Don’t override someone’s free will by putting a love spell on them directly. Trust me: these options are better for everyone.
Yes: putting a love spell directly on a particular person is a thing.
But that does not mean you should do it! As I wrote all about in this post, it’s generally a pretty terrible idea.
Do you really want to take away someone’s free will so they will fake love you? Is turning a person into your robot love slave what you truly want?
If the answer to either question is yes, I beg you to see that for what it is: sad. Please don’t be desperate, and bully someone into liking you. There’s no need! Instead, call in someone who actually and legitimately wants to spend time with you.
That being said, I know there are times when it can be tempting. That’s why I’ve assembled these 5 alternatives you can use in a variety of situations.
For lots more karma-friendly love spells, and the secrets to successful love magic, check out my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know, Including Love Spells.
1. Attract an Awesome Partner
What do you really want here, ultimately? You want to be in a relationship with someone awesome who authentically desires you just as much as you desire them. Sure, it’s possible this person may indeed be the person you have in mind. But it may also be someone else entirely. This spell leaves the specific person up to the Universe, which always (always!) has the best possible results.
On a Friday when the moon is between new and full, rub sweet almond oil all over the surface of a pink pillar candle. Then, roll it in sugar and stand it in the center of a dinner plate. Sprinkle the petals from one red and one pink rose around the candle (on the plate) in a clockwise direction. Light the candle and say:
I now summon my perfect love.
Whomever and wherever you are, come to me!
Thank you and blessed be.
Feel, sense, and imagine how you will feel to be with your beloved. Sense the warmth in your heart when you are together, as well as your passion, your laughter, and your joy. Smile and be grateful that your divine partner is already on their way to you now.
Allow the candle to safely burn for at least an hour. Then extinguish and light it again as needed for fire safety (i.e. extinguish when you need to leave the candle unattended and relight when you return) until it’s burned all the way down.
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2. Heal an Existing Relationship
If you’re already in a relationship, this ritual will give you a dose of healing and harmony, without disrespecting your partner’s free will.
On a full moon, place a small photo of you and your beloved in a small Mason jar. Completely immerse the photo in equal parts honey and aloe vera gel. Close the lid of the jar and place a tea light on top. Light the candle and say:
What we need to heal, let us heal.
What we need to feel, let us feel.
Open the hearts of [name of partner] and me,
And light up our magic – so mote it be.
Take a moment to remember what you love about your partner. Recall times you’ve laughed together and connected deeply. Feel gratitude for this relationship, and vow to show your partner how much you love them. Express gratitude to the divine in any way that feels right to you.
Let the tea light burn all the way down while being mindful of fire safety. Keep the sealed jar on your altar for one full moon cycle (28 days). Then rinse it out, throw out the photo, and wash the jar for future use.
3. Magnify Your Attractiveness
Perhaps, if you’re honest, you’re not really sure if you want to attract a relationship just yet.
What you do know is you’d like to attract some romantic attention and have a little fun. This spell will enhance and magnify your natural attractiveness.
Put a tiny bit of sandalwood or ylang ylang in a little sweet almond oil. Gently anoint your belly, heart area, and throat. Say:
I activate my beauty and call forth all of my charms.
Feel gorgeous and attractive, and expect attention. Smile and give thanks.
Feel free to repeat this ritual once per moon cycle.
4. Release an Unhealthy Connection
It’s possible that you are in an obsessive, abusive, or codependent loop/
This spell will help you release the unhealthy aspects of the connection (AKA “cords of attachment”) in order to help you move on and open up to a much healthier and more ideal energy, relationship, and state of mind.
It’s possible that you will open yourself up to the same relationship – just a healthier version of it.
Starting the day after a full moon, take one bath a day for seven days. Fill the tub with warm water. Dissolve into it 2 cups Epsom salt, 1 cup sea salt, and 1/4 cup baking soda. Before you get in the water, light a white candle and say:
Great Goddess, please purify me of all cords of fear and attachment to [name of person].
Thank you for healing me and setting me free. And thank you for clearing the way for beautiful new conditions to arise.
Feel yourself becoming healthier, stronger, and more radiant as you soak.
5. Bring About The Best Possible Outcome
Whether your initial desire to perform a love spell was born from a crush, a relationship with a current partner, or a past relationship, this spell will help bring about the best possible outcome for you and everyone involved.
By trusting the outcome to the Universe instead of assuming you know what’s best, you gain access to a larger perspective, and one that takes everything into account: past, present, future, as well as unforeseen potentials and possibilities.
On a new moon, bless a bracelet of rose quartz beads by placing it in bright sunlight. Say:
God/Goddess/All That Is,
Thank you for establishing beautiful conditions in my love life, completely, perfectly, and in divine timing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is.
Smile and feel lovable and loved. Wear the bracelet until you feel it’s completed its work.
If you like this post, you’ll love my book, Little Guide to Love Magic: Everything You Need to Know (Including Love Spells).
You may also like Why You Should Not Do a Love Spell on a Specific Person and 4 Love Spells That Begin Working Immediately.
What do you think of this post? Will you be trying one of these love spells?
Hi Tess, im not sure which spell is best for me. My ex and i of a year broke up a few months ago. A lot of unnecessary arguing. I still love and care about him and in no way do i wanna trick him or force him back with me, im still hoping that maybe there is a chance for us to try and fix things and start fresh. What would you recommend? Thank you in advance
Hi! I suggest #2.
Can you do the release an unhealthy connection spell starting now or does it have to be after the full moon?
Susie, for this one I would wait until after the full moon.
Hello Tess I’m currently going through a break up with my boyfriend of 2 and a half years, he broke up with me about three days ago because he has been in a relationship since he was 16 (we’re 23 now) but I just know that we had love for each other and it just doesn’t feel like this is it for us. I genuinely believe we’re good for each other and that we can help one another but I’m just so heartbroken by the fact that he’s just not in my life anymore. When we talked on the phone we both cried a lot which leads me to believe that he still does have feelings there, which would be the best spell for both of us in this case??
Hi TB! I suggest #2.
Thank you Tess!! Blessed be!
Hi Tess
My sister is very in love with a man and is determined to begin a friendship and long lasting relationship with him. She has always thought about using a spell but has no experience with magic or spell casting so she turned to finding a site or castor online. I advised her against using free sites since ive had a friend tell me most of those sites are fake and for amusement at best or at worst are free and the person casting the spell for you could require something from the person who request the spell and the person it was put on.
Against my advice she was determined and found sites, one site only ask you to choose the type of love spell, names and then any instructions or info you think is important only way to find out that its been cast is to book mark the pre confirmation page. Another site ask for names and only the birthday and what you have tried on your own. What has me even more worried is that finally admitted to me that she was told about a site that cast powerful black curses for free and that she decided to cast a heart break curse on his ex, along with a financial ruin, poor health, and revenge curses against a few people she she has wronged her and requested them in someone else’s name. She claims this last site gives a day and time the spell will be cast and lets you know that spell could even affect someone in the life of the person spell was cast on.
Do you think I am worried about nothing and these sites are to good to be true or has she put a lot of people and even herself in danger though she didn’t use her name ? I wish I had found this blog post a few days ago before finding out she has done all this.
Jazmine, I’m not sure if you’re worried about nothing because I don’t have firsthand knowledge of these sites. My guess is that it would depend on the site and whether or not someone is actually doing these spells, and if they are, if they are doing them with any degree of expertise.
Jazmine, I’m sorry, I still don’t have insider info on these sites, so I have no way of knowing what is happening behind the scenes.
me and my bf were together for 8 yrs dn breakup happened for 2 yrs than i unknowingly used LOA and got him back dn again broke up after 3 months dn came 3rd party even though he was in her contact as a friend before our patch up. n he got married last or this month..still can i get my ex boyfriend divorced and get him back.. he recently got married i realy love him n cannot imagine my 40-5-0yrs widout him ?
i just want us to be happy relationship again and want to cherish all the moments again.. will love speel on him have side effect?
Hi! Yes, I would not do a love spell on him considering what you’ve told me – even one of these ones.
Yes but i. The last daY of breakup he said from now onwards he will love anyone using his heart as he did to me n will marry anygirl using his mind as i broke his dreams kz of my insecurities n nw o realised it