The Good Witch’s Guide to Binding a Bully
Are you wondering how to do a binding spell, or looking for an easy binding spell for protection?
Reclaim your power and neutralize a bully’s ability to cause harm with one of these simple binding spells.
What is a binding spell? And how do you cast one?
According to author Judika Illes, the definition of a binding spell is magic performed for the purpose of “binding someone’s power, usually to prevent them from causing harm.” (Remember the chanted line in The Craft: “I bind you, Nancy, from doing harm: harm against other people and harm against yourself.”)
Merriam-Webster’s primary definition of bully is: a blustering, browbeating person; especially : one who is habitually cruel, insulting, or threatening to others who are weaker, smaller, or in some way vulnerable.
While we good witches generally do not prefer to bind other people’s power and therefore do not seek out situations that call for binding spells, there are times when it is obviously appropriate to perform one: in essence when you need to protect yourself from a bully. In other words, when you need protection from someone is “habitually cruel, insulting, or threatening to others who are weaker, smaller, or in some way vulnerable.”
If you’re concerned about the threefold law (that which you send out energetically comes back to you multiplied), you needn’t be, provided you keep some things in mind. First, you must actually be binding a bully: if you’re binding someone who doesn’t deserve to be bound, you may indeed bring negative karma upon yourself. On the other hand, if someone is indeed being a bully, you have the opportunity to perform your binding as an act of sending out pure positivity.
In other words, you’ll be sending out the bright, positive light of justice and protection on your own behalf, and/or on behalf of anyone else who is being threatened and unfairly treated.
As long as you’re using a binding spell exclusively for justice and protection – and as long as you hold the intention that your spell is for the ultimate good of all concerned – you will be safe from undesirable karmic backlash.
An excellent time to perform a binding spell is when the waning moon is in the fourth quarter. So that’s the last week of a moon cycle, or the week before the new moon. But sometimes, you can’t wait. So you can go ahead and follow your intuition and perform one of these spells when you feel the moment is right.
No matter who the bully is, remember that they are only a human, and humans can be magically bound.
Here are 3 simple, easy, powerful spells for binding a bully.
Choose the one that feels intuitively right to you.
Please be sure to cast a circle before doing any of these, and to open it when you are through.
Binding #1: Easy Salt and String Spell
For this binding spell, write the bully’s name on a slip of paper and place it on a table.
Light a black candle. In a clockwise direction, surround the name with a circle of sea salt.
With a short length of black embroidery floss, tie a knot tightly around the slip of paper, allowing it to crumple. As you tie the knot, say, “I bind you [name of bully]. You are powerless to harm other people or the planet. Your insults are powerless. Your hostility is powerless. You shall cause no harm from this day forth.”
Repeat 7 more times, with 7 more lengths of black thread.
Extinguish the candle. Leave the paper and string in the ring of salt overnight. In the morning, flush the salt down the toilet and throw the bound name on a fire.
Binding #2: Simple Tarot Spell
You’ll be working closely with the archetype of justice for this binding spell.
Place the Justice card from any Tarot deck on your altar.
Light a white pillar candle as you say, “[Name of bully], on behalf of all those you would harm, insult, or overpower, I call on the archetypal energy of Justice. With this ancient, swift, and thorough power, I now bind all your power to harm.”
Safely use the light of the candle to burn the bully’s full name and/or image on a piece of paper, perhaps in a cauldron or pot. As it burns, say, “Just as this paper is now reduced to ashes, your power to harm is now fully revoked and reduced to nothing.”
When the ashes are cool, mix them with sea salt and flush them down the toilet. Extinguish the candle after you’ve opened the circle.
Bully #3: Freezer Binding Spell
Freeze out a bully and put his or her power on ice with this freezer binding spell.
Obtain a picture of the bully, or just write the bully’s name on a piece of paper. Place it in a small mason jar.
Pour water over it as you say, “[Name of bully], if your power to harm is like fire, I now extinguish that power completely. It burns no more.” Seal the jar with the lid.
Wrap and tie it tightly with black ribbon as you say, “[Name of bully], if your power to harm is like wings, I now bind and immobilize that power completely. It flies no more.”
Rotate the jar in a counterclockwise direction three times as you say, “[Name of bully], your power is now unwound. It has no momentum. It has no force. It now returns to the native nothingness from which it came.” Now place the jar in your freezer.
Remember: no one has any power over you. You have all the power over your own life. Do any of these binding spells (and indeed all your magical work) from this strong inner knowing, and you will certainly prevail.
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Did you try one of these binding spells? Or do you have any questions about the spells in this post? Please share in the comments below.
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Hi I’m wondering if these spells would work to stop the harm politicians are causing to many inocents and to most of us in this country and around the world. I am new to this and don’t know what a circle spell is.
Juanita, would you believe I published the first version of this post on Inauguration Day in 2017? I do believe that magic is a form of activism, and that even though this malignant leadership persists, there are other forces gathering against it, and that includes us. It may be taking a while, but I believe fairness and equality can prevail.
P.S. here’s a post about how to cast a magical circle: https://tesswhitehurst.com/how-to-cast-a-magical-circle-6-simple-steps/
Well my neighbor has been walking by, spitting, sticking out her tongue, raising her knees high, windmills her arms, then says stuff while raising her hands 3 times to the sky. And throwing feathers all over my front patio where sidewalk is.
This started when I confronted her about her dog peeing all over my patio. Unleashed. Lifting his leg All over my new Wayfair patio furniture, rug and flower planters.
She doesn’t have him pee in her yard ever. Dogs here have no fenced areas, must exist on a leash. So she let’s him wander over to me .
My cousin Tony is treating me like garbage and all he does is scream at me I hate him and don’t feel safe around him please help me I don’t have money but I don’t want to live here in fear
Amanda, I’m so sorry to hear this. Is there anywhere else you can go? Anyone else you know who you can stay with? Or, I don’t know your situation, but I am thinking of a time I got a job at a national park and they let me live in a dorm near the restaurant where I worked. I guess I’m just wondering if there’s any living situation you haven’t thought of yet – maybe somewhere that would just be temporary but would give you space to feel safe for a moment before you decide on your next move. There may also be a shelter for victims of abuse where you could stay, depending on your neighborhood. Verbal abuse is abuse. Here is a number you can call – 1-800-799-SAFE(7233)
Hi how are you
I was wondering if there is a spell that can change my narcissist daughter in-law to being nice? The way she treats my son now he’s on the verge of leaving, which is his right, I just wonder if she was nicer he may stay.
Please help
Kylee, when doing magic on another’s behalf, I always suggest asking the person first and having their permission for exactly the type of magic you want to do. If your son does want some magical help, I would not suggest magic to change his wife, because if you do things might get worse rather than better. But you could see if he wants you to work magic to help him have clarity about the best possible course of action. You could also work magic to protect him from any negative energy or harm. Binding spells like the one here might work if she’s being a bully, but I would maybe start with one of these ones before you resort to a binding spell: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
How long do you keep the freezer spell in the freezer and what do you do with it when it’s had its effect? I’m concerned about thawing it out if there’s a better way to handle it. Thank you!
You can just throw it out whenever you feel like this person is not going to bother you anymore.
❤hi im tracy from glasgow ive practiced ooh ten yrs or so me my mother one grt aunt could all communicate with dead visions. i thank you my x partner found my books and cards rip and burned he wont have any good karma. though i have new decks i nd a sisterhood my confidence after him the beatings ect really wore me dow n Tess thankyou ive just five mins ago used freezer spell to bind a man no romantic inv or anything she just didnt like me he made my life hell i nearly died gerry his name is i was feelin it startin again so i nipped it straight away terrified of him n other bullys him being instigator thousands they stole my dignity other thingd
g i felt more confident threre than i have ages all they took mainly him im hoping i bileve like all karma comes if it supposed to tess thankyou are your cards vfor sale much love bright blessings tracyannexxx
Hi Tracy! I’m sorry this happened to you. And yes, my cards are for sale! You can find them under the “shop” heading on this site or wherever you like to buy books online.
Hello,
I have an Aunt who is mean, overpowering, and insulting to anyone including, animals. She is oppressive. Now that I have to live with her, bc of chronic illness, she drains my empathic abilities and her aura beats my energy down. I’m always exhausted. It shows physically with dark circles and puffiness around my eyes, pain, headaches, etc. I would like to use spell #2, but I was wondering do I put the pot in a circle of salt? Did I understand the directions correctly?
No, you can just mix the ashes with salt.
Hello,
I have been wanting to do the freezer spell to protect my daughter but have been worried about karma. I’m pretty religious and have been praying instead but does not seem to be working and I am getting restless. The situation is with my daughter’s boyfriend and his mother. I don’t feel this boy is good for her for several reasons. But really the worst one is the mother. She is very jealous towards our family and just has very bad intentions. This has been proven several times already by comments she has made to her son and my daughter about our family and specifically me. She is an extremely toxic person. I feel the boy is simply a product of his environment unfortunately, but has many of the same toxic traits. The problem is that my daughter loves to go over to his house and so she is around this woman constantly. I have prayed, lit candles to
San Alejo and put an evil eye on her but all to no avail. My daughter really is in love with this boy (they have been together for 2 years) so I am very torn. But I feel like i need to protect my daughter and quite honestly I do not want her going into a family like this. Would you recommend I freeze both of them or just his mom?
Gigi, I would suggest doing spell # 2 from this post on your daughter’s behalf – https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
I plan on doing these spells on my neighbor who is constantly picking and harassing my family , we have a restraining order of protection case going on and it seems like the cameras we have don’t pick up the times he has caused damage to our cars, we know it’s him since this all started over the past year but this has been an ongoing problem the whole family does not like ours and we get along with pretty much everyone, any advice if I plan on doing these spells ? It’s mostly one person in their family causing this harm to ours but I would say the whole family is like this, should I include all their names ?
Karla, you certainly could, but my intuition is telling me to ask you if you can fix the camera system or get a better one first? Neighbors are super tricky to deal with, so if you already have legal action going I would see what else you can do to stop this by continuing along that route. Magically, I’m not sure binding spells are the best idea for you at this time. If you’d like, start by letting me know about the cameras and then I’ll see what else my intuition has to say.
Ok, The more I do the binding cutting cords, the more the narassist bully stalks me even more.
I did the freezer method (and his name is still in the freezer) and
the salt and string method. (once a night for 7 days straight).
It’s like he knows I’m doing it and attacks me stronger. I could sure use your suggestions for anything else stronger to do to get him to leave me alone and stop bullying and stalking me?
THANK YOU SO MUCH!
Debra, just covering bases here – have you filed a police report or asked for a restraining order?
Dear Tess, I’ve used this spelling before and I used it again last week. The headmistress of my sons school (mini school with 17 kids) has started picking on him badly. He’s no saint, but he’s 10 years old, los his father 1.5 years ago and does not deserve to be handled the way she treated him. And because of her demeanor her 12 year old son stepped in and started bullying too. I found out that was byllying others too as was she. I used the Justice card spell, which is my favorite (I don’t use it often – it’s my last resort). Before I used it I laid cards, because I wont use this spell lightly. They were pretty straight forward, so I did the spell. Now she kicked him out of school, because I insulted her….I called her out for her action, but I did not insult her. My question is: I’ve seen this spell lead to uncomfortable situation, especially now. Do you think this spell backfires, even if done in good intent? I never want to Hurt anybody obviously, but she was atractiva g and stigmatizing my child so I had to act. Love and blessings, Alex
Alex, I believe this spell worked perfectly. This reminds me of the time many years ago (decades even) I did a spell to protect myself from a mean boss, and the next day she fired me, and that was the best protection I could have received. I needed to get OUT of that environment, and quick! Lucky for me, a much better job was just around the corner. I believe the same is true for your son. If it is impossible for him to thrive in that environment, the ideal situation would be one in which he never needs to be there. I know it’s not what you had hoped for, but sometimes magic works that way. I suggest looking for a more welcoming school for him where he can be appreciated, respected, and understood. And certainly if you would like to file a complaint, write a withering online review for the headmistress and/or school, or take another corrective action so this won’t be likely to happen to other students in the future, that might be a good idea as well. Or, you might just want to cut your losses and move on. That’s up to you.
Hi dear Tess,
that´s actually what I thought myself ;). But I wanted to hear your spiritual input, and I appreciate it. It´s the wrong environment. But since we are in a very unregulated system on a wild little pirate island, if I filed a complaint (believe me – lawyer me wanted to go straight at it), the school would be closed and I believe that a few of the remaining parents need the school and think its good for their kids. Its only 17 kids…I spoke to most of the other parents and now its their run. Thanks and have a beautiful day,
Blessed Be!
Alex, glad my comment resonated. I wish you and your son all the best.
Dear Tess,
First, allow me to be grateful for being guided towards your website. Growing up as a (non-Wiccan) white witch, it’s been difficult to find genuine knowledge like the one Mom brought me up with, as everything else out there seems to have shades of gray. I ran into some very nasty, deceiving people in my youth and it’s an experience I don’t wish to repeat. I almost gave up on my heritage and craft.
That being said, I’m between a rock and a hard place. For my own safety I cannot go into details publicly, but I’m constantly threatened with my house being taken away from me. I’ve been threatened by people sent to look for me, with intentions of breaking in. I have been assured by 3 different lawyers that legally this person has no recourse, they’re all empty threats meant to scare me. My lawyer advised me to move, to sell and buy elsewhere so this person can’t follow, as the only available solution in my country. But I know that evil intentions carry evil energy, and I know of a Wiccan witch with shaky morals who works at this person’s business, so I’m sure I’m being targeted as well. As soon as these troubles started, my neighbourhood went from peaceful, beautiful, and harmonious, to noisy, ugly, conflictive and in decay; my house is constantly breaking down too. I’m moving alright, but if this hex is placed against me I don’t want it to follow me to a different place, and if it’s placed against this house I don’t want the new tenants to suffer for it. I’m constantly cleansing myself and my house to no lasting avail, this is really strong stuff. I have guides protecting me, but I know I need something as strong and as definite. I’m considering using both the “5 karma-friendly alternatives” as well as the binding spells here. I don’t wish to harm, I just want protection, safety, and to be left in peace. I trust karma for justice and resolution. Your insights and advice would be greatly appreciated. Blessings!
Hi there! If you would like outside help, I would ask Sen Elias at Crescent City Conjure. https://crescentcityconjure.us
Salutations Tess. I have a very toxic situation at work because I happen to be the only woman working with a team of men in an I.T. based job. There are 3 men which influence the rest of the group (my 2 Team Leads, and a former co-worker from a past job that never liked me) and they target me with their negative smear campaign to malign my reputation, keep me isolated from my co-workers with whispered gossip sessions that I can hear over my cubicle walls filling their heads with doubt and mistrust. They use under handed tactics to make me look bad, incompetent (such as erasing important notes i’ve placed on computer documents then showing them to our supervisor or not training me properly on a new process of the job which makes our supervisor question my abilities). They make belittling and insulting comments claiming they are just “joking” (like my team lead saying to me “must suck to be old and out of shape” but only when there was no one else around to hear him) or make a loud joke at my expense when they think i can’t hear them. They leave me out of the loop on important information, and are very good at covering their tracks when our supervisor comes around. I have been at this job for almost 2 years enduring this but it is starting to affect my health and, even though I am looking for another job, work is scarce out there. Especially for someone of my age. They claim to “follow the wiccan path” (or so i’ve heard them say) but I fail to see how when they have no problem inflicting such harm on another individual who has done nothing to them other then come to work, be reliable, and do a good job at it. Even though I stick to myself, try to be inconspicuous, and ignore the jibes they still won’t stop. If what they say is true and they are using spells, negativity, or just simply ill-wishing, I need something strong and effective to battle all 3 joined together in one common goal, damaging me. I understand the karmic backlash of wishing harm…but this is a case of self defense and survival. A few months ago I started having sporadic nosebleeds. Several times a day, every day, lasting 5-10 minutes every time with no obvious cause why they were happening. This went on for almost a month. My daughter finally dragged me to the emergency room because she was worried about all the blood loss. They said my blood pressure was 200/100 and put me on meds. I had to have a minor procedure to stop the nosebleeds and they could not find what caused them to start in the first place. They’re blaming the blood pressure. I need a spell strong enough to hold off all 3 of them or something to help me find a job doing something that gets me out of their reach. Or both would be ideal. Help?
Silver, I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this! It sounds awful. Yes, a binding sounds called for, and so does a new job spell. I suggest doing any of the spells in this post on all three of them at once. You can also check out this spell for a new job: https://tesswhitehurst.com/new-job-spell/
Tess you are the best I’m Seeking how to bind my daughter from any harm emotionally she does towards my grandson and me. We my grandson and I have a bond that she works on taking away every now and then when I let her know how I feel about how she illy treats him he’s only 4 and it kills my soul . I don’t want to do this to harm her but yet protect him .
Heather, I’m so sorry you’re going through this! In this instance, I wouldn’t do a binding since they will continue to have a close relationship no matter what and a binding would either not work at all or just make things weird. Instead, I would ask the Divine to surround your grandson in protective light every day. Or, you could use the search feature on this blog and find a protection spell or charm that you like.
Due to the nature of the things happening in my life, within my immediate family, I am asking for a helping hand from anyone who can do so…I am unsure whether to believe accusations, in reality it not a open reality for me to believe them. However, it has become a very large issue. I am really looking for answers here. I really need a spell for immediate protection of life, I also need one for answers. As the person need answers from has lied to me for 3 years. I would feel more comfortable with easy levels, or even if someone could cast them on my behalf as I am beginner, though it’s in my blood. I am dealing with a real awful situation. Please 🙏 if you can help anyway…it is in fact a matter of preservation. Bless you
Lulu, I’m sorry for the delay here. I let the comments get away from me. I suggest the protection spell (#2) in this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess,
I know this is an old post but hopefully you still keep an eye on it! I’m new to all of this. I have a new downstairs neighbor who is very angry and likes to randomly yell and swear at me for things that have nothing to do with me. It’s put a ton of stress on my life. I was hoping to do the freezer spell but quick question: do you have to leave the mason jar permanently in your freezer, if not how would you dispose of it? Also do you think this is a good spell for this situation. I have a little girl too and the way he gets so enraged I worry about our safety.
Thank you!
Hey Rebecca!
I dont see a response from anyone yet, and I know you posted this back in February. I had the same question, so I decided to look into it. I believe throwing the item in the garbage (jar, bag, what have you) that the frozen name is inside can be a form of a banishing ritual. Sometimes it’s best to properly dispose of those items in the garbage where they will be taken away from you and your home to decompose. You could also thaw the name and burn it. I hope that’s helpful!
Thank you so much Chloe! He is still in my freezer, so I think it’s time to take him out. Unfortunately I don’t think the spell worked for me : / I might not have been in the right mindset idk, I was a bit desperate for it to work. Thank u again!
Hi Tess,
I’m Zeta and i have a tricky situation. I made a bad decision during my pregnancy and lost custody of my son at birth. He’s been in foster care with my father for 2 years now. The social worker assigned to my case has told so many lies and has violated my rights and has never followed the court orders. The court knows this, but they don’t enforce her or the dept to follow policies and adhere to my parental rights. Last night, she and another social worker showed up at my house, Saturday around 8pm to spy on me. My husband was driving my car and they followed him 3 times around the block. Then they pulled up next to him and called me and asked if it was him and if i knew he had my car, saying they were concerned my car had been stolen. But if it was my husband, how does it make sense that he would steal my car? They left an consent form for me to sign so they can talk to my doctors, even though I’ve told them i don’t give permission. They also told me that my father’s girlfriend will be my son’s adopted mother, being the judge doesn’t grant me reunification reinstatement. The attorneys and county council have all slandered my name and have accused me of doing things I’ve never and will never done or do. Even my father and his evil girlfriend have said horrible things about me and my family was not far behind, doing the same. Is a binding spell appropriate for this type of situation, and if so, how do i bind all of them? I was thinking of two out of the three you have posted. The one with the judgement card and the freezer spell. I don’t want them saying anything else to assasinate my character and keep my son away from me any longer. I love him more than life and would do anything to have him here with me. I also am thinking of doing a honey jar to make the judge decide in my favor. He granted my hearing request, which is a good sign coming from this particular judge. I look forward to any advice you give me.
Sincerely,
Zeta
Hi Zeta! You know, there are so many people involved and so many ins and outs, that I would personally call on a saint, ascended master, or deity for this situation. If that’s something you’d be comfortable with, first choose the divine being that feels best to you. For this situation, I might choose Mother Mary or the Goddess Brigid, or perhaps my patron saint or one of my grandmothers on the other side. (I’m just offering this as an example – you might feel guided to choose someone else.) Then I would light a 7-day candle to them and invoke their support with the cause by praying to them daily until there is resolution. Does this sound like something that could work for you?
Hi Tess,
Thank you so much for your response! That’s definitely something I can do. Yesterday, my father became very verbally abusive in front of my son the nurse and the social worker and nobody intervened. I felt so humiliated and defeated. It seems that the situation is getting worse and I really need to stop it before it gets worse. I have so many people working against me, and the only people who can help me and my son is my new attorney and the judge. Do you think I should do a honey jar for them and one of your binding spells for my father? He took my son in the house and my baby was crying at the top of his lungs. I believe my father is hurting him but nobody listens to me. I just feel helpless now. I’ve tried so many things and no matter what, can’t seem to free myself and my baby from this terrible situation.
Zeta, do you have to let your dad be around you? Or is that a boundary you can set in the physical world? You could do a binding spell for him, but I always recommend starting by setting whatever boundaries you can in the physical world, i.e. not letting him around your child or yourself if this is possible. Of course, invoking divine support as I recommended before can help with EVERYTHING, so that’s another thought.
No, I can’t escape him unfortunately. He is my son’s foster parent. As well as his girlfriend, which they plan to adopt my son. He uses my son against me in every way and violates my parental rights. Dcfs does not enforce him to comply. I’m convinced his girlfriend has put some sort of spell on him and me. I thought about binding him, the girlfriend and the social worker.
The thing about binding is that it can be tricky if you have to interact with these people, especially for shared purposes like raising children. Instead, I would stick with invoking the divine for support.
Hi Tess,
I am a witch and I used binding spells before but I have a question for my situation, apologize in advance for the long email.
I am in a conflict with my neighbor who lives upstairs, right above me. She has bipolar disorder and – goes from depression to manic phases. When she is low – as sad as it is – she is quiet and soft, when she is in manic phase she becomes loud, making a lot of noise, walking super loudly, making noise with everything, yelling even when alone, partying and drinking like there is no one else in the building. No one says anything to her as she is a homeowner and I am the only one suffering from her noise directly (and I’m renting).
I have binded her when first I moved here because it was impossible to live and sleep and causing me a lot of stress and sensory issues (I’m autistic), because I tried to reach out but it didnt change anything. I did the spell without knowing she had bipolar disorders.
The binding just accelerated her depression phase and she fell in depression for 6 months. But then as I saw her being so low I tried and talked to her : that is how I learned about the bipolar disorder.
I felt I needed to restore some balance as the disorder was already her curse in this life. I offered her a tarot reading and some support, and felt the balance was restored.
Fnteresting detail : I did a binding with candles + freezing name, half of the paper stayed untouched by water, on the surface, the rest was frozen.
We’ve been very friendly since, and she entered a neutral phase for the last 2 months. But mid october it became unlivable again, the partying, the noise on the floor, I couldnt sleep and got sensory issues again, I literally live and sleep with anti-noise headphones. nAs we were friendly to eachother (seen eachother for drinks in the garden, neighbors help etc), I Thought it was a good move to try and be honest with her about the loudness, how it was really unbereable for me + explaining also as a neurodivergent person how it was. The result is that she lost it and yelled at me for an hour explaining to me how she has a right to party, how she would never stop partying, being extremely verbally agressive. Since that talk she is in a bully attitude, making a lot of noice, not taking of her heels anymore, and last time she partied they literally jumped on purpose on the floor for me to hear. I cried all night.
I am in a very old building and I live in a studio, she is in a 3 bedrooms appartment, her livingroom is just above my bedroom/onlyroom. mY Question is should I DO another binding spell ? I don’t know what to do I am in high anxiety all the time but the fact she is also a person with psychological issues makes me doubt that the binding wouldnt create karma for me.
Thanks for reading me,
circé
Hi Circé! I know from experience how tricky neighbor situations like this can be. My advice is first to invoke the divine in a way that feels powerful for you and ask for general help with the situation. Like, “I don’t know what exactly the best outcome will be, but please help me live with peace and quiet,” type thing. Then feel gratitude, as if the situation is already resolved. See if you can let the situation go (again and again if necessary) to the Divine. Secondly, I am wondering if you have been looking for another place to live. I know that is a huge hassle and is not fair or always feasible, but when I had a situation similar to yours, I ended up finding a way better apartment and in hindsight it felt like the neighbor situation was sort of nudging me to move on.
Hi Tess,
Thank you for answering me and yes I am already looking for a new place to live indeed…
The important for me is to find a solution in the meantime cauz it is causing me a lot of stress, I will surrender to the Divine and ask for help, thank you for this advice.
I was also thinking of adding a mirror protection spell.
Oh that’s a good idea with the mirror! Did you see this post? https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
My daughter needs protection from alot of negative people trying to hurt her what can I do
Hi Christina! Did any of these ideas in this post resonate with you as something you could try on our daughter’s behalf?
Can these binding spells be used for internet bullies where a real name/picture isn’t used as they hide behind anonymity? If you just have a screen name and their “vibe” they give off in mind, can you still do a protection spell- and can it be as effective?
Saoirse, I’m going to go ahead and say yes to these questions. If you’re binding them from bullying on the internet, I think their internet identity should suffice.
Hello! I’ve been dealing with several hate crimes and harassment incidents at my apartment. I live in California and I identify as a gay man, and someone has been leaving nasty notes on my door demanding that I leave for being gay. They slashed one of my tires and keyed my car and wrote profanity on my driver’s side door. I’ve installed camera and have involved the police, but I have not been able to capture any of the perpetrators at the scene of the crime and the police don’t have any evidence/proof to follow up on. I’m so frustrated and feel ashamed for living in fear. I want to take back my power and do something besides waiting for my property to get damaged again. Knowing this Tess, do you think I could bind someone with only an image of their face even if I don’t know their name?
Edgar, I’m so sorry this is happening! I feel so angry on your behalf. Yes, you could bind them. Do you have any of the notes left? You could use the paper from one of the notes instead of identifying info because the person would presumably have touched it and left their energy on it. I hope you are calling on Archangel Michael also btw?
OMG, thanks so much for your prompt reply Tess!
Yes, I still have two of the notes with me. I am going to try the Binding #1 technique later this week. I was a bit apprehensive at first because I’ve never done any magic yet, consciously and purposefully at least. I’ve just been trying to educate myself on chaos magic and sigils, and I wanted my first attempts at magic to be pure and about self-healing and protection and personal development. Thus, the thought of having to bind someone as my first act of purposeful magic made me a bit nervous, almost as if I was starting off on the wrong foot with magic. I don’t wish any harm to the person that is harrasing me, I literally just want them to stop. Thus, I will attempt the Binding Technique with this in mind.
Thank you for pointing me in the direction of Archangel Michael btw, Tess. I found a prayer that I’ve printed just now, and I’ll hang it on my wall for protection and self-assurance. Here is the prayer I found: “St. Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle, be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the devil. May God rebuke him we humbly pray; and do thou, O Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God, cast into hell Satan and all the evil spirits who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls.
Amen.”
Tess, if you can recommend any more resources, I’d sincerely appreciate it. Thank you for your support!
Edgar, nice! And I wouldn’t worry about a binding spell in this instance. It is certainly called for. I do have this Archangel Michael protection ritual in this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
And if you email me your mailing address, I’ll send you a paperback copy of my Little Guide to Protection Magic also. tesswhitehurst (at) gmail (dot) com 😊
I feel like I am being targeted at work. Being used and taken advantage of. I’ve tried to move departments and been denied. I believe my mangers are holding me back for their benefit even though I’m miserable and trying to better myself. I’ve been told they do this to people because it’s too much trouble to train a new person. It’s a way to bully others they are in control of for their own selfish benefits causing strife, stress and pain for those trying to move into another department away from the toxicity. Can I bind these managers from bullying the employees in my department and keeping them against their will?
Mary, this seems like a situation where it may be better for you to look for a different job. Would that be possible for you? Here’s a post for that: https://tesswhitehurst.com/new-job-spell/
Thank you Tess. I have looked for a new job elsewhere. It would be best if I could stay with my current employer, retain my benefits and time off accrued for my years of service. I just need their negative hold against my will to move departments removed. Would binding them from holding me back be a positive reason that wouldn’t cause any karma backlash? I don’t want anything negative to happen to them. I wish them success and positive energy for their lives, but I want the negative hold they have on mine to stop. It’s not fair to hold someone against their will when they are trying to move away from the situation. I am indeed actively trying to move out of this department. I keep hitting dead ends. Could the new job spell help me stay in my current company with a new job/position?
It could for sure! But I always find it most helpful to work magic for whatever is for my truest good, even if that isn’t what I expect it to be or think I want it to be. What I mean is, in some cases, even if you want to stay at a particular company (or in a particular relationship or rental home), it’s just not tenable and greater growth might potentially happen elsewhere. That’s not to say that it’s not possible that staying at your current organization definitely NOT for your highest good. I would just leave some wiggle room for the universe if I were you.
So someone I know is receiving death threats from an anonymous source and she is terrified. Any suggestions on how I can help her?
Yes, I would call on Archangel Michael to protect her. You can find a spell for that here: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/ – this one you can easily adapt to do on behalf of someone else.
For the salt and string spell is there a way to undo it once it is done? Thanks in advance!
Well it’s a spell to bind the person from doing harm, so do you really need to undo it? It shouldn’t bind their power in any other way.
My husband suffers from extreme anxiety, OCD and likely has undiagnosed ASD but has very little intuition about his issues. He is very critical of me and doesn’t know how to deal with difficult situations (we have two small children) without blaming. He can also be very hard on our son even though he is at his core an extremely loving father. I am not in a financial position to separate right now and just want him to stop causing emotional harm . He has almost zero intuition about his mental health issues and refuses to get on medication. I have tried to use imagery to manifest good for him – I think if he were to ever try medication the amount of relief it would bring his nervous system would incredible but he will not accept this as an option. For some reason no matter what I do, it never seems to have a positive effect. It feels like I keep running up against a brick wall. I have a good therapist and we are figuring out what I need to, figuring out financial resources etc. In the meantime I’d love to keep his negativity at bay. Would a binding spell be appropriate here ? I’d love to see him happy but he generally seems very stuck – in his own way and everyone else’s way as well. I have both your protection book and your money magic book if you think there’s something else that would be more appropriate. Thank you so much.
Hi Meghan! I don’t recommend doing a binding on someone who lives in your house and with whom you are coparenting. In this situation, I would continually call on Archangel Michael to protect you and your kids and angels in general (you could also call on the Divine in another way that feels powerful to you) to heal this situation for you as quickly and ideally as possible.
The freezer has been working for me since I was 7 years old. 💯🔮
I recently told this neighbor my EKG indicated I had suffered a myocardial infarction, age undetermined. She seemed sympathetic and agreed, I ‘don’t want to test luck by shoveling snow’. Fast forward and now it is spring. I see her yesterday, Sunday. She blurts out, ‘You have rats.’ She is referring to a a mulch pile on my property that was left for my garden when some trees were taken down. I felt my anxiety surge as she disturbed my peace on a glorious day in spring. And I feel she will do me harm. I prayed my own prayer to God and cast a spell of my own with a match stick, repelling her evil and breaking the stick at the end, wishing upon her a cerebral hemorrhage should she try to harm me. I hope it works. I hope it works because she is being paid back in 3’s for my heart attack.
Constance, I wonder why you think your heart attack was related to your neighbor? Maybe I missed something. I suggest checking out this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess,
I have no one to talk to about my craft (I’m a physician, a Christian, married to an agnostic). Therefore, I have found your posts to be so helpful, especially because anyone I talk to about what I do would think I’m either 1-crazy or 2-wicked. I very much appreciate your post as I don’t have a community to share things like this. Your spells are so comforting and positive, I really appreciate them.
I do have a question though: I did one of the binding spells. I was clear when I cast it that I didn’t want the person harmed in any way, I just wanted them to stop bullying/harassing, and to stop them from stealing my work without credit. I call on divine light in my work when I cast a circle, I call the quarters, but also call on Christ’s will etc when I cast spells, for me it’s almost like praying but with ritual and intention. However, the person I “bound” from harming me sent out an email today saying the following: (abbreviated) “Due to multiple challenges, I have to decrease the time I spend with you all…Of course, sometimes, you may feel this is out of your comfort zone and are overwhelmed by deadlines and rules. Unfortunately, things have not been easy for me recently, so I have to make some schedule adjustments.”
It could be coincidence. I did cast this spell recently however, so the timeline is…interesting. The intent was to bind him from harming myself and others, and to neutralize his power over me. But I feel enormous guilt now. I didn’t want any harm to befall him. I sincerely hope he is okay and healthy. Is this something I should reverse? Or do you think this all just coincided with a culmination stress that maybe he was taking out on us?
Lightseeker, I absolutely would not feel guilty about this. It’s clear your intentions were highly positive for everyone concerned, and I feel strongly that any challenges he may be facing are not a result of your spell, but of his own actions and choices (although quite possibly your spell was a catalyst for forward movement). I also get the sense that he now has the opportunity to make some changes that (if he chooses to make them) will be best for him and everyone in the long run. Actually, it sounds to me like the spell worked perfectly.
Thanks Tess! <3 you’re phenomenal
I’m so pleased for you the spell worked well. Please could you explain how you did the spell and what binding spell you used. I’m in a similar situation being bullied. Thank you
Hi there,
I performed the salt and string spell nearly word for word, but I did employ black ribbon in place of black string, as that’s what I had at the time.
Hi. Wondering if I can use this for my situation.. My husband has been on his job for over 17 years and is well equipped to step into a lead role within the company. There’s a VP that has strife against my husband and has promoted everyone else around him, most of them under qualified a have to come to him for help. I don’t want any harm to come to us or the VP,but we’re both frustrated. Would I use this on my husband’s behalf?
Hi Rayna! Unfortunately, I believe a binding in this particular case might cause more problems than it would fix. Instead, I would do magical and manifestation work to bring about the best and most ideal opportunity for your husband (with his permission, of course), being open to the opportunity being in his current company or another one. I would reframe the relationship with the VP so that you both start to see that the VP ultimately has no power over your husband in this situation or any other. Of course, on the surface of things, the VP appears to have power over others in the company (being in a position of authority), but on the spiritual/metaphysical level, your husband’s success is not dependent on any person, place, or thing. This is the perspective that will be most helpful and most empowering.
Hi. Can I use a plastic container for the freezer binding? Just worried that a glass jar in the freezer will explode. Thanks.
Hi Jen! Yes you can.
Hi there! Thank you for this post. I’ve been thinking of doing a binding spell but hesitate because I know there is never black or white in any situation and the bully is always lashing out from a place of hurt, fear, jealousy, etc… I would not ever want to bind someone’s power, even negative power, especially someone who is already hurting, and this post confirmed that fear of binding someone. My brother’s husband is being so vindictive, manipulative, and hurtful. I want to protect us from his spite but I know he is acting from his own hurts. The salt and string spell seems most in line with my desires to protect us from him, but I just feqr I’m only seeing things from my point of view and will be binding a bully who is just a scared little boy on the inside. Does that make sense? What are your thoughts on this.
Rebecca, I can see why you would be hesitant, particularly with someone who is a part of your family. I suggest the neutralization spell from this post instead: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi,
My husband and I are in a custody cluster over my 2 step daughters. (I’ve been their only mother figure for 11 yrs but their mother gets visits sometimes) Their mother is awful to them and we are trying to get her reduced to supervised or sign her rights. I want to make sure everything goes right and my kids aren’t being harmed by her anymore. Any suggestions?
Hi Libby! Yes, check out the Swift Justice spell in this post. You may find some other spells that are appropriate in this post too. https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
For the third Binding option: How long must the mason jar remain in the freezer?
Hi Julie! For long as you still feel it’s necessary, or up to a year.
So I’ve followed everything you suggested to me in the past and things are getting better. But I have an issue with my mom and others I don’t know helping her create problems in my life. Some of it is intentional, some of it, I don’t think is intentional.
I’m not interested in hurting anyone, or sending back “just deserts” to mom and those I don’t have names of. I just want to be left alone. And not have the crap kicked out of me so to speak.
Which binding spell do you suggest for that?
Hi Raven! I suggest trying the neutralization spell from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Now that I finally have a little time. I’ll go look at them now. Thank you
I’m just greatful that things are still getting better even if it’s like one layer at a time.
I let the candle burn out over night to extinguish it in the morning but I accidentally overslept before I could open the circle. It extinguished while the circle was closed. Is this going to cause a problem or be ineffective?
Hi Jo! Well, I usually would open the circle and extinguish all candles before going to sleep, but I wouldn’t worry that the candle going out will ruin whatever magic you were working.
Hi, my 10yr old daughter is being excluded by several girls in her year at lunch/break times and is suffering greatly from this. They are part of a ‘group’ and won’t let her join, but everyone else is allowed to. Is there a protection spell you would recommend to help end this negativity? She still wants to be friends with them, she just wants the exclusion/meaness to stop.
Many thanks
Hi Sur! I wouldn’t do a binding on them. Instead, I’d do the first spell from this post, but do it on your daughter’s behalf. Instead of anointing yourself, anoint a picture of your daughter: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-spells-to-protect-yourself-from-challenging-people/
My supervisor finds ways to throw me under the bus and when I report her to management she denies it and retaliates. I’ve done the mason jar with the Himalayan Salem. It worked for a while but it’s no longer effective. I’m wondering if the freezer binding spell is a good alternative? I’m tired of being bullied/intimidated by her at work.
Since you’re working so closely with her, I’d personally do the Himalayan salt one again. You can do the freezer one if you’d like, but there might be some shakeups.
Hi, I was wondering which binding you would choose for our particular situation? My sons have just started middle school and are being bullied daily on the school bus by a pack of the older children. I obviously don’t want to bring harm to anyone, but especially children. What would you suggest?
Hi Morgana! Actually, I would suggest spell #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/. You could adapt the words to fit that you’re doing the ritual for your sons rather than yourself. If you don’t know the full names of all the bullies, just write what you know. Or you could write “the bullies on the bus” instead of their names if you don’t know them.
Hello there! My children and I have been dealing with their narcissist father and the mental/emotional and physical abuse is destroying our lives. He’s now attempting to take them from me to avoid financial responsibility through Coutts and I can’t imagine the detriment to my children if somehow his lies stick and he’s able to take them. I was thinking about a freezer spell before but I read you should only do that if you want to completely freeze that person from your life and while that sounds great I’m not sure I’m willing to risk it backfiring and potentially freezing my children out with him. I’ve read spellcasting on a narcissist isn’t typically effective do you know if that’s at all accurate? I’m leaning towards the tarot spell listed here. Just want to find the most effective and safe spell to help protect my children and I. Thank you in advance!
Hi Dani! I suggest the neutralization spell in this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Tess,
I’m pondering the timing of performing a binding spell. An ongoing challenge within my family has finally revealed itself to me and I feel compelled to perform the spell work with this new moon BUT I’m not sure of the repercussions of the eclipse.
Also, I’m interested in your recommendations for ending a generational curse, per se. I want it done and gone for good. The narcissistic “entity” has latched onto at least 1 person per generation since my Grandmother and has now reached one of my children. I’m the first to push it away that I’m aware of, but it made it’s way back.
Thank you for your consideration and time.
Hi! I personally think an eclipse would be a great time for this type of spell. And for the generational curse, I suggest lighting a black candle at the next dark moon and calling on Archangel Zaphkiel and asking her to clear it and remove the entity from your family in all directions of time. Then listen to your intuition about any further action to take.
Thank you for your guidance and input in regards to my above comment. I thoroughly enjoy your writings.
Be well.
Thank you!
Hello Dear Tess!! I hope you are really well!
A long time ago i made the BULLY #3: FREEZER BINDING SPELL …wanted to ask how now i release this spell as i want no longer to have it in my freezer.
Best Regards!
Vasilia
Hi Vasilia! I would just thaw it out and pour it down the drain. Also throw out the ribbon and paper, and recycle the jar.
Most thank you Dear Tess, bless you and be well!
If you don’t know who or how many people are causing you harm…. How do you protect yourself and those you love from them? I’m tired of watching murphy’s law on steroids, repeatly bitch slap me, my pets, every place I’ve worked at and people in it.(particularly all the dogs, training and rehab and rescue center I work at. They’re on the brink of going under too), all my friends, and those who help me. I just want it to stop. I don’t want anyone hurt, any curses or magic turned on anyone. I just want the enormously large amount of bad luck and attacks to end and positivity, financial abundance, healing and blessings replace all of the negative issues, bad luck and deaths. A friend of mine actually refered to it as a generational curses.
I’ve spent over 20 years trying to weed out everything and anything I could be doing that’s causing these problems, and how to avoid the issues and be prepared for them. I mean I’ve tried everything mundane and magical, starting with the mundane. I’m on the brink of being homeless and losing my babies at this point. I’m out of options, out of money and I need help desperately. Please what of those spells do you suggest, or is there a place I can go to get help with the magical part of the problem?
I need help badly, everything I’ve done doesn’t seem to be helping.
Feel free to ask if you want more info.
Raven, have you tried clutter clearing? I know it sounds basic, but I always like to start there, because it’s actually really powerful.
Hi Tess,
Clutter clearing as in cleaning out the house!? I like doing that about 1-4 times a year on average. I also like to do a spiritual, mental, and physical cleansing with it.
Nothing like the smell of sage or patchouli when cleaning house.
If it helps my last smudging was in April.
Yes, clutter clearing as in cleaning the house. If you haven’t seen this post, you might find something here. I also recommend my book, Little Guide to Protection Magic. (There’s a link in this post.) https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-awesome-ways-to-break-a-hex-or-a-curse/
Thank you again for the recommendation and time you took to give me the advice. You just doing that means the world to me.
That other article was just what I needed to read.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Words can’t express my gratitude enough, cause I’m really looking forward to moving forward and I’m extremely grateful for you arming me with the knowledge I needed.
Let the positive bad assery of moving forward begin!!!
Raven, I’m so glad! That’s a great attitude. Blessings to you.
I’ve just started getting into all this and have never actually done any spells on my own but I do strongly believe in it. I’ve been having a lot of trouble with a guy at work and I’m sure it’s going to lead to a fist fight. I wouldn’t have really had a problem with that in the past but I just got out of prison and I don’t want to go back. I want to put his name in the freezer but a few things are holding me back. First I don’t have the supplies, 2nd I do have a dark side to me and I’m afraid I won’t be able to clear my mind of the anger I feel towards this individual or my rage in general and that I could possibly cause him a great deal of harm when all I really want is to get along or for him to just go away. However my main concern is this, I had a hex put on me a few years back(a dome spell I think she called it) of which my lady friend said was very well done by a witch very in tune with her emotions. She said it’s going to take multiple cleansings to fully break. I’ve only let her do 1 for me so far because of how much it affected her. My step mom helped me with a spell to bind the curse between 2 mirrors and also had me do a threefold spell. Now my lady friend is an empath and she says I still have a lot of bad energy I need to work through before I start doing any kind of binding spells or anything of that nature. She fears it will come back at me even without a reversal spell. She says this is a test and to just push through but she doesn’t understand that this guy is threatening my freedom with his rage and anger towards me. What do you recommend? I mite should also add that I’m pretty sure this guy is schizophrenic and bipolar. My step mom did a healing spell using his first and last name but it didn’t seen to last long.
I look forward to hearing back from you. Thank you.
Hi William! I suggest starting with spell #3 from this post. Try it and see if it helps: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
I like the idea of binding abusive power. I need a witch to get my boyfriend to stop hitting me. I’ll have to hire a witch who works with love potions.
Tex, I highly recommend getting out of the relationship instead, and getting support if you need it. Here’s the National Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org
I have multiple chemical sensitivities and my roommate knows this. Vanilla really triggers me. He’s purposely putting fragrances everywhere so I will trigger. He said that he gets off on making people upset. He knows I’m allergic to scents. What would be the best spell? I don’t have anywhere else to live so I’m stuck. If I say anything he will be worse. Like buying more vanilla candles, vanilla trash bags, etc, etc. I have said let him see how sick he makes me and then he vomits. I don’t want anything bad to return to me, my family or him. I’m not wanting to harm but I need it to stop. My throat burns, my eyes burn and I feel like my throat is closing. He knows this and continues to purposely make me sick. What do you recommend?
Lena, when you say you have nowhere else to go, do you mean you can’t currently look for another living situation for some reason? If that’s the case, I recommend asking your roommate to leave and finding someone else to live with (if necessary). And if he will not do that, I have a spell in my book Magical Housekeeping for getting an unwanted houseguest to leave. I know he’s not a houseguest, but it will still be appropriate. (Binding someone you are choosing to live with is problematic.)
I have never preformed a binding spell, and I am concerned about negative karma coming my way for attempting a one.
My situation is this.
I am married to an older man. And his ex-wife and her mother poison his two daughters minds against him. The two daughters constantly speak down to him and tell him blatantly that once they turn 18 they are cutting him out of theirs lives.
All this hate comes from mom and grandma.
Other people in her family has told us that she has blamed their divorce on me and that I am a homewrecker (which is not the case at all). Then grandma constantly says that dad needs to die.
I want to bind their negativity to maybe better their relationship with their dad.
Vanessa, I think it might be more effective to neutralize this negativity rather than binding it. Maybe try #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess
Our 9 year old grandson has Autism and ADHD. He is a lovely sweet natured child most of the time but recently has become increasingly violent hurting himself his mum and younger sister. We are working with professionals but I’m desperate to protect the 3 of them from harm, would a binding spell help? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated
Paula 🙏
Paula, I would not recommend a binding spell in this instance. Instead, I would do a protection spell for everyone. The yarrow charm from this post would be a good idea. You could place it on your altar near a photo of the family members you’d like to protect: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-simple-and-powerful-protection-charms/
Thank you so much Tess, I’ll work with the Yarrow charm you suggest. And thank you for taking the time to reply so quickly
Brightest blessings to you xx
Hi! So, I have two bullies named Caleb and Bella and they are mean to me and my friend! I got so mad because they were mean to my friend on his birthday! Caleb broke my pencil, has been mean to me in my other school and kicked me under my desk lot’s of time’s. I talked to the vice principal and 2 teachers and they won’t do anything. I told my parent’s and they won’t help! Any suggestions?
Hi there! I’m sorry to hear that you’ve asked for help and haven’t received it. Would it be possible for you to ask to see a counselor or the principal? There are anti-bullying laws in all 50 states, so an adult should definitely be helping you with this. According to this site – https://www.stopbullying.gov/resources/get-help-now – these are people to contact if you are being bullied:
1. Teacher
2. School counselor
3. School principal
4. School superintendent
5. State Department of Education
Since you’re able to comment on this site, I don’t see why you couldn’t email your local superintendent or your state’s department of education if no one at your school is supporting you.
Hi Tess, I have been mentally and emotionally abused by my mother in law and sister in laws. I have been seeing a therapist because of this. They are complete control freaks and even though my sister in laws do not live with us, they have to be in control of everything. They manipulate my husband and cause many problems between us. Whatever they say goes and everyone else is wrong. They have such a bad name in their community because of what they have done to others in the past, including what one sister in law has done to her own daughter in law. We have no privacy in our marriage either because of this as my sister in law is at our house everyday to see her mum. Please, I need some advice to block them out of our lives and to give our marriage the respect and privacy that we deserve and to stop causing problems for me. They bad mouth me for no reason whatsoever and it is very upsetting. What do you suggest?
Simone, before I recommend a magical solution, I have to ask: are you also seeing a therapist with your husband? And/or is he on board with changing this family dynamic? It sounds like he needs to help you out with setting boundaries here.
Hi Tess, no we are not seeing a therapist together at this stage. I have suggested it but he is not interested. I am unsure if he is interested in changing the dynamics. We have only met up in person 4 times since we separated in October. He said on Saturday night that we are going to meet up as much as possible now to try and work out whether we move forward together or whether we end our marriage. I really do not want to end our marriage. He is my world and I love him with all of my heart. This is killing me.
Simone, instead of intervening magically with the family members, I recommend working to speak your truth to your husband about your feelings about this situation. This challenge with the family members is an aspect of your relationship and it will not benefit you to deal with it as a separate problem. If he doesn’t want to support you in fixing this dynamic, I would work magic to heal your relationship rather than binding the family members. Here are some spells that may help: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
hello Madam Tess
first of all, wishing you a beautiful new year.
A spell you had recommended (sea salt, black candle, black thread, paper with their name written on it, reversing someone’s attitude) actually did work for me.
1 of the women in our volunteer group I had focused on for the spell actually had good fortune come to her and she is no longer vicious towards me. I will be using the same spell on another volunteer soon, however, she just became engaged to her boyfriend and it may not be necessary. With the new year comes changes, we’ll see how the others behave.
Blessings to you. Sheila
Blessings to you too Sheila, and happy New Year. Glad you had success with the spell. 🙂
Hello, I have an ex whom is battling drug addiction and he was sincerely trying his best and was almost convinced to enter rehab, then I had a miscarriage and it seemed things turned for the worse he started robbing people, and convincing himself they deserved it for whatever reasons he deemed punishable, well after an argument that he was being responsible as he showed up at my house high with a young lady who was also high I told him I would help and feed him but he couldn’t be bringing this chaos around my two young daughters , it’s enough we are poor and trying to save to leave the hood, a very dangerous place. And after falling asleep he stole my daughters violins and the only keys to my house, he has stolen things before which I believe to support his habit, I don’t have hate in my heart but love , I would like to do a binding spell to prevent him from harming others and bringing harm to himself or bringing angry people to my door! I really have been trying to get my life in order and want to be a better person than I was yesterday, I would love to see him escape this neighborhood and get better even if it’s not with me, I almost think jail is the option as one person he robbed is looking for him and not friendly, would a binding spell be appropriate to help this situation, thank you so much for your time 🙂
Hi, yes, a binding spell would be appropriate, and also perhaps a restraining order if you haven’t filed for one already.
Hi! My dad has been dealing with really nasty regular clients at his work place. They’re always extremely rude towards him and yell at him when they’re unhappy with something. A few of them called his boss and complained to try and get him fired and even mentioned how they dislike his accent. He doesn’t own the business so he has to deal with them and quitting is not an option at the moment. It’s been really bringing him down and affecting his mental health. I made a protective sachet for him but I don’t think it’s enough. I wanted to try a binding spell I’m just not sure which one would be the most effective in this situation. He also lives in a different town and comes home for the weekends so I don’t know any of the clients names or have their pictures. Do you have any suggestions on how I should handle this?
Hi Lily! I suggest #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/ …and instead of writing their names, write something that clearly symbolizes to you who they are. Like, it could even be, “The bullies at my dad’s work.” And instead of saying “You have no power over me,” you could say “You have no power over [your dad’s name]” Does this sound good?
Thats really helpful thank you so much!!
Hi I am concerned or my daughter. From primary school she have been bullied by a group of kids. She is now almost out of secondary school abs the kids are still bullying her. She can’t catch a break they always have something to post whether it’s on yolo or WhatsApp or social media. We have had several meetings with their parents the school and the parents are not doing anything. My daughter is now trying to please people so they can like her as a way to avoid the bullying but that’s not good. We don’t want her to be somebody she isn’t just to fit in. We want her to be herself. She have been ignoring them awhile now but I am tired of it. I don’t want her to be watching her back every-time but want her to enjoy her teenage life. What can I do to stop these group of teenagers from bullying my daughter
Oh wow, this has got to be tough. Are you in the US? If so, it looks like if you are not getting help at the school level, you can contact the US Department of Education Office for Civil Rights and the US Department of Justice, Civil Rights Division. I would start there before attempting to magically bind these bullies. https://www.stopbullying.gov/resources/get-help-now .. And, in the meantime, I suggest doing a protection spell for your daughter, like #2 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
No we are not in the US. Thank you very much
Oh ok. In this case, much like with the previous commenter, I suggest #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/ …If you know the bullies’ names, you can write them. Otherwise, you can write something general, like “The kids who are bullying my daughter.” And instead of saying “You have no power over me,” you could say “You have no power over [your daughter’s name]” Do you feel good about this option?
Would any of these spells work for online bullies? This isn’t a case of a troll that could easily be ignored by blocking and muting. They have a habit of bypassing blocks by making new accounts to continue to harass people. Furthermore, their actions have become rather disturbing as they have been relentlessly stalking a minor and doxxing people. I think this has become very serious, especially when a minor is involved, and something needs to be done since blocking hasn’t deterred this person from targeting people. As for reporting and getting them banned, that doesn’t seem to stop them for good either. I don’t know how seriously the law would take this person’s actions, nor am I sure if something legally can even be done when this person can very well be in a whole other country.
Any recommendations or is this really something that’s too petty to use a spell for?
It sounds to me like a binding would be appropriate.
Thank you. A few more questions, but is a circle really needed? Only reason i ask is because the layout of my apartment wouldn’t allow me to lay out items 6ft in diameter.
And I was thinking about using the Freezing spell. What exactly do you afterwards? Is there a certain time when it’s safe to remove the jar from the freezer, or another set of steps that need to be taken.
Morgan, you can do a smaller circle, but no, it’s not really needed if you intuitively feel that it isn’t necessary. You can remove the jar from the freezer when you feel the spell has done its job and maybe a few additional months have passed. Basically, you want to feel totally safe about everything. Then you can responsibly dispose of the jar, etc.
Hi, I love your article, I have a little sister who is just a very bad and toxic person, she always manages to turn people against each other, be it family or not, even managed to break up a marriage of many years with lies, she has always been a jealous person, she is turning my mother and I against each other, mom told me to move out, I am vulnerable and don’t know where to go as of now, she lies and manipulate people and acts innocent, can i bind her, I just want peace with others and with my old sick mother who always chooses her.
Sylvia, the fact that your mom is taking her side makes me think it would be better for you to get out of the home because that doesn’t seem like a healthy reaction to someone who is so manipulative. (I mean, doesn’t your mother know her by now?) So would you feel comfortable working your magic instead to find a healthier living situation somewhere else? What I’m getting at is that it seems like a toxic situation all around, not just where your sister is concerned. Would you agree with that? If so, here’s a spell that might help. You can do it for renting instead of buying if that’s better for you: https://tesswhitehurst.com/spell-for-finding-and-buying-a-home/
Hi yes you are probably right about the moving out part, that is the only thing I have to do, just a little pressed financially, anyway mom knows what her daughter is doing and she is not helping much, rather she is messing up her daughter more, thank you will check out the link.
I have a coworker that bullies everyone in the clinic. For example every little mistake we make she yells and catches attitude with us in front of our boss instead of talking to us calling us out and also blaming us for things we didnt do. Mind you she is not above us in anyway. She is married to our manager so they are doing nothing about the verbal abuse that is going on. Would a binding spell work with out consequences?
In this case, I would lean more toward something like #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
good evening, Madam Tess:
have had an interest in wicca for years, not practicing/never have, just reading those which are simple spells.
The spell for binding with sea salt/black string above..
would this be applicable for certain persons who are being verbally abusive?
i need to inquire since there are at least 7 who call me unkind names (all 50+ aged adults within a volunteer group I belong to, many are intimidated because of my strong Libra background).
thank you for your insight.
Hi Sheila! Without knowing the details of the situation, my initial intuition is that leaving the group might be more efficient and appropriate? Is leaving the group a possibility?
hello Tess:
in answer to the question, leaving the group would not be more efficient or possibility, as I am due to be president of the group within 2 years and this is part of my ‘bucket list’. The senior advisors who have mentored me want me in that spot as a strong leader. This is a national organization relating to veterans and my group involves not only a local group (for which I am currently president) but for the geographical area to oversee 25 smaller groups and 4000 members.
The current regime seems to be intimidated by my presence and inquiries.
thanks for your additional assist.
OK, no problem! In this case, it still doesn’t sound like a binding ritual is appropriate. I would suggest instead a ritual to create more harmony instead, like any of the rituals in this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/3-spells-for-staying-positive-in-a-challenging-environment/
I have been victimized by a cruel narcissist with occult leanings for decades, and they have maliciously decimated my life, first thru the government watchlist system, thru filing false police reports on me, malicious gossip, deliberate financial sabotage and obstruction of my life in every way. They seemed to sell this as a “romantic” interest to all the people who used to be in my life, when I was allowed to be free, but they isolated me thru their lies while relentlessly attacking my health in every way, from spiritual to financial, which put me in a downward spiral.
I’m so far from where I could have been, and now instead of breaking and entering my vehicles and residences (I have moved so many times in all these years I have boxes I’ve carried with me that never get unpacked anymore) they are leaving me obvious signs of their malice and hatred now. I’m not a practitioner of magic, and haven’t had the head space to learn as I’ve felt like I’ve been drowning from this pervasive, intrusive abuse of my life, and life force for so long now I can barely see in front of me.
I cannot understand why.
Just recently I opened up my vehicle to find a white gift box, approximately 8 inches by 8 inches, wrapped in a white gauze veil tied with a brown cord with goofer dust inside, because apparently they know no one will help me, so it’s safe for them to be obvious now.
What on earth can I do to rid myself of this obsessed psychopath, and their obsession with destroying me, and what’s left of my life?
Kristin, I suggest connecting with Sen Elias at Crescent City Conjure and consulting with him about how he can help you. Here’s his website: https://crescentcityconjure.us
I need to bind someone gaslighting me. Do I need to expose who it is first or can I simply bind “Name: Gaslighter”?
I’ve used cards and I have an idea who it is but I won’t do anything without certainty.
Hi Anah! I am assuming they are keeping their identity secret somehow, like this is someone online perhaps? If so, then yes. You can do that.
Do you think it’s feasible to do a protection spell to stop an entire group of people from bullying another group of people? For example, to stop racist cops from brutalizing Black people?
Mindy, did you see this post? https://tesswhitehurst.com/4-spells-for-protecting-protesters-promoting-racial-justice/ I’d recommend the first spell from that post (rather than a binding for this purpose).
Thank you!
Hi Tess, I’ve been searching for a spell that is deemed appropriate for what my family is going through. My sister has this girlfriend who’s jealousy is worse than hers. Every time we talk or something good happens whether it be a new car a raise etc somehow as soon as her girlfriend finds out we’re instantly cursed with bad luvk. And it’s only when she knows. For example I took poa of my sister’s oldest and he’s been staying with us for 2 months. In those two months my life has been completely disrupted, my husband gets flat tires every week, our brand new car broke down, etc. When she heard something good or doesn’t like something I’m p positive she goes and does some bad stuff in us. I’ve tried protecting my family by lighting a protection candle with spell 3x I’ve tried spell jars etc and it hasn’t worked. There’s more to it but long story short I NEED to get her to stop because she’s completely brainwash rd my sister and now seems to be “lighting candles“ a lo t. I’m pretty gifted and I’ve seen a demon in her back as well so I try to stay as far away from her as humanly possible. I’m at my wits end and I don’t know what binding I should donor what course of action. Thank you.
Hi Steff! I suggest spell #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hello! I’m not sure you’ll even see this as I’ve noticed this was posted years ago. However, I’m looking for a spell or anything I can do to help ease a situation that’s been incredibly awful for my boyfriend and I. His ex is manipulative, controlling, narcissistic, and I truly feel like she’s also a bit of a sociopath. She lies and makes up stories or over-exaggerates about everything. They have 2 young children together and she just had a baby with her new husband. She has never allowed him to come to our house because when they were together he smoked marijuana and she’s completely against it and is conservative for the most part. She also doesn’t ever accept her guilt/fault in any situation that’s negative whatsoever.
I was basically blamed for their relationship ending when I had nothing at all to do with it. I didn’t speak to him at all while they were together and she tells her kids these things! She speaks ill of him constantly and he only sees them once a week. They have an agreement via a therapist and she hasn’t held up her end. She literally just told him he can never have his kids at our house because we smoke weed. She’s angry because his mother’s sister contracted this new virus. She believes she has an auto-immune disease and he says the doctor asked her about this particular disease she swears she has and asked if she’s been diagnosed and she said no she just thinks she has it. So this has caused many issues with this whole new virus.
We would like the children to be able to come to our home, where I have my own children daily, and for them to actually spend the night with us. What kind of spell or ritual can I perform to help him/us in this particular situation? I’m not sure if binding in this way would work but I was hoping something similar at least would. I’ve been looking at sour jar spells. I just don’t know how to banish her negativity and toxicity to make his life and THEIR CHILDREN’s life easier. She always has to win. She always has to get her way and manipulate her kids and everyone around her into getting her way. It’s absolutely ridiculous. We don’t have the money to pay to take her to court yet, however, I’d love to do a money spell to help aid in that situation as well.
Any help would truly be appreciated beyond measure. Thank you so much.
Hi AJ! I think taking her to court sounds like a good idea, so here’s some money ideas: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-magical-ways-to-call-in-more-money/
Also, in the meantime, I think a neutralization spell might be your best bet. That would be like spell #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi there, I’m grateful to see your responses to help all these people. I am in a situation that involves a very controlling, paranoid, manipulative, mean, narcissistic ex. We have 2 children who he is also very verbally and emotionally damaging too. The courts don’t see it and I’m terrified to spend a ton of money to then possibly get screwed over in the end. I have gone back and forth with staying positive, not allowing myself to stoop to his level with the hate and anger… but he manages to upset me to such a degree I’m physically shivering, or worse. The anxiety he creates when he reaches out or is around is a lot. I am a strong, confident, don’t let people push me around type person… he has such a crazy affect on me and I need it to stop. I want to bind him with positivity, so that maybe he will find love and happiness for himself and in result be gentler and kinder to my boys and me. If that makes sense, if that’s not possible I need something that will protect both my boys, their half brothers and their mom as well. I feel as though he’s so broken and so hurt… I don’t think he’s inherently evil.. but he’s very possibly text book narcissist. I’m sorry for how long winded this is, I’m grateful to you and your advice. Thank you 🙏🏻
Angela, before we talk about the magical end of things, it seems important to note that if he is verbally and emotionally damaging to your kids, you probably will, in the long run, like to know that you did everything in your power to keep them away from him. So even though the legal route feels like a gamble, I want to point out that it might still be important to pursue it for your kid’s sake (and your own sense that you did your best for them). That being said, as you’re taking steps to protect your children from an abusive situation, you could do spell #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Would this work on a supervisor at work, she is cruel and nasty. She bullies and belittles, she criticizes everything, even what people it. She bullied one guy so bad he tried to hang himself, she knows all about it but has never changed…
In this case, I would personally lean toward doing #3 from this post instead: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
how do you do binding love spell?
Hi Mary! That’s probably not a good idea. Check out this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/why-you-should-not-do-a-love-spell-on-a-specific-person/
Hi, Tess. I really like your approach to life’s problems, because I don’t like the idea of hexing people either. My current problem, is that my husband and I have recently purchased a home that we really like. Unfortunately, just over on the next block, are a row of homes with people who are incredibly inconsiderate. They sit in their backyards after midnight, talking loudly and playing loud, bass music. We have not felt comfortable approaching them because they seem rowdy, possibly dangerous. We have called the police, they were cited, and we are sure another neighbor complained as well. Yet they continue this behavior. I no longer enjoy sitting out in my yard, and since I have complex PTSD and am over sixty, I feel constantly stressed and powerless. What measure would you suggest that won’t backfire onto us? I really can’t take this anymore.
Janna, neighbor problems like this are so frustrating. I know this firsthand! First, for the after midnight situation, if this is keeping you from sleeping, have you tried white noise, like a box fan or a white noise machine or app for your bedroom? This might mitigate or cure the sound issue if you can get used to it and it feels soothing to you. As for sitting in your yard, what if you hung a collection of beautiful wind chimes to bring a soothing sound closer instead of being distracted by the music across the way? If they’re too loud for other neighbors (or you) during other times, you could take them down when you’re not in the back. An outdoor fountain would be another idea for soothing sounds to counterbalance the other noise (and that could also work even if there’s no wind). Let me know your thoughts on these ideas!
These sound good, and I am willing to try them. Thanks!
Hello, and thank you for your advice. We are trying to use positive energy to invoke change. Each time we think of invoking positive energy we are hit with such despair. Such as being told after 25 years of employment, “that does not matter, you will have 0 years of seniority.” I’ll never understand how greedy and evil people get away with so much.
Thanks again.
Hi, yes, I can imagine it would be a challenge. In case it might be helpful, I just posted this spell yesterday: https://tesswhitehurst.com/spell-to-transform-a-problem-into-a-blessing/
Thank you. Yes we have explored the possibility. We have reached out but have not heard anything. Our union is very strong but we’re in a bad position with the COVID-19 pandemic. The bankruptcy judge is not a friend to labor…and the company buying our hospital made statements that “We’re not doing this to save money.” Which means they are doing it because they just want to. These concessions will be life changing events for many. People will lose homes, some will not be able to afford college for their kids…and some will not be able to care for the extended family members that many of us do. You would think stories like this would be of interest…but we have not heard back from anyone.
Eight years ago, this same company attempted to buy our hospital but was contested all the way to the attorney general and the company walked away…Now they are back and just evil. This has always been their nature. Our nurses have always been involved with our community…many underserved patients here. And we fought for their rights to healthcare, now we are having to fight for our livlihood and the community. Just was hoping for some help somehow somewhere…thank you again.
Hi SJB! I see. This makes sense. I recommend invoking magic for the purpose of bringing these challenges and motivations to light, and sending as much positive energy and trust in divine timing to the situation as you can, rather than binding the people in charge. I think one of the lessons the magical community can learn from this present challenge with the pandemic is that binding leaders we don’t like perhaps isn’t the best course of action because the challenges related to the resulting ineffectiveness can spill over to the people and places they govern. There is a huge amount of transformational energy in the world right now, which can also be experienced as a feeling of instability, but I recommend working with it rather than against it. Here’s a video about how to do that energetically. All 3 ideas in this could be helpful. https://tesswhitehurst.com/how-to-transform-conditions-you-dont-want/
Mrs. Whitehurst. I am a nurse at a charity based hospital which is about to be bought by a very nasty and greedy company. They are attempting to cut the nurse’s wages in half. Remove contract obligations. Our pension has already been cancelled. I have worked here for over 20 years. Our charity hospital is very profitable but the new owners want to make millions off of the backs of the people who care. We have over 15 RNs who have contracted COVID-19. We have some of the highest numbers of COVID-19 in Los Angeles.
The company has deliberately pushed for the sell during this horrible time so we cannot strike due to the current health needs of the community. We need help. Where do we go for some type of binding spell. How can we fight this nasty company with our spirit and magic? Any help would be great. We are at a loss…
Scott, I’m so sorry to hear about this. You’re right: this sounds nasty. I have the sense that exposing and redirecting this negativity (rather than binding it) could be the most efficient and effective way to deal with it. In Los Angeles, you are surrounded my many news organizations, podcasters, and documentarians who could be interested in sharing what’s happening with the world. If you can get the story to the right person or group, the exposure could help create change. (Michael Moore, Vice News, and 60 Minutes come to mind, but one or more local news organizations or less famous media personalities could also be effective.) Have you explored this possibility?
Hello, my dear.
Never thought I’d have to use one of these spells (mason jar) on my birthday, but I’m in a tough situation and I want to bind two bullies’ powers who have forced me to confront them right on this day. I really hope the spell will save it and give me enough courage to confront them without fearing their power. Does the spell activate instantly or does it take time.
Lots of love,
Yuna McHill
Hi Yuna! Happy birthday, and I’m sorry to hear about the tough situation. I would not expect these spells to take time to work – I would assume they begin working immediately.
Thank you so much, Tess.
I’m sure it will be a wonderful birthday. I’ll tell you if this spell works, which I believe it should.
It worked, Tessa!
They were as civil as lambs, well, not like lambs, but way more civil than before! I also called upon archangels Chamuel and Michael to give me strength and peace. Overall, not the worst conversation. I love your spells, they always work! <3
Love,
Yuna
A dear friend is in a awful marriage. She is preparing heraelf to leave but has no option to leave for a little while. His hurtful words keep getting to her. I feel spell #2 would be appropriate for her situation. She is worried about not being able to stay neutral during the spell and asked if I would do it for her. I like her husband, he isn’t a terrible man but his words are mean, hurtful and said out of spite. He is a bully. Do you think it would be appropriate for me to do this spell in this situation?
Also, why do you use 8 pieces of thread?
Hi Colleen! I would not perform this spell in this situation, as the ideal outcome is not that she stay in this situation, but that she leave it. Performing a binding on someone you live with can be tricky, and if you’re doing magical work anyway, you may as well do magical work to speed up your ability to leave. So instead of you doing a spell on her behalf, I would recommend she do an unblocking spell on her own behalf if she feels up to it. Here is a post with 5 unblocking spells to choose from: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-unblocking-spells-to-dispel-stuck-energy-and-boost-your-luck/
Hi Tess,
Apologies for the long message, I just want to explain exactly what I want.
I’m with a person who has a large mixed gender friendship group. I have no concerns about faithfulness, but one of his female friends is overbearing, dominates conversation and makes us newest girlfriends in the group feel left out by dwelling on old times and in-jokes or talking to her friends (our partners) in a way that isn’t inclusive. She’s not touchy feely in the ‘I’m stealing your man’ sense, but her actions towards myself and the other new girlfriends in the group remind me of an abusive ex-friend of mine who found all sorts of ways to remind you subtly that they are closer, have a history, see each other often etc. Like my ex friend, she even find ways to include herself in hobbies she doesn’t even like so she is there; I’d really rather she didn’t do that. My previous abuse makes me fear I’m disliked or being frozen out by someone I can’t compete against so her actions hurt. My partner is quiet, and doesn’t kick up a fuss even if she (or others in general) say or do things that make him uncomfortable, so he won’t tell her she’s being a bit much.
She seems unhappy (quitting her job, threatening to move country) and is single. I get the impression she’s clinging to her mates, especially the ones that paired up last (like my partner), and is perhaps a little resentful or jealous that they have grown up and have other responsibilities to fill their time and have partners to be close to. I’m not even sure that she’s aware that she’s sending negative vibes or making people feel unwelcome and I don’t think she’s a bad person necessarily. I’d really like to get to know her and to be on good terms with her.
I don’t wish her any harm; quite the opposite. I want her to be fulfilled and happy, go abroad if she wants to, and to move on with their life, find love if she wants it, get a job she loves, and still be friends with my partner and the others. Just not in this competitive clingy way but with healthy boundaries and respect for the partners in her friends’ lives.
I don’t want to banish her as a person physically (though she’s threatened to move abroad!), or bind her because I’m not sure she’s being malicious. But I wonder if It might help to banish the part of her that is overbearing, smothering, clingy, competitive, and non-inclusive so that she and I can grow a healthy friendship so that she doesn’t do things to hurt me or the other ladies. And that she can stop holding on too tight to her friendships and find new friends and hobbies and happiness whilst she lets her friends do their own thing and be happy and respects their relationships. I’d like her to let go and live her life, and let her friends live theirs. I don’t know if a freezing spell would help, or some kind of protection spell. I don’t know where she lives, and she doesn’t visit my house, so a mirror would be no good. I’ve considered placing her name in a jar of salt like you suggest. I want to set the intention for her to live her best life. I don’t want to cut the cords of their friendship but I’d like her tostop being clingy and intruding on mine and my partners’ (and our other friends’) lives and for there to be a healthy and appropriate distance between her and friends.
I just want to be able to deal with her in my life, and in my partner’s life without feeling that she’s trying to exclude me. Are there any spells or intentions you can recommend?
Hi Mellanthe! This sounds more like a situation that calls for setting boundaries in the physical world. You may want to talk to your partner about your feelings and choose not to hang out with the group when this person is around. If you don’t want to be friends with someone because they don’t resonate with you, it’s a better idea to stop hanging out with them instead of working magic on them. I can see that this may cause friction or issues in your relationship, but it will be much better in the long run to have these conversations now. Being in a relationship with someone who requires you to spend time with someone you don’t like is probably not a relationship you’d want to sustain.
Hi,
My boyfriend has ended our relationship almost 8 months ago. I’m new to all this. But my intuition tells me he wants to get back together. I called in the advice of some friends with abilities. They tell me that he loves me and regrets breaking up with me. However, his ex wife is controlling him. She has borderline personality and she has narcissistic tendencies. She ended their relationship but she wants him to still do everything she asks of him. And he does. I had to put up with that throughout our relationship. She even was very friendly to me, saying she was grateful that he had found me. At the same time she asked the cosmos to break us up. This was confirmed by two of my friends. One even said it looks like she used (black) magick on him. Is it appropriate to do a binding spell in this situation? I know it’s not okay to do a love spell on a specific person. I have alsovread your post about the karma friendly love spells. I really want to do that. But the thing is that he just “walks in” every time I do a meditation, visualization or other spiritual / energy work. So I’m a bit afraid that I might accidentally visualize him during the love spell. How can I prevent that? Or do you recommend something else?
Sasha, I am sensing there is a better partner for you out there. I suggest cutting the cords to this old relationship and cleansing the residual energy of it out of your life. This will help open you up to a new partner and healthier situation. When you feel ready, you can even do a spell to attract a new romance. All of this will help you feel more empowered and comfortable in your skin.
Thank you Tess. It’s really hard for me to read your comment. Because it’s the opposite of what I feel and sense myself. But I am open to cutting the cords to our old relationship. I even found a love spell I feel comfortable with. However, it didn’t feel okay to do it today, because I’m afraid I might accidentally cast the spell with him in mind. Is there a spell or ritual that can help me cut the cords? Because I’m sure that if we’re meant to be together or not, this will help either way. But it still feels a bit unnatural, so I need all the help I can get
Hi Sasha! Here are some posts that may help. https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/ https://tesswhitehurst.com/3-spells-for-healing-after-a-breakup/
What would you suggest, maybe a ward? To prevent a male person in a home from showing interest in me? I cannot leave the home just yet. His live-in girlfriend is very angry with me, because he’s interested in me,
though I have done nothing at all to encourage this male person and have, in fact, stated to everyone in the home several times I have no interest in any kind of relationship with anyone. Anything safe, simple, that I could do, having never done any kind of spells?
Cat, I’m sensing that any kind of ritual or spell could make this situation less tolerable rather than more. What I suggest is empowering a black tourmaline necklace with the intention to neutralize and repel any sort of challenging energy or drama, and to make you somewhat more “invisible” to both the girlfriend and the male person. Do this by holding the pendant in sunlight and mentally envisioning this dynamic. If it feels right, you can also call on the Divine in a way that feels powerful to you to also help with this intention. Then wear the pendant, and (of course) make sure to get out of this situation as soon as humanly possible.
Thank you so much, Tess, I appreciate it. I’m looking for a piece of black tourmaline right now.
I’ve got a raw piece of tourmaline wrapped in string right now and held inside my shirt with a tank top to keep it secure, but have a pendant ordered to arrive that can be worn on a chain. That’s the best I can do for now and hope it works until I can leave. Thank you, Tess.
Hi Tess, I love this article, and your book! I want to perform Binding a Bully #1 on a homeless person terrorizing our neighborhood. I live in San Francisco where this is pretty common. She and her boyfriend have been breaking into cars, stealing, etc. for a while. The problem is that I have their picture, but not their names. Is it possible to do the Binding a Bully #1 with their picture? Thanks in advance!
Hi Winnie! Yes, that should work just fine. You may also want to consider doing doing protection spells for your car and your home if you haven’t already.
There is a guy I work with who is more than a bully, his behaviour is subnormal and frightening. He shouts at us, belittles us, kicks and breaks work that we have done, and damages work property. He is abusive and threatening. I have only been there 5 months and am looking for a new job as he is damaging my mental health, which isn’t the best in the world as it is! Our supervisors and managers know that he is trouble, even his union rep is getting annoyed with his behaviour but he doesn’t want him to leave as it will take ages to replace him. People who have spoken against him in the past have been threatened and he warned me that if people snitch on him they will be looking over their shoulders for the rest of their lives. Of course, he says this to me when others aren’t around, so it would be my word against his and to be honest I just really want to get out of this situation. There is no point going to HR, police etc as he denies things all the time. He is not someone to get on the wrong side of or mess with, so please don’t tell me to report him as I couldn’t cope with the worry that he may harm me.
What spell or binding would be best in this situation? and are there any spells etc that I could use in the meantime to protect me, get him to leave me alone, make me stronger etc?
Thanks
xxxx
Any of the spells in this post would be appropriate. Also: https://tesswhitehurst.com/new-job-spell/
hey tess. i am a younger witch in school and i am having a hard time with one kid and i want to bind/nutralise his power i did a name burning with a red candle and it did not work
Hi Andres! This may sound weird, but I’m getting the feeling that if you surround him with the energy of love, things will change for the better. For example, imagine if you adopted a cat or a dog who had been abused, and so the animal was always aggressive and violent. Of course you would have compassion and do your best to heal that animal’s aggression with love. If you can possibly imagine this kid in the same way, and send the feeling of love his way any time you think of him, you might shift the energy for the better. This doesn’t mean you have to say anything to him or act any way around him, it’s all about how you treat him in your mind and with your energy. Maybe give this a try for a week or two and let me know how it goes. (Of course, since it sounds like you are being threatened and/or bullied, I also recommend that you tell an adult in a position of authority if you haven’t already.)
My sister has an abusive husband that she wants to remove from her life. We would like him to leave on his own in a positive way so that she can move on with her life and feel safe. (We are aware of all of the help that is available out there for her. This is a complicated situation.) He is a very intuitive person and is a narcissist. (crazy and scary combo) What would you recommend for this situation? There is a New Moon coming so I thought it would be a great opportunity to work something up.
Vic, I understand this is complicated, but is there a way for your sister to leave instead? I’m not sure working magic for the purpose you are describing is the best avenue for her.
I’m so thankful that I found your website! I will be watching your videos very soon… I’m very new at the idea of doing a spell, I’m what I believe to be a green witch and I’m definitely an empath.. and in my heart I know I need to do something about the bully in my life. I hired a friend to help me rebuild a camper for my business venture – he asked to be a part of my company and I conceded because I truly thought it would be a good idea moving forward. Well almost 2 years later the project is almost done, he took his time, while I helped more than enough with his business. Any time I brought up getting things in writing, he never responded. In January we had an altercation where he was a totally different person. I really don’t know if evil would be the word I could use, but there was something in his eyes – screaming in my face, breaking things, and then tossed me over in a chair I was sitting in. Since that moment, everything inside me says get away, but now he’s laying claim to my camper, and he thinks he can run me and the business. That incident has taken me months to process and move on from because my anxiety was so so bad – he triggered other unresolved issues. He’s a totally narcissistic, verbally abusive and a gaslighter… I know that he treats his family the same way, because he has gone to jail and had to take an anger management class. All I know is my dream for my business has been tainted by this man, and he says I owe him way more money than I know I do. He thinks my camper belongs to him. I just want to rid myself of this person and have him rightfully release my camper without a problem. All I owe him is money, nothing else. I’ve stated this to him multiple times, but he’s not listening and says he’s going to speak with his attorney. I know in my heart I need to do something.
Hi. Tess. I am 5 months into my current job in a new state away from home. One of my co-workers from a different physical office had been arrogant from the beginning of my interaction with me (i.e. via work phone and instant messenger) from day 1. In the past 6 weeks or so, the co-worker had been a huge jerk, acted condescending and passive aggressive, and even accused of me causing huge mistakes at work without proof. I ended up suffering severe stress, sleep disruptions and having nightmares about work. I spoke with my management about this issue and even documented the bullying messages in an email to myself at work, but nothing was done. With this background in mind, should I consider any of the options you listed in your blog here? Also, would carrying Tiger Eye and Aqua Blue Obsidian from a white magick practitioner help my situation? I do not want harm on the person. I just don’t want this person to bother me at work.
Hi KT! I suggest #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/.
Hi. I did a freezer spell on people I believe were being aggressive or passive aggressive toward me. However I was a few weeks pregnant when I did it, and miscarried soon after. Did the freezer spell cause my miscarriage? I feel so much guilt over it. It was certainly not my intention to harm anyone.
Hi, NO, I am not getting the feeling that the two events were connected. You can release the guilt.
Hello! I was hoping to perform a bind on a person that I don’t necessarily know personally, but is more of a political figure that is making decisions that are harming many people. Would you recommend to perform a bind?
Yes.
Hello Tess, I am being bullied by a woman (i think) whom is using what I think is black magic to hurt/curse me and my fiance. They harass me through texts with untraceable numbers and sends me messages through TV screens and messages in my notes on my phone and anywhere else they can. They throw things in my bedroom and constantly ruin any opportunities him or I have in life such as Jobs, Housing, or anything else they can. They laugh and pick at our insecurities when they do these evil things. I’ve tried smudging and I’ve tried certain chants (nothing that would cause any harm to them, though I wish they could get a taste of their own medicine.) I’ve tried wearing black obsidian to protect my aura but they dont stop… this has been going on for 3 years now and I just found out they have been using a fake name so I dont even know the persons real name… I’m stuck and I dont show my fear or agitation to them but I dont know how to make them stop. Please help.
Hi Makayla. I suggest #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/ – since you don’t know the name of the person, I suggest writing a word or drawing a symbol that symbolizes whomever is sending you negative energy. You could even use the fake name, just as long as you strongly associate it with the person in your mind. Or if you have anything from them (like a note, letter, or business card), that will work too.
Hello, I am just starting Witchcraft, like just just starting. I was wondering if there was any easier way to bind a bully, I don’t have access to a lot of stuff to do Magic with and I’m not sure if my family would approve of me starting magic so I can’t really say ‘hey can we go get some mason jars? I need to do a spell ‘ I mean my family wouldn’t do anything to me for doing magic i just want to keep this a sdcret. To sum it up i don’t have a Mason Jar, would any old jar work 😅? I should have told you that from the start rather than telling you all that drama.
Yes, any old jar will work. 🙂
What if there are 2 bullies? Can I put both names in one jar?
Yes.
Hello Tess, I hope you are doing well. I have performed one of your binding spell two months ago, and I believe it went well. Recently the person that I have binded, he has come back and creating more hassle towards my work. I simply just want graduate from this degree and move on with my life, but this person seems to holding my back and making me suffer more. I would like to hear some advice from you, thank you.
Hello, when I have experienced recurring challenges like this in the past, I’ve found it useful to look deeply at any aspects of myself that might be attracting the challenge. So, for example, is there a limiting belief you may have that you deserve this treatment? Does it remind you of anything from your childhood or past? There is a book called You Can Heal Your Life that can help you look into situations like this on the inner level. This can help you graduate from the degree and move on, as you so eloquently phrased it.
Hello!
I’ve been thinking about cursing or hexing someone, but I remembered binding spells and thought this would probably be more suited to the situation.
A couple of people have caused me serious harm to my mental well being and causing physical distress to others, and what’s scary is they Enjoy hurting other people and causing upheaval. I want to stop these people causing anymore chaos to other peoples lives, any way I can…
Any advice would be wonderful <3
Yes, I would choose a binding from this post. Choose the one that feels the most powerful to you.
Great article. I have a bully who is a coworker of mine. He doesn’t bully at work However, he has come to the realization that he is hurting people around him and he is struggling with becoming a better person. He wants me to bind him from harm so that he stops hurting people and being negative and mean. He recently started a fight at a bar unprovoked and put a man in the hospital. I see his struggles and I want to help him on his road to self improvement. He has walked a hard path and I know that his anger comes from a place of fear like many bullies. I am concerned that binding is not the right option. I am currently working with him through Tarot readings. What would you suggest? Also, what would you suggest for someone who wants to bind themselves from harm or use spell work for self improvement?
How interesting! It’s my sense that your intuition is correct about binding not being totally appropriate in this case. If he truly wants to better himself, it will probably be most helpful for him to see a counselor or therapist to help him shift his behavior.
Hello, in option 3 is it okay to put more than one name in the jar? I have a handful of individuals who have been bullying me. Thank you!
Yes, that’s fine.
I used the salt circle and it was extremely effective. The side effect was that I realize now how brainwashed I was andhow much he lied. Sigh. Is there something to sooth heartbreak? We are talking ten year marriage and kids not anti. To see abusivedad😖😫
Hi Em. Here is a post about healing after a breakup: https://tesswhitehurst.com/3-spells-for-healing-after-a-breakup/
Hello, I’m drawn to the last binding spell. Does it matter where I place it in the freezer, or does it just matter that it’s frozen.
Just wherever fits. 🙂
Thanks! My fiance’s boss keeps harrasing him and threatening his job and really treating him unfairly. He goes into work and works hard everyday. Always trying to set up traps for him so he can get fired.
Hello – I am wondering if performing any of these binding spells, it is alright or not to do them in your room? I am hesitant to work this type of magic in the room my family sleeps in. But, I was drawn to the salt binding and feel that’s the only safe place to leave the set up overnight. I’m in a relatively urban townhome and so working outside would be too public, and I have animals in the house that might get into things in the living room.
Hi! Yes, that will be fine.
Hi Tess Thank you for sharing all your knowledge about magic. Wow i have read most of your spells articles and i love them, and apparently bullying generates a lot comments and interest…its sad to see that so many in some level are victim of bullying. I have a question about the spells, i am planning on doing the number 1. What if a child is being bullied in school, (the school wont do anything about) but he doesn’t know the names of all of them? Can that still be done? And for multiple bullies is it ok to do it in a single spell?
Thank you again Tess, Many Blessings
Arlinda, yes – you can do the spell on multiple bullies at once, and you don’t need to know all the names. You can just use “All the bullies” if that feels powerful for you.
Hi Tess,
I am being bullied at work by 3 people. They are targeting me and make false complaints about me. They gossip about me and are making my work day very hard.
Can you please help me? Which option is best for me.
Regards
A
A, I suggest looking for work elsewhere. In the meantime, you can do the neutralization spell from this post on all three of them at once: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hello,
I was wondering if my karma would be affected if I blinded a girl/ex who I know will have another negative effect on my boyfriend and I’s relationship? She hates me passively and constantly tries to get into my boyfriends bed. I trust him completely and would never enchant or use magick to make our relationship thrive. I just know she needs to go and I’ve had to stop trying to find hexes and make mojo bags because of the karma.
Thank you for your time,
Ella
Ella, instead I suggest the neutralization spell (#3) from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hello!
Would it be wrong if I blind my father? He is an actual bully towards me and my mother, I can handle it no more
It wouldn’t be morally wrong (in my opinion), but it may cause more problems than it solves if you are living with him. Are you old enough to get out of that environment? If not, you may want to try shielding your energy instead, possibly with a daily meditation like this one: https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/. As for your mom, it sounds like she is choosing to stay in that relationship and environment, and I wouldn’t get involved with her free will. Taking care of her is not your job anyway: it’s hers.
Hi my problem is my mother husband abusive towards my mother mostly verbal.He calls her out her name,talks about her and tells her to take care of the house(cleaning, etc)just because he the only one that works.My mother has bipolar and is moody,I talk to her doctor nothing.He put me out because I he think I cursed him but I didn’t.
I want to be able to move back into the house and stop him doing my mother wrong and me,and his grandchildren.
Tess,
I have 2 questions: 1.) I’ve always been a believer that people are energy, spiritual, and can be powerful, but I’m a “newbie” to all of this. I’m not terribly religious, but I do believe in God. Is it possible to do some of this without betraying my beliefs? Traditional teaching says the two cannot co-exist, but I believe that if someone has good intentions (or at least not bad ones) they can exist. I believe in God, but also that there are elementals, and many other energies that cannot be explained by the Bible that are very real. I’m a bit torn and wondering what your take on this is. 2.) I have been tangling with someone at work (all of us are doctoral-level professionals) and we seem to feed off each others’ negativities and I’m just as bad at taking stabs at her as she is to me; however, she seems to be sabbotaging me pretty seriously lately. I have watched your attachment video and have been meditating. Would the neutralization alternative be appropriate to try to quash some of this? I fear if it continues I will lose my job. Lastly, I wanted to say how impressed I am that you actually answer each and every post with amazing advice and comfort. You’re such a blessing. Thank you.
Hi! Here’s my answer to question 1: https://tesswhitehurst.com/are-spells-safe-can-i-do-magic-if-im-a-christian/ . For question #2, I’m getting the vibe that this meditation will be helpful for you. Try it for 7 days and see how you feel: https://tesswhitehurst.com/loving-kindness-meditation/ . And finally, thank you for your encouraging words! Brightest blessings and every best wish.
Can we bind a person who wants to change you thinking its coming off beneficial but it ends up hurting you instead for long periods of time when they make the statements? If it’s hurting someone then I think the binding is in a positive way with no negative karmic rebound. I don’t think the person doing it realizes it’s coming off so bad even though I end up crying so much from it and it manifested into physical pain.
Lily, maybe do the neutralization spell from this post instead: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess,
What spell would you suggest for our neighbours? We have been ongoing issues with them for the past 5 months since we moved here. They have finally been evicted, but will be leaving in 3 months time. I want to make sure we don’t have any more noise, abuse or safety issues moving forward. Also, I am being bothered by cigarette smoke blowing into my bedroom from them. I have never done a binding spell, and want a peaceful resolution for all of us. Any suggestions on what would be suitable would be appreciated.
Thanks for your help 🙂
Hi Neet! I suggest spell #1 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess! I’m wondering if my situation would benefit from a binding. My cousin is more of an energetic bully than a traditional bully. She only reaches out when she needs something and every few months (for the last 7 years!) causes a huge dramatic blow out. It’s exhausting and frustrating. Not only am I worried she’s trying to pit the family against each other, I’m 10 weeks pregnant and worried about the effects of all this stress on the baby. We had our latest fight today and I couldn’t stop shaking for an hour. Am I overreacting wanting to bind her?
Kate, I don’t think you’re overreacting, but I am getting the message that you may want to set more physical boundaries before binding her. For example, you might consider not answering when she calls and generally choosing to have less (or no) contact with her in the future. If you do that and she still goes out of her way to cause problems, you may want to revisit the question.
Thank you so much for the response! I blocked her from texting/calling and on Facebook right when the fight happened yesterday, and then I heard from my poor mother that she showed up at her house and harassed her for THREE HOURS. So I agree, cutting her off is necessary at this point – and then maybe a binding as well. Thank you so much for your help! 🙂
Hi
A friend of mine is married to a narcissist. He starts arguements with her over stupid things, constantly accusing her of sleeping with other men, then when she tries to defend herself he tells over her, tells her he doesn’t want to deal with it etc .
She says she stays because there is good in him and she loves him.
Could I use one of these binding spells to help her?
Traci, no: I wouldn’t do that. That is kind of you to want to help her, but if she is choosing to stay with him as he is, that is her business and magically intruding will likely cause problems for you and for her.
Just curious can the binding spell performed even if the one doing it has period? Probably a silly question but needed to ask 🙂
Yes! That shouldn’t affect it.
Ok thank you!!
Will the bully binding spells work on someone who is deceased?
Tracy, why? Are you being bullied by a ghost?
A man who molested me passed away recently and I want to make sure his spirit can’t mess with me.
Tracy, yes: I’m sensing a binding spell would be appropriate.
Hello Dear Tess,
My situation is a bit different, i have my father with cancer and me and my siter are living together. After denying the sexual harrasment i had from our landlord and decided to raise our will because he also was stealing us in rent he became more hostile. Started to visit us by cursing us calling us names bullying us , threaten us, i have come to a point that i’m afraid to go out of the house, financially we are a bit down so we can’t afford right now any lawyers and do something more about it.
He even call our father harass him calling him names also cursing him to die soon because of the cancer as i said my father has. Every time that landlord that comes here i’m terryfied really afraid for my life and my sister’s life also. I have called the police many times at least they know but what else to do…. Than man has done the worse to us and i really need this to stop so we can breath again until we leave from this house. So i’m wondering does spell No3 will be good for this situation? Honeslty don’t know many things about it but i hope for a good outcome for us.
Thank you in advance and apologize for the long comment/question.
Hi! It does sound like a binding (like #3) is appropriate, but because you are living in the landlord’s space, I would immediately start looking for pro bono legal representation, or look into taking your landlord to court on your own. I’m not sure what state or country you’re in, but what your landlord is doing is most likely illegal, and you may be able to get compensated and legally protected so it will be easier for you to move out. I know some states have legal organizations that specifically work to protect tenants in situations like yours. See what you can find.
Hello again, yes so far we pay what the contract says so we are ok we have communicate with lawyer and ligally we ar covered by that.I’m in Greece, as law says though we have to stay until the contract is over in two months and so we will do. But i really want all this bullying to stop until we leave from this place.
Forgot to ask before sorry , do i need to the spell in any specific day or use a specific water ? Or i just use the water we drink?
Thank you in advanse.
Drinking water is fine. Read the intro for timing advice.
Thank you very much for your time Tess.
Warm Regards
Hi,
i have read about different curse types and the one that fits my situation is a binding curse.
“The binding: This spell causes an inability to act. It may manifest psychologically as depression or anxiety, or it may operate by simply making none of your plans amount to anything. If you find yourself completely unable to act upon your decisions, then you might be under a binding.”
when i was 8 years old i started shaking uncontrollably with a severe stomach pain and i could feel another invisible entity was entering my body through my belly button area and ever since my stomach has never been the same. Since then i started getting the worst nightmares you can imagine and later in life 6-7 years ago i started doing lucid dreaming and out of body experience and it was during the out of body experience when i came face to face with the deamon on multiple occasions. on one occasion he was hugging me tightly and sticking his sharp claws in my body and as i tried to pull him off me with all my power i could only lift him one inch and he was stuck to me with a powerful magnetic force. since i have seen him in my lucid dreams here and there. I keep getting non stop negative thoughts of all kinds and bad images. i get drastic mood swings in a very short space of time, and constantly feel low on energy or motivation.
also when i was a child i would get sick and couldn’t sleep at night and i would find my self in sleep paralysis and i would be surrounded by these evil looking entities dressed in black capes performing a ritual on me.
I am 100% sure the curse i feel is as a result of this, is there anyway i can change this.
I tried ayahuasca and i felt totally cleared of all negativity, but as i came back to the cycle of my normal life i eventually went back to my old self
any suggestions?
Sam, have you worked with a psychologist? You can certainly find psychologists who are aware of energy and magic.
Hello, what if I bind a bully, to stop them from bullying everyone else in my class besides me? They don’t mess with me, or talk to me. They bully others in the class, and even hit someone on the back of the head. I know it’s said not to perform magick for the benefit of others, but is this a situation that it is okay to protect others? If that makes sense.
Alexandria, yes, I think a binding sounds appropriate in this situation, and I applaud you for your kindness to your classmates. Just be sure to do the binding from a place of neutrality. Don’t let any anger get in the mix. And call on divine protection before you begin.
I can’t decide whether the person I wanna bind is a bully, she’s proven to be a lier and envious person. She also prefers her own benefit over morals, and that’s what concerning me. Every friend can turn to enemy, right? And although she’s playing the role of my friend I know she’s potential of hurting me and she can do it without a blink. So what should I do? Is there some other way to keep her in her place?
Rose, I would start with a protection spell. Check out the ideas in this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Dear Tess,
I have had a terrible time at a college, which turned into a nightmare trying to gain a qualification. Doing the right thing I have now made complaints to the Governing body about my ex bully tutor. Today I received a response from her through the governing body in which she has lied continuously about me. She has bullied some of my other peers over the years in very despicable ways, I have lost all my confidence and will no longer be doing what I loved, which is why I took the course in the first place. I’m trying to keep strong and do the right thing, but she scares me. What do you suggest. I practise tarot and some spells when I was younger, I pray to st.Michael regularly, I just don’t want her to hurt anyone else, like she has me. Please can you advise me. Thanking you kindly
Daphne, I suggest binding spell #3 from this post.
hello i have this teacher who have already pierced hate and anger deeply in me, he shamed me, shouted on me in angry way. im scared so much, i can’t focus on school because i am so scared that he might shout so loud and shame me again thats why my head is always bowed down, i don’t look up that much. i lose my confident, i almost lose myself because im so scared, i understand that being a teacher is a hard job but does he realy need to shout and shame. i didn’t do bad to him yet. can you help me? i want to banished him using magic or power, i want to kill him but i don’t want to go to jail or lay a finger tip on him, i don’t even look at him because i am so scared mu head is always bowed. now some of my classmate bully me. can you help me, magic spells or rituals or enchantations please. i swear i can’t stand him and now i want to suicide again 😓
Oh, Randave, you are a precious divine child, worthy of love, respect, and every wonderful thing. Please do not hurt yourself or kill yourself. Stay with us! Here is the website for the suicide prevention hotline that also offers live online chat: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ . Also, are there any other teachers or authority figures at your school you can talk to about your feelings as well as this teacher’s inappropriate behavior? Whatever happens, please know that you will get through this.
Hi Tess,
I’m seeking advice on how to best deal with a family of miners who are harming our town. we’ve been active in making them accountable therefore my husband & myself are being targeted via lies & a court action claim & we stand to lose everything….we need justice to be done…we need to stop them in their tracks & leave us alone…thank you
Hi Jann! How about the Swift Justice spell from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess, I’m trying to deal with a very manipulative work colleague. I even had a tarot spread months ago that confirms she’s done it, and still does. The tarot reader recommended to avoid her as much as I can and set healthy boundaries, and that’s what I’m trying to do. Difficult not to react with anger cause it looks like she’s doing things for my benefit in front of others. I’ve tried the small jar with salt and her name on it though I don’t have experience in doing magic. She involves other colleagues on a way that I’m seen the bad or awkward one. It could be great if I get your advice and thank you, Esther
Esther, let’s see how you feel after the binding spell you did. If you want to try another one after a month or so, the neutralization spell from this post might be a good one: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess, thanks for this helpful post! So I am currently removing my brother from my life. I’ve been going to therapy and we’ve uncovered how much he manipulates, controls and abuses me emotionally. I’ve always been afraid of him, he is mentally unhealthy and flies off the handle at the drop of a hat. He’s been in physical fights many times and I feel that if I upset him and he’s in one of his “moods” that he could hurt someone. This week I set a healthy boundary with him and he lost it and attacked me verbally and tried to manipulate me again. I’ve blocked him on my phone and am wondering if it would be appropriate to bind him as well. I am honestly pretty worked up about it still, should I wait to do any sort of binding spell until I am more calm and less upset about it all? I just want to stop his hurtful behavior because he treats everyone this way. Which one would you suggest for this situation? I appreciate your help!
Annette, I suggest starting with the neutralization spell from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/ After a week or two, see how you feel. You may want to do a binding spell at that point, or you may not feel you need to.
Thanks so much! I will try that first!
Hi,
My boss and his daughter are vicious to all employees in the office with the except of a select few. They yell, scream and belittle people in front of other employees and clients. It is beyond anything that I have ever seen in all my years of experience in this field. Of course there is a high turnover rate due to their actions. I don’t believe that anyone has the right to do constantly mistreat those around them just because they are the boss. Should I bind them and if so, which method do you advise I use?
Thanks,
Char
Char, I get the feeling finding a new job would be an even wiser course of action. Here’s a new job spell: https://tesswhitehurst.com/new-job-spell/
Hi, my uncle has been treating his sons horribly, as he has been getting into drugs. My family has been extremely stressed and I’m worried about my cousins. I’m fairly new to all this, but I dont want to just sit around. Do you think binding him would help?
Fiona, I suggest a protection spell at this point, as well as taking steps in the physical world to protect your cousins. (Perhaps your family is doing this already). Here’s a post with a protection spell: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi, I’d like to know your opinion on what would be best for me. I have a family member that is like a bully, a thief and does things just to hurt other people. This is an example of what she did to just one (out of many) family member:
1)After an accident, she cared for her brother at her home. After finding out she was deleting msgs of concerned family members, when he was better, he left
2)After leaving, She called his business insurance company pretending to be his daughter and cancel it so he can’t make any money.
3)She had a couple people go to his house and remove all Sheetrock from the inside, causing thousands in damages.
He is the sweetest man and would do harm to nobody. I hate to see my family go through this with her. It has been going on for years, maybe over 30, she has always been like that, causing others harm and stealing from us all. What do you think I should do?
Miranda, I think a protection spell is in order, as well as setting a strong boundary in the physical world and not involving her in your lives. Here’s a post to take a look at: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess,
I did the #1 binding spell for the political leader as I wrote in my previous post but he /they went ahead to divide the region. We were bullied based on an unfair casted ballots (referandum conducted).
What can I do for him to reverse his/their decision?
Please let me know if you need more details.
Ab, I don’t know about reversing the decision, but #3 in this post may help you personally: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hello, I’m not sure if a binding spell makes sense in this situation. I’m not too familiar with magic, I’m still learning about Wicca and what it means to live by it. I was just curious, I have someone whose been stalking me and has actually tried to break into my apartment knowing I was here. Even after I scared him off (I thought I had at first), he came back and tried to break in through the window. He’s been watching me (according to the cops) and I have reported it to every authority recommended. I wake up and find footprints outside of my window with cigarettes put out. The authorities can only do so much with this information, and want me to call them when/if I find him in the act. I take care of my little sister as well and she comes home late at night from work, which scares me because I’m not always with her. I’m set to move out but still have a few weeks, I’m scared to death that he might follow me or know where I might move. Is this something that could help this situation?
Ruth, I would much rather see you and your sister stay with a friend or family member, or even in a hotel. Would that be possible?
There is someone that I thought was a friend trying to use information I told them in confidence against me to ruin my relationship.. do you think the last spell would be appropriate? Thanks in advance!
Yes!
Does it have to be a solid black ribbon or can it be one of those black opaque ribbons? Sorry I’m new to this!
No problem! Either one is fine.
I need help, My best friend is because bullied, but this bully also has someone using black magic to cause her harm. I just wish to protect my friend from both of them.
Ivy, a protection or neutralization spell from this post may be the thing: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess,
Thank you for this! I have an ex who I co-parent with who will sometimes verbally bully me in front of our kids and will also call them (especially our oldest) unkind names such as “baby” when he is “punishing” them or annoyed with them. My 7 year-old shared that he rolls his eyes at her frequently when she tell him about things she’s excited about or anything that she and I do together. My concern is for them. They notice everything and if they could spend a lot less time in his energy, that’d be my wish…but the State we divorced in is pretty strict about 50/50 custody without really strong probable cause to give one parent more time and they don’t view this kind of behavior as abusive (enough). SO since they are around his energy and are already trying to guard themselves from it when he acts like this, I want them to feel protected. I also have a sense he needs peace. Do any of the three binding spells make sense for a situation like this?
Thank You!
Hi Lucille! In this instance, I recommend neutralizing your ex’s power over you and protecting your children’s energy. Find rituals for both intentions in this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hello, I have a brother who is almost supernaturally strong and lack of judgement or any empathy when he is angry. He has said multiple times that he could beat anyone up when he is angry, regardless of who they are and how much he loves them. He is extremely verbally abusive and dismissive of everyone. He treats me like he owns me and like I’m his therapist. He makes death threats daily, and has come at me with a knife many times, having pushed one at my throat. He does not take no as an answer from any of us. This also includes my parents. I’m worried about him exploding if I suppress his energy.
Kenneth, I think this sounds like a valid fear, and like you’re hearing your intuition clearly. I suggest protection spells for you and your parents instead, and neutralizing his power. You can find both options in this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess, I just came across your site and I am very new to this spells I always believe in it, though. I really need help. I am seeing someone sort of seeing each other. I don’t even know what to call our situation right now. We used to be together everyday, even said our I love you’s. Not too long ago something just changed, it’s not him though. It’s the people around us. First his kids, one of his kids rather, complaining to him how I just took everything from her. I took her dad’s time, and he didn’t have time for her. And how I took over their house (which is not true). I just did normal household chores like dishes, vacuuming and doing her dad’s laundry. Which I only done them when everything filed up. Secondly, my boyfriend’s (I am not even sure if he still my BF) good friend got involved. She was telling me and my boyfriend that she’d always side with his kids no matter what. After this drama. Me and the guy had a talk, he told me that “he’s confuse, that I got into his comfort zone and it scared him. That he really didn’t know what he feels towards me. He could not explain it. That he never really got into a serious relationship like we had.” He said, right now “we are starting over.” We’re on schedule now, we only see each other on weekends. One weekend, the same kid threw a fit because I just took his Dad’s time. I didn’t argue, I just said if only you’d tell me when I texted you that you would like time with your Dad. It’s alright for me.” And she’d always put it on social media. And of course my man’s dear friend jumped into the bandwagon calling me names, telling me how disrespectful, I just ignored it. My man even said to me, “how can we start over if this is what I heard?” And now this “good friend” of him, whenever she talks/texts/messenger to him she always has something bad to say about me. I just asked my guy, “what did I do this time?” I’m very careful with my actions but I still get bad rep. both from friend and kid. I’d reach out to his kid when she’s in good mood she’d say hi and say few lines, the rest of the time it’s always cold shoulders. I know for a fact that he would always side with them regardless. But this friend of him, just won’t stop.
This guy and I are still seeing each other, like I mentioned before we see each other on weekends. I could still feel something but there’s a lot of “holding back”. Sometimes when he hugged it’s different, really tight sometimes especially if it’s just the two of us. He’d squeezed my hands. You know the saying “action speaks louder than words?” His actions sometimes said differently than what he told me. That’s why I know he has still something for me. Whenever I said I love you to him, he’d say or mumble under his breath that so hard to understand. From time to time I’d say I love you and I would tease him to say it loud not under his breath then I’d laugh … a painful laugh but nobody notice it though cause it sounded so natural but deep inside it hurts. I’m even crying writing this.
I don’t like the idea of doing spells but I need his friend to stop. She needs to stop assuming what’s written on social media is the truth. She simply needs to stop. And as far as his kid’s concern, I wish she’d see that I simply love her Dad dearly. I want nothing but him to be happy. I was once his happiness. I still believe I am though. It’s just it’s being overshadowed with all the negativities of jealousy. I still hope it will go back to the way it was. I still believe but I need help. Thanks.
Hi! I’m so sorry to hear about this heartbreaking situation. It sounds to me like this man is not valuing you or defending you as much as someone would who is worthy of your love. Instead of doing a binding spell, I suggest releasing this relationship so you can be open and available for someone who prioritizes you and is able to make his own decisions about his feelings. If this feels challenging for you, I suggest working on your self esteem with a counselor. If money is an issue, there is an app called TalkSpace that provides affordable phone sessions with therapists. I hope this helps!
Hi Tess, I actually did the no. 2 bully binding on his daughter before I was able to read your reply. And I’ve seen a changed on her, she talked to me and even invited me to her new year’s eve party. But I haven’t done it to his best friend yet. I really appreciate your concerns, I do. However, I have this strong feeling to never give up. I have this feeling that he needs help. He needs some healing. First, I know in my heart he’s capable of love, even though he continually denies it. Second, he needs to let go and forgive the people that made him the way he is. He becomes defensive on topics that I guess “scares” him or made him the way he is. I asked him once if he’s scared, He’s reply is always like this, “I’m so use of being on my own. I’m super independent.” There are so many things that he needs to get cleansed, I believe in my heart I can help him with some spells. We all need cleansing, he needs it more than I do, I think. Thanks.
The current ruling government of my country want divide our region into two. (our region is due for independence but the president and his people want to take the richest part so they can dig the natural minerals in the land for their selfish interest)
I feel like casting a spell to stop them and make them allow the independence.
Even though am just a concern citizen or native of our region, I feel the the intention of the government is to bully and make a fool out of us.
Some of our chiefs and prominent people of our land have taken the case to court but there’s still no solution. I learnt some of the chiefs has been bribed by the government to stand for the division.
Please what do you advice?
Ab, it is sometimes appropriate to do binding spells on public and political bullies. It sounds like it may be in this case.
Hi Tess,
I did the #1 binding spell for the political leader as I wrote in my previous post but he /they went ahead to divide the region. We were bullied based on an unfair casted ballots (referandum conducted).
What can I do for him to reverse his/their decision?
Please let me know if you need more details.
Hi , my current partner is stilll fighting a custody battle . She has lied to the courts and sends verbal abuse . Even tried to convince their child to not love her father who loves her dearly. Stole money and their business and hid all the evidence. What spell is appropriate if you think one is appropriate . I’m not fond of freezer spells . Having the energy in my fridge has never felt good to me . Like it’s lingering
Is there one of these spells that appeals to you?
My situation needs immediate binding! My ex-husband, an abusive narcissist, is causing problems with my ability to close on the house I was awarded in our divorce settlement. He is taking me to court for contempt and is going to inform the closing attorney, thus stopping my closing. Not only will this hurt me, but it will have negative implications for him as well, but he is too vindictive and irrational to understand. This is also the house that I live in with our children. I want him rendered powerless to cause any harm or negative consequences in my life any more. He has caused me enough pain. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Cindye, check out #5 in this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
I was wondering if a binding spell could help me. While married to my ex, he verbally and emotionally abused me. After the divorce I found out that he is a narcissist. We have a 15 year old son together. He remarried a woman 5 years ago. She is a narcissist also with a history of physically abusing her ex husbands. She has emotionally and verbally abused my son in front of me. I would not doubt that she has physically abused him as well. She also bullies me through text when she doesn’t get her way. They also have 2 young children together that I am concerned about. Would binding help to stop this?
Lynn, I would personally concentrate on energetically protecting your son (and maybe their 2 young children) rather than binding your ex and his wife. As parents who interact with these kids regularly, a binding might not match the scope of the problem. I would also take legal action to get your son out of that environment if at all possible. Check out this post and pay attention to options 2, 3, and 5: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
I looked into legal action and my son has told me that if I pursue this, he would tell the court that I am lying and refuse to do his visitation with me.
OK then a protection spell for your son, and I also suggest getting him into counseling if you haven’t already.
I will try the protection spell. I had 2 doctors heavily suggest counseling for my son and both times my ex refused to let him go. My son even asked his dad if he could go and again was refused. Thank you for all of your help.
I am a distraught mother. My son became very sexually curious in college and sought out men for sex through social media. Through the influence of a man almost twice his age, he’s gotten very dependent on this particular gentleman and deviant behavior. He has eliminated all of his friends and family to be with this man. My very naive son acquired a disease from this man. This man convinced him that it wasn’t a big deal. My son has so much potential to do good in the world but is unable to progress because of this relationship. I feel this is addictive behavior in regards to this man. We want our son back in our family. I feel I need to protect him from being further brainwashed and influenced further away from people who truly love him. Is a binding spell appropriate?
Bernadette, I do not recommend a binding spell in this situation because this sounds like your adult son is associating with this person because he is choosing to. It’s important to respect the free will of others. Instead, I suggest the relationship healing spell (spell #2) from this post (I know it’s a post about romantic relationships, but it will also work on a family member) – https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
I need help. I’d like to bind my husbands ex-girlfriend from him and myself. We’ve been happily married for 10 years and their relationship ended 14 years ago. Every couple of years or so she turns up at his office, tries to contact him through his colleagues etc and occasionally stalks him via social media. My husband is very open and honest with me about it all but I was wondering if a binding spell is appropriate for this situation? If so, which one?
Yes, I’d say it’s appropriate. Is there one of these that appeals to you?
Thank you so much for replying. I feel comfortable with the third binding spell as I’m unfamiliar with tarot. I’m mindful of the threefold law though as I’m very new to all of this. Is there anything you’d recommend?
You can do the third spell (and all these binding spells) without negative repercussions if you do it with no ill will. In other words if you come from a place of neutrality.
Hi there, I have a sister inaw that has caused a lot of pain and heartache for my family. She was so nice before she married my brother but as soon as they were married things have turned soar, she has turned my brother and feel she has totally manipulated him into getting married and also making a stories about our family to turn him against us. What do you think is the best spell to do in this situation?
Thank you, Liz
Liz, I’m feeling #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
I am in a situation of sorts. My “husband” and i just recently had a terrible arguement that could have severed our relationship after 4 years of happiness. We barely ever fought, so this is very difficult to handle. I won’t go into the legalities of it all, however, the living situation he is in now is not a healthy one. He is not being bullied in a physical, tormenting way, but is being hoghly influenced by others who are dictating and defining our relationship over this one horrific night. These people he is with now are enabling his drinking and drug use, and influencing his decisions about us being together and working it out. I am wondering if the 3rd option in this scenario would work to keep their words away from him and have him influenced by his own heart rather than others people words who are trying to keep us apart.
Allie, I would not do a binding at this time. Check out this post for something that might be more appropriate: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
Thank you for answering, i appreciate it
Hello! I love these binding techniques, simply because they aren’t complicated, so thank you for that! My question is, if these are also applicable with life or death situations? If not, are there other ways to bind someone from doing harm mentally or physically? I plan on doing this spell for the safety of a friend of mine who is thousands of miles away from me. I was also wondering if the effects are just as strong? Thank you very much!
Nicole, spells are not substitutes for taking safety precautions in the physical world. So absolutely in a life or death situation more than a spell will be required. What spells CAN do is support energetically once the physical world situation is managed appropriately. For other options, did you see this blog post? https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Thank you so much for this spell,
I went back and read up on opening a circle as well, as I have not cast spells for many years.. but now find myself in a situation that the binding spell might be of use..
Just a year ago, I got a great job, working with animals that I so love to do, my bosses are the best, good hearted people, and generous..
But now the last month my job got less of a pleasure.. as the son of my boss (my second boss) got him self a girlfriend over the internet all the way from convenient Russia..
Its a long story, butt lets just say she is No Good, endlessly whispering in his ear. Claiming all his attention getting him to things he didn’t stand for before. He is blinded
She treats me like a dog, and as an inferior. But she must be seeing that I am on to her, as she avoids eye contact with me as much as she possible can.
His parents,are not happy either, but they dont live there so they stay out of it. (They also dont know how they actually met)
The animals suffer under her presents, and my job as well.
So how about that binding spell, suitable??
Greets Jennifer
She is working at the same place you are? Yes, a binding sounds suitable in this situation if you and the animals are suffering. Also be sure to shield and protect your energy daily. You can do that with this meditation: https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/
Hi Tess,
My ex-husband was extremely abusive towards me, physically, emotionally, mentally, sexually, and verbally. I know I was not the first woman he treated this way, but I hope to be the last. I do not wish him ill but I do want to put an end to his ability and desire to hurt others. Would a binding spell be appropriate here? Thank you!
Hi Maggie! If he is out of your life now, I would concentrate on healing yourself and replenishing your boundaries rather than doing anything magically to him. Here are three meditations to help you do that. I suggest doing one of these daily (or one like it) for at least 60 days: https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/ – https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/ – https://tesswhitehurst.com/10-minute-chakra-clearing-meditation/
Thank you!
Hello there, I enjoyed this informative article very much, it has given me hope.
I live in a senior/disabled persons high rise and there is a group of women who try to control everything and bully others. Some are on the resident council and one in particular, the self-titled “Queen of all B-(word)’s is very ageist and racist as well as homophobic toward me and a few of my friends who live here, she bullies even other elderly people, calls them trash etc.
She is currently trying to have all the young people kicked out by lying and being manipulative. She calls the headquarters daily and has people’s cars towed for even though they live here if they park in the spot she claims as hers. She dislikes my friend who is here to care for her mother and has gotten a group of her friends to pick fights with her to get her banned.
She has gotten the previous manager fired because he did not give in to her unreasonable demands and is trying to bully the ones she dislikes into moving. I have multiple sclerosis and I cannot move again.
I need help, I don’t know her last name and I wish her no harm but I want her and people like her to leave everyone alone. Should I/can I bind her with her first name only if I picture her in my mind? I would hate to accidentally bind any innocent person. She is a person who upon my first meeting her, told me: “If they want to see a b****, I’ll show them a b****.” with no reason for it at all other than to make me fear her somehow and I do now that I have seen how she and her crew have affected so many lives. Please help us. I can’t take it anymore. Now she comes up to our table in the community room and slams the chairs down while we are painting to get us to leave and painting is all I have to enjoy these days.
Hi there! Yes, it sounds like a binding is appropriate in this situation, and I would go ahead and use her first name only while picturing her in your mind. Brightest blessings and every best wish.
Thank you so very much Miss Tess! I will follow your instruction to the letter! I have not felt so hopeful in a year. Brightest blessings and every best wish to you as well. You seriously have no idea how safe I’m starting to feel already. I woke up with so much energy this morning and my numbness from the MS is not as intense as it has been this month, I might even have the ability/energy to walk go for a walk to buy the things I need for the spell! So so happy thank you, you beautiful beacon of light and love! Ok, I’ll shut up now lol.
I recently left an extremely verbally and bordering on physically abusive relationship of 2 years with someone who emotionally and financially manipulated me and was addicted to drugs. I have since found out that this is a pattern of his but that he twists the stories of past relationships to sound like a victim or hero to the next. Could this help to ensure future women don’t fall for his lies and abuse and which version?
Kathleen, if you are safely out of the relationship, I wouldn’t turn your focus to doing magic on your ex. Instead, I’d cut the cords of attachment between you. Here’s a meditation to help you do that: https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/
hey, i needed help with a situation going on in my house for the past couple of years now, my father is extremely abusive towards my mother mostly verbally but it gets physically too and sometimes he’d load a gun and tell her he’ll shoot her. He does this every time he’s drunk (which is everyday now) and has literally tortured my mother to the max she cannot handle any more his abusive shitty attitude and nothing seems to be helping her. She would get a divorce but she doesn’t have the finance and for some odd reason no matter how hard she tries she never seems to get any work almost as if she’s been cursed. I really need your help in this situation i don’t want any karmic backlash for an asshole like my father so please tell me what can i do.
I’d really appreciate the help thanks!
Sara, are you old enough to move out on your own? Or, if you’re not, is there somewhere else that’s safe where you can stay, perhaps with a grandparent or other relative? If so, that would be the first thing I would recommend. Once you’re safe and out of that environment, you can begin to approach helping your mother.
i don’t want to leave my mother alone with him, is there some kind of spell or anything to help me out ?
Sara, I suggest getting counseling and reading the book Co-Dependent No More. I know it may not seem like it to you right now, but you can actually help your mother more by setting positive boundaries with both your parents by getting out of the house, which is clearly an unsafe environment for everyone.
hi, I’m 21 and living in avery disturbing and abusive situation at home and I don;’ know what to do to deal with it, as far as I’m concerned both my parents are severely narcissistic, my mother is extremely abusive (usually very covertly) and feels no remorse for what she says and does to me (EXTREMELY manipulative, outright rude and disrespectful, condescending, passive aggressive, sarcastic, you name it). She is also very controlling and willing to smear me by baiting me to react and then telling ohers, though never about what she does to abuse. My father is violent, he degrades me, he mocks..it’s horrible, I suffer from anxiety and depression and traumatic stress and I can’t leave, both because I’m dependent on them and because I feel traumatized by all of these experiences…my life had gotten better with therapy but after a few short months and worsening abuse it spiraled. Their behaviour shocks me and I don’t know what to do. If there is any chance for repair I want it but this can’t go on. I have little external social support and I don;t know what to do. Would anything work for me? Please let me know, thanks
Ant, I suggest revisiting the belief that you can’t leave. Get proactive about creating a new pattern for yourself, even if it takes a little while before you can actually move out. Of course, a social support system will also help so consider finding a job or a meetup group where you can make friends. Here are some posts to help you change your pattern: https://tesswhitehurst.com/9-ways-to-get-motivated-and-activate-your-magical-mojo/ and https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-spells-to-get-yourself-out-of-a-funk/
Would a binding be appropriate to stop someone from self-harm?
My daughter has been battling OCD with intrusive thoughts since she was 9. She’s 15 now and the circles and patterns of the OCD are getting worse, the self-harm through cutting and self-deprecating words are becoming all the fills the house.
She is currently in treatment programs (was hospitalized many time now for the OCD, eating disorder, anxiety, and self-harm) and has been for 5 years but it’s just not enough anymore.
I feel there is more I can do but unsure which path to take in helping her heal. It’s like I can feel it just out of reach but not enough to clearly see the next step. I would be forever grateful if you could offer any guidance. Thank you!!!
Hi! No, I wouldn’t do a binding in this instance. Does your daughter have an art form she enjoys? If she can get “obsessed” with an art form of some sort (dance, acting, painting, sculpting, or even something like web design), I’m sensing she’ll begin creating a healthier pattern of energy for herself.
Hi Tess, I’m looking for a spell to stop my husband’s parents from negatively affecting him. There’s alot of negative energy coming from them as they fight and complain a lot and we live in thier backyard and have been for the past 5 years. They have a hold on him, and they make him do everything for them. He has a very big heart and finds it hard to tell them no. I don’t want to negatively affect them, I just want to remove the hold they have on him. Will these spells do the job?
Before doing a spell, I’d move out of their backyard. Choosing to live so close to them (and possibly renting from them or borrowing space from them) and simultaneously binding them might create some tricky karma for everyone. Focus on moving first. Here’s a spell to find a new home: https://tesswhitehurst.com/spell-for-finding-and-buying-a-home/
Hello,
There is a manager at my work that is an awful person. She is very cruel to everyone and lies to make her sound better. She doesn’t allow the people in her department to talk to anybody else, they have to go through her first (these are employees that have been here 20+ years, that just try to say hello. She has been here 4-5 years.) If a mistake is made, even by her, she blames it on one of her people. Things that we were able to ask for before her is now made to feel like it is against the rules. We hate to ask for anything, even if it is for help on something because she makes it feel like we shouldn’t be asking. But if we take it to management, they will go talk to her and she says the exact opposite to them, that she could do it without any problem. She has caused workers to see therapists and have to be on medication for anxiety, just to be able to come in to work. We have tried to talk to upper management (they say they will talk to her)but they continue to let it happen. We have also tried looking for other jobs and nothing comes up for any of us. I don’t know what else to do but it’s hard to come to work, it feels like I am back in High School trying to avoid a bully but I have not choice and have to speak with her. What would be best to do?
Is there one of these spells that calls to you?
I had read in some blogs that simple mirrors work. I have bad neighbours staying downstairs in apartment who constantly bully me. I have put mirrors facing downwards under my furniture. But it is not working. Am I doing something wring. Please help me, as this has started affecting me badly and psychologically.
Diana, neighbors can be especially challenging. Sometimes when there is a persistent problem, it can be a message from the Universe that it’s time to find somewhere new to live, not just to escape the neighbors but because it will benefit you in other ways as well. Have you been feeling drawn to look around for a new place?
I have put my all savings to buy this house, have got to pay EMI for next 20 years. Not possible for me to move out even if I want to.
Hi Diana! OK, you may want to try one of the spells from this post. Or you can also take a look at this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
See I’m a bit of a skeptic when it comes to “spells” I read online, but i did something similar to this a few times when I was younger and it always worked AMAZINGLY well. it was the only times I thought I was capable of real magic. The way I did it was to write the name of the person on some paper while I had a candle lit. I would have a roll of like tissue paper or something and slowly wrap it around the written name while repeating a chant very similar to the one from The Craft and focusing on the candle. I’d then seal it with a little bit of candle wax and then just kept it safe. It always stunned me how whatever the issue seemed to just diappear overnight!
Hi there on the spell it says Repeat 7 more times, with 7 more lengths of black thread, is that for 7 nights?
Thanks
Wanbli
No, that’s all on the same roll of paper, during the same night.
Hello and good day to you Tess,
I have a uncle who is believed to be wronged by someone of his place of employment. About 10 years ago it seems as though there are two co-workers who jokes about black magic and they are very jealous of him and his status at the company.
He was in a dark place that looks like a medical case of depression for about 2 years. They traveled the world looking for help and after alot of visits to spiritual leaders he got back to normal. Everyone that read him said someone had cast something on him. He was normal up until July of last year.
Now he’s the exact same way and is not working. He’s went to many different doctors and they give him antidepressants, however, when he speaks to spritual leaders they say that someone has put something on him again to cause the issue and its not medical.
Its been a year and three months and he’s down in the dumps everyday. He’s usually a guy who’s always hosting these great gatherings, working on his house and working lots of overtime at work. Now he’s on unemployment, he never wants to leave the house to be in public places or with family. His wife says he’s acting the same way as when this has happened to him 10 years ago. The family is at a lost and is not sure how to help him.
Are there any suggestions that you can offer?
Thank you in advance for your time.
Hi Devin! With the permission of your father, you may want to contact Sen Elias over at Crescent City Conjure. He can work remotely: https://crescentcityconjure.us/
I have somehow missed this reply after checking numerous times. I’m sorry for the late reply. Thank you so much for the recommedation and for taking the time to offer help.
I’ve just started looking into astrology and I can’t work out what the 4th quarter of the waning moon is… No where tells me. From what I know I feel as though its when the waning moon is crescent?
Oh, it’s just the last week of a moon cycle. So the week before the new moon.
Hi, my dad’s wife has been doing witchcraft to my family since I was a little girl, she has harmed us greatly and has bad intentions with us and even with my dad, I was wondering if a binding spell could make her stop, as my family and I don’t have bad intentions with her, I just want to be able to live my life and grow as a person and I’m pretty sure she has done black magic to prevent that. I have never done any sort of witch craft and I’m dont really think its for me, but I dont know what else to do.
Valeria, instead of a binding, I would start with 1, 2, or 3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess, you answered a question for me about binding which is the one I was think of. Thank you. Is there anything I can do to show someone for the person they really are and for all the truths to come out and for people to realise what this person’s done?
Hi Glenys! I recommend focusing on your own personal experience, rather than on what other people think and how they are perceived. With this in mind, this post may offer some options that feel good to you: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Would this work to stop my ex and his new wife from maliciously trying to turn my own child against me. I believe it is bullying (emotional abuse) at its worst!
If it would work, could I do one spell with both names at once or separate spells.
The jar with water “felt” lije it would be the one to do.
Michelle, I suggest spell #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
HI, mine is a little more twisted. To make it as basic as possible, brother-inlaw brought a lot of hurt upon our family, including sexually abusing my daughter. Turned the whole family against us to the point that we moved countries. I just want all the bitching behind our backs to stop and for the mother-inlaw to see it for what it really is. Although there’s been a lot of hurt, for some reason I still want a relationship with my mother-inlaw and for my children to have that relationship, but on my terms.
Hi there! I would do #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hello Tess Whitehurst,
Thank you for this page and the loving energy that it spreads.
I met someone about a year ago that pretended to be “nice” and filled with “love and light”, how I was so wrong.
This individual is disturbing “very” disturbing. I found out that he is a self- renowned practicing witch. That uses magic on women to lure them to him so they will have sex with him. I had a dream that he was doing this and I confronted him about and he outright admitted it! I have done all of the above rituals to keep this perverted away from me and my children. Do you have any advice?
Well, if you still feel you could use extra protection, you could do the neutralization and/or protection spell from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hello i am not sure if you can help
My son is mixing with the wrong crowd and i fear for what he is getting into. The others that have invited him in i wish not to have them around my son or my home anynore. Dont trust there energy or intentions . I am a reiki practitioner can i bind or do protection card. Thanks
Heidi, I suggest a protection spell for your son, like #2 in this post (but for him rather than you) https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess! I found your site while I was literally researching binding spells for my psychologically abusive stepfather, who I live with. He is abusive towards my mother and sister, not to me. I’m not willing to leave our house, and ending the relationship is not up to me. Number 1 is looking good to me, I would deeply appreciate hearing any thoughts you have about it!
Hi Carolina! Yes, that sounds appropriate. Living so closely with someone whom you’ve bound may have its own challenges, so do be aware. If you’re not already, I suggest some sort of daily clearing and shielding practice like this one: https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/
Hello. My ex mother-n-law from 8 years ago lives with my ex and my children (we have 50 percent shared custody). I pay her a fee to be my daycare when it’s my week for the boys. For 15 years out of 17 I’ve know her, she has hated me and talks bad things about to me. I have always known this and have fired her from being my daycare provider once for a couple years, but I had to go back to her. I thought we were past this, but my boys recently told me some things she has been saying about me to them (sigh, again). I was thinking of binding her only of saying bad things about to me to my boys. For the record, she talks bad things about pretty much everyone she’s met…eventually. She is also mean to one of my boys sometimes, but I could chalk that up to she’s being a parent and not letting them get away with what kids try to get away with. I also don’t like the prejudice things she teaches my boys about different races. The first spell you mention above, I like. But I want to make sure I’m correct. Is this situation even justified for me to do a binding spell? Can I be specific in the binding spell to just have her only not say bad things about the mother of her grandsons?
Reba, before working magic, I would get a different daycare provider. It would not make sense to pay someone to hang out with your sons if you feel so strongly about that person that you want to bind her. If you’ve done that and it still feels like you’d like to bind her, you can revisit the question at that point. First though, do everything you can in the physical world to minimize her influence in your life and the lives of your sons.
Hi! Thank you so much for this post. I was wondering if a binding would suit my needs. My mother in law was awful to me when I started dating his son (we were 15 years old), she did so much harm to me, she insulted me, did everything in her control to avoid her son could interact with me like don’t allowing him to go out with me, talking with our principal at high school and making them to prohibit me to talk to him at school. I end up having severe depression as a result, luckily my boyfriend and I are still together (we´re 24 years old now!), She did stop to be that awful by in these past few years she still has been trying to break us apart. 2 years ago she made a big drama so he had to take a break from college and when he tried to get back he couldn´t and was forced to start again but now in the same city as his mom lives (he was studying in another state), now that he lives with him I have a long distance relationship. This year she has been acting like a new person bc she has a way younger boyfriend (which in a pretty bizarre way looks a lot like my boyfriend), she’s all happy and positive, she posts on her FB how happy she is with this man and even though it seems she hasn’t been awful to me she is still pretty awful with my boyfriend (she has always been pretty abusive towards him), so I will be honest, it makes me so mad how an awful person who has tried to destroy my relationship can have a “perfect” relationship, I feel all this is starting to affect me again and I don’t like all this negativity in my life, if it wasn’t bc of how much I love her son I’d wish to give her back all the pain she has caused me but I do not wish to compromise my own relationship or harm in any way, my boyfriend. I just wanna have a happy relationship and want for my boyfriend to be safe and able to feel loved at his home. What should I do? A binding? A karma spell? Just wait for karma to act one day? or just try to cleanse all this negative energy from myself? Thank you so much for reading this, I truly needed to express how I’m feeling right now
Helena, did you say your boyfriend is living with his mom? I am wondering if you can talk to your boyfriend about moving out and having less contact with his mother. I always like to start with common sense and being honest with everyone involved. If you’ve spoken with him and he doesn’t want to, that may be an issue in your relationship to deal with and consider first, before you work any magic.
Hey i have certain questions. Does white magic harm the practitioner or on whom it is being practiced. Does it backfire. Or does it have any negative impact???
Hi Avhi! What you send out returns to you. So if you bind a bully (for example) with the best of intentions and without malice, you are safe.
Would recommend a spell on my friend she doing separation spell to get ex she fears..
for some reason.. The problem she has wiccan abilities I feel she has no business doing such
a thing do her mental state going through divorce I’m being psychically attacked
by her not knowing what she is doing she’s on several medications..
You have be grounded and focused to do something like we are soulmates both psychic as well I love her
this really is bothering me what she is doing.. I feel need to bind her
so this stops I hate to .. but my sake and hers your opinion..
Logan, I recommend keeping yourself protected with a daily magical hygiene practice and having a talk with her about all your feelings if you haven’t already. For example, you could do this meditation daily: https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/
Hi,
My husband and I have been together since we are in high school. I am already in my late 30’s and have 3 wonderful kids. My dilemma is that my husband treats me badly, and doesn’t respect me anymore. He only does that when he is mad at me, mad about something and he always puts the blame on me when things go wrong. what binding spell can I cast so that he will still be nice to me even when he is mad? Thank you very much in advance.
Gertrude, in this case, I highly suggest working on the emotional level instead of the magical level. In other words, have a talk with your husband or go to therapy, or – if necessary – end the relationship. It’s important for you to set boundaries about what you will and won’t accept. If you’ve done that sufficiently and you are still being bothered by your husband (i.e. if he harasses you even though you’re divorced), then you can revisit the idea of performing a binding. If you need additional guidance on how to do set boundaries, consider reading the book Assertiveness for Earth Angels by Doreen Virtue.
Thank you.
Hello! I have a situation with a family member (MIL) who tries to negatively influence my children. For example, when she is around my children she says things like “your mother will be mad at you if x,y,z” and who know how else she tries to manipulate them because they are 2 & 4 and cant verbalize everything. I have a gut instinct that there is more. Also, whenever we go on trips and don’t include her, my children become very ill. Every time. Also, whenever my mother comes to visit and spend time with me and my children, my children become ill and don’t get to spend quality time with my mother. I have to keep trips with my mother secret so that nothing happens, everyone is healthy, and we can enjoy time together. I’m tired of living this way and need something to change. I want to protect my children from her manipulations and negative influence, I should probably also protect my mom because things have happened to her too. Would this spell be appropriate for this situation? I really want my children protected and I don’t want to have to worry about this anymore. This is someone in my life that I have to deal with. I wear black tourmaline, I surround my children in white light, butbts not enough. Thank you for your input.
Hi Paige – are you sure you need to deal with her as much as you do? If she is being extremely manipulative, you may want to limit your kids’ contact with her. Also, rather than binding her, I’d do spell #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi, I come to you in aid of help (and a possible solution). My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half years, and both love each other very much. I know that he has been thinking of taking it to the next level i.e. an engagement, and on occasion as mumbled it under his breath to me. However, he has a very strong bond with his mother (after the death of his father at a young age, he has become the father figure in the family), and feels guilty to leave her alone (he feels that she would not cope without him). She constantly pays mind games with him, and plays the victim for his attention.
The thing is I would not pry and ask for assistance with this, but, as I can tell this is the number one reason that’s stopping him from popping the big question to me, it is also stopping him from fleeing from the bird’s nest (mind the cliche there), and creating a life with me. Plus, as he has already mumbled it, it’s obviously there in his free will, but the guilt is the fear that’s stopping him.
Is there a way that I can hear this karmic-band? – so that he can live his life without the guilt and the fear; whilst also being able to live the life he wants with me.
Hi Cally! I suggest spell #2 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-putting-a-love-spell-on-someone/
So, let’s say you have a family member who has caused a great deal of stress and strife in the past. This family member, after the very recent death( this week) of their father ( my grandfather) is now causing everyone more stress and strife. Calling and claiming they are contesting wills, bothering the funeral home claiming the funeral home handled things in correctly, all the while, this family member lives half way across the country and did not even come home to care for her sick father or for the funeral. Would it be advisable to bind her to help stop the stress I am seeing her cause my family?
Yes, that sounds completely appropriate.
Hi Tess, what shall I do if a child is involved. Meaning, my guy and I are finally on the right track. I did a white magic come back to me spell and commitment spell and we are now finally happy. However, his son’s mother is disrespecting me and our relationship. She will not let him see his son unless it’s at her house. She gossips about me, lies, and doing things to try and temp him to cheat on me. She has turned his family against me with lies and drama. It’s bad. I want to bind her or even banish her but I don’t want to do anything that will jeopardize his relationship with his son. I don’t want her hurt but I want her to stay out of our lives and leave my man alone. what would you suggest?
Tasha, it sounds to me like a binding is appropriate. You can do it with all the intentions you mentioned, and none of the ones you don’t want. It’s best if you can work the magic neutrally – just for the outcome you want, not with any emotions or personal feelings involved. Does one of these binding rituals call to you?
Thank you so much for responding. I think #1 is appropriate for my situation.
Cool – go for it!
I own my own small company, and a VERY large corporation is going above and beyond to destroy me and my brand because I’m “competition”. I’m trying to follow the rules, but even my lawyer says they’re “bullying” me, and may eventually bleed me dry. I thought that first binding spell sounded perfect. What are your thoughts. Thank you so much!
Emily, that sounds like a fantastic plan to me. I say go for it.
What would you suggest in regards to my 22 year old daughter staying with her dad and his wife for the next month. His wife is extremely manipulative and jealous of the relationship that our daughter has with her dad. I feel this woman is practicing something and has been for quite some time. My ex and I met her when we moved to NC and our oldest was 2 months old, he’s now 25. They married soon after our divorce was final, almost 20 years ago. I have dealt with her for quite some time. I have taught my daughter to protect herself as much as I can and also protecting her as I can. What Would you recommend? Would a binding of negative energy help? Thank you.
Renee’, my sense is that the best thing for you to do is call on angelic protection for her every single day. Every 24 hours or so, ask Archangel Michael to surround her in a sphere of golden white, protective light. You can also light a candle to Archangel Michael near a photo of her if you’d like, though just the invocation will be powerful too.
Hello, I have been suffering emotionally from verbal abuse from my ex husband and his now girlfriend for the past 3 years, he says anything and eveything be it not true but he will say anything to hurt me. He is beyond disrespectful and crosses lines All the time by constantly being disrespectful towards me, there’s so much more to it but After all these years all I’ve ever wanted was for him to have even the most basic respect towards me. What kind of spell do you recommend to get someone who is always being disrespectful and constantly rude and bad mouthing me to stop. I want so bad for our relationship to be even the most civil because our daughter is the most important thing and she is stuck in the middle. Unfortunately she is still so young and at the age where she doesn’t understand all the things me and her dad have arguments about. He really is not a good father at all !!! The only reason he ever sees his daughter is whenever he “can” which varies every month. She is so innocent and doesn’t understand all she knows is I’m her mom and he’s her dad and naturally her love for us is bigger then her little heart can hold. I wish for him to leave us alone for how ever long it takes till he can finally realize he was the one in the wrong and hurting us this way all these years and that I being the mother of his child never deserved any of it. Thank you !
Hi there. A binding from this post sounds very appropriate. Is there one that stands out to you more than the others? You might also want to make this charm for your daughter: https://tesswhitehurst.com/powerful-protection-charm-for-empaths/
Hi Tess,
Me and my friend have been dealing with a lot of negativity which has effected work, finances and personal relationships, from many sources over the last 9 months. we have managed to use protection and shields and in a tough case a return to sender spell to get rid of most of them but this one person is sticking around. She is motivated by jealously and spite she is now causing issues with both of our relationships causing distance and obstacles my friend and her boyfriend almost spilt up because she was totally overwhelmed with feelings of jealousy and anger and couldn’t stop herself starting a fight with him over nothing. my financial situation suffered massively and my work was seriously effected. my friends car randomly blew up. And whenever we need to see each other it’s a real effort to meet up as stuff happens to stop us.
This person was invited in but before i knew she wasn’t good. And since she has been around life has got harder than ever, i have cut her out my life as much as possible but now people around us are getting hurt with worse than average luck, bad health or severe depression. i can’t help but feel she needs to be bound to stop this with us and also anyone else she may get jealous of in the future.
I’ve sat down many times and thought maybe i’m imagining all this as it can’t really be real… but I can’t carry on like this not now others are getting hurt too. I have no idea if she is strong enough to do this or if she is using other’s energies to do it but it feels like i have to do this now? i’m not going crazy am i? any help or advice would be appreciated.
Hi Julie! It sounds to me like a binding would be appropriate. Is there one of these options that feels right to you?
I feel drawn to option 2.
It feels right but also because I have randomly been drawn to getting my tarot cards out of storage recently and I had no idea why (they were a gift 20 yrs ago and I have never used them as the time never felt right)
Perfect! I’d do that one then.
Thank you!
It’s been done so lets hope we start to notice a difference, otherwise i need to look for a plan B!
thank you for your help 🙂
Hello tess, which spell should i use for binding my sister in law from interfering with her brother and i’s loving relationship??? She wants everyone to be miserable because shes not happy which is ridiculous cause she has a good life and likes control over him and others she can as well as becoming violent i hate this of her because i just want to be happy with her brother and live in peace without her interference please help thank you
Hi Angela! Instead of a binding, I suggest spell #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess, I have a ex that I left who has been using voodoo magic, very strong in his family, to try to prevent me from leaving. I know he was doing it while I slept. My mother does Reiki and pranic healing and removed an entity last night. Today I went to see my energy healer, who practices Reiki, shamanism, alchemy and channeling. She found many, many cords from him placed between me and his daughter, attempts to try to shield my intuition, mind control black magic and most concerning, Black magic that is making my right knee injured so I can’t walk well and in pain. My mom cast out one entity again but I feel I need to cast protection on myself and bind him. I would love your thoughts.
Hi Celinya! I’d hold off on the binding, and instead do 3 and 2 from this post (in that order) – https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hi Tess,
I did the first of the three binding spells that you described and my sister and I actually had a cordial phone conversation the next day, which was wonderful! Should I re-do the spell periodically, or is once enough?
Lisa, great news! I’d say once is enough, unless at some point you feel intuitively that the spell needs refreshing. But it may very well hold.
I am working with a women who is erratic. She is cruel and harsh and blows up frequently repeating some manufactured or mistake to enormous degrees. I have tried to apologize over and over to diffuse the situation as most are a mutual misunderstanding, work styles or her reading way too much into things. I will never be her and she is trying to make me thing, talk and act the way she wants me to. She is a peer but acts like my manager. She is friends with a high positioned person so I cannot escalate the issue. She will be nice one day and then blow up an screech the next. She has threatened before to be uncooperative. What can I do without causing her harm to get her to not scream and yell at me and not to do anything to jeopardize my reputation or employment.
This does sound frustrating. I suggest #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
First, I love your writing and I have used your Magical Housekeeping for two houses that I moved into, so thank you!
My question is, in high school (so almost 20 years ago) I had two friends who were witches (I don’t know if they were actually witches or thought they were) and another friend who was a practicing Wiccan. I was told I was a natural witch with a very bright white aura but I didn’t really practice. However, the aforementioned two friends started making my life not so great. Rumors, bullying, trying to steal friends…all that good stuff that happens in high school anyway but with the caveat of them saying they were going to spell me. I’m of the belief, now at least, that spells really wrk when you believe in them, I was impressionable in high school.
I told my friend – the Wiccan – about this and she said she could bind them for me but she would need to borrow my power. I gave her a picture and permission to borrow all of my power if she needed (again, read impressionable and naive about all of this in high school) and she said she performed the binding (ribbon, burying, incantation). I wasn’t there for it but I felt a diminishing of my own power.
I know this sounds oddly like a cracked fairy tale but I’m wondering if that power was completely taken or if there is a way to get it back.
I have some natural abilities but I am wondering if it’s because I believe that I’m diminished, that I am. I am pretty good with tarot and when I pay attention I’m good with inter-personal predictions and I feel that I’m good at cleansing.
Do you have any advice or suggestions?
Well, it’s not my sense that your power was actually diminished in the long term, but I do get the sense that doing a meditation like this one daily (or almost daily) will help you to know & own your own power: https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/
Thank you so much! Ill try it
A man who is developmentally disabled and has a history of being arrested for child pornography and sexual contact with a child younger than 11 (I have 10 and 6 year old daughters) just moved into the house next door to me for the summer. I know these spells are geared towards bullies but there are a lot of young children on the street, and one in particular in a household where the mother is not the best protector. What do you think about binding him from doing harm from a pedophile perspective? I can literally do it in my back yard and direct the energy towards him next door. Please advise?
Jen, I’d say it doesn’t sound like a bad idea at all.
Hi, I was reading about binding. My ex is abusing my daughter. He put her in a meeting talking hospital to silence her so she will not speak of the abuse. He has also abused me, and my son, raped 3 women, abused 3 other ex girlfriends, choked his niece, and abused and ex girlfriends son. And he’s a narcissist too
I know he needs a binding and he needs to go away I knkw its for justice and protection.
My fear is that if I bind him, mine and his energy are forever connected, is that true? Or it doesn’t matter he needs to be stopped?
Please advise…help.
Thank you
Michele, a binding won’t hurt, but I’d highly suggest making it your priority to take steps in the physical world. Have you called the police or child protective services? You might also want to get a restraining order or press charges.
Thanks,
Yes.. I have called the cops, and protective s and they said its wrong but not a crime.
I have court soon, but I have zero faith in them doing right by my daughter.
Thats why I was thinkjng the binding…the real world has not stoped him
And I list my restraining order hearing, so its just sad
Hi Tess:
What do you recommend for helping someone wrongfully accused of something and is now involved in a court case? Accuser has tried and failed in the past and is coming back again. They have a history of being just mean and threatening, verbally and physically.
Hi there! I recommend the 5th spell in this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
I am a mother of a 25 year old who thinks she is a witch her name is cathleenia Peterson and she goes by cat she thinks she has binder my daughter melanie because Cathleenia thinks melanie is doing harm to people Cathleenia is doing or thinks she is doing magic without any consequences how do I bind her so she doesnt misuse it so nobody gets hurt
I am an empath and I believe my son is as well. He is often anger mean and rude. Disrespectful to everyone. He has been like this for years. Would binding help.
Jamie, if you feel that your personal energy is being violated, you can do a binding to stop your son from causing you harm in this way. But if you haven’t already, begin with taking measures in the physical world, such as setting boundaries with him and telling him when he does things that hurt your feelings. Christiane Northrup has a new book called Dodging Energy Vampires. I haven’t read it yet, but it might be a good place to start before you do a spell.
Hi!
Thank you for sharing your knowledge! Just wondering how long the mason jar should be in the freezer..and what to do with it when i take it out,
Thank you,
Rachel
Hi Rachel! I’d keep it in there for as long as you feel it’s necessary to keep the magical energy in place. Once you feel you’ve sufficiently moved through the challenge and it’s old news, you can simply dispose of it in any way you normally would. (Thaw, rinse, recycle, etc.)
There are 2 women at work who don’t like me. I’ve always been nice to them but I have felt an ongoing threat by their negative energy. Today my car was vandalized in the parking lot at work. I am usually the last one to go in the building at work but this morning I went in before them. I went out to my car in the afternoon on my break to make a phone call and saw someone had smeared an adhesive along the front fender and driver’s door. It permanently damaged the finish on my new car. When I went to the time clock to time out for the day they saw me come through the warehouse door and they began to huddle and laugh quietly between each other while glancing over their shoulders at me and whispering. I pretended nothing was amiss and timed out. When I went out to my car to leave as I turned around to get in my car door one of them was glaring at me and smirking as she walked to her car. They have been playing this silly game of one being nice to me and the other being nasty to me. The one who has been mean to me recently accused me of trapping her in her car one morning because I was on the passenger side of my car with the door open for a few seconds to get something out of my car. It was a dark early morning and I didn’t know she was still in her car. The next day she sneaked up behind me and accused me. It startled me but I apologized to her and have not used my passenger door since. I also started parking a couple of spaces away from her car in an effort to put some distance between us. I have always taken the high road and been nice to both of them. Sadly, it has obviously not worked well.
Would a protection or binding spell be appropriate and effective for something like this? Also, I don’t know their names. We work in different departments and I am new to this building. I have worked for the company for 5 years but at a different location. Our department was moved to this building a few months ago.
Thank you in advance
Tricia, it feels like a protection spell is in order. Try #2 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Thank you Tess!
Hi,
I met my fiance 3 yrs ago. His ex has given us nothing but trouble. She had total control over him. But since we have been together he has put a stop to that. Of course that made her more upset. She uses their daughter as a “weapon”. Now the daughter is not as close to us like she used to. Lately. We noticed things missing from our house. We did catch her putting things in her backpack. Now , I have been messing up at work and I have been there 4yrs with no problem. My fiance same thing and he’s been there 14 yrs. I myself will pick fights with my fiance….and he does nothing but love me. And I know in my heart he loves me. I even tell myself “why are you being ugly?” Even my children will tell me mom don’t be mean to him. I feel she has alot to do with all this.
Thank you
Hi Tess, I am currently going through issues with a “friend” that felt it would be best to tell my family what we spoke about. I am now being ignored by family and she is still friends with them…I feel she has taken my place in the family, as her family do not include her. (So she told me). I do not get extra work now, a family member was my boss), so financially she has affected me too. One of the family members has even blocked me from contacting him. What would be appropriate for my situation, a spell or a ritual etc? Thanks in advance.
Lee, a binding sounds appropriate. I’d choose one from this post that feels right to you.
Thank you Tess, I will try one of them.
Hi Tess, I’m so happy I found this site. I need advice, is the third option a good idea for me? I’ve been in the most horrible custody battle with my ex husband and his father for the past 3 years. They’ve had my daughter for 6 months and won’t allow me to see or talk to her.. they treat her like a possession. They are a powerfully connected family in the county we live in, and are doing this to for their own ego. I just want peace for my daughters sake. I do not want to cause them harm, eventhough I fear for my safety and my daughters. I just want peace. I hope you can help.
Maya, yes. The third option is a good idea for you. Sending lots of love and every best wish!
My son has just entered the baseball team. Everyone in the team is obviously good enough but my son is willing to take all his chances and is willing to learn a lot in order to be good. Once there was a practice and all the good players were gathered in one group to play and there were 3 coaches. The not so good ones (including my son) are left and they were practiced by only 1 coach— the coach who does not agree with the other 3 coaches.. Is this fair? Actually, at first my son was in the game but the coach kicked him off to the not so good group. Next, my son borrowed a uniform because he is just new to the team and the new uniform has not yet arrived. We, my husband and I would like to make sure if they ordered the uniform already because nobody is updating us.. Nobody tells us what to do unless we ask. My husband asked the person-in-charge for the uniforms. She said she will confirm. After awhile, she said she cannot make the confirmation to the shop where the uniform is made because it is ‘closed’. Accidentally, when I went to wotk that same day, i passed at that shop only to find out it is ‘open’. Is it a lie or an alibi? The shop is within our community, how could she lie to us? I think there is something fishy going on. I can feel the unequal treatment to us since my son is half Japanese and half Filipino. I used the binding spell to stop the maltreatment because they should be fair enough because all the kids enjoy baseball and they all want to learn. We, my husband and I do not want to argue or confront because my son enjoys the company of his team players. If we raise the issue, then my son will probably quit and join another team.
Also my co worker is trying ti make me look really bad at my job. I think she wants me gone. She deliberately doesnt tell me things i need to know and talks badly about me to higher ups. It needs to stop.
Hi Erin! Maybe check out this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
My mother is a practicing witch. She has definitely put a very harmful spell on me and my life is crashing before my eyes. Shes powerful. I need to bind her. Help?
Erin, is there one of these bindings that feel like it might be right for your situation?
I am involved in an educational group where the leader of the group has taken a strong disliking to me for opposing her. She was endorsing unfairness and deceit, I spoke up against it. Since that time she has constantly shamed me in the group and spread lies about me. I don’t need to harm her, but I want to stop her from harming me. I am drawn to the method with the Justice card. Could you kindly let me know what you recommend. Thank you 🙏🏼
Hi there! Yes, that sounds like the one to do. Also (or maybe instead), you might consider leaving the group or starting a new one.
I believe my mother in law and sister in law have done things to me to cause me to have multiple miscarriages (they have told people I shouldn’t have more children) they are known to cast spells/curses on others (European background). Will this help stop them from doing things to my husband and I? Everytime they come into our home we end up in terrible arguments. My husband thinks I’m imagining it.
Hi there! I’m not getting the feeling that they did a curse exactly, but that you’re feeling negative energy sent your way and it’s affecting you. I suggest that you do the third option in this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Will binding work on a daughter-in-law that controls when you see your grandchild and won’t let your son freely talk to you? I love this lady dearly but she is so jealous when my grandchild and I have fun laughing. Then she will twists things and say “it would be nice if you just spent time with your grandchild/son.” I feel manipulated and bullied.
Bobbie, I suggest a shielding ritual instead of a binding. That way she can do whatever she’s going to do and you don’t have to feel manipulated or bullied. Here’s a really simple one: https://tesswhitehurst.com/the-mirrored-sphere-an-easy-effective-protection-visualization-you-can-use-in-a-pinch/
My daughter has a ex-bestfriend who is spreading rumors about her. What would you suggest?
Bindings are very appropriate for such instances! I suggest binding #3 in this post.
Thanks very much for the suggestion, I will try this.
Hi Tess,
I love watching your videos and tips because they’re so upbeat and NOT fear mongering :D.
I’m a little worried. I’m someone with major anxiety and I just did a very primitive release ritual – meditating to ground, then saging all around me with cleansing music, writing painful memories and relationships, behaviors and feelings down and burning the paper. I used the words “i release you. and (I bind you — intending to bind a presumed gossiper from gossiping”) I quickly followed up with – in love and for the highest good, cleared the energy of the space as well as myself, disposed of the ashes, and went out into nature. Considering this was January 28th, during a totally hectic time with the Full Moon / Eclipse, will I be okay? And is there anything I can do to sort of reign it in and put out to the universe that I just meant to protect myself and did this in good faith?
Thank you so much!
I should note this stuff is from years ago and I’m worried my reactive fear spiral could’ve like.. summoned it – either way I did it with love. I just might’ve said some none too savvy things.
Oh just saw this comment too, but same answer! That video should help.
Hi Roni! It sounds like you’re feeling a little ungrounded after the magical work you did, which is totally normal and not something to worry about. That being said, here’s a video I made about what I do when I have fear floating around and I’m concerned it’s going to negatively affect what I’m attracting into my life experience: https://tesswhitehurst.com/how-to-transform-fear-into-flow/ PS – thanks for the kind words, and for checking out the blog!
Hello Tess,
My 11 year old started secondary school in September and has just told me that a Year 9 boy, the brother of a boy that she ‘went out’ with for a few months at Primary School, has been following her around school and bullying her. He shouts at her that she is fat and a lesbian and gets a group of his friends to do the same every time they see her, which is several times a day and every night after school. I only found out about this yesterday so i’m debating which step to take first between speaking to the boys mum or going straight to the Headteacher of the school. I would like a spell so that the negativity and bullying is deflected away from my daughter and she feels safe again but i wish no harm on the boy.
Which spell would be the best to use in conjunction with whichever official line i take with school or parent?
Thanks
Hi there! For now, I suggest that you create this charm for her: https://tesswhitehurst.com/powerful-protection-charm-for-empaths/ . If she needs more support later, you might consider number one from this post.
Thank you so much for replying. I’ll create the charm for my daughter as the first step. It’s Monday tomorrow so hopefully she’ll speak to her teacher about the bullying too.
Thanks again,
Very informative. What would one do if the name of the bully (s) are not known. It was a mob of children cornering my daughter at a local skating rink she often visits, which made her cry and feel very scared. She tried to nicely stand up to them but she is a HSP and empathic. Feelings are still being mastered.
Hey, thanks for reading. You might try this Empath Protection Charm for her: https://tesswhitehurst.com/powerful-protection-charm-for-empaths/
Hi, my in laws seem to interfer with my husbands and I marriage. Causing separation but we recently began working on it and when they found out they began with negative saying we shouldn’t be together. He is really close to his family it’s hard keep them a distance in our marriage. What can I do?
Hi there! It would be wonderful if your husband would agree to go to therapy with you to discuss these issues together. It’s often a good idea to start with talking and working things out in the physical world before you do the magical work.
I need help my daughter, was taken from my ex husband’s home due to sever abuse, now 6 months later, she will be returning to his uncle’s home, which my ex will have access to her, I need to do a protection spell and fast, which do u prefer it needs to be done soon, I’m afraid that he will kill her next time
Nicki, I suggest calling this support hotline ASAP and seeing what kind of physical-world support you can arrange or enlist for your daughter: https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/
Hey I have someone who has done horrible things sent nasty things to my friends verbally abused me and my friends which would be the bast method
Any of these 3. Is there one you feel more drawn to?
Hi! My husband’s ex is extremely abusive. Psychologically and emotionally. I think she may be borderline. Anyway, there’s a huge battle about to ensue in court. First over a false child support arrears case and then over parental rights. She has done anything and everything to make our lives impossible. She’s also Wiccan and I don’t have much experience with all of this but I notice that every time the kids come over… there’s a very dark energy where everyone immediately is in a bad mood. Once they leave, even my relationship is no longer tense.
I’m just tired of her having power over our days, holidays, moods, so on and so forth.
I feel like we all need to be heavily protected from her… including her own children.
And I’m just hoping that all of these court things go well and Justice is served.
Hi Christina! A binding spell (like one of the ones in this post) would be appropriate for this situation. If you feel like trying one of them, I suggest choosing the one that feels best to you.
Also, on her end.. The Wiccan Rede is “Do harm to none.”
Hi, Does this spellbinding work if I use it to someone who has a power. She has been using her power to destroy our family by making us fight each other (like she would hide our belongings to my sister’s room to make us blame one another) and she has been using her power to get our money. Moneys on our bags, pouches and even in our atm are magically gone. She has been bothering our family for 4 years already (I think). We already seek help from someone to remove her powers and she became quiet for a while and now she is at it again.
Hi Cat! Yes, a binding spell would be appropriate for this situation.
Cat is not saying the truth because she only wanted to use a binding spell to get back at her sister not to help her
Sherrie, I recommend calling on Archangel Michael daily and asking him to shield both your daughters in protective white light.
Please don’t apologize for my situation. I see myself as a survivor but I’m growing weary and drained. I’ve been married to a severe psychological abuser for 18 years. When he’s good he’s very good and when he’s bad he can be a horror movie. What spell do u suggest. This abuse must stop because it’s killing the light and energy inside me.
Hi Kelly! I don’t recommend a spell in this instance. I recommend leaving the relationship. Here’s a directory of organizations you can contact for temporary shelter, guidance, and/or support: https://www.womenshelters.org
My former mother-in-law is a very controlling person who bullies almost everyone to get her way.
Recently my ex-wife and I have began improving our relationship – largely for the kids, although it seems we are on the path to becoming friends.
My former M-I-L is obviously very much against this. She has been outwardly rude to me several times in front of my children and given them instructions regarding how to interact with me as if they were from my ex-wife. I feel she is attempting to sabotage any efforts I put into improving the terms I’m on with my ex.
Would you advise a binding spell in this case or some other course of action?
I just want her to stop interfering with my relationship with my ex and my children and not say negative things about me to or infromt of my kids.
Thank you.
Hi Mike! This sounds very frustrating – I’m so sorry to hear it. I suggest the second ritual in this post: the one involving the Justice card from the tarot.
My ex mother in law is about the same. My ex and I are working it out and she is bulling both of us, throwing tempertantrumes, verbally abusive, lieing, hostile. We’ve tried talking to her but she won’t see logic and reason. Her bulling gets worse. She’s done this with everyone he’s been with. It’s to the point the neighbors are afraid of her and worried about us. Is binding ok in this situation?
I’d say binding may be appropriate, as long as you’ve set strong boundaries in the physical world (such as not allowing her in your home and life, etc.) and she isn’t honoring them.
Hi,
My daughter is in kindergarten and having trouble with a couple of her friends who often exclude her, run away from her, ignore her or are just plain mean to her. I have spoken to the teacher, the teacher has spoken to the students and parents but it keeps happening. I think she may feel slightly threatened by my daughter. I have tried to persuade her to find another group of friends but she wants to stay friends with them. Seeing as she still wants to remain friends would this work? Or are they to little anyway? (6 years old). At my wits end as to what I can do. My daughter is very sweet and wants to be friends with everyone. It just breaks my heart.
Hi there! I’m sorry to hear this – I can see how this would break your heart. Rather than a binding, I recommend sending your daughter to school with a kunzite pendant. First, hold it in sunlight and set the intention for it to protect her energy and emotions.
My landlord has been harassing me and lying on me to the neighbors. I pay him on time and never been late. He doesn’t repair the place and plus have issues about our relaion and ethnicity. It’s never ending torment from him, i can’t move right now.
Please help.
Jess, some areas have legal firms that specialize in helping tenants in such situations. I would investigate to see if you have the option of getting legal help for free. Additionally, the neutralization spell from this post would be appropriate: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Hello read..my son is having trouble with one of his coaches in football, he says this man takes him out of games or practices when he makes good plays. An then tells him he’s doing good enough..my son is very confuse this is a new coach and even the players notice the coach picking on him. He’s scared to go to the head coach cause he don’t want to get kicked off the team.an he don’t want me to go to the school..would this be a good spell..if not, which spell is good for this situation.
Hi Sai! Oh how frustrating. I’m so sorry to hear this. Have you tried consulting with the other parents? Maybe more than just one of you have this complaint and you can go to the school together? Or speaking directly to the coach to find out what’s going on might also be a good place to start. Since your son wants to continue to have a relationship with this person, you might not want to bind him quite yet. You could certainly light a candle for harmony and the best possible outcome, however.
Hi Tess I’m having a similar issue. Is it possible to bind the harmful behavior without severing the relationship?
How about number 3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/ – it’s not quite a binding, but will still help neutralize negativity from bullying.
Got a abuser boyfriend would this work on him
Wanda, I suggest calling the domestic abuse hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for help with an exit strategy. It’s important to get out of that relationship and environment ASAP.
Wow I’m here for the same reason, college coach extremely abusive… same son doesn’t want to go to head coach and doesn’t want me to intervene.
Such a hard place as a parent when your kid has worked all his life for this and to make it to this level and experience this kind of bullying from an adult. I have 4 sons and love them all dearly but they are all very different people but this kid has never given me a day of grief in his life…. all who who him know he is a good person was even honored in his senior year statewide television for his character as an honor student athlete. Feeling helpless.
So hard.to watch. And to recognize that our children are adults and have to deal with their circumstances themselves. Changing levels in sports, one can find the new level a whole lot tougher including behavior not dreamed of before on the part of those involved. Magic? How about magic to strengthen your son….to help him deal with these challenges. Magic that helps him love himself (aka reinforce appropriate self-respect). Assuming, of course, that your personal ethics & training allows for doing magic for another.
My little sister has been getting bullied by her ‘friend’ for several years now. It’s usually just verbal, but she has also given my sister black eyes and just recently injured her wrist. I’m worried that my sister will receive further injury from this ‘friend’ as well as damage to her confidence and self-worth. My sister and the bully are only in middle school, would this spell still be a good idea?
Hi Caroline! I’m so sorry to hear this. Yes, I think option #3 would be appropriate in this instance.
Thank you!
How long should I keep it in the freezer?
Good question! I’d say around 3-6 months, or until you feel 100% sure the situation is permanently remedied.
When doing a spell like this but this cause Bad Karma on the person doing it?
Not if you do it with neutrality. In other words, it’s best to do it with the intention to protect yourself and your freedom to feel comfortable in the world, rather than to negatively affect or punish someone else.
What happens to the jar when removed from the freezer please?. Would it be thrown in the bin?
If you no longer feel like the person is threatening to bully you, you can thaw it, pour the water down the drain, put the remaining contents in the trash, and recycle the jar.
I was also wondering how long to leave in the freezer. I couldn’t believe in just one day this bully (a grown man) was blocked by my family member on face book for his horrible rants and bullying for others opinions on politics, attacking her and her family and friends and to go so far to include rants on gays and race! I couldn’t take it any more! I was so glad Blocked him! ✅
I would say 3-6 months or until you feel the threat has passed.
I am somewhat new to this. But meet classic signs of what I’m meant to be. I would like to bind my x-mother in law from harassing my two autistic children every weekend. She also harassed me via call,text. I blocked her and her husband from my phone. I’ve been told by the children that she talks I’ll wills about me to my five year old, its upsetting and a form of mental manipulation. I was also told that they left unattended and get slapped if they are bad. There is much more, want to bind to help my children. They cry profusely when I tell them its daddy’s weekend.
Nikki, a binding sounds appropriate in this situation.
I am in need of some advice please. There are a number of individuals that have been known to the neighbourhood as bullies, to young children and now have attempted to hurt cats and we had heard yesterday that one of the children had seen them hurt a cat by kicking a ball at it and saying they think it’s fun to kill living things. I have concerns for my children and mine and other neighbors pets and children. Is a binding spell appropriate? As they are just children themselves?? Police have been made aware but they are unsure where these children live and for this reason nothing has been done about the situation.
Katie, have you talked to these kids yourself? And/or might you perhaps work with your neighbors to find out who their parents are so you can talk to them before you decide if you want to bind the kids? In the meantime, you can certainly do protective magical work for the animals and kids in your neighborhood. Here are some posts you may find helpful: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-simple-and-powerful-protection-charms/ and https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
Sounds like a call to child protective services might be in order also
I’m a retired social service worker! Make the call!!! She should have no more unsupervised visits with these children.
so my best friend at school is being bullied by two girls and those two girls sit right next to me whispering about how dumb she is and how annoying her voice is saying stuff like “oh my god does she ever shut up?” or “you know I think her face would look better with a black eye” one day when none of the other girls where there they almost did give her a black eye. this has gone on long enough I am very mad. would a binding spell be good in this case?
Yes. Just make sure you do it with a neutral frame of mind, not with anger or fear.
Do you suppose a mother would willfully offer up the happiness and marriages of her children in exchange for a successful marriage of her own? I find it troubling that 3/5 children’s (5 year, 7 year, 20 year) marriages ended or are ending in a span of 6 months just as the mother celebrated and made a huge to-do on her 10th wedding anniversary. (Her 4th and longest lasting marriage. )She dabbles so I was thinking this might be something. I’m afraid to try and bind her.
Hi Beatriz – In this case, I’m not getting the feeling that this situation is magic-related, and it would probably be wise not to bind at this time. Thank you for reading and connecting. 🙂
What spell is best to bind an old witch who has symptoms of beginning alzheimer and curses everyone all the time?
How about just neutralizing her so her curses are harmless? There’s a neutralization spell in this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/
I need help from blocking this particular person from exposing my secrets. What should i do.
I suggest the first one, but change the words, so they are something like, “I bind you from exposing my secrets. You shall stay silent about all that concerns me.”
Hi Tess, great article thank you. I am wondering, lately I have been thinking of traumatic memories in which I was bullied and hurt. The person who did this to me was definitely a bully and toxic (abusing vulnerable women, bullying behaviour, insulting people). Could I do this binding? Or is there something else you could recommend? Basically what I want is to be completely free of the negative energy that came from him and from interacting with him. Also, I want to ideally make him aware of the pain and suffering he invoked. I want him to pay for that, rather than being careless. But I don’t want to do any ‘bad’ thing and I want to keep my energy pure and clean. Tips?
Hi! I suggest doing one of these meditations (you could switch off daily) every day for 60 days. After that, let me know how you feel and if you still feel compelled to make him pay. https://tesswhitehurst.com/cord-cutting-meditation/ https://tesswhitehurst.com/quick-thorough-aura-cleansing-meditation/
Hi Tess – my wife has been unremittingly bullied by her boss at work for the last 2 years & it seems to be escalating since she has homework we during coronavirus – think the boss is trying to get wife to resign so they save her salary as she doesn’t ‘fit in’! We’ve exhausted all formal workplace legal avenues & are fairly desperate..as a (bad but supposed) Christian resorting to magic is obv a sign of our desperation (no offence I hope!). The boss is a malignant, manipulative, arch-narcissistic (who I believe are sheer natural evil). Would you recommend a binding spell in this circumstance please & if so which one? I realise trying to obtain a neutral mental state may be tricky for us after all the endless abuse. If you were able to give some advice I would be so SO very grateful!
Hi Chris! Instead of a binding, I suggest spell #3 from this post: https://tesswhitehurst.com/5-karma-friendly-alternatives-to-curses-and-hexes/ . Love and blessings to you both.