instead.
Thank you for sharing this with me..I’m loving this..
So glad to hear it! Thanks for reading. 🙂
I have a question do all withches have to follow the Wiccan religon ?
Hi Sabrine! No, they don’t. You can be a witch and also any other type of religion you’d like. Here’s a video I made that touches on this subject. Don’t be misled by the title – it is applicable to all religions, not just Christianity: https://tesswhitehurst.com/are-spells-safe-can-i-do-magic-if-im-a-christian/
Is there any harm to myself if I were to use the gentle curse of putting someone in the right direction?
I’d say it depends on what you mean by that exactly, and what exactly you choose to do.
I’ve succumbed myself to feel numb and apathetic towards someone I loved a lot. We were friends for 8 years and realized she was not who I blinded myself to see. Everyone saw it/her for who she is; I see that now and see who she really is. I want to place the “Gentle Curse” on her to let her see what she has done. She doesn’t acknowledge her damage and focuses everything on blaming me for the demise of our friendship.
Help my soul has been cursed
Did you try any of the suggestions in this blog post?
In #3 what do I do with the jar and the contents after I feel empowered and rid of the negative?
Appropriately dispose – compost, recycle, etc.
Thanks, I appreciate it. People basically teach you how to do things, but not the fine points. So this is good!
So glad it’s helpful, Dee!
Thank you for this reminder…. I was considering placing a hex’s on a mean, racist person but you are right not worth the Karmic backlash
Glad the post was helpful, Nadia. Thanks for reading.
Can I do this on someone else’s behalf or does it have to be personal? My partner is having issues and its starting to effect me and our relationship.
Celeste, I would feel totally fine about doing any one of these on someone else’s behalf EXCEPT a binding spell. So with the other 4 options, you’re cool.
My daughter husband is being a bully toward her name calling and down right mean said to her that he was trying to break it up with her before they had kids and he said he never wanted to marry her they been together for 13 years don’t get it why now he being abusive towards her
Maybe you could give your daughter that reflecting mirror pendant.
God bless you
How many times do you need to say the words to certain Angels ? Like 3, 5 ..times or do you stop once you begin to feel grateful ..
Do you mean the words in the protection spell? Just once is fine!
Yes, I mean for spell #, 4, and 5.. is once as effective or do I keep repeating the saying if that same person continues to harm me.
I’d start with once, although you can certainly call on Archangel Michael for protection at any time.
Thank you! I appreciate your time and knowledge.
Hi! I wanted to do #3 with my daughter regarding the aftermath of a bullying situation. I read somewhere on your site recently about a protective circle and I’m not finding it now. Do we need to do that for #3? Thanks 🙂
Hi Angela! You don’t need to. If you feel guided to, though, here’s the circle casting post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/how-and-why-to-cast-a-magical-circle-6-simple-steps/
Hi Tess,
I need to know which good, protection spell for me and family. I am tired of everyone trying to accomplish their goal twice … I feel like a two, two curse on us . Any suggestion ?
Thank you
Was looking to do karma , but I stopped after reading this . Unfortunately I still hope for the karma to hit and have the cheaters be cought by her husband seeing he doesn’t believe me .I honestly have no answers on how to make this happen .
Hello, I have lived nextdoor to a very unstable and angry neighbor for the last 6 years.
In that time, I have had visits
with him that were nice but he turns! The next time
I talk with him he verbally with
despite attacks me.vial stuff!
I’ve many times have delt with it by responding in kind as emotional defence. I’ve just had another intense attack
by him 2 weeks ago. At first, I was stunned and it turned to
Intense anger.After so many years of being attacked by him,
I admit I lost it! I spit out some very powerful words his way.
As well as binding him from doing harm to anyone else or to himself. BUT there at one point I was unwise and my words came out as a curse.
Appalled by what I had just
done, I wrote a letter telling him to forget what he had received from me, that he sure pushed my buttons good.
That I apologize for my angry
words and take the law out of it! That my angry words have no power! But, He was still bound from harming anyone
else or himself! I haven’t seen him around but I send him white light and wish him well.
Did I do the right thing addressing my words of anger and power? Taking the power out of the words and withdrawing the energy in which I originally sent them with. I’m still wondering what effect outcome will be.
Did I uncurse him and make the right ammends? Karma?
Does this put everything that was said and done back to balance? I’d really love to hear from you about what you think and if my actions where appreciate. Thank you for any insight you could share with me. I strive to be true to the
Creed of the Goddess!
“Harm none” so be it!
Blessings,Todd
Todd, you are very sweet and conscientious to worry about your actions! It’s my sense that all is well and that you were justified in your behavior. If you happen to run into any adverse affects, you can always do a cleansing or uncrossing ritual. And, of course, it never hurts to call on Divine protection every day.
Hi, what if someone is just breaking rules would the justice spell still work?
Lulu, I’m sensing something else will be more powerful for you, like perhaps the protection spell.
Hello Tess!
I have doubts that a guy might have intentions to cause me trouble or ruin my relationship. I was considering a binding spell. What would you suggest?
Hi Riri! I’m getting the vibe that spell #3 (from this post) might be even better for you in this situation.
Hi Tess
I have been enjoying reading your weekly emails , Thank you for the time to share your knowledge.
I have been having trouble getting a job and feel I have tried everything to help including lighting green candles and burning basil, mint and cinnamon together., is there any spells that can help open new doors for me?
Thank you
Hi Teresa! Yes: https://tesswhitehurst.com/new-job-spell/
Hi Tess I need vengeance. My husband ended our marriage and threw me out of his house because I had complications during child birth! They all thought I would die and decided I go back to my father’s house and die. Am fine now but am still very angry over what he did to me! He got married to another woman this January! I want their marriage to scatter and want him to pay for what he did to me! Am still struggling with my baby! Vengeance is what I need! From Nigeria
Stella, I’m so glad to hear you’re fine now! I think most of us would feel the same way in your situation, but ultimately, focusing on healing and empowering yourself will make you healthier and happier than vengeance. Vengeance will hurt you as well as him. It’s safe to say that this situation made it clear that he was not someone you would want to be with anyway. So now you are healed and you have an opportunity to be healthy and happy without him. Feel your feelings, for sure, but always choose actions (magical or mundane) that will benefit YOU in the long run.
I sure hope Forseti heard my prayers. I shined a lamp in my direction, which was also in front of window. Both of us have had legal issues. My son admitted guilt to a dui and has paid his fine. I am hoping that he wont get any points. My case is a security deposit that was not returned. The property manager even charged an extra month after we gave our 30 day notice. i have consulted with a lawyer. He has all my paperwork and doesn’t return my calls.
I think I’ll reach out to Forseti again at night while shining the lamp in my direction
Hi Tess my partner has kind of put me in a tight spot when he asked me to go on a mortgage with him. I know it is his mum who is influencing him to do that as their family does not have the money and she knows I have a good savings account. She has convinced him that this is the best thing for all of us and she intends to come and stay with us free of cost. I have no issues with my partner providing for his mum. I am all for it but I am not ok being manipulated to commit to a mortgage and I think my partner feels the same but cannot stand up to her. I am going to say no but I know I can expect violent backlash from my partner and his mum. Anything I can do to protect myself and stand firm? And can I do a binding spell on her? I do not want to distance her from her but I want her to stop being manipulative and interrupting in my life.
Hi DK! Yes, do this meditation daily for a while: https://tesswhitehurst.com/shielding-and-boundary-setting-meditation-for-empaths/
Oh, and I’d recommend the neutralization spell from this post instead of a binding at this point.
Hi Tess,
Few months back, my position in my company was very very good since 2017 and suddenly 3 months back one manager came into some other department. He was jealous of my position, and due to this he started pointing me out to CEO with some negative thoughts at my back. He is of much lesser experience than me but biching at my back is favouring him in some ways. Now he is my reporting manager and takes credit of all the tasks done by me.
Can we do something to get my fame back and to down him?
I would do the neutralization spell from this post. Focus on protecting yourself and reasserting your own power over your position and life, rather than negatively affecting his position. And see what happens.
Which one of these do you recommend to stop someone from doing love spells? (She’s actually hiring a spell caster to do them) is there anything I can do to stop her? she’s doing it on someone I love dearly .
Sounds like it may be time for a binding spell: https://tesswhitehurst.com/the-good-witchs-guide-to-binding-a-bully/
Thank you. I’m not familiar with spells. Is the protection circle mandatory for it? I’m just trying to help with what I can do but if I don’t know what I’m doing I’m might not do it correctly or do something wrong.
Angel, for a simple protection circle, you can just lightly sprinkle sea salt around yourself and call on the Divine to protect you in a way that feels powerful for you. Then simply do your best to complete the spell you choose, following directions as described. The intent is the important part, though. If you visualize and sense the spell is successful, it will be. You don’t need to do it perfectly.
Thank you, will this help remove the spells that are currently on him or will this just stop her from continue to do them?
A binding spell will just stop her. Check out this post for ideas for removing unwanted spells: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/
Tess thank you for the link that you sent above for the spell/hex removal. But these all seem to be for yourself. How do I remove the spell on him . Without him knowing?
You can adapt the spell to be focused on someone else. For example, you can change the wording to be about the other person, and you can use a picture of them in place of your physical body.
Thank you so much for this. Something like this is desperately needed in my life and for a few little ones. My family is being ripped apart by some evil people trying to do me harm. It’s affecting not just me, my son’s but my grandkids are being hurt in the process, because these people care more about themselves then they do anything.
