Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
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2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
Hi,
Thank you for this post. We are just past the new moon and 11 days until the full moon. I am currently separated from my ex, but we live together. We are stuck in a loop for 3 years, where are good and then he becomes depressed and breaks up with me – stating he loves me but can’t be with me because he is unhappy. He thinks we cannot break this loop. Even if not, we have currently gotten stuck in a rut each personally and I plan to do spell 2 to heal what we do have and one another independently.
However, I would like to do something between now and the full moon.
Can you offer any suggestions?
Yes! Clear clutter and clean your house. A space clearing won’t hurt either: https://tesswhitehurst.com/how-to-clear-the-energy-in-your-home-in-5-simple-steps/
Thank you, Tess, I will find a time when that is possible- he will have to be gone.
Would it be possible to do #2 and #4? We both do love each other but because of negative energy and negative blocks creating a healthy relationship and communicating has been what keeps us from being able to stay happy together. Would #4 help release some of our unhealthy relationship in conjunction with the healing spell?
For the cord-cutting bath spell, do you have to use a fresh candle each time? Or can you use the same one for the 7 subsequent baths? Is there any special way to put it out?
Also, was doing the rose quartz bracelet spell since yesterday, and have felt very sick and negative since then (I have been having chronic neck pain again since my breakup – meditating has helped some though) – will this affect the spell? I do want what’s best for us both.
Hi Susie! You can use the same candle each time. I would stop the rose quartz spell and concentrate on the cord cutting instead.
Should I take that as a sign it didn’t work? i.e. my ex doesn’t want to be with me? Or is it perhaps just bad timing? Can I still do spell number 2 on the next full moon?
Hi Tess, I’m quite new and I was thinking to cast spell #1, and I just have one question, do I need to cast a circle or is it ok if I don’t? Blessings
It’s ok if you don’t. 🙂
Thank you for your reply 🙂 just one more question: it can be done any time of the day, right ?
Yes.
Does number three have to be done on a full moon?
No.
Hi Tess , I was looking online for a love spell but I came across your blog and I feel like you are right , so I won’t do it . But I did wanted to ask you , if there was anything I could do with my current situation. I was INN LOOOVEEEEE with this guy who cheating on me but apparently he did like me and was thinking about making me his girl (he’s never had a girlfriend before ) . Though him and I were never in a relationship , we never had the status. So I tried rushing into a relationship with him and he slept with a girl . Then in revenge I dated his best friend for a year and almost 4 months . We had nothing in common so much fights and I think now the guy I was in love with hates me . But he kept staying in touch with his “BFF” . And he would always lie that I was trying to see him again so brought a lot of problems with me and his BFF . To the point the relationship got abusive . But it was my fault because in the back of my mind He was always there . Now we have broken up and I am trying to heal and find myself again . I get anxiety over people I get anxiety when going out I feel so insecure and I can’t stop thinking about Him (the guy I was initially in love with ) . Do you recommend anything i can do? I do not want to force anything. But why is he still in my head in my heart is there any way I can get him out ? . I wish I could talk to him I miss him so much he was such a great friend and the only guy that made me feel this way . But I was so mad at him sleeping with other girls . Why would he be inventing stuff to get me to brake up with his BFF ? . I want a resolution u know . I would really appreciate it a lot .
Hi Gianna! I recommend alternating between these two meditations every other day: https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/ https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/ . At the same time, I suggest clearing any clutter you have in your home, car, workspace, etc. After you’ve cleared all clutter and done these meditations (or similar ones) for at least 30 days, come back and let me know how you’re doing.