Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
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2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
I was like 98% complete for spell #2 and my significant other blew out the candle before bed. It was so close to burning out on it’s own. Should I light a new candle and restart tomorrow?
Nah, I’d just call it done. Unless you feel intuitively that you need to do it over, I’d say it’s all good.
Hi Tess, nice to see that there is someone out there that can explain spells . Are you still answering questions ?
In the comments, yes.
Hi Tess,
Could I do all 5 of these spells concurrently. Or would it dilute the effectiveness?
Or would it magnify them?
I would choose one for now. You can always do another one in a month or so. This will help you keep your intentions & magic strong.
Months ago i spoke to you.. i told you of a time i was so in love with my now husband.. i used magic to get him back when he left me and i was pregnant with our kid.
He came back when his girlfriend left him. It wasn’t the best start and we didn’t have the best relationship but we stayed together for about decade.
I felt neglected through the years, it wasn’t ll bad but i never did anything for myself just was a stay at home mom.
It finally built up and i lost so much weight, got a job and was proud of myself.
However my husband didn’t like it. He didn’t want me to go out just like for all those years and it seemed like he was holding me back.
I met someone that gave me attention and made me feel attractive and i felt was nice.
I cheated. I confessed to my husband. I said i was sorry and we said we’d start over. However it was nothing but fighting, nothing but more control. Monitoring my every move. With cameras and recordings. He started to sexually abuse and coerce me into doing things. I said no so many times but he wouldn’t listen. He wanted what he wanted and didn’t care how i felt. I did all of it. I let him do it. I felt i deserved to be punished for everything I’ve done.
I finally couldn’t take it anymore and didn’t want my kids to suffer the yelling and abuse and see my misery.
I finally moved out. Even after all his cry’s and threats.
I felt i knew it all i was ready to move on. I could do it all myself. I even reached out to someone and removed the spell and healed him.
It took awhile but i think he’s healing. However, I’m not. I came to a conclusion a few days ago how much i still love him.
I even got healed and i was told there will be a very strong detox and it’s here and it hurts so bad. I sat for hours yesterday crying in a park.. hours. Alone.
I reached out to my husband finally after not talking for so long. And i confessed how much i still love and care. It only been weeks since he still seemed to have feelings.
Now it’s like he’s too busy for me even though we met up to talk. I told him how much i still loved him and that we were together for so long and that we haven’t tried everything.
Even though so many people got involved and want me to leave and some on his side because they don’t know or care about the abuse just that I’m some heartless cheater, i still want to find some way to work it out. I can’t believe it myself. Even though i know i needed the healing and i still am, i still love him and forgive him for all the abuse. But now he doesn’t seem to want to forgive me. He wanted me back so bad and now it seems he’s too busy to care.
I don’t know what to do. I’m trying to make it right but not lose him at the same time.
You sent me to sin from crescent conjuring months ago and he did a tarot reading and said i still loved him and what’s that about when i thought for sure i was done and ready to move on. Somewhere in my subconscious it must have been because this came from no where.
Even though it’s been rough, and i know people say i deserve better, i feel like an awful person.
I don’t want to believe it was all a lie just because of the spell that none of the love from his side wasn’t true.
I miss my friend, my partner my lover, my husband…
I don’t know what to do.. i want to find some way to mend our bond and see if the love is real. I don’t want to lose him, it’s so painful..
I can’t believe I’m in this place of such sorrow once again. If there’s anything you can give me advice or what to do i would appreciate it. I’m trying to save my family.
Jessi, do any of the spells in this post resonate with you?
5, 4 and 2 really do.. It’s just so sad i have no control over the outcome.. I love him i just know it’s wrong to force someone.. which is why i got the healing done for him and removed everything…I was just hoping that this wasn’t a spell.. that it was real love.. now that i see he’s fading him afraid to lose him forever… i forgiven everything he’s done and it was a lot… that’s why i ran away.. even though he was trying and showing me love he was still abusing at the same time.. i couldn’t handle it.. it took me a while to find a moment to forgive but now it seems he doesn’t care.. that’s he’s too far gone being busy and enjoying himself while i am the only one supporting and being with the children… It hurts so bad.. i don’t know what to do.. i pray for forgiveness so much..
Is there anything i can do?
I suggest concentrating on clearing all your clutter and doing aura cleansing/cord cutting meditations daily. Here are some posts that will be helpful: https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/ https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/ https://tesswhitehurst.com/how-to-clear-the-energy-in-your-home-in-5-simple-steps/
Hi Tess,
3 of course, but 1 and 5 also look good. Which would work best with the full moon that night?
Thanks,
Dear Tess,
do you think I’d be okay for me to do the heal a relationship spell not on me and a partner, but on my parents? My mum and dad have really gotten quite bitter over the years and are rarely affectionate toward one another. My mother even told me that she does not like being intimate with my father anymore and it’s frustrating for her, and I believe for him as well. Do you think me casting the spell in their names would be okay?
Emi, I’m sensing that you’d be better off not doing a spell for this purpose. You can certainly send them positive energy and wish them well, but I think letting go and allowing them to have their own process with this challenge will best support everyone involved.
Thank you so much. I will continue doing just that! Wishing you all the best and much love 🙂