Try this journal exercise to hear to your intuition and magnify your self-kindness, self-care, and self-love.
This is an excerpt from my new book, The Self-Love Superpower: The Magical Art of Approving of Yourself No Matter What.
This simple, soul-nourishing journal exercise will tap you into the clear stream of wisdom that is always available to you.
This wisdom you’ll be tapping into comes from your True Self, who is one and the same as the Divine Presence, or Infinite Intelligence, or whatever you want to call it.
Here’s how to do it.
Find a comfortable place where you won’t be disturbed for 20-60 minutes
Light a candle or otherwise create a meditative mood, and make sure you won’t be disturbed for twenty to sixty minutes. Take some deep breaths, center your mind, and settle in.
When you feel calm and clear, at the top of a page, write, “What new habits or healthy behaviors will benefit me at this time?” Take some conscious breaths and see if you can notice your ego chiming in. You will know it’s your ego voice because it will be either critical or self-aggrandizing. For example, if it’s critical, it may say things like, “You should stop being so lazy,” or if it’s self-aggrandizing it may say things like, “You should show the world how great you really are.” Don’t fight this inner mono- logue. Just notice it.
Next, imagine you are leaving the ego voice where it is and actually lifting your consciousness up and out of it into a spot a foot or two above your head. From here, ask yourself again, “What new habits or healthy behaviors will benefit me at this time?” Tune into the energy of love. See yourself as a precious human and know you are always doing the very best you can at every moment. Feel forgiveness for your perceived faults and compassion for all your past challenges. From this place of unconditional self-approval, listen deeply for the answer to your question, and write down any clear guidance you receive.
You may receive guidance as words or sentences that arise in your mind, pictures or inner visions, an emotion, or a clear and inexplicable sense of just knowing. However your guidance arrives, trust it and transcribe it into language as best as you can.
If you find it difficult to tap into this guidance, or to trust what you are receiving, you can ask yourself, “What if I could tap into this guidance? What would it say?” Often, taking a hypothetical approach clears the pressure so you are free to experiment and to believe that what you are receiving is real.
Be aware that when you tune into this channel of wisdom, which is your true identity as the Infinite Intelligence of the Uni- verse, the guidance you receive may not always seem linear or related precisely to your question. Or it may! Just don’t place any expectations about content of the guidance.
What you can expect, however, is that the guidance you receive will be completely loving, compassionate, and supportive. It may ask you to change your habits, but it will never do so in a critical or judgmental way. It will also be characterized by humility. In other words, it will not compare you to others by emphasizing your inferiority or your superiority. This is because to Universal Wisdom, hierarchy isn’t real and is therefore a complete nonissue. From the perspective of Universal Wisdom, every human soul is learning at their own pace, in perfect timing. And everyone is equally wonderful and equally deserving of love.
Once you transcribe the answers you receive for the first question, feel free to repeat the process with other questions. For example, you might ask any of these questions or similar ones:
How can I begin to love myself?
How can I love myself even more than I do now?
How can I forgive myself for ______?
How can I begin to love and approve of my body (or appearance)?
How can I let go of anxiety or worry?
How can I let go of negative self-talk?
What guidance will help me believe in myself and my value?
What guidance will most help me accept and approve of myself as I am?
When you feel a sense of completion, review your questions along with the answers that came through, and consider ways to integrate the wisdom you’ve received. You may want to write a list to remind yourself of the important points, and place it on your self-love altar, refrigerator, near your mirror, or somewhere else that feels right.
You can come back to this exercise whenever you wish.
Did you try this journal exercise? How did it go? I’d love to hear about your experience in the comments.
Susan Eileen Jizba says
Such a wonderful exercise Tess! I’m a screenwriter and I do a lot of journal writing too, so this sounds like it will work really well for me. This just happens to be a week where I could use more than the usual amount of encouragement and self love, so this is very relevant for me. Thank you so very much!
Tess Whitehurst says
Susan, I’m happy to hear the exercise sounds like something that will be helpful for you. Sending lots of love your way.
Amber K. says
This was a lovely activity! I did the first question and felt so much support & encouragement. I can’t wait to use the questions at the end as additional journal prompts.
Tess Whitehurst says
Amber, I’m so glad! Thanks for giving its a try and for letting me know about your experience.