Are you thinking of magicking someone into loving you? Don’t! Here’s why you shouldn’t do a love spell on a specific person, and what to do instead.
“Whom you seek to imprison you do not love.”
~ A Course in Miracles
Look, I know it can be tempting.
But casting a love spell on a specific person is not only unethical, it will also very likely totally suck for you in the long run.
Of course, if you’re in the throes of limerence, it may be difficult to imagine what could possibly suck so much about the person you’re crushing on feeling the same way about you. Well then, let me paint you some pictures.
Do love spells work? Yes. And can you cast a love spell to attract someone awesome? Absolutely. But just don’t cast a love spell on a specific person.
Here’s why: ultimately, when you do a love spell on a specific person, there are no good outcomes. Rather, there are three main ways it could go very wrong.
(For everything you need to know about the dynamics of ethical and successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.)
The First Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
You know that what you send out energetically always comes back to you in some form, right? So in this scenario, when you cast the love spell, you cast it on yourself, too. That spell flies right back at you like a boomerang. So now, you both become magically, unnaturally obsessed with the other. Then you get into a really sticky, codependent, basically awful relationship. Maybe it involves violence. At the very least it involves emotional abuse, because overriding someone else’s free will is in itself a form of emotional abuse. So you put that in the mix when you did the spell, and now it’s there. And you’re stuck in the mire of that love spell like a swamp. Any healthy, fun, beautiful relationships you may have had aren’t even a possibility anymore, at least until you do some major magical damage control and extricate yourself from this mess. So don’t do it!
The Second Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
In this scenario, you cast a love spell on a specific person, and that person indeed appears to fall hopelessly in love with you. And…darn: now that they’re acting so foolish, they’re not attractive to you anymore. In addition to making this person miserable, now they also won’t leave you alone. Not to mention, as in scenario 1 (above), since you overrode some else’s free will by casting a spell on them, you’re going to have to deal with some karmic backlash.
The Third Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
The best case scenario, but still a bad one, is that you cast a spell on someone, and that unlucky someone successfully resists the magical pull to enter into a relationship with you. But your spell still boomerangs back and hits you, so you pine for this person much longer than you otherwise would have. You’ve now cast a spell of unhappiness on yourself. Until it wears off or the spell is successfully broken, this presents a challenge to your moods, your ability to focus, and any other romantic relationships you are (or may have otherwise been) involved with.
What to Do Instead of Casting a Love Spell on Someone
As I mentioned above, you can still do a love spell! Just not a love spell on a specific person.
You can’t go wrong when you do a spell to draw ideal romantic conditions and leave the actual person up to the universe. Because if the object of your affection happens to be an ideal partner for you right now, your spell might end up working on them after all! …But if it doesn’t, that just means someone even more perfect for you is on his or her way. So there’s obviously no question that this is the way to go.
If you liked this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
Looking for an ethical love spell? Way to go – good choice! Here are some to choose from:
5 Karma-Friendly Alternatives to Putting a Love Spell on Someone
Love Spell to Attract a Divine Partner
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I may have just posted the same comment twice. The first one I accidentally used an email address which is logged in on a shared device so please only respond to the second comment for privacy. Thanks so much
Hi! Sorry, I just saw this. I will delete your other comments. Here’s my response: Hi! Any of the spells from this post will work: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/
I reall. Miss my ex boyfriend and I still love him I want to get back with him but he dont love me any mote so I sow this love spell on youtube writhing 5 time his name and 7 time my name but he didn’t call me yet and I had a plan to find powerful spell costed professional cause I don’t seen my life with out him its been 6 years since he broke up with me but sometime he text me I’m so in pane I need your help thank
I suggest working on yourself to let him go so you can open up to someone who DOES love you. Here’s a meditation to help: https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/
Hey tess my name is hailey and im 14 when i was 12 i did this spell(this also happen to be my first spell) on a boy i like and but i never talk to him at all .the spell involed a candle some shell rose petals ,rose oil and a peice of paper ( if that helps) but i regret doing this spell a lot the same year i cast the spell the new family dog died the year after 2 of my beloved dogs died and my beloved cat went missing im not sure if this was karma or result of the spell backfiring but all i want to do is break it now if this of way of punnishing me for impacting someone freewill than i learn my lesson and now i just want to do is break it but thing is i dont have alter i want to do lemon cure but i dont have alter any suggestions
Hailey, I don’t think the death of your beloved pets was related to the love spell. You can still do the lemon cure, though, and you don’t need a proper altar. Any flat surface will do.
Oh i see thank you.
Hi Tess, where can I talk to you about my situation? I need help.. its about my relationship.. I will wait for your reply thanks
Hi! I am not currently offering private sessions, but I highly recommend these intuitive counselors whom I have personally trained: https://tesswhitehurst.com/about/sessions/
I think someone had put a love spell on me when I was 16 years old. I am not sure how to break this and have not seen this person in several years. After I went over his house and had a drink from him I immediately had strong feelings for him that were not there before. I do not feel that he was a bad person. There were a few other girls that were im love with him as well.
Hi Emily! I suggest the Selenite & White Sage Cure from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/