Are you thinking of magicking someone into loving you? Don’t! Here’s why you shouldn’t do a love spell on a specific person, and what to do instead.
“Whom you seek to imprison you do not love.”
~ A Course in Miracles
Look, I know it can be tempting.
But casting a love spell on a specific person is not only unethical, it will also very likely totally suck for you in the long run.
Of course, if you’re in the throes of limerence, it may be difficult to imagine what could possibly suck so much about the person you’re crushing on feeling the same way about you. Well then, let me paint you some pictures.
Do love spells work? Yes. And can you cast a love spell to attract someone awesome? Absolutely. But just don’t cast a love spell on a specific person.
Here’s why: ultimately, when you do a love spell on a specific person, there are no good outcomes. Rather, there are three main ways it could go very wrong.
(For everything you need to know about the dynamics of ethical and successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.)
The First Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
You know that what you send out energetically always comes back to you in some form, right? So in this scenario, when you cast the love spell, you cast it on yourself, too. That spell flies right back at you like a boomerang. So now, you both become magically, unnaturally obsessed with the other. Then you get into a really sticky, codependent, basically awful relationship. Maybe it involves violence. At the very least it involves emotional abuse, because overriding someone else’s free will is in itself a form of emotional abuse. So you put that in the mix when you did the spell, and now it’s there. And you’re stuck in the mire of that love spell like a swamp. Any healthy, fun, beautiful relationships you may have had aren’t even a possibility anymore, at least until you do some major magical damage control and extricate yourself from this mess. So don’t do it!
The Second Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
In this scenario, you cast a love spell on a specific person, and that person indeed appears to fall hopelessly in love with you. And…darn: now that they’re acting so foolish, they’re not attractive to you anymore. In addition to making this person miserable, now they also won’t leave you alone. Not to mention, as in scenario 1 (above), since you overrode some else’s free will by casting a spell on them, you’re going to have to deal with some karmic backlash.
The Third Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
The best case scenario, but still a bad one, is that you cast a spell on someone, and that unlucky someone successfully resists the magical pull to enter into a relationship with you. But your spell still boomerangs back and hits you, so you pine for this person much longer than you otherwise would have. You’ve now cast a spell of unhappiness on yourself. Until it wears off or the spell is successfully broken, this presents a challenge to your moods, your ability to focus, and any other romantic relationships you are (or may have otherwise been) involved with.
What to Do Instead of Casting a Love Spell on Someone
As I mentioned above, you can still do a love spell! Just not a love spell on a specific person.
You can’t go wrong when you do a spell to draw ideal romantic conditions and leave the actual person up to the universe. Because if the object of your affection happens to be an ideal partner for you right now, your spell might end up working on them after all! …But if it doesn’t, that just means someone even more perfect for you is on his or her way. So there’s obviously no question that this is the way to go.
If you liked this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
Looking for an ethical love spell? Way to go – good choice! Here are some to choose from:
5 Karma-Friendly Alternatives to Putting a Love Spell on Someone
Love Spell to Attract a Divine Partner
Dear Tess:
Hello. I hope you are having a wonderful start of the year! I have a certain problem. A psychic person controlled me for two years using love spells, control spells, hexes for me to have no luck finding another person to love, and probably some psychic manipulation. I have discovered all of this and completely separated from this person, cutting him out of my life and getting help in breaking these bad spells. The problem is that this person keeps attacking me with love spells, which I can easily identify because I know that I have no true love for this person. I just want for him to stop trying to control me. What I wish to know is whether or not you have some articles in your blog or your books that could help me create some sort of defense for these constant attacks. I would be very grateful.
Hi Alex! Yes, you can use the neutralization spell from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hello! I am fairly new to spells and put a love spell on someone I have a lot of feelings towards. I haven’t seen the effects of it yet as I have not seen this person in a week or so. However, I read this article after I cast the spell and now im a bit worried. What do you suggest to reverse the spell before the effects start to take place?
Amanda, good question. I’m getting that #5 from this post will help: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/
Hi I am new to this but I feel I been cursed to find true love. It seems like I’m am just invisible to most girls and only actract one with drinking or anger problem. And no matter how hard try it only get worse then when I finally able to break away they try after I’m done. And when a decent girl come around it goes great for a few weeks the. All of a sudden gone I went and had my palm red about 5 years ago and they lady told me I have a curse on my from some one of jealously I just makes me feel hopeless and all I ever think about my ex’s. And what I could of done to change things
John, I suggest getting into counseling with a therapist you trust. This sounds like it may stem from an emotional or psychological pattern that you can change when you identify it and consciously shift it. Counseling can help you do that.
Hi Tess,
I have just gone through a break up and want to win my love back. I believe she is at a point where she is not sure whether to get back together or not. Possibly even done. I have read about all sorts of spells and they sound amazing as you would imagine but I began to read about the possible ways they could go wrong and I do not wish that for my love or for myself. More so I want her to fall back in love of her own free will. I was wondering if there were any spells to rid her of any negative thoughts and doubts about us (past and present); as well as any spells to ignite interest/spark of feelings of love for us. I don’t know if these types of spells are around or possible. I feel that if She can let go of the bad thoughts and feelings of the past and present and spark some interest/love, I can win her over properly and possibly rebuild that love without forcing it upon her with a full bound love spell. As I stated before, I do not wish to do that to her. I want to bring love and the future that we have both spoken about to the table. Free of doubts and negativity. I want her/us to be happy and to have a chance at building a family together as we once spoke of. I am ready and willing to make the changes in myself for the better that I need to so that I can bring the best to the table. If there isanything you can offer it would be of great help and very much appreciated
Ryan, I suggest #2 or #5 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
Hi, I am new to the world of spells and “witch craft”. I am wondering, do love spells and spells in general really work?
Hi Ryan! Yes, spells work when they are done correctly. Here are some tips for working magic that works: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-secrets-to-working-magic-that-works/