I’m sorry to hear it. Holding the vision of you turning this around.
Hi! After years of repetitive cheating and a child, I cannot find it in my heart to stay with ny husband. I have worked through my anger and no longer resent him.I have found forgiveness. But I do not want to be with him and want a divorce. But two times he has manipulated me into staying(mention of suicide and eratic behavior).But I want out and I am growing as a person and cannot do it in this marriage. What can I do and maybe make him leave me and ask for a divorce?but Without any karmic backlash?!
Mona, even if this is not physical abuse, it is still abuse. I suggest contacting the National Domestic Abuse hotline for advice about extricating yourself from this relationship immediately. Here’s the number: 1-800-799-7233, and here’s the website: https://www.thehotline.org/help/
Hi Tess,
I am from India. My relations with the top management are getting worse due to some bitching from other employees who are jealous of me and my position in company. I have read your article about some mirror to reflect negative energy but as I belong to Hindu religion, so I am confused whether that will work or not. Please suggest solution, which are effective and I can prefer in India. I am very sad due to this situation, I believe in Dharma, kindness and humanity, but still facing these issues from such stupid people. Please help.
Also, please let me know, from where in India I can get the original and genuine mirror?
Regard,
Yogesh
Hi Yogesh, the mirrored pendant can work for people of all religions, provided you set a clear intention for it to reflect all negativity back to its source. There is no special pendant you need, as long as it has a mirror on it and feels powerful for you.
Hello Tess!
I have a question regarding the salt spell. A love one close to me tense to sometimes put me down…..a lot. It hurts. I would like to leave, but I feel that I can’t since we have two children together and I don’t want any drama for my children. I wish he would be kinder and more relaxed with me. I DO NOT want to cause him any harm to him, I just wish he would be more peaceful.
If I tried the spell number #3. Can I “undo” it if I feel the spell has worked? What would happen if I opened the jar and tossed out the salt and took out his business card, photo, name etc?
Hi Michelle! I don’t advise doing any of these spells on someone you’re choosing to live with. It will probably cause more harm than good. It’s highly likely that staying in an abusive (even verbally abusive) relationship is actually not best for your family in the long run. You might consider talking to a therapist for support on either healing this relationship or (if it can’t be healed in a way you feel good about) ultimately releasing this relationship.
I loved what you have written.. but I have controlled and tolerated alot I can’t do it anymore. My boss has insulted me in front of all my Juniors and seniors without my fault. He holds back salaries of employees, he likes people who bitches all day he doesn’t care about work. Show your hot figure to him and you will be his favourite if you won’t than work like donkeys.This was the second time he scolded me so badly as if m his slave, he deserves to be punished. I don’t know how to curse and don’t want to do without guidance.
Lily, I suggest the neutralization spell.
Hi! Could you do a post about scrying ( in a mirror, a bowl etc.)
Thank you!
Good idea – thank you!
I did spell #2 and didn’t realize that my incense was not smoking because i blew it out too soon. But it was too late when i realized. I re-lit it after the saying and everything else went according to what you wrote. Should i be concerned or should i redo this? Thank you.
Also what should i do with the left over oil mixture?
Discard in a way that won’t clog your drain.
No, that’s fine.
I initially googled about a hex. I’ve been discriminated against by the police because I’m handicapped. I’m hard of hearing and have Ataxia. These disabilities have symptoms that can prevent one from doing many things. Instead of being recognized as a person with disabilities. Some people treat you as a drunk or someone with an addiction. Unable to walk straight line or perform coordination tests. Treated as a criminal not a person with a disability. Regardless of the handicapped registration and plaque doctors notes medical records. I want these people to feel how I feel, go through the same experience and feel the way they made me feel. Wish I had the knowledge what to do and how to do it.
Scott, perhaps spell #1 would be for you, but I really suggest that you do it with neutrality and a desire to protect your energy rather than with any sort of anger or desire for vengeance. Otherwise, you will create negative karma for yourself.
I’m a witch who also trusts in the power of the law of attraction. I understand that some people don’t want to believe in the three-fold law, but it makes so much sense once you know how the law of attraction works.
I find that witchcraft follows the same principles as the law of attraction. Just like you, I feel that hexing and cursing is just calling negative energy to come back to you.
Whenever there is a negative experience in my life, I look for, or I create a spell that helps me to manifest a positive experience. For example, my neighbours can be noisy and obnoxious, so I made a charm bag for peace and tranquillity in my home. I can recharge the bag at any time I need it, and it has worked like a “charm” 😉
Michelle, I love this! So inspiring. Thank you for sharing. 🙂
Thank you so much for this. I have a boss who is very mean to me and takes out all her anger on me. I did spell #3 and I already feel empowered. Plus it feels good to have my anger replaced with power and righteousness. Thanks again!
