Are you an empath or highly sensitive person? Here’s how to keep your energy clear and positive.
A healthy boundary includes two factors. First, it’s an awareness of what feels true and right for you. But for a boundary to truly be healthy, it must be combined with a clear and decisive choice to honor what feels right to you in thought, word, energy, and action.
When it comes to your holistic wellbeing, healthy boundaries are a really big deal.
When your boundaries aren’t healthy, you may begin to feel fatigued, resentful, anxious, depressed, physically unwell, or even broke (if your boundary is related to money).
What Boundaries Are Not
Having healthy boundaries does not mean being closed off to others. It’s the opposite, actually. Because it’s only when you have healthy boundaries that you can connect fully with others in a nourishing, sustainable way.
While healthy boundaries will certainly inspire you to steer clear of certain relationships, they will also attract healthy people into your life, with whom you can be fully yourself.
And by knowing where you end and others begin, your thoughts, feelings, and opinions will not be confusingly muddled with those of others. In other words, you’ll know what they are. Only then will you be truly empowered to share what you actually think and feel.
Of course, when your relationships are healthy, the people in your life don’t want you to be a faithful echo or mirror of their needs and opinions. They want you to be your authentic self. They want to know when you don’t want to do something. They want to know when you disagree. They want to hear your opinion, even if it’s different than theirs. And if there’s a conflict between you, they don’t want you to capitulate just to avoid conflict. They want to stick around and work it out.
How to Cultivate a Healthy Boundary Habit
A daily meditation practice is possibly the best way to establish and maintain healthy boundaries. If I didn’t take time every morning to notice my breath and tune in deeply to the silence and the stillness within and around me, I really don’t know how I’d be able to untangle the awareness of my own energy field and the energy fields of others. It helps me to know myself and sensitize myself to my own desires, opinions, and needs.
It’s also a good idea to include an energetic clearing and shielding visualization in your daily meditation practice. This will help you feel energetically, spiritually, emotionally, and physically safe and protected.
Learning to speak your truth clearly, and doing so regularly, is another important boundary setting habit.
Energetic Tools and Practices for Healthy Boundaries
Sleeping with a black tourmaline (crystal) in your hand will help you relax and protect your energy field. Sleeping can be an energetically vulnerable time, and black tourmaline can both shield and renew your aura while your sleep.
Selenite (another crystal) is excellent for purifying your aura. Wave a selenite wand around your body about 6 inches or so away from your skin to neutralize and extract negative energy.
For extra spiritual protection throughout the day, you may like to call on Archangel Michael and Archangel Raphael to establish or refresh a sphere of bright, white, protective light around your body and energy field.
You may also like to make your own protection charm.
Becoming a Boundary Expert
To go deeper into this topic, check out Assertiveness for Earth Angels by Doreen Virtue (even if you don’t resonate with the direction her path has taken, the wisdom in this book is solid), The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, or Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. My own book, The Good Energy Book, also has a lot of helpful energetic and magical practices for establishing healthy boundaries.
Setting healthy boundaries will support every aspect of your magical spiritual path, and it is absolutely something you can learn how to do. Even though it’s a lifelong learning process, the more we do it, the better we get at it.
Did you fortify your boundaries with any of the strategies in this post? What did you think? Please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments.