Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
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2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
Hi Tess,
I-d like to make cast number 2. But the next full moon is the 16 of July! Can I do it before in another moon phase? Or it has to be full?
Thanks!!
Hi Tess,
How are you? Could you provide a source where you took these spells from? I would love to study a bit further!
Thanks
Hi Peter! I wrote them. A good intro to magic and resource for additional spells is my book, You Are Magical: https://amzn.to/2XHXCAy
Thanks Tess!
Hello Tess,
There has been an issue bothering me and I don’t know if there is a spell for stopping the problem altogether as I did multiple individual spells on these targets. I keep attracting guys that are not my types at all physically or mentally and had several unwanted admirers through the past 5 years., some to the point of stalking me. People try to set me up with guys like that and being the softie that I am, I either try to tell them indirectly there is no future between us or cast one white magick spell for each guy to gently push him away and make him take the hint and find love somewhere else. There is a young female caster that does these spells for individual cases on my behalf.
I have even ordered a spell to bring my soulmate or someone compatible in my life and it still hadn’t work. I know exactly what I want and I do take opportunities to meet with somebody but I still come across guys that I am not attracted to and I don’t think we are compatible. It’s like the Universe is pranking me…and I have given many guys the chance to make me feel “something” but that never happened.
My question is: Is there any general spell to stop unwanted admirers and meetings with incompatible guys?
How can I attract my true soulmate without any other unwanted male attention? Thanks…
Marina, have you tried therapy? It sounds like you might have some underlying fears about relationships and maybe some boundary challenges (perhaps leftover from childhood traumas) that have been preventing you from finding the love you desire.
Tess, at the last full moon I did number 2 on my ex of 2 years after we had broken up for 2 months. Sure enough I felt better and more like myself, and he asked to get back together. After only 5 days, I can already tell that he and I are both slipping into the same patterns that caused our breakup. I tried a house cleansing with sage and was interrupted half through. Can you suggest a spell or ritual I could do to help us grow instead of repeating the negative patterns? Thank you for everything your site and your suggestions have already brought into my life 🙂
Have you talked to him about getting therapy? If that’s not an option (or even if it is), I highly recommend reading the book Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin.
Are there alternatives to spell #3? I’m deathly allergic to almonds, and I can’t find those essential oils anywhere!!!
Sure, you can use olive oil or jojoba oil instead. Do you have access to Amazon? I’ve linked the text to Amazon pages where you can purchase the oils. They are also common essential oils available most places essential oils are sold. (Such as health food stores and metaphysical book stores.)