I live with my mother and step father he has always been verbally abusive to her and yesterday he brought me into the fight and then attacked me physically. What spell could I do to stop his constant bullying of my mother and now me? I cannot move out and I’ve done everything I can. Binding spell?
Trisha, why can’t you move out? Even if it’s difficult or you have to live with a friend or relative, or even at a women’s shelter for a while, it seems like a priority to me. I’m wondering if there might actually be a way for you to get out of the home immediately.
Just u been so positive and passive is great ting your wise words for some reason I hear u and hear what u say not even in a spell or magical way but I trust you for some strange reason and if u could help me in any way whit some sort of advice maybe I no it’s a lot to ask but I do wonder if u could possibly shaid some light I’m gonna trow it out der anyway I came into my partners life a 24 year old whit 3 kids of my own my partner was a 30 year old whit 4 kids she had polar disorder basic There’s no good way to put this our relationship is breaking down we have been together 6 years I usually end up saying sorry or doin my best to keep us together I don’t no if I’m coming or going I’ve did this so many times I’m to blame for everything and the only way I can possibly keep my partner is bend over backwards say sorry and do tings I can’t realy afford in an instant and god forbid I don’t do it I’m not good enough for her anymore and can’t always giv her the tings she needs to keep her happy anymore I’ve tried all sorts if I don’t giv her what she wants she’ll find it elsewhere she sais she gets drunk and tells me this stuff a lot now completely convinceing wakes up takes it all back goes off stays in her kids fathers drunk cursing me causes complete caos gets her kids involved goes of to her freinds or whoever takes her fancy dats fine then accuses me of isolating her I’m from Ireland haven’t seen my family in 2 years every time she quietly takes it all back rubs it under the carpet best I get is a phone call from my family wouldn’t allow me talk to my kids mother any old crap over a few xxxs or anything she could think of if I don’t like it I can pack my stuff and fuck and go back to her whatever when she comes out whit these crazy allegations Completely turns on me sais nasty shit straight away I’ve said I’m very sorry then il leave il say if I’m dat bad why are we together because the kids are listening or whatever I have to just half agree say I’m sorry il leave she manipulates me whetted on purpose or it’s her bi polar I don’t no when she does this she said she loves me by the way I would never call my partner she it’s because I get called him I if I push her dat she’s not making sense more argument or forget the madness she’s just tought up I don’t no were to start all I no is I love this women I want no harm to come to her I don’t wanna curse her but she’s absolutely hateful to me then sais it’s me I want her to be happy and find what makes her happy genuinely and I want her to be at peace I’m willing to stay try go dats my attitude normally tryin to be supportive by the end of the drama after 6 long years I’m tired I’m pretty sure we want different tings but I literally feel like killing myself sometimes I suffer this on my own so instead of telling her this I just suffer it but I I’m only 29 clairs 35 don’t feel like me anymore any time I try to do my own ting or move forward in my own direction dats personal to her but she can do whatever she wants takes all sorts of turns career changes and more luck to her but everthing double standards I’m struggling to keep up now I feel bullied in every way ganged up on misfitted as I said it’s all in my head supposedly so I seen a psychiatrist said I’m fine I want to leave my partner but I need it to happen peacefullily which is quite impossible do I lie get my affairs in order on my own and just midnightflip or just put my head down and take death for 3 to 4 weeks till I can afford to leave she sais it’s just easier to hate me when we break up easier for her heart so a few times I felt like leaving she was so horrible in the process I stayed felt guilty tought I do love her but all to much in the end and the women won’t let me go in peace if I’m honest to her say I wanna leave ders trouble and I only say I wanna go maybe after weeks of staying out of her way then jumping to her side i allow all sorts of moods and emotions and mine aren’t even tought of and I’ve ran out of answers I feel like she’s smarter than me I don’t understand our relationship anymore as u can see I’m completely gas lighted I can’t make sense I’ve buried my head to long I was stronger man at 23 somehow even doe I no I’m way stronger now I no I am I feel fuzzy and my only answer is I’m hexed or cursed or maybe Clair has a spell on me but but I’m not happy and I’m still putting her first been snakey and moon light flipping is not in my vocabulary normally and just not coming back isn’t me but I want peace I don’t want to do it like this loves made me like a sad little boy again I no I need to leave and I don’t and I don’t no what’s going anymore in my partners head I’m sorry if I don’t make sense or it’s a lot to take in I left so much out but I think I need some wise word and commen sense and to hear the truth about how I sound I think my partner deserves the world I want her to be happy also but I feel doomed it’s bad enough this haven’t worked out 6 years of our lives
Leon, I suggest continuing with therapy: possibly a psychologist or counselor if the psychiatrist wasn’t working out. Not because there’s something wrong with you, but for help with clarity and guidance in general. Clearing clutter will also be a good idea if you have any to clear.