Are you thinking of magicking someone into loving you? Don’t! Here’s why you shouldn’t do a love spell on a specific person, and what to do instead.
“Whom you seek to imprison you do not love.”
~ A Course in Miracles
Look, I know it can be tempting.
But casting a love spell on a specific person is not only unethical, it will also very likely totally suck for you in the long run.
Of course, if you’re in the throes of limerence, it may be difficult to imagine what could possibly suck so much about the person you’re crushing on feeling the same way about you. Well then, let me paint you some pictures.
Do love spells work? Yes. And can you cast a love spell to attract someone awesome? Absolutely. But just don’t cast a love spell on a specific person.
Here’s why: ultimately, when you do a love spell on a specific person, there are no good outcomes. Rather, there are three main ways it could go very wrong.
(For everything you need to know about the dynamics of ethical and successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.)
The First Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
You know that what you send out energetically always comes back to you in some form, right? So in this scenario, when you cast the love spell, you cast it on yourself, too. That spell flies right back at you like a boomerang. So now, you both become magically, unnaturally obsessed with the other. Then you get into a really sticky, codependent, basically awful relationship. Maybe it involves violence. At the very least it involves emotional abuse, because overriding someone else’s free will is in itself a form of emotional abuse. So you put that in the mix when you did the spell, and now it’s there. And you’re stuck in the mire of that love spell like a swamp. Any healthy, fun, beautiful relationships you may have had aren’t even a possibility anymore, at least until you do some major magical damage control and extricate yourself from this mess. So don’t do it!
The Second Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
In this scenario, you cast a love spell on a specific person, and that person indeed appears to fall hopelessly in love with you. And…darn: now that they’re acting so foolish, they’re not attractive to you anymore. In addition to making this person miserable, now they also won’t leave you alone. Not to mention, as in scenario 1 (above), since you overrode some else’s free will by casting a spell on them, you’re going to have to deal with some karmic backlash.
The Third Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
The best case scenario, but still a bad one, is that you cast a spell on someone, and that unlucky someone successfully resists the magical pull to enter into a relationship with you. But your spell still boomerangs back and hits you, so you pine for this person much longer than you otherwise would have. You’ve now cast a spell of unhappiness on yourself. Until it wears off or the spell is successfully broken, this presents a challenge to your moods, your ability to focus, and any other romantic relationships you are (or may have otherwise been) involved with.
What to Do Instead of Casting a Love Spell on Someone
As I mentioned above, you can still do a love spell! Just not a love spell on a specific person.
You can’t go wrong when you do a spell to draw ideal romantic conditions and leave the actual person up to the universe. Because if the object of your affection happens to be an ideal partner for you right now, your spell might end up working on them after all! …But if it doesn’t, that just means someone even more perfect for you is on his or her way. So there’s obviously no question that this is the way to go.
If you liked this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
Looking for an ethical love spell? Way to go – good choice! Here are some to choose from:
5 Karma-Friendly Alternatives to Putting a Love Spell on Someone
Love Spell to Attract a Divine Partner
If a person has made the mistake of doing a love spell, is there a way of UN-Doing this?
Hi RMary. Yes, this is like breaking a hex or a curse. Here’s a post with 5 options. Do any of these call to you? https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/
I very much agree on love spells needing to be ethical and account for free will. What are your thoughts on a spell that clears negative energies between the two of you & calls for you both to be guided to your Highest Good? With no attachment to outcome but either resulting in healing separately or perhaps reconciling (in friendship or romance), if that is what’s best?
Bella, I feel very good about such spells. I have some on my blog even. Like in this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
how i got my ex lover back with a powerful love spell in 48 hours after i contacted Dr John Soco email Drjohnsoco @ gmail .com
My boyfriend of 9 yrs and I were madly in love – inseparable & then he starred cheating & within weeks this girl has him get her an apartment & he left me our child for her. He keeps telling me he loves me & misses us & when we’re together it’s like US – like nothing has happened but he says he feels confused & he doesn’t know why & he always goes back to her even though he says he’s not happy – I honestly think she put a love spell on him – I know she’s into that kind of stuff – if she did can the spell be broken? Is there a spell to wake him up or protect him from the spell? He’s not himself at all – he was so close to our daughter – did everything with her – now he sees her 1x a week – it’s not him -and all for a girl he barely knew – any help is appreciated – even if it’s something help me let go and attract the love I deserve –
Hi, I suggest calling on Archangel Michael to clear and shield him daily.
Hello,
i had a spell done for me for a specific person, but looks like no change so far…. i might just do something else and focus on myself.
Good idea!
I need help I did a love spell a year ago and need to undo it, I didn’t know it would work and I am literally fearing for my life. He has become crazy obsessed and I don’t know what to do! He’s out hidden cameras in my house even! I have an order of protection and all. It’s like beyond crazy and then he just says I love you like nothings happened. There is so much that’s happened that’s just a piece of it I need help!
Oh, yes, this is an accurate description of what can happen. Don’t worry, though. You can undo it. I suggest the Lemon Cure from this post, only do it with a photo of him instead of yourself. (Even though the full moon was Saturday, you can start it now and it will be fine.) https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/