Are you thinking of magicking someone into loving you? Don’t! Here’s why you shouldn’t do a love spell on a specific person, and what to do instead.
“Whom you seek to imprison you do not love.”
~ A Course in Miracles
Look, I know it can be tempting.
But casting a love spell on a specific person is not only unethical, it will also very likely totally suck for you in the long run.
Of course, if you’re in the throes of limerence, it may be difficult to imagine what could possibly suck so much about the person you’re crushing on feeling the same way about you. Well then, let me paint you some pictures.
Do love spells work? Yes. And can you cast a love spell to attract someone awesome? Absolutely. But just don’t cast a love spell on a specific person.
Here’s why: ultimately, when you do a love spell on a specific person, there are no good outcomes. Rather, there are three main ways it could go very wrong.
(For everything you need to know about the dynamics of ethical and successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.)
The First Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
You know that what you send out energetically always comes back to you in some form, right? So in this scenario, when you cast the love spell, you cast it on yourself, too. That spell flies right back at you like a boomerang. So now, you both become magically, unnaturally obsessed with the other. Then you get into a really sticky, codependent, basically awful relationship. Maybe it involves violence. At the very least it involves emotional abuse, because overriding someone else’s free will is in itself a form of emotional abuse. So you put that in the mix when you did the spell, and now it’s there. And you’re stuck in the mire of that love spell like a swamp. Any healthy, fun, beautiful relationships you may have had aren’t even a possibility anymore, at least until you do some major magical damage control and extricate yourself from this mess. So don’t do it!
The Second Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
In this scenario, you cast a love spell on a specific person, and that person indeed appears to fall hopelessly in love with you. And…darn: now that they’re acting so foolish, they’re not attractive to you anymore. In addition to making this person miserable, now they also won’t leave you alone. Not to mention, as in scenario 1 (above), since you overrode some else’s free will by casting a spell on them, you’re going to have to deal with some karmic backlash.
The Third Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
The best case scenario, but still a bad one, is that you cast a spell on someone, and that unlucky someone successfully resists the magical pull to enter into a relationship with you. But your spell still boomerangs back and hits you, so you pine for this person much longer than you otherwise would have. You’ve now cast a spell of unhappiness on yourself. Until it wears off or the spell is successfully broken, this presents a challenge to your moods, your ability to focus, and any other romantic relationships you are (or may have otherwise been) involved with.
What to Do Instead of Casting a Love Spell on Someone
As I mentioned above, you can still do a love spell! Just not a love spell on a specific person.
You can’t go wrong when you do a spell to draw ideal romantic conditions and leave the actual person up to the universe. Because if the object of your affection happens to be an ideal partner for you right now, your spell might end up working on them after all! …But if it doesn’t, that just means someone even more perfect for you is on his or her way. So there’s obviously no question that this is the way to go.
If you liked this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
Looking for an ethical love spell? Way to go – good choice! Here are some to choose from:
5 Karma-Friendly Alternatives to Putting a Love Spell on Someone
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Hey Tess! I didn’t necesscarily cast a spell but instead wished for an amplification of positive feelings already present between me and my best friend (who I’ve been in a sort of relationship tangle with, though I know they don’t love me the same way, they think my feelings are valid and want to help somehow, confusing I know) but fear whatever I did may backfire because I was in a confused place when I did it. I don’t have the resources to do the lemon cure, is there any way I can wipe the slate clean to ensure the security of our relationship, or do I even have to? I feel like I did it without much thinking/experience, even though it wasn’t a spell but rather a prayer of sorts, with no will to have them obsessed with me or in love love with me, simply to amplify the feelings of joy, affection and understanding between us, and the love feelings that are mutual (physical and platonic love). Let me know if something seems iffy, they’re so important to me and I never want to lose them. Are there any spells I should do to reverse this and ensure the security of our bond 🙁 ?
Hi Kat! I’m not getting the sense that there’s anything currently to worry about with regards to what you may have set in motion in the past. To answer your final question, I don’t suggest doing anything else at this time.
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please help me, am in love with this guy my boyfriend of 4 years,here the thing, I can see that he has fallen out of love for me and its pains me because he is I everything I ever want, can’t go a day without thinking about him, nomatter how hard I try to ignore him too I just cant, this thing ruining me because he did a lot of bad things to me but I still want him, nometter how hard I try to let him go I just can’t, He is everywhere, He is ignoring me and I miss him so much,
Hi there! I suggest doing this meditation for at least 7 days straight: https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/ . After that, see how you feel. At that point, you may or may not want to do spell #5 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
Hi Tess, my boyfriend of 3 years just broke up with me on the day before our 3rd anniversary. He claims that he still loves me and is afraid to go further in the relationship because of his own confusion and anger towards life. He says that he fears he may harm me one day and the effect would be irreversible. I’m wondering if I could help him find his path towards peace and happiness and help him to come back to me again. Thank you. Thank you.
Hi Abby – this sounds heartbreaking. I suggest spell #5 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
Hi Tess! I first off want to say that I love this site and I am so thankful for you for making it & helping people like myself. I am currently going through a heart wrenching divorce. My husband has filed for divorce and has met someone else during the divorce process. Someone of whom he claims to be in love with. They live in different states and met on a social media website. I feel deeply in my soul, however that he is my soulmate and I truly believe that he will come back to me. I want him back, but I want for him to feel some sort of remorse because I am hurting badly. He seems to have no remorse. What can you pick up on my situation?
Hi Miranda! It’s always best to remove focus on how you want other people to feel and to place it on how YOU want to feel. It sounds counterintuitive, I know, but letting go of him energetically and emotionally is the best possible course of action if you’d like to speed up the most positive possible outcome (which may or may not involve him changing his mind and coming back). Here’s a meditation to cut cords of attachment (it can never cut cords of love, though – just unhealthy aspects of your connection) – https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/
Does binding someone create a repelling effect to anyone else who may want to engage with the object of desire? Someone I love very much passed me over for a guy who is into the dark arts, seems to be from his family lineage. Since the day he showed up I have experienced weird reactions to the one I love. Third party information revealed that he may bind her. I am just wondering if binding has this kind of result. Sadly his energy is much darker than she is aware of and he does not have good intentions for her. She is headstrong and thus blinded by ego to see what’s going on. Its sad, but I don’t want to be involved with the dark in any way.
Well, certainly spending time with anyone will affect one’s energy in some way. I would concentrate on clearing and shielding yourself regularly. Here’s a meditation I recommend daily (or something like it) – https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/