Are you thinking of magicking someone into loving you? Don’t! Here’s why you shouldn’t do a love spell on a specific person, and what to do instead.
“Whom you seek to imprison you do not love.”
~ A Course in Miracles
Look, I know it can be tempting.
But doing a love spell on a specific person is not only unethical, it will also very likely totally suck for you in the long run.
Of course, if you’re in the throes of limerence, it may be difficult to imagine what could possibly suck so much about the person you’re crushing on feeling the same way about you. Well then, let me paint you some pictures.
Ultimately, when you do a love spell on a specific person, there are no good outcomes. Rather, there are three main ways it could go horribly wrong.
The First Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
You know that what you send out energetically always comes back to you in some form, right? So in this scenario, when you do the love spell, you do it on yourself too. It flies right back at you like a boomerang. And now, you both become magically, unnaturally obsessed with the other. Then you get into a really sticky, codependent, basically awful relationship. Maybe it involves violence. At the very least it involves emotional abuse, because overriding someone else’s free will is in itself a form of emotional abuse. So you put that in the mix when you did the spell, and now it’s there. And you’re stuck in the mire of it like a swamp. Any healthy, fun, beautiful relationships you may have had aren’t even a possibility anymore, at least until you do some major magical damage control and extricate yourself from this mess. Which could take years.
The Second Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
In this scenario, the person indeed appears to fall hopelessly in love with you and…darn: now that they’re acting so foolish, they’re totally not attractive to you anymore. In addition to the former object of your lust now being miserable and possibly ruining a previous relationship, they also won’t leave you alone. Not to mention, as in scenario 1, since you overrode some else’s free will, it will only be a matter of time before your own free will is compromised in some equally terrible (but probably not identical) way.
The Third Way a Love Spell Could Go Wrong
The best case scenario, but still a bad one, is that the object of your spell successfully resists the magical pull to enter into a relationship with you. Still, you are both likely to pine for each other silently, painfully, and for an unnaturally extended period of time. Until it wears off or the spell is successfully broken, this presents a challenge to your moods, your ability to focus, and any other romantic relationships you are (or may have otherwise been) involved with.
What to Do Instead of a Love Spell
You can’t go wrong when you do a spell to draw ideal romantic conditions and leave the actual person up to the universe. Because if the object of your affection happens to be an ideal partner for you right now, your spell might end up working on them after all! …But if it doesn’t, that just means someone even more perfect for you is on his or her way. So there’s obviously no question that this is the way to go.
Looking for an ethical love spell? Way to go, kid! Here are some from this blog: